| 1/6/2015 7:54:20 PM |
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xluvxsumbdyx90
Georgetown, TX
25, joined Oct. 2014
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I was 18, she was 21. It was August 17, 2009. We met on a dating site. I dropped out of high school and left my home on my 19th birthday November 24, 2009. We lived together for 3 years 11 months and 20 days. I loved her so much that I soon started to drink every weekend. I started doing coke. I started selling drugs. And I loved it for a moment I could be anyone. I had power, money, the girl. Then one weekend of snorting and drinking she hit me. Broke my jaw bone. I left. Two days later I returned. Two months later on August 16, 2010. I found out she was cheating on me with one of my friends. She said it was over and I stayed. Their relationship continued. I stayed. Two years later. I caught her in bed with her "cousin" who is a male. I called the police from a payphone because she slammed me against two car. A week later I returned home with her. From there I visited the hospital 4 different times for blacks eyes, fractured ribs, a suicide attempt, and a heart attack. And the whole while I wanted her with me, when was the one who did it to me. But I finally had enough and I fought back more than once. I damaged her left eye. But that's all she got. I left her on July 8,2013. But I saw her one more time, stayed with her for about a week too thinking it would work out. I met a girl on July 2,3013. I've been happy since. No drugs. No power. Honest money. And a good girl. All I needed was to see that my ex was put in front of me to teach me. I don't date the girl. I haven't slept with her yet. I do visit her. I take her out. We talk every day. And now I know what love really is. I'm just too scared to act on it. I'm 24 years old and she's 19. She's ready and I'm not. She loves me and I love her. I want us to be the perfect couple I really do.
For every girl out there know your worth. Don't let a man or a woman define who you are. Put your family first. Don't be afraid to fight back. Fight hard tho pick up the phone and make the call. I did it and was the best decision I could've ever made and I'd do it 1000 times over again.
Now we are just two strangers with memories.
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| 1/7/2015 9:04:17 AM |
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smell_my_gas
Cleveland, OH
36, joined Dec. 2014
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Have you noticed your name is in pink?
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| 1/7/2015 9:31:14 AM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
50, joined Apr. 2013
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She is a lesbian!
OP the drug and alcohol use only leads to the violence you both shared.
You have more lessons to learn.
Think about going back to school to get your GED.
Good luck.
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| 1/7/2015 10:23:24 AM |
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pike45
Omaha, NE
63, joined Feb. 2009
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WOW, that was a long date.
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| 1/7/2015 11:14:07 AM |
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hurryme
Bloomingdale, GA
51, joined Mar. 2011
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Usually when the cops come the man goes to jail. How does it work here? 
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| 1/7/2015 3:55:26 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
39, joined Sep. 2013
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whoever calls the police first wins ...
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| 1/7/2015 5:34:04 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
67, joined May. 2010
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Whichever one is left standing wins.
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| 1/7/2015 8:59:38 PM |
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personasaurus
Bridgewater, NJ
33, joined Jun. 2014
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whoever puts out to cop wins....
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| 1/8/2015 6:21:06 AM |
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happylauren
Crown Point, IN
54, joined May. 2013
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And the moral of the story is?
Avoid toxic people. Walk away when someone shows you how unstable they are.
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| 1/8/2015 6:29:36 AM |
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letitridegirl
Louisville, KY
39, joined Aug. 2014
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well atleast you got away from someone like that! Wish you all the love and happiness. )
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| 1/8/2015 4:41:08 PM |
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lifeplanner
Fort Worth, TX
44, joined Nov. 2013
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Really.
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| 1/8/2015 4:56:45 PM |
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frank_underwood
Columbia, SC
60, joined Jun. 2013
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She is a lesbian!
Bisexual or a pre-op tranny
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| 1/8/2015 6:03:50 PM |
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b2cold
Elk Grove Village, IL
36, joined Mar. 2014
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Drugs are mmokay!
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| 1/8/2015 7:49:35 PM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Toxic relationships are the hardest to identify when you are young and inexperienced.
My own first horror story wasn't remotely as bad in the physical abuse department, but the emotional abuse was just as permanently damaging. Just as you did, OP, I stayed because that's what I thought love was all about: supporting and remaining loyal to your loved one no matter what. It took me being debased throughout the totality of my being before I finally ended it.
Ironically, I only left her because I realized that I couldn't make her happy, not because of how awful a person she was. I only truly realized how abusive she was after I gained distance in time and space and personal recovery. Like you, OP, I learned thousands of lessons the very hard way from the mess.
People looking on from the outside always seem to think that it's obvious what's going on, and that the victims MUST be staying because they enjoy the mistreatment. The ones who selfishly declare that those who suffer bring it on themselves are ignorant, self-righteous, childish a**holes. Until you've been through it, you have no idea what you are talking about.
Congratulations on your new love, I hope things work out for the best for both of you.
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| 1/8/2015 8:15:15 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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No couple is perfect, op u broke up your own relationship cause u thought u had it all and didn't
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| 1/8/2015 9:42:26 PM |
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xluvxsumbdyx90
Georgetown, TX
25, joined Oct. 2014
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Thanks to all who put up with this and read it. I'm just glad I'm doing a whole lot better. I'm still young and still have a lot more to learn but for now I'm happy where I'm at.
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| 1/9/2015 8:41:50 AM |
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xluvxsumbdyx90
Georgetown, TX
25, joined Oct. 2014
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Usually when the cops come the man goes to jail. How does it work here?
Well back then I was more of a girly girl. I called them but its the same. They hear u out. But usually end up take the "guy" to jail. At least that's how it is there.
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