| 9/26/2010 12:46:01 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
88, joined Nov. 2009
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I don't want someone I don't know calling me "sexy".
To start out with, how do they know? We've never been in the same room!
Attractive, I will accept.
Sexy? Once you make that statement, you've failed.
What do you prefer?
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| 9/26/2010 12:48:03 PM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
58, joined Sep. 2008
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what do you associate being called sexy with...
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| 9/26/2010 12:49:25 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
88, joined Nov. 2009
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I associate it with the guy thinking he will be sexually successful with me...that I will be responsive to his advances.
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| 9/26/2010 12:51:36 PM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
58, joined Sep. 2008
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Some men consider it to be a compliment with no strings attached...
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| 9/26/2010 12:52:37 PM |
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ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
57, joined Apr. 2008
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If anything needs to be said, attractive.
If they have nothing more to say beyond that more than likely will just ignore.
It's like responding to a wink or a wolf whistle, ok, you'd do me - so what?
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| 9/26/2010 12:58:33 PM |
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olefrog
Harriman, TN
61, joined Sep. 2010
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I associate it with the guy thinking he will be sexually successful with me...that I will be responsive to his advances.
Man view....Sexy is an attitude more than anything else. A positive trait.
A woman can be sexy but .....it may not have anything at all to do with wheather a man wants to go out with her. Take it as a compliment.
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| 9/26/2010 1:07:34 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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i think when "sexy" is said by a man to a woman it is definitely based on her physical appearance obviously w/out knowing her
do i think sexy is a bad word or compliment? no, i dont. i think women shud be flattered if a man thinks she is sexy. its better to be complimented than not
BUT if its the ONLY thing the man can say or talk about w/u is just how physically sexy u r, then it doesnt leave any room to progress any interest if he isnt giving the woman anything to go on.....just kind of leaves it shallow
sexy can also be termed as a whole of one's personality as well as her looks.....which would mean the man has gotten or getting to know her and just finds her to be a fabulous person all around
but yes, there r other descriptive adjectives to use when complimenting a woman......doesnt always have to be sexy
<<<<<-------- not feeling sexy today 
NOW the real question is.....would a woman rather be called HOT or SEXY? do they mean the same thing?
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| 9/26/2010 1:15:27 PM |
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olefrog
Harriman, TN
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NOW the real question is.....would a woman rather be called HOT or SEXY? do they mean the same thing? |
| 9/26/2010 1:23:38 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
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YUP, thats what i think too
so a woman could consider HOT flattering or offensive depending on who is saying it and how she wants to take it
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| 9/26/2010 1:24:46 PM |
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natureboyblue
Trenton, MI
49, joined Sep. 2010
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[ nice guy ] is fine with me because it stay's with you longer
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| 9/26/2010 1:27:22 PM |
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really_dude
Mesquite, TX
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| 9/26/2010 1:28:35 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
88, joined Nov. 2009
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Now see, Mary...how I would describe you physically is (bearing in mind that I am a flaming heterosexual woman):
beautiful
exotic
lovely
attractive
gorgeous
very feminine
How I would describe a man whose looks appeal to me:
handsome
gorgeous
strong
vibrant
very masculine
But "sexy" is something that is an unknown. 
Really, dude...is that why you keep calling ME sexy? 
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| 9/26/2010 1:29:33 PM |
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jamesbrown40
Flint, MI
47, joined Jun. 2010
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both here
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| 9/26/2010 1:29:54 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
55, joined Jun. 2009
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Eh, I prefer to hear 'sexy' from someone I'm having, or plotting to have, sex with.
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| 9/26/2010 1:31:33 PM |
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carbonv
Faqus
Egypt
59, joined Jul. 2008
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I associate it with the guy thinking he will be sexually successful with me...that I will be responsive to his advances.
Being a guy , I don't think of it like that at all.
To me, sexy means sexually attractive and NOT that I think I would be able to "get with" the particular woman, or even try for that matter.
