| 4/13/2009 11:30:45 PM |
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happylisa
Broken Arrow, OK
51, joined Jan. 2009
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I've been reading some of the forums here and have wondered what everyone thinks about responding to emails that you get on DH. If you werent interested in someone, 1. do you still respond to them just to be polite 2. do you respond saying you're not interested in getting to know them or 3. Not respond at all. How about winks? Should you wink back at everyone to acknowledge them?
Personally, Ive been winking back at everyone even though I'm not interested just to acknowledge them. And I also try to respond to everyone just to be polite even though Im not interested. I dont want to be rude and not reply but on the other hand, i dont want to give someone the wrong impression either! Thoughts?
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| 4/13/2009 11:52:32 PM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
49, joined Feb. 2007
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You are not obligated to reply to everyone, and not everyone is obligated to reply to you. These days, it depends on my mood. LOL I have had too many men be rude when I say I am not interested, so I stopped replying to all. But I do at least acknowledge most.
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| 4/14/2009 12:01:26 AM |
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rholz
Kokomo, IN
51, joined Mar. 2009
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I send people emails and never get a response. It bugs me.
Realistically, however to get a message back that said "thanks for emailing me, but you are not my type" wouldn't feel real good either.
I think sending a well worded response would be very nice. But yes, some people will still be jerks. Rejection hurts, even if it is well phrased.
File this in the "no help whatsoever" bin.
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| 4/14/2009 12:06:12 AM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
42, joined Oct. 2008
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Um Saturday literally and I am not kidding from another site I had 300 emails easy. I am not exaggerating at all. I answered them all and it took my whole damn day. And out of them all I only found like 2 potentials if that who are decent men. So I say its not worth it. If you want my attention make yourself stand out. I feel so bad. I used to be able to answer them all but I cant anymore im just too busy
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| 4/14/2009 12:10:39 AM |
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hotnstinky
Diablo, CA
46, joined Dec. 2008
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If im not interested i wont reply.But if they want to be friends ,i would.I like the people on here , well most anyways.. But if they ask me out i make it very clear no way no how if i dont really like him..
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| 4/14/2009 12:11:26 AM |
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laeljon
Taos, NM
64, joined May. 2008
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I answer all...just some are not realistic...but still be honest.
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| 4/14/2009 12:13:01 AM |
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ksfreebird1983
Sycamore, KS
34, joined Dec. 2008
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I'd respond to all of them but no one ever sends me any, LOL! 
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| 4/14/2009 12:30:17 AM |
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goddess56
Tulsa, OK
67, joined Jun. 2006
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Um Saturday literally and I am not kidding from another site I had 300 emails easy. I am not exaggerating at all. I answered them all and it took my whole damn day. And out of them all I only found like 2 potentials if that who are decent men. So I say its not worth it. If you want my attention make yourself stand out. I feel so bad. I used to be able to answer them all but I cant anymore im just too busy
Go to "no email". It's that simple. Or close down some of your sites.
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| 4/14/2009 1:21:21 AM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
42, joined Oct. 2008
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Go to "no email". It's that simple. Or close down some of your sites.
Um I only have 2 that I venture to and what would be the point of being on a dating site and closing off contact?
My point is I try to be nice and respond to all and read all so that I can see if any grab my attention. I dont know why you are being so rude assuming that I just have all these sites I am on. The 300 mails were from 1 ONE site. Anyways don't be hating cuz my box overfloweth 
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| 4/14/2009 1:22:24 AM |
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jasmi
Latrobe, PA
60, joined Jun. 2008
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I personally think everyone who emails me or winks deserves some kind of acknowedgement. Even if it is a thanks but no thanks response. I always thank them for taking the time to write me. Now, if I had 300 like the other poster, then maybe I wouldn't answer them all. But I don't get anywhere near that amount!
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| 4/14/2009 6:24:12 AM |
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cocopuffs375
Suffern, NY
30, joined Mar. 2009
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Depends on how they write it..NO I don't respond to every email..and I don't respond to winks...only among friends.
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| 4/14/2009 6:37:50 AM |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
56, joined Mar. 2008
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I've been reading some of the forums here and have wondered what everyone thinks about responding to emails that you get on DH. If you werent interested in someone, 1. do you still respond to them just to be polite 2. do you respond saying you're not interested in getting to know them or 3. Not respond at all. How about winks? Should you wink back at everyone to acknowledge them?
Personally, Ive been winking back at everyone even though I'm not interested just to acknowledge them. And I also try to respond to everyone just to be polite even though Im not interested. I dont want to be rude and not reply but on the other hand, i dont want to give someone the wrong impression either! Thoughts?
i try to do that, even to the obnoxious one's to tell them i am blocking them...
but most emails are sweet...
some of them are drama filled about dh gossip...
others are from friends and we just yap about what is going on in our real lives out side of dh...
some people email me, as if they know me and we were corresponding frequently.. and for the life of me, i have never ever seen much less spoke to them through email.... i just do not understand this???
