| 7/6/2013 11:45:26 AM |
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countrymomhere
Sparta, MI
37, joined Jun. 2013
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It drives me nuts when a parent puts down the other parent around their child. Kids listen ppl!!!
My dad still talks bad about my mom. I hated it as a kid.
Can't you bite your tongue about your ex til the child gone???
Do others have a problem with this or is it just me?
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| 7/6/2013 6:47:26 PM |
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secretagent00h
Greensburg, PA
49, joined Apr. 2013
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My view is that that kid or kids are just as much of a part of them as they are of you. So when you put the other person down you are inturn putting them down.in a sence put value and respect ahead of you personal agenda don't be so selfish as to only care about yourself.teach by example.
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| 7/6/2013 9:47:31 PM |
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25anne25
Eugene, OR
29, joined Jun. 2013
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that is a big nono. kids dont need to hear anything negative about the other parent or family.
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| 8/8/2013 6:10:57 PM |
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rangers_fan
Hazlet, NJ
52, joined Aug. 2008
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I never had to put the ex down, she did it all to herself, started with not fighting me for custody, then barely ever seeing the girls, her loss, they had no desire to see her, neither has a relationship with her, so she didn't watch them grow up into the amazing women they've become, and shes never seen the grandkids, no baby mama drama here
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| 8/10/2013 8:37:02 PM |
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2014lincoln
Ligonier, PA
48, joined Aug. 2013
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don't ever do that in front of your kids. i would rather stick needles in my eyes than have to deal with my ex, but i deal with him for the sake of our kids.
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| 8/19/2013 6:17:34 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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That's not good to do that to a child, but it's a lot of people that do, i don't do that even tho he is a dead beat dad.
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| 8/19/2013 7:33:16 PM |
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edward116
Goldsboro, NC
61, joined Oct. 2009
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It is a terrible thing to do. The kids haveenough stress without being used as weapons. I have been guilty of this, especially after the seperation and during the court battles immediately after. When I was made aware of it, I stopped; I am not perfect but am very aware of where little ears are when I have to discuss anything about her with another adult. Unfortunately I do not get that level of cooperation when they visit her; I have the prividlege of hearing her (and boyfriend's) opinions when they come home from visits for days afterwards.
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| 8/19/2013 7:56:46 PM |
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elphabaatheart
Brea, CA
42, joined Aug. 2013
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Seriously? The girls' bf talks smack about you? Worse enough she does it but to let somebody who only got her side of the story to talk crap is nonsense ever consider a modification to the visitation order? Like make it supervised and she cannot have her latest penis hanging around for the visits. That is nonsense. A lot of my friends have to deal with Exes and BF/GF putting their two cents in where it does not belong. Geesh I think in some cases it is the adults who need to grow up not the kids,
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| 8/19/2013 8:01:00 PM |
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featherleaf
Minneapolis, MN
35, joined Aug. 2013
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thats hard not to do..but i stay away from talking neg in front of the kids
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| 8/19/2013 10:17:03 PM |
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purelife118
Benton, AR
40, joined Jul. 2013
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Is very wrong to do, its not the childs fault and as the child gets older they will see for themselves how the other parent is
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| 8/21/2013 8:23:34 PM |
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cutelilkitkat
Ada, OK
29, joined Apr. 2013
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Because my kids father was abusive and tried to stalk us for a while, I did sit my son down recently and explain a few things to him. I tried to avoid the topic altogether for a long time but it became impossible between my son asking questions nonstop and us having to go home fast after spotting him in a store.
But even then I didn't talk down about him. I explained that sometimes he was very angry and he just couldn't control it. I went so far as to tell him that I knew that he still loved them, he just needed time away.
All of this even though I have been raising them on my own, and they don't even remember his face. Nor has he paid child support...in...ever.
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| 8/23/2013 1:28:16 AM |
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countrymomhere
Sparta, MI
37, joined Jun. 2013
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Because my kids father was abusive and tried to stalk us for a while, I did sit my son down recently and explain a few things to him. I tried to avoid the topic altogether for a long time but it became impossible between my son asking questions nonstop and us having to go home fast after spotting him in a store.
But even then I didn't talk down about him. I explained that sometimes he was very angry and he just couldn't control it. I went so far as to tell him that I knew that he still loved them, he just needed time away.
Give u props for leaving him & not going back to him. My niece was in a bad relationship & went back every time.
