| 3/27/2013 8:09:41 PM |
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kelley30240
Newnan, GA
30, joined Aug. 2012
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Do you think sex is important in a relationship?
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| 3/27/2013 8:19:14 PM |
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lashunn18
Opelika, AL
24, joined Jun. 2012
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No but some think it is but i don't i like sex
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| 3/27/2013 8:23:29 PM |
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lashunn18
Opelika, AL
24, joined Jun. 2012
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No it is not important in a relationship
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| 3/27/2013 8:50:30 PM |
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nes2013
Katy, TX
56, joined Mar. 2013
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If you're being honest with yourself, yes it is. It's a part of being one with your partner. There is an invisible bond taking place as you surrender yourselves to each other. The ecstasy that a couple can have as they embrace each other is phenomenal.
I'm speaking from a committed relationship perspective.
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| 3/28/2013 3:20:23 AM |
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zedd1981
Concord, NC
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Damn right it is! I would not be with a woman who didn't have sex with me, it's completely giving yourself into another. Period.
No, I'm not talking about hooking up, one nighters, whatever you want to call it. I spent the last two freaking years literally without it from my wife! Just now finally told her its over, and that woman decides to question WHY??!!!!! If your not intimate with someone what makes them different than your neighbor? What makes them feel like your partner? What makes them any different than the got damn mail man who's stopping by once a day? NOTHING! intimacy involves not only sex, but also holding each other, cuddling, kissing, and most importantly, letting another human being invade your most private thoughts, heart, and soul. All while knowing they could hurt you at any moment, yet trusting they won't because they have shown, and proved that they love you just as much as you them!
Now, is it important in the beginning? Hell no! I would literally not be with any woman who I could have in a week, day, hell I would doubt a month! If she gave it up that easy to me, then chances are any good looking fella out there could get it just as fast. And it's a huge sign of self respect! She don't respect her own self, I sure as hell would have a hell of a time doing so!
I don't do one nighters, they are a waste. But to those that do, more power to ya. Long as both parties understand that's all it is, great. Have fun...
Sorry for the book but I hope it helped you!
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| 3/28/2013 4:39:25 PM |
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truckdriver007
Bowling Green, KY
59, joined Feb. 2012
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Very well said Zedd, I have to say that I have had one mightier or two but you are right about the respect. I not saying you are right about it all but for the most part you are dead on.
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| 3/28/2013 8:02:36 PM |
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zedd1981
Concord, NC
35, joined Mar. 2013
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^ Thank you buddy. I do get off in my tangents sometimes. Look at all the freaking books I have written in here! Lol sorry about those.
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| 3/28/2013 11:29:37 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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yes (but there are different kinds of lovemaking)
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| 3/29/2013 1:11:13 AM |
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arlynetx
Houston, TX
41, joined Feb. 2013
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I think sex or making love is one of the most important things in a relationship. Couples end marriages due to lack of sex or money issues. I enjoy sex so I would hope whomever I'm in a relationship enjoyed it as much as I do.
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| 3/29/2013 8:46:44 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Do you think sex is important in a relationship?
To many women it is not.
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| 3/29/2013 9:59:14 AM |
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cosmicgem
Springfield, MO
61, joined Jun. 2011
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At Zedd. I agree with most of what you say. But I am curious. You said that you were just Now kicking your wife out after 2 yrs without sex. What I am curious about is... How long you have been on DH or other dating sites? See if My husband or significant other were on a dating site... I wouldn't be having sex with him. 1. He would be a Cheat. 2. Too many risks involved. Many who have caught stds caught them from their mates in a supposedly monogamous relationship. I do not know your situation. Also. It could have been a physical thing that brought her discomfort and might have been corrected by going to the doctor. Again I do not know if that were an option you had explored.. To perhaps help the two of you. Just wondering. 
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| 3/29/2013 12:25:55 PM |
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zedd1981
Concord, NC
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Hey cosmic,
You have some good questions there, here are the answers...
1) I've been on here about a week. I had another account open before that for two days. Got bombed with fake profiles so I closed it and opened this one.
2) she had NO issues like what your describing. Twice in our relationship I took it upon myself to flat out make her go to the doctor. He found nothing at all wrong, period. Before then she tried to say it hurt, after that second doc said it was in her head that she had nothing at all wrong down there she finally admitted to me she lied. That she just didn't know why. So we had tox screens done, you name it. Nothing ever showed up.
