| 3/2/2008 9:34:32 AM |
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shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 59
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Do we have expectations of the future he or she that we invite into our lives?
Thinking of taking on a mate at this stage in our lives means that we have a void in our life that we would like to fill. In saying that I am wondering if each of us have a expectation of what part in our lives that we think that other person will fill ?
Shalah
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| 3/2/2008 9:40:41 AM |
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huskertomboy
Onawa, IA
age: 51
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At this stage in my life I never expected to be dating again,but here I am. But I also know I will never settle again. I have room in my life for a kind,active man. My best friend,I hope. I hope we fill each others void. I dont do the criteria list. Will know him when I meet him.
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| 3/2/2008 9:43:21 AM |
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shari1955
Butler, KY
age: 52
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Ok here goes.. My youngest child is now 18 and out of high school.. So now it is my time. I am not looking for a rich person to take care of me just someone that has enough to take care of himself..I want someone that can add something to my life, not bring me down. Someone to share life with me. To enjoy hold and touch. Humans are made to touch.I miss that..Not as much in a sexual way (although sex is good) but touch.To do things with and have fun. To get to know slowly so that I will be sure. This time around it will be for keeps. I would rather be alone than with someone thats not right for me or me not right for him.. I put it this way. I want someone that cares I am alive lol Plain enough.. And at our age we can find it..I will find it and if I have to move to be with Mr Right then I will..
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| 3/2/2008 9:44:30 AM |
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classof63
Dunkirk, NY
age: 62 online now!
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I would think we all have certain expectations of "the other person" we invite into our lives.. And I would believe that everyone here has slightly different expectations. One common expecation, that I would think would be a must have, would be that the "other person" would love you (and of course, you in return), and of course, given that, that they would not cheat on you. After those two, it gets iffy as to what we all want. I would think that no one really likes living alone, or we wouldn't bother searching for someone on DH, would we?? We would also want the other to be supportive, and caring to us and our needs (and us, theirs)... Its a tought question to answer, but if the mutual love and respect is there, I would doubt that all other would be secondary, and really not matter all that much in the end......
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| 3/2/2008 9:48:03 AM |
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jhny_777
Rogers, AR
age: 55 online now!
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Good one Shalah!For me .Someone i can share with maybe not romance off the
bat.but freindship!Someone to share good things in life!And if love happens that is a plus.Someone i don't have to be on the edge of my seat.Comfortable.Can talk about any
thing.take advice and receive without being angry.Same w/ critisiziem{darn jhny learn to spell}. and i receive as well.nothing worse than.Keeping your mouth shut and walking on egg shells.I guess every thing that makes two lives one.And waking the day glad you are
with the one you want to be with! .above all starting your new day each
day w/that special smile on your face that others don't have!
jhny you are to mushey today!say good bye!
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| 3/2/2008 9:50:32 AM |
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lasttime4me
Townsend, MT
age: 63
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I think all of us that are single have a deep void that we are trying to fill. I want to fill someones void with love ,laughter and warmth that only true love knows. If I were not looking for my void to be filled , I wouldn't be waisting so much life on this computer.
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| 3/2/2008 9:52:11 AM |
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poleshift
Charlottesville, VA
age: 70
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I don't think so, I am afraid that if I meet a lady, I will want too much too fast as far as settling down, and it is not going to happen. 
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| 3/2/2008 9:56:45 AM |
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shari1955
Butler, KY
age: 52
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first off you need to make up your mind and go for it.Sure you may get hurt from time to time and people may not live up to what you thought they should.. But hey if you don't go after it , it will never happen..be true to yourself it will all come to you.
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| 3/2/2008 10:00:37 AM |
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desertlynx
Oak Grove, KY
age: 50
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Good One Shalah! Expectations of the future. Oh sure expecially now at this stage of the game. I never thought I would be single again now. I am not sure what part of my life I would like them to fill. I just know a couple of things. I want them to appreciate me for me. I want to be loved the way I need to be loved. Not all love is the same to each of us. It would be nice to have someone that has some of the interests that I have but be an individual as well. Someone who can Communicate above all. Just a few things I look for.
