| 3/30/2008 11:47:27 AM |
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flaws_n_all28
Fulton, NY
age: 28
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We all have been posting so much.
We all answer to the best of our knowledge.
Here's my problem.
When do you or can you even get the courage to tell that other person that you have certain disabilities?
Do you hand them a pamphlet or some papers so they can read up on it?
I myself never hide the fact that I have certain disabilities.
I tell anyone the way it is. I have no fear in expressing myself as some of you already know...LOL.
So how do anyone of you do this hard obstacle?
What is the first approach to it?
What ,if any, results have you found to have received?
I always get very good responses
things like" just because you have this doesn't make you any different than me"
" your still a very beautiful and intelligent woman"
" i love you no matter what is going on with you and I'm always here"
"all those flaws are what makes me fall for you even more"
SO PEOPLE LET"S HEAR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE AND GONE THROUGH!
~GINA~
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| 3/30/2008 3:48:22 PM |
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lorax111
Richmond, VA
age: 38
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I am not disabled and my view of someone telling me that they are is likely to be my view only. I don't want a pamphlet(please, show me the respect you would expect from me).
I do not know what your disability is but your photo depicts a beautiful woman. You probably have a lot of suiters, sharing a disability from the start would brobably weed out a lot of the loosers. It would also prevent potential heartbreak from when you do share with someone that can't accept your disability.
The advantage to being disadvantaged is that when you do find someone the bond is stronger and you know they are not just saying that they can see past your faults.
Dennis
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| 3/30/2008 6:23:43 PM |
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flaws_n_all28
Fulton, NY
age: 28
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I don't have any severe disabilities. I'm just me.
The things i have suffered and do suffer from are:
fibromyalgia
epilepsy
sudden black outs
cfs-chronic fatigue syndrome
rls-restless leg syndrome
nothing big but sure as hell painful.
lorax: thank you very much for posting your comment.
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| 3/30/2008 6:33:43 PM |
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akashaman
Brunswick, OH
age: 29
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I have no choice, I have to have the courage to tell them. With type one diabetes on an insulin pump, my life literally depends on it. I usually just tell them and let them know if they have any questions I would be more than happy to answer them.
The problem is I am a medical nightmare so it's hard to even keep friends other than on here. As they tend to find out all that is wrong with me (I posted the list in another thread in this group) they don't want to deal with me anymore. It stresses them out!?! 
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| 3/30/2008 6:39:41 PM |
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flaws_n_all28
Fulton, NY
age: 28
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AKASHAMAN
IF THEY DON'T EXCEPT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE AND CAN NOT UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE DEALING WITH THINGS THAT THEY CAN NOT POSSIBLY COMPREHEND....ARE THEY REALLY WORTH BEING BUMMED OUT OVER?
I LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
I HAVE ALSO HAD 17 DIFFERENT SURGERIES FOR CANCER SINCE I WAS 18, I AM NOW IN REMISSION BUT FOR HOW LONG?
I have so many unanswered questions but I do not dwell on them. I f people can not except me for me, THEN THEY CAN KISS MY YOU KNOW WHAT!
[Edited 3/30/2008 6:42:06 PM]
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| 3/30/2008 6:46:16 PM |
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zeussdad
Louisville, KY
age: 29
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If someone cant accept you for you whats the point in having them around? sticks and stones can break bones but words can never harm. We live in such a judge mental society that often the best flowers are overlooked for one reason or another, and total b.s. by the way, but its how you take what your given and how you let it affect your life and what others may think.
[Edited 3/30/2008 6:48:52 PM]
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| 3/30/2008 7:00:41 PM |
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flaws_n_all28
Fulton, NY
age: 28
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zeus: no one has ever made me feel insignificant because of my health issues.
but they sure as hell have been very judge mental with the way i am.
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| 3/30/2008 7:14:18 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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From what I have found...Not a problem with anyone I have met or with anyone in my life.
Sure some dont get the pain and why I have it everyday. When I happen to say OMG I hurt so bad today--they reply with ..Why?
The why's I have already explained and there I am again..I remain calm and say WHY again.
I can and have pointed some in the direction of the internet with links I have provided.
Its true all of our problems we suffer will weed out what/who we dont need in our lives.
My medical problems are not seen so really no one knows unless I explain...unless they happen to see me in pain and cant move. but anyways.. I'm content with what I have if by chance someone should enter my life and my kids life and its all good--More power to us 
and..
More power to you! 
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| 3/30/2008 7:15:47 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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Dennis thats perfect!!
The advantage to being disadvantaged is that when you do find someone the bond is stronger and you know they are not just saying that they can see past your faults.
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| 3/30/2008 7:30:33 PM |
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flaws_n_all28
Fulton, NY
age: 28
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thank you all but for right now i'm off to bed...5am comes real fast when you don't get any rest..take care
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| 5/8/2008 9:42:16 PM |
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sanityfactor
Cleveland, OH
age: 37
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Sunshine, none of us are perfect, sometimes we are given disabilities to strengthen our characters, as it seems to have worked for you, you are an amazingly strong woman, simply overcoming all that you have makes you that much more, never forget that, so many others would never be able to overcome that which you have, and thrived, no, I am sure it hasn't been easy, life never is, if you were given everything you ever wanted, what then?...I have survived many things I shouldn't have, some of it my fault, othertimes not, once you realize the strength within yourself, its all cake...L-n-L, sanity...
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| 5/9/2008 2:38:10 PM |
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mulemann
Jefferson City, MO
age: 47
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These wheels that I ride on are self explanatory.Even tho I tell folks that I am too lazy to walk 
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| 5/9/2008 6:32:51 PM |
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akashaman
Brunswick, OH
age: 29
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I agree with what you say about them not being worth the time. It has been more a matter of my frustrations as of late.
I also want to thank you for telling me that you accept me as I am, I haven't had that experience much in my life (At least that is how it seems at times).
Much love to all
[Edited 5/9/2008 7:39:51 PM]
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| 5/9/2008 9:57:21 PM |
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funinfrcr
French Creek, WV
age: 43
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Hats off to all of you that are so brave, and Flaws I know exactly how you feel. I had already left my ex husband and started divorce proceedings when I came down with COPD. Now I am trying to get back in the saddle so to speak again and it's damned hard. You don't know if someone is going to except you the way you are if you're honest with them. Or if you plan to meet, you might want to mention that hey don't be alarmed, but when you see me I'm going to be wearing oxygen cause I can't breath like I used to. I'm so scared that I'm going to be rejected right straight, before they even get to know me, cause darn it, I'm a nice person. I will say so far I have had a couple different people tell me that it's really no big deal, except they are worried about the fact if we do meet and have a relationship will I be able to handle sex. I don't know that yet. Oh well what ever happens, happens. That will be the way it was meant to be.
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| 5/9/2008 10:32:25 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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*hugs* fun
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