There are some young women for example that are in their 20's and look VERY sexy... I would not be trying to hit on them (they are too young for me) That does not however have anything to do with the fact that they are sexy.
Personally I believe it to be a compliment, although I would agree that it should be used more appropriately than some do.
(just my thoughts)
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| 9/26/2010 1:32:55 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
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why, thanks, MENDI
yeah, exotic is a term ive had a few times......kind of cracks me up
and u r those descriptors as well .....and nicely done coming from a woman. i realize u arent lesbian
and WHY cant i call a man cute??
BBW, plotting to have sex? i like that. im gonna plot to have sex with a man REAL SOON
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| 9/26/2010 1:33:40 PM |
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misslooking4u
Bronx, NY
33, joined Sep. 2010
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Neither! I'd prefer to be called my Name. I think its beautiful 
* when a person winks or msg's another its a given they admire something about U. So extend a compliment or ask their name.
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| 9/26/2010 1:34:22 PM |
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ichoose_alone
Winnetka, IL
45, joined Jul. 2010
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Damn Carbon, you are so sexy.
OT: I agree with Mendi's thoughts.
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| 9/26/2010 1:35:37 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
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CARBON, i had a feeling u chased those young hotties......down, boy
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| 9/26/2010 1:37:25 PM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
38, joined Jun. 2008
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I don't want someone I don't know calling me "sexy".
To start out with, how do they know? We've never been in the same room!
Attractive, I will accept.
Sexy? Once you make that statement, you've failed.
What do you prefer?
Different people have different meanings for the word sexy...........obviously you are saying to you, it means personality and looks etc (the whole package)
To me the word sexy, is the same as saying the word attractive, just a less proper way of saying attractive.......
But yes someone's voice their kindness etc could been seen as sexy qualities......but when they say it without knowing you, then obviously they are meaning it as you use the word attractive (all looks based)
I've also heard people say that someones voice, kindness etc, makes them attractive and/or more attractive..........so it's up to each individual's interpretation of the word....
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| 9/26/2010 1:38:38 PM |
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carbonv
Faqus
Egypt
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ichoose...Are you using my definition or mendi's?
Mary... Thats NOT what I said... you be nice, "sexy"
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| 9/26/2010 1:43:42 PM |
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lerninmybearins
Edmond, OK
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I think it has to do with tact. For me I will not use the word sexy or hot when giving a woman a compliment. I find it inappropriate until you actually know. As for me I appreciate it if someone pays me the compliment of sexy or hot but I don't expect the conversation to go much further. When referencing a woman I prefer to use the words attractive or beautiful, simply my preference. I like to save the word "sexy" until you get to one of those moments where you can't wait to rip each others clothes off...or already have...
Just my thoughts...my 10 cents..
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| 9/26/2010 1:43:46 PM |
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sighthound70
Kassel
Germany
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I often hear that I'm attractive.
But I also hear that the way I dress, talk and my body language appears to be very sexy.
I don't have an issue with being called sexy, it's a compliment which I appreciate.
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| 9/26/2010 1:47:25 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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i once dated a cop and i called him to leave a message and his voice mail said something to the effect
"only hot women apply or call here"......and i was like 
that seemed offensive and turned off
i mean i had to think he must be conceited to think he himself is THAT hot when he wasnt
CARBON, u know i luv ya, hon......esp when u call me sexy
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| 9/26/2010 1:51:01 PM |
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imjusbeingme
Humble, TX
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Its just a compliment what's the big deal I can see if someone was calling you out of your name so women should just appreciate the fact & stop complaining all the time!!
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| 9/26/2010 1:53:59 PM |
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imjusbeingme
Humble, TX
32, joined Jun. 2010
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I'm glad someone appreciate it lol..
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| 9/26/2010 1:58:31 PM |
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ballantyne731
Charlotte, NC
50, joined Aug. 2010
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Some men consider it to be a compliment with no strings attached...
and some women take it as such. 