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| 4/14/2009 6:41:33 AM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
66, joined Dec. 2008
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Only the nice ones If its Lude,Crude or Obscene  
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| 4/14/2009 7:03:11 AM |
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lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
60, joined Dec. 2008
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Unless they are vulgar they get a response from me.
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| 4/14/2009 7:54:04 AM |
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firstlight
Strasburg, VA
57, joined Feb. 2008
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I respond most all of the time. I seem to be getting a lot lately that seem as though they are from fake profiles. They are "new" they have this posed picture and the wording is often similar. I don't know what the scam is but those i sometimes just delete. A couple times I responded with "your too far" and the reply was thanking me for my email and this schpeel like I had contacted him first.
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| 4/14/2009 8:05:26 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
46, joined Apr. 2007
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i respond to winks from my friends.
as far as email.very few ever get my attention.for the rest i just ask for money.that seems to work
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| 4/14/2009 8:21:48 AM |
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quitesassy
Massillon, OH
47, joined Feb. 2009
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It seems everyone has a different opinion on this - and it makes people angry.
Some think yes - be polite and answer.
Some think no - no return e-mail is your answer.
You have to do what makes you comfortable.
Personally, when I get Hey baby or You are hot, let's hook up, or I wanna have
sex with you - my response as no return e-mail is much better than what I would say
if I took the time to write something.
Why waste time on that crap?
Some people dig that sort of attention - me, no.
I still get nasty e-mails cause I did not respond. I just think to myself - consider
the source.
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| 4/14/2009 8:43:08 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
46, joined Apr. 2007
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hey baby..you got mail
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| 4/14/2009 8:44:50 AM |
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quitesassy
Massillon, OH
47, joined Feb. 2009
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I will make an exception just for you Wiley.
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| 4/14/2009 11:24:32 AM |
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happylisa
Broken Arrow, OK
51, joined Jan. 2009
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for the rest i just ask for money.that seems to work
That is a great idea!
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| 4/14/2009 11:55:29 AM |
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bassguy1966
Pepperell, MA
51, joined Feb. 2009
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I try to reply to all regardless of interest. Winks are lazy, and get deleted. I honestly don't understand why some find it so hard to simply type back a "no thank you" response, it just seems very rude. I was brought up with manners, so I feel like a response the right thing to do. If people get rude (just had my first one), one click later and they're blocked. Pretty simple.......
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| 4/14/2009 11:59:03 AM |
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steven030463
Newton Falls, OH
54, joined Nov. 2008
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I don't, I get alot of fake people emailing me. Don't ever forget I read the forums. I get to know how many people are and I'm not interested in the bad ones. Flag goes up everytime. I would just love to meet one nice lady who can't give me a line of bull.
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| 4/14/2009 2:36:29 PM |
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ladyog
Erlanger, KY
61, joined Feb. 2009
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If they act decent...I usually respond...if I think its a scammer...NO WAY....
when...you get winks....its kinda like playing tennis....the ball is in your court
now...if you like respond....if not ignore...JMO
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| 4/14/2009 2:38:05 PM |
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sandrahall
Mc Kenzie, TN
41, joined Mar. 2009
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No especially if they are childish. I dont know why a 19 year old boy would bother with a 33 year old female, like things are ever going to go anywhere.
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| 4/14/2009 2:47:37 PM |
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tater2009
Evansville, IN
46, joined Jan. 2009
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wink back and you are sending an icebreaker signal.
the email? depends on whats in it. no harm in an innocent email. just tell them you much prefer to chat in the forums.
jmo
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| 4/14/2009 9:52:25 PM |
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rusty_shorts
West Palm Beach, FL
44, joined Sep. 2008
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"Should you respond to every email?"... Nope.. I don't...
Now, if it looks like the woman actually read my profile and is something like what i'm looking for, then YES...I'll reply... even if it is to say "sorry, not interested"...
If I send someone an email and get no response within a few days, cool.. I know she's not interested...
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| 4/14/2009 9:55:54 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
55, joined Sep. 2008
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Google “online dating etiquette” and variations of the following will come up….
Not responding back is okay.
“Here's the thing: when someone initially contacts you, and for whatever reason you decide they aren't quite right, ignoring their email is perfectly reasonable online etiquette. This is very different from what you'd expect with "real life" encounters, but in the online world it's fine. Look at it this way, do you really want someone to respond back and tell you, "I've looked at your profile and I'm not interested”? Of course not. Don't take offense if you don't get a response back from someone you've emailed.
