| 5/25/2017 3:52:37 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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or be in relationships?
What is your main motivator or reason of why you want to find someone to date or be with?
(or why you don't want to or are not interested?)
I'm just curious to see if men and women have different reasons and motivations for
dating/relationships
or not dating/relationships.
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| 5/25/2017 4:21:07 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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Cup o Cheer wrote a thread: why are you not dating.
I think in that, it answered your question by the responses.
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| 5/25/2017 4:57:06 AM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. It depends on who's asking to if I want to find out.
Dating isn't a sport or a game to someone like me. If I am truly interested. You'll find I'll take an interest... the rest is to be remained unseen.
The movtivator is the person.
Rare to find a person that motivates me.
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| 5/25/2017 5:17:02 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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I mean why do you WANT to find someone to be with in the first place?
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| 5/25/2017 5:31:30 AM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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I date looking for a companion/bf. Hopefully someday I will find someone to spend the rest of my life with.
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| 5/25/2017 5:57:17 AM |
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rightguyforu602
Lisle, IL
35, joined May. 2017
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I date looking for a companion/bf. Hopefully someday I will find someone to spend the rest of my life with.
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| 5/25/2017 6:08:09 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
63, joined Sep. 2009
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I date looking for a companion/bf. Hopefully someday I will find someone to spend the rest of my life with.
That's about it for me as well. I want a companion with whom I can share a lot of physical affection, so it can't be a male, since I'm pure heterosexual.
Essentially, I may be part cat, and cat's like to "own" another human in order to make the overall arrangement of the universe more comfortable.
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| 5/25/2017 7:07:37 AM |
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__h_
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Nov. 2016
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I date when there is someone interested in me & I'm interested in him also. I have not found that for awhile.
I need to find someone to date awhile first before the relationship comes about. Yes, I'd love to be in a very long relationship.
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| 5/25/2017 7:08:34 AM |
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__h_
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Nov. 2016
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I date looking for a companion/bf. Hopefully someday I will find someone to spend the rest of my life with.
Yes, that is what I would also like.
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| 5/25/2017 7:18:39 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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Why do you want a companion though?
Like what about it is motivating?
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| 5/25/2017 7:21:29 AM |
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__h_
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Nov. 2016
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Having someone real special in my life to spend time with, share all my days with.
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| 5/25/2017 12:54:12 PM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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I mean why do you WANT to find someone to be with in the first place?
That's the thing. You don't have to be for it or against it.
Either a guy will interest me to want to be or he won't.
I tend to lose interest as well.
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| 5/25/2017 12:55:26 PM |
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mrfckinpetey
Orlando, FL
32, joined Jun. 2014
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Fun, and maybe that adorable idea of connecting and falling in love with someone. I'm not holding my breath for the latter.
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| 5/25/2017 12:57:34 PM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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I do not date because every time I did ask a woman out they have said "NO Way". I got tired of hearing that so I no longer try and date.
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| 5/25/2017 1:06:14 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
55, joined May. 2011
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I mean why do you WANT to find someone to be with in the first place?
To feel connected to somebody else.
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| 5/25/2017 1:07:56 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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Cavie, how many times was that?
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| 5/25/2017 1:26:15 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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Sex, companionship, love, share interests, cuddle
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| 5/25/2017 3:22:32 PM |
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shucks_huck
Hershey, PA
38, joined Jan. 2014
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I date for the entertainment. 
Want a relationship so I have someone I love to share life and grow old with.
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| 5/25/2017 4:56:56 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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Feminism and children are great motivation for me to never date again.
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| 5/25/2017 4:59:45 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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That's the thing. You don't have to be for it or against it.
Either a guy will interest me to want to be or he won't.
I tend to lose interest as well.
What happened to that greta guy you used to date, that made less money than you?
You are speaking, like you are single again.
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| 5/25/2017 5:28:50 PM |
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curbsideprophet
Tulsa, OK
42, joined Dec. 2010
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I'm just looking for someone to screw me over obviously!
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| 5/25/2017 5:29:38 PM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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What happened to that greta guy you used to date, that made less money than you?
You are speaking, like you are single again.
You mean Simon who I was engaged to? Otherwise I don't know who you mean.
Most people talk like they are single when they are. Well unless they're lying of course.
 to what money has to do with it.
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| 5/25/2017 5:57:40 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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You mean Simon who I was engaged to? Otherwise I don't know who you mean.
Most people talk like they are single when they are. Well unless they're lying of course.
to what money has to do with it.
Did you tie the knot, or did it end?
Your Pisces evasive maneuvering doesn't work with me. Lest you forget, I am a Scorpio?