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| 9/26/2010 2:01:51 PM |
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olefrog
Harriman, TN
61, joined Sep. 2010
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I'm sorry Mendi,,,,,,But you are SEXY......so just deal with it....OK
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| 9/26/2010 2:03:48 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
88, joined Nov. 2009
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I wasn't complaining. When my SO calls me sexy, I take it as a compliment.
A lot of this has to do with people online calling others "sexy" without knowing whether or not they really are.
Appealing? Attractive?
I guess it is all in how you wish to define it.
However, I hear my students (middle school) referring to each other as "sexy" all the time.
Have we forgotten all the other descriptors?
BRAD!
Coming from you, hon...that's a great compliment!
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| 9/26/2010 2:04:22 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
55, joined Jun. 2009
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A lot depends on how he's eyeballing you when he says it, and the amount of accompanying drool. 
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| 9/26/2010 2:07:49 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
88, joined Nov. 2009
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A lot depends on how he's eyeballing you when he says it, and the amount of accompanying drool.
True, Lisa...
If I'm looking like a fine slab of prime rib to him, I'll pass...
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| 9/26/2010 2:09:53 PM |
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shandikiss
Lynnwood, WA
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beautiful, pretty, cute or attractive. . . never sexy unless we are dating, and DEFINATELY never hot until i know you well.
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| 9/26/2010 2:10:49 PM |
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olefrog
Harriman, TN
61, joined Sep. 2010
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Do you know how hard it is to look sexy when you are drooling?
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| 9/26/2010 2:11:46 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
88, joined Nov. 2009
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Mary...
I would SOOOO call a man "cute". I know they think it's diminishing them in some manner, but I think "cute" covers so much more than just looks, don't you? 
C'mere, Brad...I have a napkin...
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| 9/26/2010 2:12:23 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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~ MARY takes all guys off friends list and then some who has ever called me SEXY or HOT ~
ive been revolutionized!!
yes, i do, MENDI.....some guys r soooo cute, i could just squeeze their cheeks to death
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| 9/26/2010 2:35:18 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
88, joined Nov. 2009
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Both sets?
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| 9/26/2010 2:36:28 PM |
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olefrog
Harriman, TN
61, joined Sep. 2010
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Now that's attractive!!!
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| 9/26/2010 2:38:18 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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Both sets?
 but of course
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| 9/26/2010 2:57:22 PM |
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cstina
Raleigh, NC
54, joined Aug. 2010
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sexy, attractive, hot, i don't care. it was meant as a compliment not to offend.
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| 9/26/2010 4:32:43 PM |
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frantastica
Essex
United Kingdom
65, joined May. 2010
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class! excellent illustration of the issue!
I love being called anyfing positive... providing thats how it is meant!
But wen I get called something negative I can turn into a fire breathing dragon....
If I describe someone as sexy then they are attractive to me, physically.
Attraction is magnetic. I feel drawn to you if I find you "attractive". Sexy implies a more general acknowledgement of physical appeal, doesn't it?xx
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| 9/26/2010 4:59:51 PM |
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
63, joined Jun. 2007
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Mendi-
I find you very "sexy", "attractive" and damned "hot"...
for an 81 year old.
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| 9/26/2010 5:00:50 PM |
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mercedes01
New South Wales
Australia
98, joined Jan. 2010
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Old fart will do me fine
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| 9/26/2010 5:07:57 PM |
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carbonv
Faqus
Egypt
59, joined Jul. 2008
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Mercedes...
but ya don't look like an old fart
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| 9/26/2010 5:13:09 PM |
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really_dude
Mesquite, TX
61, joined Mar. 2010
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sexy, attractive, doesn't matter...just call
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| 9/26/2010 5:14:32 PM |
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horace_schitt
Wausau, WI
50, joined Oct. 2009
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Just don't call me late for dinner.