Read more: Online Dating Etiquette: Good Manners For Internet Daters”
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| 4/14/2009 11:15:57 PM |
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wildbluemist
Battle Mountain, NV
56, joined Apr. 2009
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Follow the double standard: Most men respond to every email because they don't get many!
Most women do not because they get alot more than most men.
Now ultrahot women get hundreds of emails from guys.The lady was not kidding.
Do not respond to all emails or flirts.! If you hurt mens feelings so what!They are just looking at the pictures anyway.
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| 4/14/2009 11:23:43 PM |
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patman846
Glenside, PA
29, joined Apr. 2009
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i've gotten 2 interested girls email me since i joined a week ago. i responded to 1 & deleted another. im not interested in either 1. however i sent 1 to a girl i found interested but i saw it was deleted. it does hurt to be rejected but since i did the same thing i feel like such a hipacrit.
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| 4/14/2009 11:28:29 PM |
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rcpilgrim
Gulf Shores, AL
44, joined Feb. 2009
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I respond to every email out of courtesy even if they don't have a picture. If someone took the time to write me it's the least i can do. A wink and no picture.......no response!
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| 4/15/2009 7:37:43 AM |
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45rusty
Ransomville, NY
54, joined Feb. 2009
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I too have sent e=mails and winks and never gotten a reply of any kind. I have checked the status to find out if the person has read it or not. Feel that If I can take the time to write a thought out letter the least somebody can send a short reply.
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| 4/15/2009 7:42:10 AM |
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3asygoing
Dearborn, MI
48, joined Mar. 2009
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Lets just beat this old horse to death a little more
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| 4/15/2009 7:45:20 AM |
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neo_52
Marathon, FL
60, joined Oct. 2008
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NO ,not all of them .
Some are rude ,crude and socially unacceptable .
DELETE !
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| 4/15/2009 7:51:10 AM |
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wendirayne
La Place, LA
34, joined Mar. 2009
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i think its best to email back and say your not interested..... and i got tired off getting winks, so i turned them off, an dnow i dont get any !!!!!
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| 4/15/2009 8:14:04 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
46, joined Apr. 2007
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I try to reply to all regardless of interest. Winks are lazy, and get deleted. I honestly don't understand why some find it so hard to simply type back a "no thank you" response, it just seems very rude. I was brought up with manners, so I feel like a response the right thing to do. If people get rude (just had my first one), one click later and they're blocked. Pretty simple.......
i understand your point........however sometimes its simply impossible.
women get more attention than men,as a whole.the more attractive,the more attention.that's just the way it is.
i have a friend on match.she's very attractive.the norm is 50-100 new emails a day.the gamut runs from 'hey sexy' to some telling their life story.if she tries to read and respond to every one.that takes 2-3 hours.out of those maybe there's 1 that catches her attention.easy enough right?except for half the guys that write back.that gamut runs anything from trying to change her mind to calling her names.now she has those PLUS all the new emails too.....not to mention the 1 or 2 she finds interesting.and god forbid she miss a day or 2.talk about taking the fun out of it huh?so after about a week or so she stopped responding.
i kinda look at it as junk mail.people are trying to 'sell' themselves.
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| 4/15/2009 10:02:36 AM |
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firebird1971
Gainesville, FL
52, joined Mar. 2009
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Um Saturday literally and I am not kidding from another site I had 300 emails easy. I am not exaggerating at all. I answered them all and it took my whole damn day. And out of them all I only found like 2 potentials if that who are decent men. So I say its not worth it. If you want my attention make yourself stand out. I feel so bad. I used to be able to answer them all but I cant anymore im just too busy
OMG maybe you should hire someone to handle the E-mails ! sounds like quite a job ! 
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| 4/15/2009 10:20:31 AM |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
63, joined Nov. 2007
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NO! Just the lascivious ones promising nearly impossible but delightfully debasing activities.
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| 4/15/2009 10:22:43 AM |
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milfmom
Kansas City, MO
43, joined Dec. 2008
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i wish i could respond to every email but i would be on here all night. I do think it's nice if you can!!!!!
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| 4/15/2009 10:28:25 AM |
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windwhispers
Enumclaw, WA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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do your best follow your heart it will have the answer for you
my only advice would be do not judge a book by its cover
if you do you could miss out on a great book or a good friend
JMO
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| 4/15/2009 10:29:37 AM |
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manykisses
Tonawanda, NY
59, joined Aug. 2008
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Yeah. I just finally replied this morning to a message I got on March 30. I just don't always have the time to devote due consideration to received mails, and I don't want to just fire off a few lines from the hip solely for the sake of replying. That backfired on me once when DH deleted something from my inbox before I had a chance to reply.
Bottom line, I prefer to respond to every e-mail I get, just as common courtesy, but unfortunately it doesn't always work out that way.
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