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| 8/23/2013 6:26:48 AM |
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cutelilkitkat
Ada, OK
29, joined Apr. 2013
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Give u props for leaving him & not going back to him. My niece was in a bad relationship & went back every time.
Thank you. It took me a while to learn but I'm thankful I got away while my kiddos were still so young.
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| 8/23/2013 5:27:46 PM |
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rangers_fan
Hazlet, NJ
52, joined Aug. 2008
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I was your age when I left the ex, and raised my girls, she never bothered with them, I admire you for doing it as well, it will be challenging but sooooo worth it, if you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to drop me a note
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| 8/29/2013 2:10:55 PM |
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countrymomhere
Sparta, MI
37, joined Jun. 2013
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I was your age when I left the ex, and raised my girls, she never bothered with them, I admire you for doing it as well, it will be challenging but sooooo worth it, if you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to drop me a note
I don't understand how a parent can walk away
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| 8/29/2013 5:37:10 PM |
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ky_girl270
Mount Vernon, IL
43, joined Mar. 2013
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Sometimes parents walk away because of selfishness or just have such a low self esteem they feel that they can not give anything positive to their children. I have seen parents walk because of embarrassment of their actions. Some just are heartless.
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| 8/29/2013 7:38:50 PM |
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rangers_fan
Hazlet, NJ
52, joined Aug. 2008
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I don't understand how a parent can walk away
she was selfish, had a life with someone else, somewhere else.. they were my girls I wanted them, sued for custody, she didn't even fight me, didn't show up in court, that was 20 yrs ago, and I wouldn't change it for the world, I have loved every minute of being dad, through the good and bad as well..
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| 9/20/2013 7:02:27 PM |
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tborsey
Acworth, GA
38, joined Sep. 2011
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Parents that use their kids as pawns are Pisa poor. Just me but I won't tolerate my children down talking their mother just as I wouldn't do it in front of them. If I have issues with me x I let her know. I like to think of it as being an adult
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| 9/20/2013 9:02:19 PM |
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countrymomhere
Sparta, MI
37, joined Jun. 2013
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Parents that use their kids as pawns are Pisa poor. Just me but I won't tolerate my children down talking their mother just as I wouldn't do it in front of them. If I have issues with me x I let her know. I like to think of it as being an adult
Not all adults can be adults.
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| 9/21/2013 6:40:03 PM |
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thecavemanintx
Alamogordo, NM
43, joined Sep. 2013
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I refuse to put the mother of my children down in front of them.... And won't let no one else do it either.. Even tho she does it to them right in front of their face.. It's amazing ... Can't stand it .. It's not the child's fault they deal enough with a single parent let alone have that parent put down the other.. Sorry couldn't controll myself on that topic
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| 9/22/2013 9:50:08 PM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
35, joined Jul. 2012
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More parents need to act like adults and not put down the ex in front of the children. It's not cool to mess with their emotions like that!
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| 9/22/2013 10:55:28 PM |
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countrymomhere
Sparta, MI
37, joined Jun. 2013
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It is crazy how many parents even not parents of that child will put down the parent. I didn't like it as a kid so won't do that to my kids.
I might not like my ex but he my kid dad.
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| 9/22/2013 11:19:10 PM |
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snglemommy86
Temple, OK
31, joined Sep. 2013
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I don't put my childrens father down in front of em. But I have my opinions and the father only hears about em not his kids.
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| 10/23/2013 9:29:03 PM |
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letsgo1481
Florence, AL
54, joined May. 2013
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It serves no purpose. We divorced the ex, not the kids.
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| 10/24/2013 11:21:48 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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For either parent to speak ill of the other parent in front of a child is not a sign of maturity, or good parenting skills.
In custody cases these days it is also a violation which the courts frown upon and they often include the caveat in the court order.
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| 2/17/2014 1:02:35 AM |
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greatdaddy11
Seattle, WA
40, joined Nov. 2013
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Ya my ex does it and even hits pinchs and scratches me in front of my daughter and I try to walk away now my daughter does it to me.
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| 2/17/2014 2:06:17 AM |
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jrealhill
Bowling Green, KY
30, joined Apr. 2012
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My baby's mother and I wouldn't ever degrade each other I'm front of our child. Actually we don't degrade each other period. We have mutual respect for each other
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| 2/18/2014 4:15:29 AM |
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good_dr
Spokane, WA
53, joined Dec. 2011
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Funny yet sad thing here is that I don't have to put the ex down. She walked and has moved more or less to ten-buck-two.