3) if I were the kind of guy you more or less portrayed there then I sure as hell would NEVER have slept with me either. But I wasn't, I never called her names, never hit or even raised my hand to her, respected the woman she was, and now, the mother of our son she is. But to be with her, no.. After two years of begging, asking, and praying to god for help, not that she do it more often, but that I need it less.... I couldn't do it anymore. I love my wife, I was deeply in love with my wife. But we are simply not right for each other. Period. Not her fault, not mine, just not right.
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| 3/29/2013 12:30:10 PM |
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zedd1981
Concord, NC
35, joined Mar. 2013
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And btw, that was not two years without sex. I did not kick her out either. I told her I could no longer be with her. We say down, talked things over, and she decided it best I keep the house and she leave.
Two years without a hug that's meant, two years without a meaningful kids, two years without sleeping in the same bed, and I'm saying two years as a general estimate... I did not keep a record, she did.. It has been longer than that. That's just the best estimate we both had from her journal. I just knew it had been a really long time since we were intimate.
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| 3/30/2013 4:41:32 PM |
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fifidupre55
Oneida, TN
49, joined Mar. 2013
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YES!!!!! Without it there will be no relationship. And sex is a wonderful thing if you r with the right person.
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| 3/30/2013 6:17:18 PM |
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kennyg49
Manchester, KY
54, joined May. 2012
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best to try the sex out before getting into a relationship with someone to see if you are compatible.
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| 3/30/2013 8:15:38 PM |
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hillbillybill22
Knoxville, TN
56, joined Sep. 2012
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is air important?
that was what my e-x thought
and i had sex with over 50 hookers
becouse she thought it was not important if you want a room mate keep your legs closed
otherwise SPREED YOUR LEGS and keep him
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| 4/1/2013 2:00:27 PM |
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cosmicgem
Springfield, MO
61, joined Jun. 2011
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At Zedd. I am sorry for your troubles. Glad you weren't the kind of man I wondered if you were. Did not know. Yes sometimes two good people just are not good together. Hope you find goods things in life and what you are looking for. Good luck and God bless.  And yes, sex is not the only part of a relaitionship. But it is a very important part. But should not be rushed into before getting to know each other. JMO. Have a great day everyone.
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| 4/15/2013 8:30:41 AM |
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redmen22
Alliance, OH
48, joined Jan. 2013
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yes it is very important to both men and a women.
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| 4/15/2013 9:34:28 AM |
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octoberrose103
Carthage, MS
39, joined Jul. 2012
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Damn right it is! I would not be with a woman who didn't have sex with me, it's completely giving yourself into another.
No, I'm not talking about hooking up, one nighters, whatever you want to call it. I spent the last two freaking years literally without it from my wife! Just now finally told her its over, and that woman decides to question WHY??!!!!! If your not intimate with someone what makes them different than your neighbor? What makes them feel like your partner? What makes them any different than the got damn mail man who's stopping by once a day? NOTHING! intimacy involves not only sex, but also holding each other, cuddling, kissing, and most importantly, letting another human being invade your most private thoughts, heart, and soul. All while knowing they could hurt you at any moment, yet trusting they won't because they have shown, and proved that they love you just as much as you them!
Now, is it important in the beginning? Hell no! I would literally not be with any woman who I could have in a week, day, hell I would doubt a month! If she gave it up that easy to me, then chances are any good looking fella out there could get it just as fast. And it's a huge sign of self respect! She don't respect her own self, I sure as hell would have a hell of a time doing so!
I don't do one nighters, they are a waste. But to those that do, more power to ya. Long as both parties understand that's all it is, great. Have fun...
Sorry for the book but I hope it helped you!
You are exactly right and there needs to be more men who thinks like you. I dont want a man who is gonna sleep with justany woman either cause I got to know he isnt gonna cheat.
Sex is very important to a relationship. Especially a marriage. You have to have that bonding. I went five years in my first marriage without. . Five years!!!!
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| 4/15/2013 10:17:17 AM |
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colorest89
Phoenix, AZ
27, joined Apr. 2013
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No
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| 4/15/2013 12:02:00 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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I like Zedd's answer, well his first paragraph. But its also about just plain old affection. Thats really important. The hugging, hand holding, sitting close on the couch or cuddling. But some of you would say that's too clingy, no that's just part of a relationship.
I was married 20 yrs to a guy that barely touched me, God to get him to hold my hand or hug me, man, it was tough. Over time I just gave up trying.
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| 4/15/2013 12:29:12 PM |
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inkedandcurvy
Hillsborough, NH
38, joined Feb. 2013
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Yes, I think sex is important in a relationship. Being intimate is important and fun too!! 
