| 4/22/2008 11:13:33 AM |
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blushingiegiddy
Kannapolis, NC
50, joined Jul. 2007
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What does it mean when a man calls you every night and talks to you for atleast 2 hrs on the phone and never misses a day of calling and has called straight for 2 months, sometimes send you text saying hello hottie i miss you during he day while hes at work.
we are in along distance relationship. Would he call every night if he did notcare?
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| 4/22/2008 11:15:34 AM |
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true669
Charlotte, NC
46, joined Apr. 2008
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well i don't think so. so are you serious with him?
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| 4/22/2008 11:22:55 AM |
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blushingiegiddy
Kannapolis, NC
50, joined Jul. 2007
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trying to be seroius with him yes
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| 4/22/2008 11:25:30 AM |
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luvwild
Brooklyn, NY
50, joined Apr. 2008
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He's either digging you a lot or he is a lunatic stalker.
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| 4/22/2008 11:32:53 AM |
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ladyinparis
Paris, TX
50, joined Feb. 2008
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Well, let me tell you about my situation. I have went out with one man since I have been single again. We met online, and then we talked on yahoo, and then via the phone. He asked me out and I said yes, but then I canceled at the last minute with a lame excuse and I wasn't sure why...just felt funny. My kids told me I was being silly and I needed to go on a date and get out of the house. So, I go. We had a good time. He texts me good morning every morning, texts me good night every night, and calls me every evening after work to talk. (We have went out 3 more times since the first date and this has been going on every since the first date.) Well, my first thought was that he probably doesn't really like me as much as he says he does, he is probably tired of being alone and wants a relationship again. I mean, sometimes I wouldn't answer his calls because I was so confused and I didn't understand what his intentions were. Well, long story longer, I like him. He is a great guy. He has told me he could love me very easily. Yes, we have slept together. But still, I am not sure he is with me for all of the right reasons. I have shown him the real me. He hasn't gotten the "niced-up" version that we all give on the first few dates. He has been to my house, met my teenagers, heard them argue, and has seen that I work some really long hours. Nothing deters him. Well, I wonder to myself if I think I am just not worthy of this, or if he is just in love with the idea of being in love. I asked him..he retorted, "no, I can't believe you could think that."
Well, I was talking to him on the phone last night and he was looking at real estate in Paris! (Where I live!) I didn't respond at all. Kind of changed the subject. I don't want him to give up everything and move here right now. I am not sure I am ready for that. Yes, it would be more convenient for us to go out, but I am not sure that the first guy I have dated is the man I should marry. I mean, he could be, but I certainly don't want to make that decision any time soon. He is such a nice guy. He seems to think that I am so wonderful. It is like he can't see any faults in me. Which, I guess is what you want out of someone, but I don't want him to be fooling himself or me.
I don't think I am unworthy, nor do I think that I am bad or have too many faults. I don't. But, I do have my kids, my work, my habits, etc. I want to enjoy this time I have with my girls and not worry about what anyone thinks you know?
Oops...sorry, did I just turn your post into mine. I apologize.
I really was just planning on giving you some insight into how he might be feeling.
Well....I guess you got it then.
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| 4/22/2008 11:33:15 AM |
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hkm
Bloomington, IL
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I am going to agree with geo.
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| 4/22/2008 12:27:20 PM |
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justlooking630
West New York, NJ
57, joined Nov. 2007
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Ladies just take it as a phone call or a date at a time STOP READING INTO EVERTHING and live in the monent and enjoy it ! JMO life is way to short !
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| 4/22/2008 12:29:19 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
44, joined Jan. 2008
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He's prolly cheating on you.
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| 4/22/2008 12:38:38 PM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
55, joined Nov. 2007
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He is eiher attentive to the degree that you encourage (which, in a LTR is a good thing), or overly clingy (which is a bad thing).
If you don't find him clingy, or attentive for the wrong reasons (i.e. desperate for a relationship), then you should be pleased.
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| 4/22/2008 12:48:18 PM |
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barbara1
Reston, VA
60, joined Nov. 2007
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It means that he is really into you!
