| 12/14/2012 4:17:09 PM |
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alex88smith
East Moline, IL
27, joined Apr. 2012
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met a girl online and we texted for a week, and then we then met(her friend came with her) and had a real good time.we didnt make out or do anything sexual, we just talked and hung out and had a good time. I gave her a big hug when we went our ways(didn't think a kiss on the first meeting was right). We continued texting and planned our mext meeting and she would text me while i was working saying "i miss you" or" please get off work!"...she also said i make her smile and that I was a sweet guy and couldnt wait to see me again.It looked like we were gonna be dating. we had planned on meeting twice the next week
Well I found out she met another guy and was interested in him. She was saying she had no idea what to do because she felt horrible about the situation.
well last night she let me know that she was gonna see the other guy. she said they just had a better connection than her and i. she said we had a good chemistry but just not as good, and that it was easier for her to see him(he lives in the same town, i'm 30 mins apart) and age was a big factor (shes 20 hes 22 and im 25)
so yea i feel pretty down now.
it makes ya think, damn could i have done soemthing different? oh well i guess
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| 12/14/2012 4:19:41 PM |
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peteycalalt
Santa Rosa, CA
31, joined May. 2012
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She's one of billions. Move on. Chances are you'll meet someone better the next time. Pretty much every gf after the one I had before, was better.
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| 12/14/2012 4:19:59 PM |
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chasenarainbow
Alexandroúpolis
Greece
61, joined Jul. 2012
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Well you gotta figure it this way, at least she was honest enough to let you know.
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| 12/14/2012 4:20:15 PM |
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blake19asuras
Daytona Beach, FL
23, joined Dec. 2012
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Move on.
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| 12/14/2012 4:20:39 PM |
She picked another guy over me |
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dswf
Hutchinson, KS
38, joined Jun. 2010
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What they all said.
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| 12/14/2012 4:26:16 PM |
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aztbear74
Mesa, AZ
42, joined Sep. 2012
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I picked my Ex-wife over my Ex-girlfriend. Looks like all I did was create a talking point between the two of them.
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| 12/14/2012 4:27:32 PM |
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max811
Palmetto, FL
36, joined Aug. 2010
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Well I guess you better step your game up next time.
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| 12/14/2012 4:30:56 PM |
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kclady41
Kansas City, MO
46, joined Jun. 2011
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At least she was honest about it
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| 12/14/2012 4:32:27 PM |
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akindler
Salem, OR
64, joined Feb. 2012
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Op - The "connection", and "chemistry", thing says it all. She clicked with him emotionally, and sexually, as she did not with you. You had a chance, and you blew it. You tried to be too much a gentleman, and she wanted a dark knight to almost (but not quite) rape her. She wanted to live out her whorish fantasies, and you did not encourage her to do so.
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| 12/14/2012 4:37:09 PM |
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snglemomlooking
Effie, LA
46, joined Nov. 2012
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wait.......when it doesn't work out with him, she'll start calling you again 
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| 12/14/2012 4:50:18 PM |
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sumerof69
Bakersfield, CA
47, joined Jul. 2012
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Op is just saying oooooh my p*ssy hurts it stings and burns....
Dude go either two things...
Go see a OBGYN
Or Get a Set of Balls from Santa!
Quit your Crying...your man card just got revoked!
B*tch please!
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| 12/14/2012 4:59:09 PM |
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cayman144
Waco, TX
68, joined Jul. 2011
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It's hard to get out of the 'friend zone'.
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| 12/14/2012 5:17:28 PM |
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ashadeofred
Lansing, MI
65, joined Dec. 2007
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I had the same situation. I was dating two men and made more of a connection with the first guy. I very nicely told the second guy I had more of a connection with the other man. He was shocked and hurt, but I was nice as I could be, and let him know he did nothing wrong. The other guy lived closer and we just made a connection.
Guy #2, occassionally emailed a line or two. After a few weeks, he emailed me asking how it was going? I told him it wasn't, that they first guy didn't work out. So, he asked if we could start dating again, and I said yes. We are still dating.
Check in with her, once in awhile, Op. You never know!
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| 12/14/2012 5:18:46 PM |
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kingsizechoc
Toledo, OH
40, joined Jul. 2012
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Lmao wow he musta did some things she likes better then u did maybe more convo or catered more not saying you didn't and the fact a guy staying in the city is better then a person 30mins away but that's still no excuse...for your sake I hope he gives her a std and treats her like sh?t and then she will be crawling back to your every need 
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| 12/14/2012 5:30:21 PM |
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playtime1010
Ypsilanti, MI
47, joined Jul. 2010
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Could be a blessing in disguise.