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| 5/25/2017 9:27:16 PM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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I didn't know his name, but yes. The guy you were engaged to.
Did you tie the knot, or did it end?
Your Pisces evasive maneuvering doesn't work with me. Lest you forget, I am a Scorpio?
If I was really being evasive I wouldn't of bothered responding.
I don't really buy the horoscope theories. However, you're entitled to know nothing more than that.
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| 5/25/2017 10:58:16 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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If I was really being evasive I wouldn't of bothered responding.
I don't really buy the horoscope theories. However, you're entitled to know nothing more than that.
That's because we both know IF I knew the story behind that, I would be all too obliged to shove your own words and crap you gave me, right back at you, when you were still engaged to him and trying to argue with me about men, women, and gender stereotypes.
You also don't believe cold, hard FACTS about women, no matter how much evidence supports those FACTS, because you FEEL it isn't true.....
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| 5/25/2017 11:10:01 PM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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That's because we both know IF I knew the story behind that, I would be all too obliged to shove your own words and crap you gave me, right back at you, when you were still engaged to him and trying to argue with me about men, women, and gender stereotypes.
You also don't believe cold, hard FACTS about women, no matter how much evidence supports those FACTS, because you FEEL it isn't true.....
You don't know the story behind it all and you never will.
Why? You don't know when to draw a line under things. You certainly don't know when you cross a line. Which you did on this thread.
Which you have MANY times with MANY people.
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| 5/25/2017 11:36:59 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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That romantic part of me who wanted a partner to share my life with just kinda shriveled up and died...now I am totally apathetic to the idea and just not interested anymore...
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| 5/25/2017 11:38:08 PM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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Flirty 
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| 5/25/2017 11:53:19 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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Oh man my throat is sore. Breathed in bug spray lol
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| 5/26/2017 12:03:15 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
53, joined Jul. 2014
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It's one of the best thing in life. The ultimate companion.. you're not just friends you're lovers, you can share dreams, romance, etc We fit together.
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| 5/26/2017 12:22:26 AM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
61, joined Mar. 2014
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having someone to love is pretty wonderful. I'd do it again.
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| 5/26/2017 2:40:42 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Cavie, how many times was that?
There was no reason to keep track. I do know that it was every woman in my area that was on this site 10 years ago. Most did not even bother to reply to a message, so that was a no. Those that did reply said "No Thanks".
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| 5/26/2017 2:58:32 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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There was no reason to keep track. I do know that it was every woman in my area that was on this site 10 years ago. Most did not even bother to reply to a message, so that was a no. Those that did reply said "No Thanks".
Wow they really said no thanks??
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| 5/26/2017 4:28:42 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Wow they really said no thanks??
Actually no, I got called a lot of different names and also told to F*** OFF a few times. However the majority that did reply were polite.
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| 5/26/2017 4:36:48 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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Why were they so rude?
what did you say o.o
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| 5/26/2017 4:54:01 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Why were they so rude?
what did you say o.o
Please, MOST(not all) women do not need a reason to be rude. It is just how it works on line.
As for what I said, I do not remember, however I do know that I was polite and only ask for a meet.
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| 5/26/2017 5:05:24 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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Probably because you just asked for a meet.
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| 5/26/2017 9:08:18 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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Probably because you just asked for a meet.
We get it, ok? Men BREATHING is grounds for a woman to be rude to us....
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| 5/27/2017 2:15:01 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Probably because you just asked for a meet.
Do you honestly think that I would ask any woman that in the first message. I am old enough to know that it takes some time for a woman to warm up to a man.
My problem is, once they see me they turn cold in a microsecond.
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| 5/27/2017 3:06:45 AM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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Do you honestly think that I would ask any woman that in the first message. I am old enough to know that it takes some time for a woman to warm up to a man.
My problem is, once they see me they turn cold in a microsecond.
Are you behaving? 
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| 5/27/2017 4:09:25 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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We get it, ok? Men BREATHING is grounds for a woman to be rude to us....
Well no, I assumed he just asked for a meet as one of first messages. That annoys even me lol.
Of course I wouldn't be rude. I'd just awkwardly say naah that I don't meet until I know them better for safety reasons.
Many guys have done this, it's kinda annoying saying same crap every-time. Maybe I should write something addressing it on my profile IDK.
Example,
I've talked to the same guy multiple times on new accounts (cos I close them down and abandon the site for a while) and he always asks for a meet straight away.
I'm like "lol u always wanna meet up so much but I don't know much about you"
He says
"Well don't worry then, I've spoken to you many times before. I like to meet in person to get to know someone. You can't truly know either way unless you meet someone in person. Let me know if you want to"
What an impatient little brat lol. terrible attitude. No wonder I never dated him and why he's still on the site.