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| 9/26/2010 5:18:35 PM |
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ashadeofred
Lansing, MI
66, joined Dec. 2007
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If it is said sincerely, then they are all compliments!
If someone finds me "attractive" I would think they would think I was "attractive" enough to have sex with....hence "sexy". At least thats how I think when I look at a man. I think calling someone "attractive" sounds classier than "sexy".
Give me an attractive, sexy, classy guy! 
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| 9/26/2010 5:18:58 PM |
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jammil
Valdosta, GA
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| 9/26/2010 5:19:56 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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i THINK everyone shouldnt be so judgemental and just post sexy pics.....and let us be the JUDGE of them
did i just contradict myself?
sexiness is in the eyes of the beholder.....yes, like beauty
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| 9/26/2010 5:20:09 PM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
37, joined Nov. 2009
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I think a person should be happy with either one. Beats the hell out of ogre.
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| 9/26/2010 5:22:50 PM |
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spoiledwidower
Hagerstown, MD
62, joined Jul. 2010
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I don't want someone I don't know calling me "sexy".
To start out with, how do they know? We've never been in the same room!
Attractive, I will accept.
Sexy? Once you make that statement, you've failed.
What do you prefer?
Oh your serious. 
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| 9/26/2010 5:23:48 PM |
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horace_schitt
Wausau, WI
50, joined Oct. 2009
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Pffft! Couldn't you just see someone like me trying to pose for and post 'sexy pics'? Wouldn't that be a hit? 
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| 9/26/2010 5:27:21 PM |
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crzyblubttrfly
Fort Smith, AR
58, joined Apr. 2009
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I don't care which terms they start off with , I pay attention to what they do or say next. It's pretty telling most of the time.
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| 9/26/2010 5:27:31 PM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
66, joined Jul. 2010
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Little or no ego and I don`t need what ever there is stroked. If I have to keep repeating to lady how good she looks it just strikes me that she is insecure. Doll do you really think I would be with you if there wasn`t some form of attraction?
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| 9/26/2010 5:32:02 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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Pffft! Couldn't you just see someone like me trying to pose for and post 'sexy pics'? Wouldn't that be a hit?
oh, give it a shot, hon
im sure there is plenty of willing ladies to check u out
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| 9/26/2010 5:51:36 PM |
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crzyblubttrfly
Fort Smith, AR
58, joined Apr. 2009
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I told Keith that was a hawt pic, if he just would have not turned his head it would be killer.
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| 9/26/2010 5:52:35 PM |
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horace_schitt
Wausau, WI
50, joined Oct. 2009
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Don't blame me, I didn't even know the damn thing was being taken! I was just minding my own business, talking with someone on the stoop.
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| 9/26/2010 6:13:36 PM |
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claudius5
Petaluma, CA
67, joined May. 2009
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Being a guy , I don't think of it like that at all.
To me, sexy means sexually attractive and NOT that I think I would be able to "get with" the particular woman, or even try for that matter.
There are some young women for example that are in their 20's and look VERY sexy... I would not be trying to hit on them (they are too young for me) That does not however have anything to do with the fact that they are sexy.
Personally I believe it to be a compliment, although I would agree that it should be used more appropriately than some do.
(just my thoughts)
I concur.
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| 9/26/2010 6:16:18 PM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
66, joined Dec. 2008
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Attractive, but only on a Good Day If anybody saw me right after work, they'd be calling for 
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| 9/26/2010 6:20:33 PM |
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destinym
Savannah, GA
49, joined Oct. 2008
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I don't mind either. I was taken back hearing guys openly say that just in passing when I first moved here, but now I know it's just their way...and they say it to everyone practically; so really it's nothing special to hear I guess. It doesn't work as a come on line to me to get me to stop and converse though. I just smile and say "thanks" and keep on going. (and sometimes I really book it)
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| 9/26/2010 6:20:54 PM |
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caitlinsmom
Shreveport, LA
42, joined Aug. 2010
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they both are compliments...
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