| 9/23/2011 7:49:41 PM |
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madeinromania
Portland, OR
50, joined Nov. 2010
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So I was just curious, what is one's definition of "friendship".
Yes, it is understood that in order to establish a relationship of romantic nature the first step is friendship. However I would like to know how many individuals on this site took the time to be "friends" before an intimate relationship.
And what is the appeal of a profile with 5-10 "friends" attached to it?!
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| 9/23/2011 10:32:37 PM |
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phenix141
Vancouver, WA
53, joined Jul. 2011
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To me, If someone has "friends" listed on their profile, that implies its people they have hooked up with. Why would you advertise that? Kind of classless and a total NEXT as far as I'm concerned. There are always exceptions, but still...really?
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| 9/23/2011 11:30:01 PM |
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freak_2790
Portland, OR
43, joined Feb. 2008
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Really there are people on here that talk and get to know before any exchange of numbers are given or emails and even meetups. If I wanted to "Hookup" as the the other guy said then wouldn't ya want to hide it? Why would you put it out there for everyone to see how many "hookups" if that was the case. Do you think any really woman says hey I see he has 10 friends he must have the "hookup" I want to be with him. But in most cases in my life anyone that hides there friends and keeps it on the down low, are the ones that are doing the "Hookups" behind close doors to miss lead others. Im straight up when I say a Friend is a Friend lets talk, not your a friend we Fu%&*$@ and im here to show you off as a trophy. wrong answer with me I respect others.
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| 9/23/2011 11:35:02 PM |
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madeinromania
Portland, OR
50, joined Nov. 2010
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Really there are people on here that talk and get to know before any exchange of numbers are given or emails and even meetups. If I wanted to "Hookup" as the the other guy said then wouldn't ya want to hide it? Why would you put it out there for everyone to see how many "hookups" if that was the case. Do you think any really woman says hey I see he has 10 friends he must have the "hookup" I want to be with him. But in most cases in my life anyone that hides there friends and keeps it on the down low, are the ones that are doing the "Hookups" behind close doors to miss lead others. Im straight up when I say a Friend is a Friend lets talk, not your a friend we Fu%&*$@ and im here to show you off as a trophy. wrong answer with me I respect others.
Missing the point entirely my "friend".
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| 9/24/2011 12:47:35 AM |
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phenix141
Vancouver, WA
53, joined Jul. 2011
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Thank you MadeinRomania
I wasn't implying that everyone advertises their "hook-ups", but in my opinion quite a few people do. This site isn't Facebook.
I personally like to get to know someone now before taking it further. With age, hopefully, comes a little wisdom. In my experience, people with all these "friends" are usually playing fast and loose. As I stated, their are always exceptions to the rule. If you take anything I said personally, then your probably just the type of person who should be avoided by anyone with some self-respect. IMHO
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| 9/24/2011 1:51:15 AM |
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madeinromania
Portland, OR
50, joined Nov. 2010
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Let me clarify: as most men I have communicated with so far can attest, I always have questioned the motive behind it.
Personally, let me put it in plain english: it's a turn off,lol.
Ladies...your opinions?!
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| 9/24/2011 1:59:17 PM |
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newdawn78
Salem, OR
39, joined Sep. 2011
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I don't know if the lack of sleep I've had, but I'm not sure I entirely understand your question but I'll give it a shot.
On here, the people I have as my friends are people that I'm exchanging emails with. If the communication stops, I've started taking them off my friends list. I don't hook up, period. I don't expect every man I start a friendship with to turn into a romantic relationship, so I appreciate their friendship for what it is. Life is sweeter with friends 
IRL, in my past I've had a tendency to date while building a friendship, and it never ended well. By the time I realized we weren't compatible in that way, we were already deep in a relationship so it was more painful to cut things off. So this time around it's friends first and see where it goes from there.
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| 9/24/2011 5:52:26 PM |
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stormriders
Woodland, WA
56, joined Sep. 2008
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In my case, My friends are that. Friends I have met on here, We go to parties together, or have get together as friends. vary few have I dated or had a relationship with. I have made some vary good friends on here, But if your thinking that way (friend=sex) you are missing out on having some good friends that aren't trying to crawl into your pants! JMO
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| 9/24/2011 6:13:34 PM |
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madeinromania
Portland, OR
50, joined Nov. 2010
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So why is it that the "friends" (attached to the profile) are of the opposite sex rather than all sexes. And I had the impression this was still a dating site which would require chemistry. Therefore the conclusion is friend=sex, or is it?!
Perhaps the fact I come from a different culture, allows me to equate friends with people that I trust and trust is built and requires time.
And since I can only speak from my experience there is quality versus quantity.
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| 9/24/2011 7:16:26 PM |
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1hotone4u
San Diego, CA
59, joined Jul. 2009
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I have only a few friends that I 'met' through the forums.
They live hundreds of miles from me and I've never met them.
