| 1/30/2010 7:35:31 PM |
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valkrider55
Jacksonville, FL
61, joined Nov. 2009
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Yeah I know, its a stupid topic but hopefully someone will respond with a good answer. I know from past meetings that Most all the women like who and what I am. Its just hard to say in words what your like and I feel that when a person finally meets someone, providing there are no lies up front. People are pleased !! So why is it. women dont give most men a chance to prove that they are really nice people ????
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| 1/30/2010 7:37:50 PM |
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ucfsweetnanny
Cocoa, FL
56, joined Dec. 2009
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Well speaking for me or most women we can say the samething about men. Atleast the men that I have met. 
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| 1/30/2010 7:54:36 PM |
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bunnyniblz
Citra, FL
56, joined Oct. 2009
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I would say that you are DEFINATELY SPECIFIC about who you want. Perhaps she has not been here yet. There are MANY THREADS about waiting and wondering if this really works ....
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| 1/30/2010 8:08:32 PM |
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d_freebird
Cocoa, FL
56, joined Jan. 2008
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Because "nice" has nothing to do with attraction,
and attraction has nothing to do with what women
(or men) say they want. If you don't make the
first cut (appearances) you can forget most of
them. If you pass the first, then your profile
has to not let them down (second cut). Only then
does the "real you" come into play, when/if.
Any woman the least bit non-fugly has too much
action on these sites, to give every guy a
chance. She's being picky because she can, and
it doesn't take long to learn not to trust what
you find online.
You want a chance, you have to make her want to
give you one. Bad.
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| 1/31/2010 8:20:48 PM |
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greggx
Daytona Beach, FL
61, joined Dec. 2007
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I'm confused or maybe just stupid. I think just confused .Most women like who and what you are, or so you say. You say people are pleased. So most women like you and are pleased but dont give you a chance to prove your a nice guy???????? I will be blunt here . Is what your really saying is there not giving you any p*ssy ?????? I mean most women like you and or pleased but dont give you a chance to prove your a nice guy
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| 1/31/2010 9:50:35 PM |
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lonelycowboy699
New Port Richey, FL
48, joined Jan. 2009
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Women are amazing. They want the same as us. Problem is there are too many idiots that ruin it for the good and decent men out there.We all have issues, if you find the right one your lucky. This is a crazy world, But rolling over and having something other than a pillow is GOLD! Life is short, and we get older WHERE ARE THE GOOD ONES THATJUST NEED LOVE!!
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| 1/31/2010 10:03:28 PM |
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greggx
Daytona Beach, FL
61, joined Dec. 2007
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Women are amazing. They want the same as us. Problem is there are too many idiots that ruin it for the good and decent men out there.We all have issues, if you find the right one your lucky. This is a crazy world, But rolling over and having something other than a pillow is GOLD! Life is short, and we get older WHERE ARE THE GOOD ONES THATJUST NEED LOVE!!
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| 2/1/2010 9:08:27 PM |
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hrnygrrl_09
Joplin, MO
37, joined Sep. 2009
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because most of us have been hurt tomany times to count. but when the time is right you will find the right person 
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| 2/5/2010 6:07:14 PM |
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amazingpatience
Port Richey, FL
55, joined Oct. 2009
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i do ..... and i did , reguardless of the "dog" or the dawg comments and jokes that have been going around here and at the "dog pound " , and its working out just perfect ! with a collar and leash of course  all joking aside, i found him to be a wonderful man ! he's a keeper !
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| 2/5/2010 6:29:57 PM |
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speakez123
West Palm Beach, FL
52, joined Oct. 2009
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don't despair my friend the right person will eventually come along. I have met some wonderful people on this site and have met some that were so delusional that I wonder how they ever expect to get a man. The bottom line is to always be honest but being honest doesn't mean you can't be courteous to the person that invested his or her time to get to know you. The truth of the matter is that a lot of what these people look for they never going to find on this site. One last observation give the people who don't put a pic on this site a shot, most of the people that I have continue to stay in touch with never put a pic on the site, the fact is some of the most interesting people on this will never bother to put a pic. Why you ask? because we know who we are and what we have to offer and don't have to.
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| 2/7/2010 6:22:37 PM |
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olddi
Daytona Beach, FL
59, joined Sep. 2009
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i do ..... and i did , reguardless of the "dog" or the dawg comments and jokes that have been going around here and at the "dog pound " , and its working out just perfect ! with a collar and leash of course all joking aside, i found him to be a wonderful man ! he's a keeper !
