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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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Your dream man gives you an engagement ring, diamond ear rings, a ruby necklace.
1) what is your minimum karat size that would impress you?
2) would you have it appraised?
3) if it was a fake what would you do?
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| 1/27/2009 7:06:22 PM |
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darlenemi51
West Branch, MI
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None of this impress me. 
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| 1/27/2009 7:07:35 PM |
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joiseygal
Columbia, SC
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(a) It's the thought that counts. Any size would be fine. 
(2) No, I wouldn't have it appraised. 
(3) Wouldn't care if it were real or fake.
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| 1/27/2009 7:18:06 PM |
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luvallnurses
Durant, OK
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1) No minimum size...if given with love it will be beautiful
2) Would NEVER have it appraised
3) If it were fake I would appreciate that he thought enough of me to buy it in the first place
There is a difference in me now and me 20 years ago...some of the material things were important then that means nothing to me now...it was a hard lesson losing the most valuable thing I had in order to feel this way now!
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| 1/27/2009 7:19:13 PM |
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annamranna
Bloomington, IL
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Although I appreciate beautiful jewelry, and I think that a two- or three- carat quality diamond is stunning, I also know that it is just a ring. I don't need to be impressed. Been there, done that. I want someone to care about me.
If someone gave a ring to me, I wouldn't have to have it appraised, because it wouldn't be fake.
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| 1/27/2009 7:20:06 PM |
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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(a) It's the thought that counts. Any size would be fine.
(2) No, I wouldn't have it appraised.
(3) Wouldn't care if it were real or fake.
jo
1&2 answers I think most ladies would say, however #3 was kinda a trick question. What if he presented the jewel as being real and it was fake? But how would you know is you didn't do #2?
The reason I am asking is, I have seen men do this and I wondered why?
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tinktoo
French Village, MO
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i assume it would be the thought that counts....
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atlagain
Longwood, FL
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Your dream man gives you an engagement ring, diamond ear rings, a ruby necklace.
1) what is your minimum karat size that would impress you?
2) would you have it appraised?
3) if it was a fake what would you do?
Very interesting questions. Let's see.
1. No minimum but I've never had one anyway. (Married young-no $$$ for it). I have earrings (2 pr-one given to me by spouse for Christmas one year the other gifted to me by me)...ruby necklace? That would just be weird, but I'd fawn over it due to the thought. (never had one of these either)
2.Nope. CAVEAT: I received a rather impressive ring from a former BF-blue topaz, my birthstone. And I DID have it appraised because I had to have it insured.
3. Guess it wouldn't matter, as long as he told me it was Cubic Zirconia or whatever.
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| 1/27/2009 7:26:36 PM |
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sherry3512
Louisville, KY
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Karat size is not important to me and wouldn't impress me. My first husband gave me a 1/4 carat diamond ring after 19 years of marriage -- we couldn't afford an engagement ring when we got married, and this was truly the best gift I ever received -- totally surprised me and I loved it. Too bad he decided a couple years later he loved someone else -- and yes, he bought her a much bigger ring.
As far as having it appraised, a week ago I would have said I wouldn't have done it. But last week my daughter got engaged and her diamond is quite large. She is going to have it added to her homeowners and will have to have it appraised for that purpose. So if you gave me a small diamond, I wouldn't have it appraised. Ergo, I wouldn't know if it was fake.
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| 1/27/2009 7:27:58 PM |
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joiseygal
Columbia, SC
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First off, I wouldn't have it appraised because I wouldn't care if it were real or not. If he told me that it was real, and lied, that's okay. Just knowing that he would want me to have it would be good enough for me. Love is not measured in the size of a stone, it's what's in the heart.
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bbwgapeach
Conyers, GA
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Your dream man gives you an engagement ring, diamond ear rings, a ruby necklace.
1) what is your minimum karat size that would impress you?
2) would you have it appraised?
3) if it was a fake what would you do?
my late husband gave me diamonds all the time and i never cared about the size and never got them appraised either..i knew he gave them to me out of his love for me and that alone was good enough for me...
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lotus3
Venice, FL
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No amount, or size of jewelry would impress me. That is not part of my value system.