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| 3/2/2008 10:01:09 AM |
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smalltownmouse
Saint Johnsville, NY
age: 57
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I am going to try and put some thought into this, but plan on coming back to give you my answer. I think it would be good if I let you guys know just what i want out of you and where you'd fit in my lfe if we would connect, like my house /your's ..,your friends over mine, visversa,your standards/ mine. do we change/ do we have to. do we have problems we want the other to take care of. (do I have a sick mother I'd like to share with you) believe it or not their are some that want a woman to take care of their needs like their mom did, and also be a lover, caregiver for the family.Iknow this one for sure. But will return when I can get it all together what I am expecting from you. 
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| 3/2/2008 10:09:48 AM |
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tn_tx_lady
Chattanooga, TN
age: 65
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Shalah, I do think that some think just anyone, I cannot be alone. I am so lonely, etc. I do not consider myself as: accept whatever comes along category. Yes, being alone is far better than being with someone that you are unhappy with. No need to name the reasons, we all have them.
I don't know all the ups and downs, but I do believe, if I have to spend the remainder of my life alone, I can. Not that I prefer that, seems I often backoff for one reason or another and only allow someone to get so close. Not sure exactly why I do that. Fear? I don't really think so. I think it is because I have not found, met the one for me. You can say, I want I want I want, but do you really? At our age is it really important how much sugar one uses in coffee/one that drinks it black. Should we try to make details like that match? What difference is it if we have slightly different preferences in color or style. Can't we talk out those things? Should we try to inflict out opinions on our potential mate and beat them until they shut up or agree?
Those are the mumble of things that go thru my mind. I really do not care about little things. It is who a person really is. I worry about will I really figure it out before getting in to deep.
I do not want to give up my whole life. I would like him to join in some or most of my life and me in his. Still have things we might like to do a part, Build the relationship on total honesy and trust. I think of it as not two separate lives, but one life with branches.
my answer is as wondering as your post.
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| 3/2/2008 10:21:40 AM |
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lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 55 online now!
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The only expectation I have at this stage of my life, is to share some tender, loving moments with a man that will not only make me feel happier, but will also make me feel more complete as a woman. I do know myself well enough, to know what will work for me, and what will not...so this is not an easy thing to do..because I need to relate to a man on all levels..mentally, emotionally and physically in order to have what I need. I do not have any preconcieved notions that I am looking for the last love...for now, I would just like to get to the point of sharing love..and then let everything else fall into place.
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| 3/2/2008 10:27:25 AM |
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weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 58
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It's really funny but I know everything that I don't want and what is a deal breaker and what is not. What I don't know is exactly what I DO want. I guess that would vary with each person. I'm too old to believe that I will find the "perfect" man but yet I know that I won't ever settle again. Ive been there and done that and it can make life a living Hell! I'm willing to compromise on everything except two things which are deal breakers. If I have to live the rest of my life alone, it won't be much different than the way I was living when I was married.
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| 3/2/2008 10:31:26 AM |
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shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 59
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Lady I think that we are all in a state where we would like to share life with someone who will bring love and light into our lives and yet we are afraid in some ways too. That is the reason I started this thread. We are all here dancing around eachother seeking and yet I think somewhat shy to actually reachout to another for fear that we will not be able to fullfill that others expectations. I think that is a big question in all of us. would could is it possiable? Actually I think if and when you meet that special someone all of these questions that we harbor in our minds will just melt away.
Shalah
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| 3/2/2008 10:37:43 AM |
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lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 55 online now!
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Shalah...yes I do agree..as I said things will fall into place. Of course there is the chance of heartache for one..even both..but nothing ventured..nothing gained. I am a firm believer..crawl before you take baby steps..baby steps lead to a strong stride..a strong stride, will allow you both to walk hand in hand. For myself..I completed the crawl..and I am in baby step mode
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