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| 3/1/2010 6:59:34 PM |
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justpeachy2211
Jacksonville, FL
70, joined Jul. 2008
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I don't think its they won't give you a chance? Its they did when you first met and there was something there that did not work for them? I've met some very nice guys on here, some remain my friends, some don't. Its all about chemistry? If a woman does not have that feeling, then its not gonna work for a relationship. They may think your a great person, but if all the "i's" are not dotted, and the"t's" crossed its not gonna work. I don't really understand the dating world anymore I guess? I was married for a very long time and was not in it, nor did I know anyone who was. So when I did start to date again, it was difficult for me? I took everyone's word, believed what they said in the profile, etc. only to find when I met most of them, that they had not told the truth in the profile. They were more or less looking for a one night stand so to speak, and this was definitely not me. But I've never understood why they would say they wanted a relationship with a nice lady, only to go the other direction and think its ok? Why not just say you just want a sexual partner, no strings attached? Makes no sense to me?
Giving someone a chance is the right thing to do, if in fact they are looking for the same thing as you are. It may be they were not, so instead of just telling you that, they chose to just not do a thing? Who knows anymore? All I've ever wanted was a nice fellow to date and be with, my best friend, but all I ever got was someone who wanted to lie, and do things their way like it or not? So I just gave up dating, and figure if I happen to meet him somewhere, then that will be great! I am sort of different than most women out here? I want to take time to get to know one another, laugh alot and let things go from there? As I say, I am just me.
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| 3/2/2010 9:44:55 AM |
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gatortwins
Gainesville, FL
40, joined Feb. 2010
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I think it goes both ways. I personally am looking for someone that won't play stupid games. I am not in the mood to be "tested" at this point in my life. I am who I am either accept it or step aside. Don't play stupid games.
Do I think there are nice guys out there. Sure, but somewhere they are hiding under a rock. I have given plenty of guys a chance, but when it comes down to it, they are more interested in playing game than anything else. Hello we aren't in kindergarten any more
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| 3/2/2010 2:57:36 PM |
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slaffa
Tampa, FL
64, joined Oct. 2009
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OP, the pickings on this particlar sight are super slim at best although I do believe I have a "KEEPER" on the line right now. I would also invest some time and energy on the "other" free sight - aka the "Pond" where I met a ton of great ladies, just no "matches".
I met this particular lady at a DH party where there have been many "matches" made and at least one that I know of ended with wedding bands not long ago. I suggest you focus your energies on attending these events whenever you can. You ARE fortunate as I have seen them posted in your area. Not everyone is so lucky and I know of quite a few people who will drive an hour or more on a regular basis to attend.
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| 3/2/2010 4:04:52 PM |
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missteagal1
Apollo Beach, FL
61, joined Feb. 2010
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I don't think its they won't give you a chance? Its they did when you first met and there was something there that did not work for them? I've met some very nice guys on here, some remain my friends, some don't. Its all about chemistry? If a woman does not have that feeling, then its not gonna work for a relationship. They may think your a great person, but if all the "i's" are not dotted, and the"t's" crossed its not gonna work. I don't really understand the dating world anymore I guess? I was married for a very long time and was not in it, nor did I know anyone who was. So when I did start to date again, it was difficult for me? I took everyone's word, believed what they said in the profile, etc. only to find when I met most of them, that they had not told the truth in the profile. They were more or less looking for a one night stand so to speak, and this was definitely not me. But I've never understood why they would say they wanted a relationship with a nice lady, only to go the other direction and think its ok? Why not just say you just want a sexual partner, no strings attached? Makes no sense to me?
Giving someone a chance is the right thing to do, if in fact they are looking for the same thing as you are. It may be they were not, so instead of just telling you that, they chose to just not do a thing? Who knows anymore? All I've ever wanted was a nice fellow to date and be with, my best friend, but all I ever got was someone who wanted to lie, and do things their way like it or not? So I just gave up dating, and figure if I happen to meet him somewhere, then that will be great! I am sort of different than most women out here? I want to take time to get to know one another, laugh alot and let things go from there? As I say, I am just me.
What she said. I have given up on dating for the same reasons. I don't want to tell you how many times I have gone on a date with a man who posted a picture ten or fifteen years old. To the point that that I did not recognize them when I walked into whereever we were meeting. Then they announced or inferred after a ten minute conversation that they want to take a "test drive" cause sex is so important to their relationship requirements. Geezzz....I stopped going out to dinner because men would say they felt taken advantage of if they paid. I only go out for coffee and pay my own way. Doesn't matter...so if I fall over him as I leave a building or a twister zips him into my garage it might happen...but I am beginning to have my doubts.