No, I would not have it appraised.
Wannabe, I think you would be further ahead, asking men, why they do this.
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| 1/27/2009 7:42:58 PM |
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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Let me share a story with you gals. My last love and I were having breakfast at a local grocery store and I asked : If we get along for another year would you marry me. She said yes. There was a line of 5 cent gumball machines and I got a ring out of one of them, cost me a couple of bucks, gave it to her and she wore it around her neck for about a year and a half. We were arguing and she told me to F off and threw the ring at me and said "it's about time you get me a real one." She didn't talk to me untill I did. It was 3/4 karat, she looked at it with a brilliant smile and said "Cheaps ass" However we had a great laugh and I got laid that night. A true story. Ya never know what you have until it's gone.
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| 1/27/2009 7:44:06 PM |
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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No amount, or size of jewelry would impress me. That is not part of my value system.
No, I would not have it appraised.
Wannabe, I think you would be further ahead, asking men, why they do this.
OK
I will
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| 1/27/2009 7:45:28 PM |
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dannachanna
Fort Dodge, IA
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1. earings can go very small and look very dainty and classy.
2. I wouldn't have it appraised but most would want it insured and take in to the shop for regular check ups to make sure the prongs arn't damaged to avoid losing a stone. You would be told then if it was a fake.
3. I would give it back and break up because any man who would do that would probably lie about everything that he spoke about. The liar would in fact be the fake, not the jewel, they are sold for what they really are.
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joiseygal
Columbia, SC
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That's a sweet story Wana.
I was never given an engagement ring and it never bothered me abit. I got the man and that was all that mattered to me. I was well aware of what a wonderful man I had, long before I lost him. 
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| 1/27/2009 7:50:28 PM |
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ret7
Westerville, OH
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If it's the earrings or the necklace...it wouldn't matter.
If it's an engagement ring...my dream man would know ahead of time what I like. I'm pretty specific about what I like in an engagement ring..since I'm going to be wearing it the rest of my life.
Very simple:
* at least 1/4 of a carat but no bigger than 1/3 of a carat...I have small hands and
anything bigger looks "gaudy" on me
* round solitaire
* gold plain band (not very wide)
Last year when I thought I found my dream man, after one of our dates...he said "Let's go window shopping." He wanted to know exactly what I liked. I showed him and I would have been happy with a much less expensive ring. However, he started looking around and saw the single diamonds in a case and HE picked out the diamond...which was flawless. There were only 2 in the store that were that grade (at Jared's). I didn't realize the difference until that diamond was set next to the other one that was an average grade. It was beautiful.
He did not earn alot of money and couldn't really afford it...but he wanted me to have what I like and he wanted me to have the best. He put that ring on lay-away that night...only because I hadn't said "yes" yet (said it would give him 6 months to get me to say yes)....otherwise he would have bought it on the spot.
Anyway...that's what I would expect from my "dream man". The ring meant that much more to me since I knew that he really couldn't afford it...that impressed me...because it was a sacrifice on his part. He saw that ring as an expression of his level of love for me...and he wanted the best. He wanted to please me. So...if a guy who COULD afford the nicer ring gave me a fake one...I would not be impressed.
Sad to say that things didn't work out...I still wish they could but I'm not sure we can work out the issues.  (He has not taken the ring out of lay-away yet...he's still hoping we can work things out.)
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goofynurse
Nixa, MO
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I agree that maybe the men should have been asked this question....
When Jay and I were shopping for rings... he did not like it that I picked out this set... he felt it was too small, said you cant hardly even see the diamonds.. and that people was going to think he was "cheap".
I am a nurse, I do not wear bulky rings, and, I have never had to be impressed with "stuff" and never wanted to impress anyone else....
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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First off, I wouldn't have it appraised because I wouldn't care if it were real or not. If he told me that it was real, and lied, that's okay. Just knowing that he would want me to have it would be good enough for me. Love is not measured in the size of a stone, it's what's in the heart.
jo
I like your answer because men have an ego and a white lie to bolster that ego is fine. Coupled with a woman that will accept that, is fertile ground for love to grow.