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| 12/14/2012 5:38:43 PM |
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stamina1975
Madison Heights, VA
97, joined Apr. 2012
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Hmmm, I felt like a read this thread before.
Forget her.
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| 12/14/2012 5:39:28 PM |
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inni_dreamz
Pasadena, CA
52, joined Nov. 2012
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alex,
Doubt it was anything you did / didn't do - and you would do well to take the move on advice ... Don't waste time trying to analyze the situation, and try not to let it get you down.
I agree with >>> Yes, good that she was honest. No, don’t take her back if things don’t work out with the other guy.
Just keep lookin’ 
Good luck.
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| 12/14/2012 6:26:20 PM |
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drakenight
Orange Park, FL
44, joined Jul. 2010
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Just be glad she didn't drag you along while she "tried out" the other guy. Props to her for doing what is right, not easy. Sorry it didn't work out, better luck next time!
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| 12/14/2012 6:28:50 PM |
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youlovenadja
Port Saint Lucie, FL
21, joined Oct. 2012
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there's plenty of fish in the sea <3 hehe (;
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| 12/14/2012 7:15:12 PM |
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cmace1977
Lowell, IN
39, joined Jan. 2012
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he must have a bigger paycheck
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| 12/14/2012 7:15:56 PM |
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fun2bchattin
Hedgesville, WV
49, joined Feb. 2011
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I'm confused......is this the only woman you will ever meet? Nope, it's not. Yes, it sucks right now, but heal and move on. Go out and have some fun. 
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| 12/14/2012 7:28:34 PM |
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sumerof69
Bakersfield, CA
47, joined Jul. 2012
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he must have a bigger paycheck
Id say a bigger D*CK!
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| 12/14/2012 7:38:44 PM |
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nowntime
Elmira, NY
62, joined Sep. 2012
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she said she didn,t know what to do,and felt horrible? she knew exactly what to do and did it! her loss is your gain! if ya get my drift!
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| 12/14/2012 7:38:49 PM |
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tica5656
Tigre
Argentina
35, joined Sep. 2011
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This goes to show you, and every man on this site, that even when a woman straight up tells you why she isn't wanting to date anymore it doesn't change the feeling that it makes no sense.
Even if she had just stopped calling you the end result would be the same. Sense or no sense you have to move on. It wasn't a connection but it doesn't sound like you dis anything wrong. She just wasn't the one. Best of luck to You.
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| 12/14/2012 7:46:19 PM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
68, joined Jul. 2007
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Life is all about choices--we all make them--EVEN YOU DO. SO--when you choose a Ford over a Chevy--don't you think you disappointed the Chevy dealer?? The girl chose another guy--that's life. Next time--the girl may pick you. We have no idea what you were trying to do to impress her---but maybe you tried too hard. Maybe she didn't like you for another reason--that we don't know about. It's all a game--stop over reacting to this.
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| 12/14/2012 11:36:41 PM |
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zoocitykitty
Greensboro, NC
43, joined Sep. 2010
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This happens. Unless she completely chose to date you exclusively, it is a chance you both were taking. There is always that possibility that someone else a bit better will get who you care for.
Take it as it was not meant to be. Its better it happened now rather than if she were your gf.
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| 12/14/2012 11:38:31 PM |
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zoocitykitty
Greensboro, NC
43, joined Sep. 2010
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I never take sloppy seconds. This is the sad side effect of being on a dating site. Women usually have it far easier in attracting a mate, even if it is the right mate. The best situation comes about when the man can tell he is the only one she is looking at. Move on and find the one that shows she is dedicated to you.
I feel if someone truly cares, nobody can take their attention away. I don't care if the other person is hotter, richer etc.. true chemistry is powerful.
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| 12/14/2012 11:46:45 PM |
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baaddog
Sault Ste. Marie, ON
42, joined Nov. 2012
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hahaha fuuuuuuck, first of all, nice guys finish last. Secondly, what the f**k are you thinking?
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| 12/14/2012 11:58:56 PM |
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sweetprincess8
Stockton, CA
30, joined Nov. 2012
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Life is all about choices--we all make them--EVEN YOU DO. SO--when you choose a Ford over a Chevy--don't you think you disappointed the Chevy dealer?? The girl chose another guy--that's life. Next time--the girl may pick you. We have no idea what you were trying to do to impress her---but maybe you tried too hard. Maybe she didn't like you for another reason--that we don't know about. It's all a game--stop over reacting to this.
