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Watching someone slowly die
by pickygirl72 at 6/17/2014 4:01:20 PM

Watching someone slowly die is horrible, especially from cancer. I have not ever wrote a blog here. I mostly play in the forums, but I thought I would write my thoughts out today.

My eldery friend (82 yrs old) is dying from lung cancer that has spend to her bones. A month ago she was somewhat healthy and lived a normal life and did daily activities. But now she moans, sleeps a lot and has a look of desperation in her eyes.

Sure she has her good days where she is up talking or watching tv, but mostly has bad days (napping and moaning). I sit with her while her son rests or does errands. The doctors gave her 6 months to live. I doubt she will last that long.

I want to make sure at the end of her life I am here to hold her hand and tell her its ok to go and be with her husband and that I love her, will miss her and with tears in my eyes I will say good bye. truly sad.



6/17/2014 4:06:21 PM

Yes it is sad and hard to watch some one suffer like that. I know because my mom died of cancer.

6/17/2014 4:11:35 PM

It's an experience that no one,whether an observer or the victim,should have to endure...

6/17/2014 4:12:38 PM

your friend is lucky that you are spending time with her in her time of fear and pain. People, there are many elderly people out there that are in care facilities that are alone and sick. I used to deliver medical equipment to these places. Many of my "customers" wanted me to stay and chat while I made my delivery.

6/17/2014 4:52:31 PM

very hard to tell someone I will see you soon ... when soon they might have died to not see them anymore ... been in a lot of situations like that... and with loved ones also and some right now are going through a few different illnesses that are life threatening ... wishing you and yours the best ... and I know how hard it is to try and be positive no matter the out come ...very difficult ...

6/17/2014 5:25:31 PM

I watched my mother die for 1 YEAR from COPD. She was only 69 years old when she passed away. It is hard to watch someone you love die and not be able to do anything about it. I also lost 5 cats in 1 year due to different forms of cancer. It was a horrible year for me. BTW, my mother did not die when my cats did. They died several years after she did. Sadly, we all need to accept that death is part of life and the sooner we accept that, the better.

7/10/2014 10:21:38 AM

Yes; cancer ruins lives. However, your friend has lived a very full life. I am super sad for my 40 year old cousin (never married, no children) I feel so hurt for her now that she has had a mastectomy. But, in all this chemo drama she tells me that losing her hair was worse than having her boob hacked off. I would think that she would have said not being able to bear children. She is an awesome Auntie, so I know she would have been an excellent mom. Thank you for relieving the son by sitting with your friend. Thank you for being a good friend. I'm glad my cousin's friends care for her. I want to move out to help her, but I have a kid. I think once he leaves I'll go live in a Senior Living so that I'm not a burden on those I love.

7/13/2014 4:07:55 AM

My Dad died of lung cancer in 2010. 84 years of age. He died 18 months after he was diagnosed with small cell. Thank God he didn't have a lot of pain.

7/22/2014 7:52:28 AM

Glad your father didn't have to deal with a long drawn out episode of pain. I'm glad he is at peace. My cousin, now cancer free, decides to go for another round of chemo. Her doctor called her and said he wants to start an aggressive chemo. Wow! After all she went through to be "cancer free". I told her to skip it. She decided that she would do what her doctor recommended.