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settee_for_2
Flower Mound, TX
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At it again, I see...
When my husband asked me to marry him, he asked me at the time, what was more important, a house or a ring.....I said a house. I didn't get a wedding ring until we were married a number of years. It was emeralds, my birthstone, and I now have several emeralds and diamond rings which I don't wear. Haven't worn rings of any kind for years. My hands are not my most attractive feature because of the work I do, so a ring would only accentuate that I don't have attractive hands.
I want to ask the guys out there in DH land this question seriously.....do I have to wear a ring if we get married?
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| 1/27/2009 8:33:14 PM |
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settee_for_2
Flower Mound, TX
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 well, a necklace would be nice...
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| 1/27/2009 8:47:23 PM |
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harleyriding
Nacogdoches, TX
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How come when a women wares a nice ring. Women will say behind ther back ,It' Look's fake. I have heard it many times
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sherry3512
Louisville, KY
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I don't know. I don't hear that kind of stuff. Maybe because most of my girl friends are married, we don't talk about rings and stuff like that. Hell, they all got 'em. I don't. (Well, actually, I have 2 but I don't wear them.)
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| 1/27/2009 8:53:04 PM |
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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I don't know. I don't hear that kind of stuff. Maybe because most of my girl friends are married, we don't talk about rings and stuff like that. Hell, they all got 'em. I don't. (Well, actually, I have 2 but I don't wear them.)
That's BS
Women compare the size of their rings behind each others back all the time.
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| 1/27/2009 8:53:53 PM |
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settee_for_2
Flower Mound, TX
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Nice ring? Only if it is a big honking ring the size of Cleveland have I ever heard anyone question it's authenticity. And usually they don't question the ring so much as the man's reason for giving it....
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| 1/27/2009 9:02:24 PM |
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sherry3512
Louisville, KY
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Quote from sherry3512:
I don't know. I don't hear that kind of stuff. Maybe because most of my girl friends are married, we don't talk about rings and stuff like that. Hell, they all got 'em. I don't. (Well, actually, I have 2 but I don't wear them.)
Quote from wanabe a real man but I'm not and never will be:
That's BS
Women compare the size of their rings behind each others back all the time.
BS? You know, wanabe, you really are as big an a** as most of the folks here think you are. If you had any class, you wouldn't say stuff like that. How do you know what women do? Are you a drag queen? I work with people my own age. Most of the women have been married more than 20 years, and if you think all they have to do is talk about the size of rings, you've got way too much time on your hands. We talk about the people we work with who are getting laid off from their jobs; we talk about our kids who are in school or starting out on their own; we talk about the economy; we talk about our friend whose son was paralyzed in an accident; you get the idea? Probably not.
Feel free to block me like you have with all the "stars". I stay away from most of your posts because you are such a jerk. This one seemed pretty innocuous, but your comments have shown you are a true idiot.
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| 1/27/2009 9:09:23 PM |
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ret7
Westerville, OH
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I do look at other women's engagement and wedding rings...mostly because I love engagement rings. It's my favorite piece of jewelry (wish I had one!). Actually, there's a lot of variety out there. Many of the rings are too big or too "gaudy" for me. By "gaudy", I mean "busy"...a lot of other jewels around it, etc. Everyone has their own preferences but I like just a plain, simple solitaire by itself. (not too big)
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| 1/27/2009 9:17:52 PM |
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settee_for_2
Flower Mound, TX
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Wannabe, here's a 3.5 carat yellow diamond worth approximately $167,300. If you could send Shari and I matching ones for Valentines, that would be just keen! Thanks, and we'll be thinking of you....
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| 1/27/2009 9:21:10 PM |
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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Quote from sherry3512:
I don't know. I don't hear that kind of stuff. Maybe because most of my girl friends are married, we don't talk about rings and stuff like that. Hell, they all got 'em. I don't. (Well, actually, I have 2 but I don't wear them.)
Quote from wanabe a real man but I'm not and never will be:
That's BS
Women compare the size of their rings behind each others back all the time.