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| 4/15/2013 2:17:50 PM |
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choklatboywondr
Phoenix, AZ
39, joined Feb. 2012
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Absolutely!!! If a man and woman is drawn together, why not endulge within each other juices. But, some of you don't fit that category and are only built for the BFF 
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| 4/16/2013 4:06:30 AM |
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63sardonicpeeps
Lodi, CA
53, joined Feb. 2013
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Rofl Yes
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| 4/16/2013 9:04:05 AM |
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goodthings4u
Lexington, KY
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Yes it is if u don't want to be cheated on 
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| 4/16/2013 9:59:12 PM |
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menwhite
Cambridge, MN
37, joined Aug. 2012
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Yes, it brings u closer
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| 4/17/2013 10:19:02 AM |
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sorpstar
Wayne, NJ
64, joined Oct. 2009
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Sex is important only if you include and add emotional and spiritual conditions to a relationship in which all work together, not without...
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| 4/17/2013 4:44:32 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Sex is important if you know which is yours and what you are looking for.
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| 4/18/2013 7:12:48 AM |
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leecyluv19
Huntington, WV
24, joined Mar. 2013
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No. I believe the LOVE and the RELATIONSHIP is more important
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| 4/18/2013 5:05:51 PM |
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bnp313133
Whitesville, NY
26, joined Apr. 2013
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I agree with zedd pretty much 100%.
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| 4/18/2013 8:35:39 PM |
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romantikindnes1
San Antonio, TX
44, joined Jan. 2013
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Yes sex is important as much as the person your with
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| 4/18/2013 10:20:49 PM |
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funzatious2
Louisa, VA
46, joined Mar. 2013
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yes, makes me feel healthy, best exercise ever So dream of having it someday then hopefully everyday for everafter
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| 4/19/2013 12:06:30 AM |
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isabor2006
Toronto, ON
43, joined Apr. 2013
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I couldnt agree more, my friend! And sex is not everything in a relationship, but if its not there anymore, forget it. . .
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| 4/19/2013 2:40:36 AM |
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bigcountryab
Orange, TX
32, joined Feb. 2013
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It's very important
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| 4/19/2013 9:17:24 PM |
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irishmcsmile
Hot Springs Village, AR
45, joined Jan. 2013
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Of course it's important. If it's not there you're correct what makes your neighbor or anyone else any different? Yet if you're in a marriage and you do cheat on your Spouse there is no reason to hide it and live with guilt. You might as well tell the truth right then. Because either way it's over. Anyone that would stick it out must enjoy the pain and feeling of betrayal because it will happen again. I personally even 10 years later down the road discovered if my spouse cheated would be shown the door before a period was put on their sentence!
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| 4/19/2013 10:06:55 PM |
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cicciarello
Merced, CA
57, joined Jul. 2012
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yes indeed. Beside sex is beautiful and satisfied. I love sex especially
with women around 65,over 65 i will keep you for ever.
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| 4/21/2013 10:01:50 AM |
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moundsofjoy
Milwaukee, WI
50, joined Feb. 2013
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Hell yes, VERY important. Better love it just as much as I!
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| 4/21/2013 12:33:52 PM |
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hotienan
New Martinsville, WV
57, joined Aug. 2010
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YES YES YES!!!!
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| 4/22/2013 3:01:44 PM |
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jensacrazylady
Lake Mary, FL
31, joined Apr. 2013
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very important
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| 4/22/2013 5:32:41 PM |
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sullie156
Arnold, MO
44, joined Sep. 2010
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Thats like asking is water, oxygen, or food important.
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| 4/23/2013 3:05:48 AM |
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bubblyblond4u
Crestline, CA
58, joined Jan. 2013
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Sex is very important to me. But not just any sex, it has to be good sex too. My first H was very vanilla, it drove me nuts. I found someone that was very sexual. To bad that extended outside our relationship. Live and learn.
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| 4/29/2013 5:11:03 PM |
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explorethis
Fresno, CA
45, joined Apr. 2013
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If sex matter to your partner and you don't view sex as an important part/need in the relationship one of you will not be happy.
If needs are not met, communicating how it makes you feel using primary emotional words like hurt, sad, rejected is a feeling your partner should best understand and relate to even feel your emotional pain in themselves.
Don't wait until your using secondary emotion to talk with your spouse, they are what you feel after the primary emotion. These emotion have now become feelings like anger, bitterness, resentment and when a person is in this emotional place trying let their spouse know, it is not received how its given (usually in anger) and they miss seeing and the feeling of how they origanally made you feel.
Primary emotions-first
Secondary emotion-what is felt next
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| 4/29/2013 7:53:44 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Sex is important.