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| 12/15/2012 12:05:23 AM |
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blkbbw713
Sugar Land, TX
40, joined Aug. 2011
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@op she just wasn't that into you. Nothing else you listed matters. Yoir first sign was she brought a friend. Ive never taken a friend on a meet. I have gone on dates with friends because im the mean one. When i say its time to bail we bail no man has dared cross me
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| 12/15/2012 12:15:17 AM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
36, joined Nov. 2009
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I'm confused......is this the only woman you will ever meet? Nope, it's not. Yes, it sucks right now, but heal and move on. Go out and have some fun.
It might be. The last woman I met was over 7 yrs ago.
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| 12/15/2012 12:16:08 AM |
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dswf
Hutchinson, KS
38, joined Jun. 2010
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It might be. The last woman I met was over 7 yrs ago.
This is still so hard to believe...just saying.
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| 12/15/2012 12:18:14 AM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
36, joined Nov. 2009
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All told, I've met 2 women in the last 10 yrs.
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| 12/15/2012 12:19:31 AM |
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dswf
Hutchinson, KS
38, joined Jun. 2010
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All told, I've met 2 women in the last 10 yrs.
stupid women...
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| 12/15/2012 12:21:00 AM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
36, joined Nov. 2009
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Who knows...
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| 12/15/2012 12:22:58 AM |
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ronleeseberg
Mauston, WI
49, joined Jan. 2012
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I know it sucks but better now than if you were more vested in a relationship.
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| 12/15/2012 12:56:45 AM |
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dswf
Hutchinson, KS
38, joined Jun. 2010
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stobil...I have always thought you were a nice person...not to mention cute.
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| 12/15/2012 1:29:18 AM |
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camarogue
Charles City, IA
48, joined Dec. 2012
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No dude, don't worry about it, you might meet someone you like better anyway.
If she chose him over you and it doesn't work out between them, you can always tell her to kiss your a** if she tries to get with you again. It's what she would deserve.
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| 12/15/2012 1:40:45 AM |
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tjl503
Portland, OR
36, joined Dec. 2012
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Don't let it phase you OP, it's her loss right? Just brush it off, keep your head up and move on to the next one. Good luck.
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| 12/15/2012 1:53:19 AM |
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wilotas
Santa Barbara, CA
25, joined Aug. 2012
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i know that feeling man.
it happened to me a week ago.
things were getting really serious and everything was starting to look great.
...then some son of a gun comes in and swoops her from me.
needless to say, it was over in 2 days.
no point in moping over it, just gotta keep looking.
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| 12/15/2012 6:18:13 AM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
36, joined Nov. 2009
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stobil...I have always thought you were a nice person...not to mention cute.
Thanks. 
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| 12/15/2012 6:48:15 AM |
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struckbylightn
Oelwein, IA
59, joined Oct. 2009
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Could be a blessing in disguise.
This. Could very well have dodged a bullet.
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| 12/15/2012 7:10:03 AM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
36, joined Nov. 2009
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Just tell yourself she had the clap.
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| 12/15/2012 7:14:39 AM |
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kingsizechoc
Toledo, OH
40, joined Jul. 2012
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Should have showed her your package as a parting gift
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| 12/15/2012 7:23:05 AM |
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lasttruepoet
Union City, NJ
33, joined Aug. 2012
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I had the same situation. I was dating two men and made more of a connection with the first guy. I very nicely told the second guy I had more of a connection with the other man. He was shocked and hurt, but I was nice as I could be, and let him know he did nothing wrong. The other guy lived closer and we just made a connection.
Guy #2, occassionally emailed a line or two. After a few weeks, he emailed me asking how it was going? I told him it wasn't, that they first guy didn't work out. So, he asked if we could start dating again, and I said yes. We are still dating.
Check in with her, once in awhile, Op. You never know!
$lut!
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| 12/15/2012 7:28:00 AM |
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turtledove4u
York, PA
52, joined Aug. 2009
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Hmmm....
Maybe its just my way of thinking (could be) but if she was as interested as she professed the second guy wouldn't have had a chance.
Seems to me she was holding on to you, saying all the cute girl stuff to to keep you hooked while baiting another hook for a different fishy.
If I don't feel 'it' enough to date and get to know a man better I tell him up front, keeping him hooked until something better blows down the road simply isn't the way to deal with someone.