BS? You know, wanabe, you really are as big an a** as most of the folks here think you are. If you had any class, you wouldn't say stuff like that. How do you know what women do? Are you a drag queen? I work with people my own age. Most of the women have been married more than 20 years, and if you think all they have to do is talk about the size of rings, you've got way too much time on your hands. We talk about the people we work with who are getting laid off from their jobs; we talk about our kids who are in school or starting out on their own; we talk about the economy; we talk about our friend whose son was paralyzed in an accident; you get the idea? Probably not.
Feel free to block me like you have with all the "stars". I stay away from most of your posts because you are such a jerk. This one seemed pretty innocuous, but your comments have shown you are a true idiot.
Thank you for the compliment. you made my day, drawing out the real jackasses.
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| 1/27/2009 9:24:04 PM |
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sweetpotato3
Albion, IN
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It wouldn't matter to me..
I tend to loose diamonds, have lost three so
maybe a cheap knock off would be better for me.
I think it would be neat if someone made the ring special
for me, that would be nice,but that could be out of a spoon.
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| 1/27/2009 11:06:30 PM |
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annamranna
Bloomington, IL
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You know, my old so called friends DID compare and speculate on the reasons. But they were who they were. I used to sit back and laugh because they seriously didn't get it-- at all.
You know, they actually threw a party at a local restaurant for a lady's birthday here. Her husband got her a ring with a six carat diamond. When you walked into the restaurant, she was sitting in a chair by the bar and all these women were going up to her to 'ohh'ing and 'ahh'ing it. It was like kissing the pope's ring. It was incredible to me that this women yielded so much power just by having a ring.
I would have liked a black topaz. I wanted one when I got married and OMG you would have thought I was crazy! What a beautiful stone!
So Wannabe, it doesn't matter.
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claypoted
Lewiston, MI
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Honestly, I would much rather have something I could USE instead of WARE. Glitter and sparkles mean little to me, I don't ware the stuff, so why would I want anyone to spend any amount of $$, if it just lays in the jewery box?
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| 1/28/2009 6:39:52 AM |
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smalltownmouse
Sangerfield, NY
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What makes you think that all women are about size.. size of ring...
size of thingy.... size of house... size of car....size of bank account.
95% of women are just romantics.... It's the size of his heart that I'm looking
for.. and how sincere his gifts are given... not the cost..
I speak for myself... other women here I'm sure, may think otherwise.
That in its self speaks... that we are not all women with one head.JMO
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| 1/28/2009 11:13:37 PM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
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I have a plain gold chain with a large candy heart on it, from a quarter gumball machine 18 years ago my stepson gave me. it means more than any diamond ever could. and I prefer silver and turquoise to diamonds any day. but if a special man got me earrings, etc., from the dollar store, I would wear them proudly because of the person giving them..
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| 1/28/2009 11:21:16 PM |
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boopdelou
Myrtle Creek, OR
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The size of the diamond does not matter to me, I would not get it appraised and if it was fake then so be it. I was married for 25 years with a $30 ring. The ring doesn't make a marrage, it is just a show peice, the marrage is made in the heart, thet rest is extra.
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| 1/28/2009 11:31:38 PM |
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coolchick
Woodway, TX
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If it was fake, I'd hand it right back to him - open the door for him - and caution him not to let it hit him in the arse on his way out.
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| 1/29/2009 6:49:07 AM |
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flirty_me_1
Chattanooga, TN
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None of this impresses me.. If I get married again...a simple elegant gold band will be just fine..
Naturally one for his nose might be nice also..
If he gave me one..I think he would know I wanted real and not fake. Small and real is best. I would not have it appraised.
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| 1/29/2009 7:11:56 AM |
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elmur
Aurora, IL
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At it again, I see...
When my husband asked me to marry him, he asked me at the time, what was more important, a house or a ring.....I said a house. I didn't get a wedding ring until we were married a number of years. It was emeralds, my birthstone, and I now have several emeralds and diamond rings which I don't wear. Haven't worn rings of any kind for years. My hands are not my most attractive feature because of the work I do, so a ring would only accentuate that I don't have attractive hands.
I want to ask the guys out there in DH land this question seriously.....do I have to wear a ring if we get married?
I would have no problem with you not wearing a ring, as long as the relationship is sound.