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| 4/22/2008 12:49:49 PM |
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ladyinparis
Paris, TX
50, joined Feb. 2008
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Well, that's kind of the thing oldschool. I am afraid that he is really just in love with the idea of being in love. We haven't went out but 4 times..I mean, I'm good, but no one is that good ya know.
I'm not sure if there are any red flags yet, other than he is almost too eager. Sure, it is great that a guy wants to call me and text me. I like it. But, when I told him of my fears, and reservations about committing to a relationship so quickly..he didn't slow down. He drove right to my house so we could talk about it. I told him that he would be better off with someone else because at this point in time I am a little unsure of what I want and I certainly don't want to rush into anything. It didn't slow him a bit.
I just want to take it a little slower you know. I don't want to feel like I have to fall in to love quickly to keep up with someone, I want to do it at my own pace, and in my own time...and I don't want to feel guilty for doing it. I have to know that it is right for me too. I am afraid that he wants it to be right so bad that he has blinders on and I can't afford to wear any more blinders.
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| 4/22/2008 12:52:35 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
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I also think maybe you need to evaluate why this is bothering you. As I said most of us women would kill for such an attentive man.
Kill Paris Hilton and I'll call you every other night.
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| 4/22/2008 12:54:00 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
46, joined Apr. 2007
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.....but sometimes it may be because they want to show that they ARE that interested.what would you think of someone who turned tail at the sight of the first obstacle?he may think he has something to prove 
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| 4/22/2008 12:54:01 PM |
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silkpanties53
Baytown, TX
62, joined Dec. 2007
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Honestly ?
Been there done that, got screwed and he's outa here ?
Ask yourself why do i put myself through this ?
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| 4/22/2008 12:54:31 PM |
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ladyinparis
Paris, TX
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Oh and GeOrge, Paris is still in a dry county. We have a liquor store on either end of town--just outside the limits, and then every restaurant in town and bar serves liquor and beer. The only place you can't get a drink is in the supermarket or convenience stores. Seems like we could be making some money if we would just allow it to be sold in town---since you can get drunk anywhere here anyway, but no, we are giving the alchi-income to the towns besides us. lol
Oh, did you see the Eiffel Tower or was it even built yet when you were here? It is a smaller version of the original, but with a gigantic red cowboy hat on top of it. lol It is Texas ya know!
I am sure there are drugs here, but I do not know any of the people doing them...so, I guess they are not so rampant. Thank goodness...I am raising two teenage daughters.
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| 4/22/2008 12:57:16 PM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
55, joined Nov. 2007
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I can see the issue here.
You can't tell if he's clingy, in love with the idea of being in love, or attentive to you.
A big red flag is that you asked him to slow it down, and he didn't take the hint.
Ask yourself this, would you like him to be that attentive to you?
If so, then show him the good, bad, and ugly of you and see if he still accepts you for you.
Contact betweent two people should be about equal and equally comfortable and enjoyable.
Personally, I like at least daily contact of some sort with my partner: checking up briefly during the day to see how her day is going, and having a chat at night -- it's nice when the last person's voice you hear before retiring is your partner's.
But, I don't obsess over it, unless it's been days without any contact at all.
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| 4/22/2008 12:58:49 PM |
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57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
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One of two things, either he is Into you so much he wants to talk to you everynight, OR He's checking up on you to make sure you are home Alone 
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| 4/22/2008 1:04:36 PM |
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york49
York, PA
58, joined Apr. 2008
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It means you have what 99% of the rest of us are hoping to find and now that you have found it you are not 100% sure you wan to keep what you have found!
He should understand your concern for being a little over the top, but at the same time, you don't get too many chances to have someone who's this interested in you.....life is about taking chances sometimes.........maybe this is one of those times.....
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| 4/22/2008 1:08:06 PM |
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hkm
Bloomington, IL
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I say take that chance and so what if it doesn't work. You have had that b4 haven't you?? We are all adults here so if it doesn't work out brush yourself off and move on. Just enjoy it while you have it and who knows maybe you will have it forever~!!