Every time I've talked to this dude he just asks to meet straight away and doesn't even really talk. I can never seem to remember why I stopped talking to these guys or didn't date them, but it becomes obvious after like 5 seconds 
I should create a little memo for dudes I've already talked to and are blacklisted so the same crap doesn't happen every single time urgh
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| 5/27/2017 5:46:51 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Well no, I assumed he just asked for a meet as one of first messages.
See that is what happens when YOU assume. You are often WRONG.
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| 5/27/2017 5:58:44 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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See that is what happens when YOU assume. You are often WRONG.
I asked you what you said and you said a meet so DUR
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| 5/27/2017 6:07:33 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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We get it, ok? Men BREATHING is grounds for a woman to be rude to us....
Men bad, women good, or at least that is how MOST(not all) women see it.
And MOST(not all) women wonder why men no longer care.
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| 5/27/2017 6:42:26 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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I asked you what you said and you said a meet so DUR
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| 5/27/2017 8:53:25 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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Men bad, women good, or at least that is how MOST(not all) women see it.
And MOST(not all) women wonder why men no longer care.
Females fail to comprehend or even possess LOGIC, hence why they are clueless to why men no linger care to deal with them.
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| 5/28/2017 6:07:43 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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I have a lot of logic  
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| 5/28/2017 7:51:26 AM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
51, joined Apr. 2013
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I mean why do you WANT to find someone to be with in the first place?
I do. And I am trying.
But I honestly want her to leave after awhile. Or I want to leave after awhile.
Why do you want a companion though?
Like what about it is motivating?
Hmmmm..Interesting question..And of course sex is the obvious answer..
Other than that just to talk to someone about my day or listen to her talk about hers.
Catch a UFC fight together, get a bite to eat.Stuff like that.
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| 5/28/2017 12:54:09 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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Yeah rly?
that's what I thought lol tBH, with the sex thing
ha ha
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| 5/28/2017 8:02:13 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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I have a lot of FEMALE logic 
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| 5/28/2017 8:24:33 PM |
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orchid1973
Rome
Italy
44, joined May. 2017
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^
Casual dating, yes. Keep it light, keep it simple and keep it fun.
That's where I am right now and is working just fine. 
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| 5/28/2017 8:28:39 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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^
Casual dating, yes. Keep it light, keep it simple and keep it fun.
That's where I am right now and is working just fine.
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| 5/28/2017 8:31:19 PM |
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orchid1973
Rome
Italy
44, joined May. 2017
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Awww aren't you a sweety.
Hello Enigma, how have you been? Had some fun this weekend?
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| 5/30/2017 8:24:07 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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Awww aren't you a sweety.
Hello Enigma, how have you been? Had some fun this weekend?
Not much fun. Still paying down debt. It is a lot harder to do, when you get the highest tax brackets assessed on you, because you choose to not get married or have children.
(In America, if you choose to live within your budget by NOT getting married and having children, our government PENALIZES you with about DOUBLE the taxes they take away from irresponsible people that make children they can afford to feed, then they wonder why they have a $19 trillion deficit.....)
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| 5/30/2017 9:06:54 PM |
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gotheon123
Apex, NC
49, joined Jul. 2013
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At this point in my life, I'm not interested in putting in the time and energy into dating.
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| 5/30/2017 9:25:26 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
50, joined Jun. 2013
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Why do you want a companion though?
Like what about it is motivating?
Sure. You can do almost everything you want to do by yourself too and that is an option.
I don't NEED a companion per se.
However, it's more fun to do something with someone who shares your enthusiasm.
Plus, an occasional back massage is really nice. There is a spot that I just can't reach.
It's great when you find someone who is relatively easy to get along with, positive and doesn't complain too much. Companionship can be a positive experience.
What motivates me?
I suppose my past experiences aren't sooooo bad that I think that I am happier by myself. I realize that with the right person life can be amazingly wonderful and twice as happy.
Of course, you have to date a few people before you find a good companion.
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| 5/31/2017 3:59:17 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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I do not date due to always hearing "NO" when I asked. No reason to ask any longer when I know how they will answer.
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| 5/31/2017 4:39:16 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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I can't find anyone good so I gave up 
I do love Haru Kaidou though
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| 5/31/2017 4:55:32 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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I can't find anyone good so I gave up
I do love Haru Kaidou though
That is because they do not live up to YOUR dream man, a Gay Cartoon Man.
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| 5/31/2017 5:16:34 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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So you blame me for men being shjt, typical men! Lol
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