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| 3/3/2010 7:35:14 PM |
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rosy25
Hialeah, FL
56, joined Feb. 2010
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Because sometimes men see a woman and see a piece of meat. (meat market)
If you are blond they think you are stupid. No offence guys, I hope that out there still are nice guys??. Or maybe a prince.. But I have gave up.  
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| 3/4/2010 8:40:02 AM |
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openroad72
Tampa, FL
44, joined Mar. 2010
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I see a lot of women that say they want the nice guy.. but reject them for the bad boy.. why.. it's easy.. nice guys are boring! I woman wants a guy that will not embarrass them.. but will keep them interested and entertained (not like a clown) but will spark there interest.. it is really simple.. if they are not giving you a chance.. maybe it's you.. get an interest.. fix your profile to make you seem as interesting as you are.. (if you are)
I lot of women have boring lives.. give them a reason to want to go out with out..
Correct me if I'm wrong.. but I doubt it..
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| 3/4/2010 9:15:34 PM |
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rosy25
Hialeah, FL
56, joined Feb. 2010
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This is a reply to Openroad72
of what he said.
I see a lot of women that say they want the nice guy.. but reject them for the bad boy..
IS NOT THAT WE PREFFERD THE BAD BOYS. IT IS BECAUSE THE SOLE CALL GOOD GUYS WANT AND BECOME OUR DAD...
why.. it's easy.. nice guys are boring! I woman wants a guy that will not embarrass
them..
ANYONE CAN EMBARRASS YOU AT ANY TIME...
but will keep them interested and entertained (not like a clown) but will spark there interest..
SOMETIME THOSE NICE GUYS ARE SO NICE AND PERFECT THAT IS BEYOND BORRING..
it is really simple.. if they are not giving you a chance.. maybe it's you.. get an interest
YES, I KNOW IT COULD BE VERY SIMPLE, BUT PLEASE DEFINE SIMPLE....
fix your profile to make you seem as interesting as you are.. (if you are)
YES, I AM INTERESTING. IT IS JUST, I GOT TO A POINT THAT. I LOVE MY FREEDOM, MY ME TIME. IF I WANT TO TAKE OFF ANY WHERE, AND ANYTIME I DO NOT HAVE SOME APPROVAL..OR THE RESPOND , I AM TIRED, IT IS TO LATE ETC ETC ETC ....
I lot of women have boring lives.. give them a reason to want to go out with out..
AND I AGREE WITH YOU, LOTS OF WOMEN ( NO OFFENCE LADIES) THEY DO LIFE VERY BORRING LIFE..
Correct me if I'm wrong.. but I doubt it..
YOU ARE CORRECT TO A POINT.. BUT I AM FAR FROM BORRING.. THE DAY IS NOT LONG ENOUGH FOR ME.. I AM ALWAYS ON THE GO, WITH FRIENDS AND EVEN BY MYSELF..
I HOPE I DID NOT OFFEND ANYONE.. THIS IS JUST ME ....
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| 3/4/2010 10:05:02 PM |
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mickylarue
Highland, MI
65, joined Nov. 2007
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First, I'm sorry Rosy but please learn to speak and write English. It is "So called" not Sole call bad boys. And noone wants to be your dad. We are all looking for the same thing. Someone that we can have fun with, that doesn't put us down for every little thing, and just enjoys life. I think that a lot of people on this site that are serious and not just out for fun are missing the point of the question of getting a chance. Way too many are looking for "chemistry" or Prince Charming. Look at yourself in the mirror. We are not in high school anymore. Unless you are one of those like on American Idol in the first couple of weeks that really believe you have it and are going to be a great star then you must realize that time has taken it's toll. Go out and date people that you think are even ugle because you might find a great person underneath. It is amazing how good a person starts to look when you enjoy their company.
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| 3/4/2010 11:30:03 PM |
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naughtical
Winter Haven, FL
57, joined Oct. 2009
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You asked.
I will not give a guy a chance if...
His main picture is shirtless
Just not cool...to me. If you have a picture of you at the beach or on a boat that is one thing but don't use it as your main pic. If you took a picture of yourself, with a web cam or in front of your bathroom mirror, without a shirt...ewwwwww.
He sends me a VERY short first email
"Hey, Sexy. Wanna chat?"
Uhmmmm...NO
He is young enough to be my son
No explanation needed.
He sends me his Yahoo address and tells me to go there, right away
Yeah, right. Hold your breath, I'm coming.
His message reads like a kid who just learned "text speak"
u no who u r.
and last but not least...