Which sex is important.
But sex -- for the sake of sexual intercourse is NOT the most important thing in a relationship.
A relationship can thrive on lovemaking with one's partner.
But lovemaking is not the most thing in a relationship.
Love, sharing, and respect between the partners in a relationship are what are important.
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| 4/29/2013 8:05:00 PM |
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danzig85
Long Island City, NY
32, joined Apr. 2013
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Very important. When it feels like a chore then there's a problem.
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| 4/29/2013 11:51:43 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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| 5/11/2013 9:39:18 AM |
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daremeidareyou
Zephyrhills, FL
31, joined May. 2013
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I belive it is. Not just because of the physical part but also the emotional part as well, sex is one way to pay attention tko your partner, because lets face it every one likes or loves sex. It also dependes on the persons past if they have been abused or traumatized in any part of there life sex would be a different story, they would want it but it would be harder for them to trust their sex partner. Jsut my opinion. Theres lots of important facts when it comes to sex, but to me yes sex is important.
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| 5/11/2013 3:31:52 PM |
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lonley520
Mesa, AZ
39, joined Apr. 2013
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More people would stay married if the women used her man like a sex toy and said yes more then not tonight my head hurts  women try to use sex like a reward and if I go to work and I come to you it's because you use me the way I like if not the little freak at work will lol so why go home to a women who won't treat you right
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| 5/11/2013 7:11:04 PM |
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driver4life69
New Bedford, MA
41, joined Oct. 2012
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Absolutely its is. Who the heck doesn't think its is crazy. The question u r asking is sex important in a relationship. U r not asking that its the most important. Its 1 of many important things. Cus let me tell u if u r not giving your partner will get it somewheres else .
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| 5/12/2013 3:54:06 AM |
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romanceisalive
Brookhaven, MS
51, joined Mar. 2013
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I think sex is very important. Its not only about the sexual act, but its also about the sharing of one's self with the one person you love. Just my opinion.
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| 5/12/2013 4:18:21 PM |
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barbcope49
Boise, ID
53, joined May. 2013
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Its not important to me but I won't turn it down
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| 5/12/2013 9:29:53 PM |
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fcrx
Caldwell, ID
37, joined Sep. 2012
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Omg, this is soooooo lame. Im gonna go have sex now. 
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| 5/14/2013 10:18:40 AM |
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lee012167
Wilkes Barre, PA
50, joined May. 2013
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I think sex is important, but overall intimacy is most important. from holding hands when walking, to the kiss hello/goodbye, head on shoulders, etc. I just came out of a practically sexless marriage and believe me, I analyzed it to death. I kept trying to compare it to a situation where what if something happened and one of us couldn't physically do it anymore......but I think if the overall intimacy was there it wouldn't matter.
But, because there may come a time when life catches up to us and we may not be able to do the act itself, when we find the right person for ourselves, I want to make sure I don't waste my sexually prime years. lol
And I strongly feel that no sex is better than bad sex any day.
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| 5/15/2013 1:24:34 AM |
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creolecutieb
Carlsbad, CA
34, joined Mar. 2013
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Absolutely. Sex is what makes a relationship different than others. It creates a bond that no one else but the two of you will understand.
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| 5/15/2013 9:44:07 AM |
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blueberr
South Bend, IN
31, joined Apr. 2013
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it is to a certain extent i mean even good sex isn't enough to stick around for someone's bullcrap
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| 5/15/2013 9:50:00 AM |
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needinlovin73
Laurel, MS
44, joined May. 2013
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Oh yes...its a major conection..
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| 5/25/2013 11:34:08 AM |
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lookiin4love
Sevierville, TN
60, joined May. 2013
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how can their be a good relationship without sex,a lot of sex
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| 5/25/2013 5:39:00 PM |
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usmartinezm
Terre Haute, IN
66, joined Mar. 2013
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Yes very important if you really care for each other. But you shouldn't base a relationship on sex alone because it will not work.
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| 5/26/2013 12:11:10 PM |
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nrsjess
Hereford, AZ
35, joined Sep. 2012
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It is very important, yes.
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| 5/26/2013 12:12:59 PM |
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brocky11561
Long Beach, NY
30, joined May. 2013
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Yes
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| 5/27/2013 2:04:04 AM |
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lookiin4love
Sevierville, TN
60, joined May. 2013
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intercourse is not the only way to have sex. when u r in a real loveing relation kissing,holding,cuddeling and looking into each others eyes is haveing sex.i really love intercourse but it all means a lot to me
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