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| 1/29/2009 7:58:16 AM |
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countrylady39
Durham, NC
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Size would not matter to me it s the thought that counts. but im would nt get married again any way...
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andornot
Moulton, AL
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let's see, I'd prefer she search for an antique, preferably Victorian period, in platinum and european cut diamonds ... definitely would have it appraised for insurance ... and it would disburb immensely if she gave me a fake ...
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mokaybee
Poplar Bluff, MO
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Andornot, guess I better take this one back!
The only diamond I've ever owned was 1/4 carat in my Wal-Mart set my husband and I purchased in 1981. I couldn't have cared less about the diamond. I wanted a simple white gold band, but he insisted on at least a token. About a year after he died, I was driving home from work and noticed my little 1/4 carat was missing. I cried off and on for 3 days. Decided it was time to stop looking backward and have put rings up for my daughters and Mr. Right Jr. can have a new diamond put in. I've been looking at platinum settings for a right hand ring since there are no takers for the left handed variety. I'm just beginning to wear rings again, but I don't always wear them. Have a pretty amethyst and CZ that I just love, FAKE as all get out, but it looks great with my Lavender tuxedo shirt!
#1 That don't impress me much
#2 I'd rather have fake than worry about it
#3 Say thank you and maybe give him his own carrot
Besides, I just spent 3 days trapped at work in the worst ice storm we've had here in 20yrs, so I think I've seen enough "fire & ice" to do me for a while. LOL
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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If it was fake, I'd hand it right back to him - open the door for him - and caution him not to let it hit him in the arse on his way out.
Exactly my point if a man or a woman passes off something fake that is to be real, don't trust them.
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annamranna
Bloomington, IL
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You know Andornot, you have great taste. It sounds beautiful.
Now Wannabe, fact is, Every women would want an expensive ring. (Did you ever here the story of the three cow wife?) However, no one should be getting a ring if they aren't in a relationship. To be in a relationship you could pretty much figure out if your special friend has the funds for a huge mega- or simple elegant diamond or a cigar band. If you know the person well enough to be involved with them and at the ring stage, surely you would know what they could afford. And for me personally, I would rather have the smallest real stone than a fake. And whoever, if they knew me at all, would know that, so a fake would be the door.
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shezakeepher_2
Columbia, SC
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When I was first married I wore my birthstone ring I got on my 16th birthday for about a year then we got wedding bands, I think it cost $69.00 and his was $89.00 we wore those for 29 years.
He did get me a diamond for our 25 wedding anniversary. He ask that I pick out the setting (necklace) and he went and picked the diamond out without me. It wouldn't have made and difference to me the size of the diamond because he was doing it from his heart. The only reason I knew it's value was because he later gave me the paper work so I could take it to the ins. company to get it insured. To answer your questions I would not have had it appraised otherwise.
Husband Wanted: Diamonds not required. But it's not to say I don't like them. I've looked in Pawn shops at antique rings. Saw one in England I liked and regret not getting it, sapphire and diamonds.
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shari1955
Butler, KY
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Wannabe, here's a 3.5 carat yellow diamond worth approximately $167,300. If you could send Shari and I matching ones for Valentines, that would be just keen! Thanks, and we'll be thinking of you....
I wear a size 7..
I have a nice wedding/engagement ring.. many large stones. I took it to see what it would cost to have the stones taken out and made into another ring and three rings for our daughters. I went and got it.. Changed my mind..I no longer have the man but I have the ring..I would rather have the man..
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tedzzi2000
Trenton, NJ
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Material things mean nothing, it is the things that cost nothing
that matter.
If I had a gift given to me, I would be greaful no matter the value.
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| 1/31/2009 5:51:46 PM |
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wanabeluved
Wichita, KS
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What makes you think that all women are about size.. size of ring...
size of thingy.... size of house... size of car....size of bank account.
95% of women are just romantics.... It's the size of his heart that I'm looking
for.. and how sincere his gifts are given... not the cost..
I speak for myself... other women here I'm sure, may think otherwise.
That in its self speaks... that we are not all women with one head.JMO
Ya right.,,,,,,,,,Because money talks chit walks
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