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| 2/19/2014 11:35:33 AM |
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mel14362
Victoria, TX
33, joined Dec. 2013
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No I don't do that. I vent to my friend or sister via text 
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| 5/7/2014 9:28:36 AM |
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readbe4
Glenwood, AR
38, joined Apr. 2014
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I don't believe we (as parents) should ever vent to our children. We should be strong for them, and never ask them to need to be strong for us. However, that being said there is always an exception to every rule. In front of my son I always defended my ex and made excuses for her. Until the day that my son started crying saying that he felt bad for hating her because she was sick in the head. She was very abusive to me, so I took her to counselors and drs to get her help that she obviously needed. To get that help she would need to want it though. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make her drink applies here. But when I found out she was being abusive towards him, it was over. Everyone seems to say "never talk bad about your ex". But when my son came to me that day I had to explain to him that he, out of all the people in this world, had every right to feel any way towards her he wanted to. She may be "sick in the head" but she also made decisions and choices that she can't take back. As the child I will never force him to like, love or even be nice to her after her choices. After all the counseling she had I learned that a lot of her issues had been faked for attention. I'll be nice to my ex as long as it doesn't harm my boy. Sometimes the situation requires that we explain to our children it's NOT their fault, but the fault lies with our ex. Like I said before, this is a rare exception to the rule. And he still doesn't know everything she did. I don't want him scared, unable to have a healthy relationship with a woman. I believe as parents we should pray daily for help raising our children. We need Gods help to do it right. 
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| 5/11/2014 9:24:24 PM |
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lplol
Arlington, TX
23, joined Apr. 2014
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My mom and dad always talk crap about each other. I found out later that they're both liars. It makes them seem very immature. And I hate that they both told me things that no kid should know about they're parents. Like that my dad used to shoot up with my aunt when he was younger and that my mom used to run up their credit with cards he didn't know she had.
All I really learned was not to trust either of them.
My son isn't old enough to understand anything about daddy but I'm prepared to not speak ill of him. I've even saved all our photos and everything from when we were together. They aren't mine to throw away and one day my son will care. Even though I know my ex and his family are not going to hold they're tongues 
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| 5/11/2014 11:39:34 PM |
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larena40
Phoenix, AZ
45, joined Jan. 2014
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I still don't speak of my kids father and my youngest is 21yrs old.
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| 8/6/2014 10:52:47 PM |
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thatchic82
Lansing, MI
34, joined Feb. 2013
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I agree. inappropriate.
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| 8/7/2014 4:03:08 PM |
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mistalee410
Phoenix, AZ
32, joined Jul. 2014
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My daughter is six, and although her mom was a terrible person to me, she is one of the two most important people in my daughters life. If she ever wants to know about her mother when shes an adult, i wont lie to her.
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| 8/14/2014 8:03:02 AM |
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soulfullaussie
Victoria
Australia
51, joined May. 2014
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Something that should never be done .. No matter what troubles the mum and dad are having it is not something the kids need to be pulled in the middle of
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| 8/20/2014 11:26:58 AM |
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mizzangeleyezo4
Tujunga, CA
40, joined Jan. 2013
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That's a big no no. I want my kids to form their own opinion about their father..in time they will see him for who he truly is. They don't need me to tell them that.
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| 8/20/2014 3:13:01 PM |
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anywhereusa
Converse, TX
52, joined Dec. 2009
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Totally wrong.
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| 11/16/2014 7:09:22 PM |
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ruready4funtime
Grants Pass, OR
33, joined Oct. 2014
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I definitely could but I sure as f**k don't
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| 11/21/2014 6:11:28 PM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
61, joined Jun. 2012
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I feel so sorry for kids who's parents bad moth each other to their kids..I know what it feels like since my parents did it my entire life..I never ever said anything bad about my kids dad to them or around them...it only hurts the kids..
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| 11/23/2014 8:06:20 AM |
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jhd33
Oregon, OH
45, joined Aug. 2014
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I don't have to put my ex down to my kids,the way she lives and deals with my kids does it for me.
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| 11/23/2014 5:33:36 PM |
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debyduh
Hamburg, PA
54, joined May. 2014
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The kids figured it out on their own. There is no need for me to put him down his actions do that to himself.