But we share some common interests.
And that is as far as it goes.
If you have an issue with that,
you're not a good match for me.
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| 9/24/2011 9:38:55 PM |
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ibaceltic12
Salem, OR
98, joined Jul. 2011
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I have only a few friends that I 'met' through the forums.
They live hundreds of miles from me and I've never met them.
But we share some common interests.
And that is as far as it goes.
If you have an issue with that,
you're not a good match for me.
There are quite a few on here that have both male and female friends on their friends list, most of them have become friends through posting in the forums,so to say that these people are quote "hooking up" because they're on their friends list is just assinine. If you don't like someones profile because they have "to many friends" well consider your options, don't read their profile, don't contact them, or delete them if they initiate contact.It's just that easy.............
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| 9/24/2011 9:39:58 PM |
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ibaceltic12
Salem, OR
98, joined Jul. 2011
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So I was just curious, what is one's definition of "friendship".
Yes, it is understood that in order to establish a relationship of romantic nature the first step is friendship. However I would like to know how many individuals on this site took the time to be "friends" before an intimate relationship.
And what is the appeal of a profile with 5-10 "friends" attached to it?!
see above post
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| 9/24/2011 11:16:41 PM |
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madeinromania
Portland, OR
50, joined Nov. 2010
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There are quite a few on here that have both male and female friends on their friends list, most of them have become friends through posting in the forums,so to say that these people are quote "hooking up" because they're on their friends list is just assinine. If you don't like someones profile because they have "to many friends" well consider your options, don't read their profile, don't contact them, or delete them if they initiate contact.It's just that easy.............
And I agree to disagree.....having an opinion it is not a "crime",lol.
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| 10/10/2011 4:12:11 PM |
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alliekat1027
Newport, OR
45, joined Oct. 2011
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Lucky, I agree with you completely on that note. You have to be friends first, and there is no harm in having "several" friends. If you are only looking to have one friend, you will cheat yourself the opportunity of really finding that special friend even soul mate! A good friend makes a great lifetime companion....Ive seen from other people! I wish you all the best in finding what it is you really desire in life!!
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| 10/10/2011 8:50:32 PM |
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madeinromania
Portland, OR
50, joined Nov. 2010
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I get the impression you dont like a profile if they have 5-10 friends? I would rather have too many friends than not enough. As for dating I would rather see if you can become best friends first. Many folks start dating first then try to become best friends last. Not a good recipe in my book. Best wishes.
Pardon moi,lol. The reason I am here is to find that compatible person. Not to show my ability to make "friends". JMO
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| 10/10/2011 10:59:57 PM |
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gusdefrog
Bend, OR
43, joined Oct. 2011
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I'm still kind of new to the interface, but I was assuming the friends classification makes it easier (less clicks) to send messages, see if someone's online. It's true that I expect to assign the "friend" category to people who aren't truely friends yet, because a friend is someone you know, like, respect, talk to, all that... and you can't be that without time spent communicating. Those people might become friends though, or they might not. But if I can't like someone enough to start a friendship, I don't see how I could really be their lover.
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| 2/28/2012 9:46:02 PM |
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chromette
Tualatin, OR
55, joined Jul. 2007
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Wow. I guess j must be really out of the loop here. Had I realized that the friends thing was viewed as an indication of those that you have "hooked up with", I may have rethought the adding of people with whom I was chatting with.
I have yet to date off this site much less hook up. Not my style.
Jeez. I wonder if guys actually thought that I hooked up with with Lacey in PA. When we were chatting about gaming. I'll bet that made for an interesting daydream...
FYI- The original question. My definition. Friends. Someone with whom I am friendly. Which does not imply sexual.
2 cents tossed in. Thanks!
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| 2/28/2012 11:53:01 PM |
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loraco
Troutdale, OR
65, joined May. 2008
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I have one friend on my friends. I have never met him. We talk, and he is very nice. He lives about 60 miles away.
When I get a wink from someone, and they have a bunch of sleazy looking women in his friends, then I don't respond to him. I guess because that's not me, and I don't want to be wanted for only one thing. 
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| 3/1/2012 12:21:25 AM |
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mmarie471
Portland, OR
26, joined Jan. 2011
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I know of some on here that have friends of the people they've hooked up with. I, on the other hand, have friends of mainly people I'm actually friends with - talk to a lot on here, text, etc. - on here. Some are just random people, and others were friends, but aren't on anymore. A lot of different reasons, for me at least.
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| 3/12/2012 1:10:02 AM |
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slavabogu
Portland, OR
50, joined Feb. 2012
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It actually never occurred to me that friends on your profile might be virtual notches on your bedpost. Interesting theory. I must be a priest.
I like seeing friends on profiles because, in some cases, it can tell you a little something about the person. For example, if all of her friends are practically identical and they're not remotely like me, chances are, I'm not her cup of tea.
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