Consider yourself spared a possible relationship with someone who is self centered....it wasn't YOU it was HER.
Brush yourself off soldier of love and find a sweet gal who won't lead you on and take the pleasantries with a grain of salt, in the future.
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| 12/15/2012 12:52:29 PM |
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whatthehell67
Houston, TX
49, joined Nov. 2012
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Deal with it. Move on. Stop whining. It happens. Have a nice day.
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| 12/15/2012 1:16:24 PM |
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mercyy87
Nashville, TN
29, joined Aug. 2012
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at least she was honest with you, you should respect that because many people wouldn't to that and she might come back you never know  . Just don't be sitting and waiting for that, do your thing!!
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| 12/15/2012 1:21:25 PM |
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cabanaariefed
Norcross, GA
28, joined Apr. 2012
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good at least she told you.usually ppl would just go mia & let you figure it out lol.so you have to give her credit for that.
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| 12/15/2012 1:28:35 PM |
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lanabritt
Chatsworth, CA
38, joined Jul. 2009
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Op - The "connection", and "chemistry", thing says it all.
She clicked with him emotionally, and sexually, as she did not with you.
THIS ^^^ sums it all up.
It wasn't for you. ACCEPT it, let her stay gone and move on.
Good luck.
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| 12/15/2012 1:41:06 PM |
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knight_muse_25
Ventura, CA
29, joined Oct. 2012
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Well here the age is the secret ...
you are in other level than her..
now shes 20 her hormone are explosive ...I bet she was open for sex with you maybe on the second date but you tried to respect her but it wasnt what she was looking for ...I. guess you better date older women ...from 23 they are little bit more worthy or even older than you.
it might work better
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| 12/15/2012 1:43:13 PM |
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dramautomatic
Méan
Belgium
39, joined Dec. 2012
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He's just asking for advice. Ease up on trying to act like a hard a** on him. Weirdos
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| 12/15/2012 1:46:30 PM |
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lanabritt
Chatsworth, CA
38, joined Jul. 2009
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I. guess you better date older women ...from 23 they are little bit more worthy or even older than you.
are you saying that older women have low sex drive or want/have sex less???
This is some ridiculous, laughable CRAP 
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| 12/15/2012 1:49:52 PM |
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fralin
Hattiesburg, MS
55, joined Sep. 2012
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It was not meant to be. 
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| 12/15/2012 1:52:34 PM |
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amargosa
Riddle, OR
58, joined Aug. 2011
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Just forget about her and move on. Nothing else you can do. Also, remember, NO SECOND CHANCES! I don't care if she comes crawling on her knees. She had her chance and she blew it. It is up to us to train these people not to be so fickle.
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| 12/15/2012 1:54:52 PM |
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cali8zice
Albany, NY
51, joined Oct. 2012
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It was not meant to be.
This
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| 12/15/2012 1:56:35 PM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
37, joined Jun. 2008
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I wouldn't kick yourself.......
what you described in the is how mature adults.......meet, engage, date, and decide whether or not they're right for one another......
just because two people aren't totally compatitable, doesn't mean there was someone wrong with either of them.........
we're just not use to seeing the mature way........being done.........
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| 12/15/2012 2:00:03 PM |
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knight_muse_25
Ventura, CA
29, joined Oct. 2012
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please learn how to read before posting
I said the girl was 20 she is a kid for me and for him we both are 25
I adviced him to date girls at least from 23 and over older than him...that might work better.
now talking about hormone...scientist say from 13 to 21 the hormone are more explosive
doesnt mean its a better sex ...it just means thats all they think about
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| 12/15/2012 2:10:50 PM |
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lanabritt
Chatsworth, CA
38, joined Jul. 2009
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please learn how to read before posting
I said the girl was 20 she is a kid for me and for him we both are 25
I adviced him to date girls at least from 23 and over older than him...that might work better.
now talking about hormone...scientist say from 13 to 21 the hormone are more explosive
doesnt mean its a better sex ... it just means thats all they think about
scientists say DIFFERENT things about hormones,
it also is VERY INDIVIDUAL from person to person
and cannot be generalized.
Some women after 25 think about sex MORE then men and MORE then teenagers.
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| 12/15/2012 2:11:31 PM |
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dswf
Hutchinson, KS
38, joined Jun. 2010
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scientists say DIFFERENT things about hormones,
it also is VERY INDIVIDUAL from person to person
and cannot be generalized.
Some women after 25 think about sex MORE then men and MORE then teenagers.
truth...
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