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| 4/22/2008 1:08:14 PM |
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icedsnow63
Broken Arrow, OK
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wish i had someone that interested in me to call everynight....
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| 4/22/2008 1:11:06 PM |
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stellablu
Saint Louis, MO
59, joined Dec. 2007
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geo...yep, creamin jeans! 
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| 4/22/2008 1:11:25 PM |
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wino631
Huntington, NY
62, joined Feb. 2008
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It means, he's enjoying your company, and hopes you feel the same way. Go with it. 
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| 4/22/2008 1:41:02 PM |
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ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
61, joined Jan. 2008
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Blushing and Paris...I am guilty of doing the same thing. Over thinking the situation to self protect. You hear that if it seems too good to be true than it is..But..not always. It can be a gamble with our feelings to let that perverbial wall down and let the relationship flow in what ever direction it takes us. Its scary...I say go with the flow..time shouldnt matter (being too soon)when you found someone as special as he seems to be...I say take that leap of faith!
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| 4/22/2008 1:48:42 PM |
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fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
58, joined Mar. 2008
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to the poster op whatever you call the thread originator, (someone help me out here),
If you like the attention he's giving you then it's a good thing. If your on the same page that's a good thing. I think only you can assess that. My guess is he seems to have something of a crush on you. I think your gravitating towards the center of his universe. I think only you can decide if that's good or bad.. or too soon.
sorry to use your thread but the rest of this is to theladyinparis
For the ladyinparis, I think your doing the right thing.. going slow.. not submitting to "peer pressure". I think in the race for love the tortoise wins the race not the hare. It doesn't seem to me that you two are on the same page.. so he needs to slow down. (i don't think you should speed up)
I've never been a woman so i'm not sure what it's like for them to fall in love, For me i seem to remember time distortions, acute awareness of distance from my center... I KNEW she was my best friend, there was no doubt. I dont think that the right person.. at the right time.. will be an iffy decision.. i think it will be a whole hearted yup.. this is the one type decision. Hesitation seems to be a big red flag to me. ya a lot of that was infatuation maybe..(does infatuation last 2 years?) but i married her so i think there was some love too.
I'd do the friend thing.. I'd have to be dragged across the line (between friendship and love) screaming.. I don't think i will cross it willingly.. but i might wake up someday to find myself on the other side of the line. Thats how sure i want to be. I don't want to complicate it with sex either.. Anyone that values you for who you are.. won't leave you cus you wont be more than a friend. Anyone that really loves you probably can't leave you at all. Someone who just wants the relationship tho..would probably leave you and look else where if you dont do the relationship (sex?). The relationship guy will probably cheat on you too (with any better relationship that offers itself) (this does depend somewhat on the guy's integrity tho). Its important you find out that it's you not the relationship. I'm not sure how to do that at the moment. Deny the flys they fly away.. but.. i think you have already lost that (the best) tool (no sex). I wonder (this is a real dumb thing to say) if you have a friend that could seduce him lol.. that would answer a few questions too.. but that's a pretty low thing to do.. and what if he runs off with your best friend! (dont do this last thing.. i'm just brainstorming) If your doing the sex thing, i guess all you can do is wait it out.. and see if you cross that line in time (fall in love) .. or if the relationship dwindles with the sex. I think it sure is harder when sex is involved.
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| 4/22/2008 2:00:30 PM |
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fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
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ever wonder how you ended up in a relationship with someone who doesn't make your head spin or your heart pound? Some passion at least? I'd be careful you never have to sit here pondering this in the future.
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| 4/22/2008 2:00:49 PM |
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littlebumblebee
Hamilton, OH
56, joined Jul. 2007
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He really likes you pssibly loves you and is very interested in ya.
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| 4/22/2008 2:08:16 PM |
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eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
52, joined Oct. 2007
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How long has it been since he was serious with someone? If he has been "off-radar" for too long, he could be overly enthusiastic about this and possibly "clingy" as stated earlier. What about the nights you are not home? Does he leave a few messages/emails?