His message is a generic copy and paste job that he sends out to all women in his immediate area
Yeah, us women are friends...we talk, we know.
[Edited 3/4/2010 11:32:48 PM ]
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| 3/7/2010 3:35:23 PM |
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prettylady47
Valrico, FL
56, joined Feb. 2009
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Define "Nice Guy"
There are many different ways guys think they are nice. That is not at all what a woman sees.
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| 3/7/2010 8:48:26 PM |
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battkitty57
Sarasota, FL
59, joined Mar. 2010
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I don't want to be "test driven". I have had the same problem on the picture thing - one guy a while ago looked "normal" to me (I like normal) and when we met the pic was from a business meeting 20 years earlier and he had the distinct look of Grandpa Munster - now I like the Munsters as much as anyone but that was not who I was expecting to see... It was pretty funny. Anyway - I had the "just looking for sex" thing yesterday - he got a little upset when I said if that was want I wanted I would hookup with someone with a mommie complex... I was kidding but he hasn't sent anything back.. Did I forget to mention I like guys with a sense of humor too??? Guess he didn't have one. One idiot told me he liked "older" women because we are "grateful"... WTF??? Anyway - I am hoping here are still a lot of guys out there who don't get upset when my grandchildren call me GRANDMA!!! Who knew 
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| 3/8/2010 1:09:13 AM |
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a407areacode
Winter Park, FL
35, joined Mar. 2010
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Probably because a lot of women have been hurt and don't find trusting as easy or as fast as others. It is very hard for some of us to openly give someone a chance when all they end up doing breaks them. Didn't mean to get so down. Sorry,but it's true. 
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| 3/11/2010 9:05:30 PM |
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papabear64
Middleburg, FL
53, joined Jan. 2010
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Probably because a lot of women have been hurt and don't find trusting as easy or as fast as others. It is very hard for some of us to openly give someone a chance when all they end up doing breaks them. Didn't mean to get so down. Sorry,but it's true.
407 is right there is enough distrust to go around on both sides of the gender line... we all have been taken for fools because we want love... and wish to be given that trust that only one who truly loves us can give.... i am one of those nice guys who gives his all and winds up being burned just like you ladies.... trust is important to me but i feel with my heart first and it is my downfall....
407 thank you for your insites it is nice to see
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| 4/3/2010 7:01:13 PM |
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mustbgood
Miami, FL
61, joined May. 2008
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i THINK ROSY   MET HER MATCH ,
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| 4/3/2010 10:57:04 PM |
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gjant
Brooksville, FL
66, joined Mar. 2010
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Because "nice" has nothing to do with attraction,
and attraction has nothing to do with what women
(or men) say they want. If you don't make the
first cut (appearances) you can forget most of
them. If you pass the first, then your profile
has to not let them down (second cut). Only then
does the "real you" come into play, when/if.
Any woman the least bit non-fugly has too much
action on these sites, to give every guy a
chance. She's being picky because she can, and
it doesn't take long to learn not to trust what
you find online.
You want a chance, you have to make her want to
give you one. Bad.
Lots of really good answers here on this tread......this gentleman answers the question about the differences between meeting someone in person somewhere or over the net......
There are a lot of limitations to just looking at a photo and reading a 10-20 line explanation for a very complicated individual......
We all would like attractive and appealing to our taste....but the net limits our sense of both....
Many will try to embellish themselves in someway.....
Folks don't want to get anything less than an acceptance and have difficultly handling what they interrupt as a rejection......(a complete subject in itself)
The 20YO picture trick....woman do that a lot as well.....it’s called denial…..
I think at this age (40-60’s) most of us been kicked around some….and some a lot…..so the trust issue is a big one……..
It’s too easy to sit behind a computer and hide the real you……in an incredibly amount of diverse ways…..mostly to avoid the dreaded rejection……
Then there are many that go to great lengths to be super honest and accurate….
I think both methods discourage good contacts………and eliminate possible partner choices….. The object should be meeting folks………these local events look like a good idea…..maybe not all at night in a bar room environment…..not everyone is comfortable with that…..but the meeting places are an important part of the process……..
Then there is the sex thing…….. and the money thing………it goes on and on…….
There is an answer for those guy’s looking for just sex ………For a lot less time and no questions asked….
Seems to me that’s a lot easier answer than running around trying to do the poke and hope routine……….These guy’s wouldn’t go to the liquor store to buy a candy bar would they?
Anyway for what it’s worth ….
You all have a great holiday and stay safe………
Remember …….Easter ain’t about bunnies and eggs….or a fancy ham dinner……..
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