Try to get a sense of what his mindset is like and see how he handles not being able to reach you all the time.
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| 4/22/2008 2:16:09 PM |
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eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
52, joined Oct. 2007
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To Icedsnow:
Good to see you again in the forums.
Have more faith and keep trying. Your "speed-dial" guy is out there somewhere. Until then, open up your window and I'll blow 20 kisses each night out toward Broken Arrow. Those are your "Booster-Puckers" to help keep you going.
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| 4/22/2008 2:30:51 PM |
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kbo77
Etobicoke, ON
39, joined Apr. 2008
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Wow...it's beyond getting to know you...he's needy!
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| 4/22/2008 3:58:36 PM |
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blushingiegiddy
Kannapolis, NC
50, joined Jul. 2007
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He doews not seem to be clingy
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| 4/22/2008 4:08:09 PM |
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inspector65
Saint Augustine, FL
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Sounds like to me he wants to know where your at as long as he is talking to you on the phone he knows your not out in the bars or with someone else. You really need to becarefull with this guy sounds like control issues.
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| 4/22/2008 4:19:01 PM |
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pichick712
Aston, PA
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I hate talking on the phone so I could tire of that REAL FAST but I suppose it means he's interested??????? Just a hunch.
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| 4/22/2008 4:30:17 PM |
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dirtrider123123
Angels Camp, CA
48, joined Apr. 2008
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hes lonely and lookin for companionship if you slept with him already and hes still callin then maybe somethin good always keep up your guard it natural but dont jump into anything
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| 4/22/2008 4:32:49 PM |
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maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
51, joined Mar. 2008
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He sounds like a needy wuss. 
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| 4/22/2008 4:45:32 PM |
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friendshiponly
Higginsville, MO
56, joined Feb. 2008
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It sounds to me like you like him... take your time and try to get to know him. That's what you want to do anyway! But do be cautious... I think eightinchbend had the right idea when he said to test him a little and see how he reacts to not being able to reach you. He could just be really sweet and into you, or he could be possessive.
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| 4/22/2008 4:46:32 PM |
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blushingiegiddy
Kannapolis, NC
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he does not show nay signs of controling or een jealousy he knows im online and has nto even ask me to leave sites and he has cloesed his acounts
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| 4/22/2008 4:48:08 PM |
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blushingiegiddy
Kannapolis, NC
50, joined Jul. 2007
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ive not been home before for his call he will just leave me a message saying he is sorry he missed me and he will call the next day and he does
i pick up on no possseiveness or jealosuy unless he is really good at not showing it
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| 4/22/2008 4:52:51 PM |
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gentleman3374
Massillon, OH
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It means exactly what you think it means. He is lonely and has no life. He hasn't had a date in 10 years and poses no challenge to you whatsoever. You will be able to dominate him for as long as you want (until you get bored with him- And you will). A real man has a life and would not saturate you with such sap.
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| 4/22/2008 4:52:58 PM |
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wolfcreekgal
Sheridan, WY
53, joined Dec. 2007
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I am in this same situation and do not find my guy to be either clingy OR a wuss! I have never had a man call me every night and tell me the things this man tells me. Never has he been uncouth or anything but classy and intelligent.
I wouldn't want to talk to man who couldn't make time for me. How else can you get to know someone, but to spend a lot of time with them?
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| 4/22/2008 4:53:48 PM |
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blushingiegiddy
Kannapolis, NC
50, joined Jul. 2007
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not sleep with him its been 2 and half months
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| 4/22/2008 5:32:03 PM |
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maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
51, joined Mar. 2008
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Gentleman, you hit it right on the head.
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| 4/22/2008 5:43:57 PM |
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cece123
Warren, MI
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He's interested... he likes you?
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| 4/29/2008 10:17:34 AM |
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burgerkinger
West Palm Beach, FL
40, joined Apr. 2008
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CeCe
Wrong. He is a desperate wimp. Zero self control.
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| 4/29/2008 10:48:51 AM |
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gentleman3374
Massillon, OH
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You get to know him by spending time WITH him, not on the phone. 80% of communication is done through body language. If love were a war, men have slingshots. Women have Nuclear Inter-continental Ballistic Missiles- and the master arm switch is the telephone. Get off the phone and let him meet you in person so he can know what you are really saying. Women don't lie- Men just don't listen. Then, when a woman gets stuck with a "wimpus-americanus" (A guy with no backbone) they seem to wonder why they got bored with him. Or to put it in "woman-eze" for you, "I just fell out of love with him". Lol. The key is to find a man who is gentle, but still a MAN, has a backbone and can stand up to you. That is, he treats you with respect and affection, but still has the ability to stand up for himself sometimes and demands respect in return. Come to think of it, they seek a "Gentle-Man" I am studying and learning the language of "Womaneze". 
[Edited 4/29/2008 11:17:36 AM ]
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| 4/29/2008 11:00:06 AM |
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looknforu419
Toledo, OH
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oh yeh he cares he's showing interest in you thats a good sign
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| 4/29/2008 11:37:04 AM |
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wolfcreekgal
Sheridan, WY
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geO........just wanted to let you know your posts are awesome!!!!!
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| 4/29/2008 11:40:57 AM |
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nicksterdemus
Bastelica
France
57, joined Oct. 2007
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"what does it mean when a man calls you every night?"
Well toots that all depends on what he calls ya...
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| 4/29/2008 11:42:32 AM |
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lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
58, joined Dec. 2007
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The prophet has spoken.....
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| 4/29/2008 11:45:18 AM |
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thebestman
Atlanta, GA
43, joined Dec. 2006
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Could mean that he's desperate for attention
Could mean that he really likes you
Could mean that he has hidden characteristics of control, jealous, and stalk behavior
Only in time, the real meaning will come to surface
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| 4/29/2008 11:47:54 AM |
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aka_neo
Marathon, FL
60, joined Dec. 2007
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It means he has a great phone service plan with free weekends and after 9:00pm calls.
Who can afford to call someone every day or night ?
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| 4/29/2008 11:48:58 AM |
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nicksterdemus
Bastelica
France
57, joined Oct. 2007
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Long live the prophet...
So sayeth the shepherd...
[Edited 4/29/2008 11:51:28 AM ]
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| 4/29/2008 11:49:46 AM |
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cherokeerose07
Pottsboro, TX
57, joined Dec. 2007
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lmao @ neo!!!
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| 4/29/2008 12:09:35 PM |
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stellablu
Saint Louis, MO
59, joined Dec. 2007
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neo...thank God for the good plans!
I have the cheapest (450 min.) plan and don't go over.
My last bill I had 5,902 min. and 936 tx's, 95% of that with my guy in SF.
Communication is the only way...
This guy is into ya...enjoy!
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| 4/29/2008 12:22:36 PM |
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gapeach7777
Ball Ground, GA
45, joined Sep. 2007
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Well I thought I would like the attention of a man that calls me every night but now its just bordering on stalking or something.
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| 4/29/2008 12:50:53 PM |
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1bigheart
Gatineau, QC
71, joined Apr. 2008
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One should evaluate the situation objectively and yet with care and passion,
There could be good and bad.
Too much love means he falls in love easily.
Could be he is reliving a former relationship.
Two hours per day is manipulating / controlling your time. You can cut off the conversation. You do not owe him anything. If attention or affection he is seeking you better make sure that you are not tied down. A happy independent person will call to communicate and share something that you both share. Sounds like it is a one way affair.
Is this person mentally fit to be worthwhile. There are some people who are not landed immigrants or undesireables that want to have a legal status. Money could also be a reason for writing to suck somebody into their story. Words are just words. Flattery also depends on the person listening. Consult a professional health care worker if you want to get more insight and that if it bothers your life. If you decide to disconnect or not connect use the tools at hand like caller ID or call blocking. Do you see yourself in the future with such a compulsive man. Perhaps there may be some controlling jealousy later on from his part.
Good Luck You have but one life to live. It is your choice of how and where you want to live.
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