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| 11/23/2014 11:39:09 PM |
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ayemie
Granite Bay, CA
46, joined Jul. 2010
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My oldest was 15, old enough to see for himself when my ex husband and I split. Our other child was 2. I choose not to talk about his father when he is around. We also worked out divorce/custody on our own with no lawyers involved and continue to get along for them. Vacation/visitation and holidays we just work it out.
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| 11/24/2014 5:09:09 AM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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Oh I don't have to say a word. My boys do all that for me by not even talking about her.
Am I worried no, when they are with me they are home and happy. They know their mom is a a** and a liar and the proof is who she is with.
Smart boys hope they do better than me when their older.
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| 11/28/2014 9:52:12 PM |
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calblueray
Arlington, TX
61, joined Sep. 2014
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That hurts my kids feelings so I dont
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| 11/29/2014 10:27:19 AM |
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wylinout
Homestead, FL
40, joined Aug. 2012
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My step mom always told me how evil my mom was and my mom was always so sweet to everyone and when I grew up I realized how my step mom was the evil one and I resent her and have no interest in maintaining a relationship with my dad and step mom but I'm very close to mom. Now I have kids and am divorced but my ex and I always promised not to bash each other in front of kids. I've lived up to this I hope she has
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| 11/29/2014 4:56:27 PM |
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ementor
Mentor, OH
44, joined Nov. 2014
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Hey there!! I totally Agree my Ex loves to talk shit about me in front of my kids she makes her mean cruel comments! that i dont appreciate! Ive told her to stop so i talk to my kids about what she has said and explain things to them without saying nasty things about her.
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| 12/13/2014 1:59:19 PM |
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mont1jack
Owosso, MI
40, joined Sep. 2014
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I dont talk shit bout my ex in front of our kids hell i dont even like to argue with her in front of them
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| 12/14/2014 8:55:41 AM |
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besitos1979
Mission, TX
37, joined Nov. 2014
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Hello, anger sometimes makes us make mistakes ok when you're in love and that person you have loved for so many years, then you find out he is having an affair and still telling you I love you I miss you while have another woman and then he is accusing one for what he is doing ha!! It hurts, two years ago I was very angry at him I didn't talk bad about him but I did show them the picture of that other woman he had she is ugly by the way, but the point is that now that he is gone for good I recently found out by my kids that they have seen her pic on his contacts not cause they have search his cell no cause she calles when they are with him so now it was my to fix what I once did they were angry at that woman for taking their father away but I spoke to them about it, that no matter who it is their dad goes out with it shouldn't affect them at all he is happy I am happy the way we are & who we are with ( I am with no one by the way )and in a way they are happy too because mommy and daddy are not constantly fighting any more so like my oldest son told me " the only thing I want to be happy is for you to be happy" so I am happy so they are happy too, well atleast I try my best to make them happy!!! Now if some one read this all the way to this point I as a question?? I'd you are recently seperated no matter the cause what would you do in this case when you are with you kids on visitation day or days for respect to the kids would you tell him or her not to call you until the kids are gone so they won't feel uncomfortable??? Cause I asked him this and he got so upset!!!!!
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| 12/16/2014 5:38:57 PM |
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up2youandme
Chandler, AZ
42, joined Jan. 2014
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It's never a good idea in front or in back of anybody ...that's just me tho 
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| 12/17/2014 8:43:05 PM |
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gyusr
Corinth, MS
52, joined May. 2014
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It's not good for the child .because no matter how we feel about one another .the child love's each parent
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| 12/20/2014 8:25:00 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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Hello, anger sometimes makes us make mistakes ok when you're in love and that person you have loved for so many years, then you find out he is having an affair and still telling you I love you I miss you while have another woman and then he is accusing one for what he is doing ha!! It hurts, two years ago I was very angry at him I didn't talk bad about him but I did show them the picture of that other woman he had she is ugly by the way, but the point is that now that he is gone for good I recently found out by my kids that they have seen her pic on his contacts not cause they have search his cell no cause she calles when they are with him so now it was my to fix what I once did they were angry at that woman for taking their father away but I spoke to them about it, that no matter who it is their dad goes out with it shouldn't affect them at all he is happy I am happy the way we are & who we are with ( I am with no one by the way )and in a way they are happy too because mommy and daddy are not constantly fighting any more so like my oldest son told me " the only thing I want to be happy is for you to be happy" so I am happy so they are happy too, well atleast I try my best to make them happy!!! Now if some one read this all the way to this point I as a question?? I'd you are recently seperated no matter the cause what would you do in this case when you are with you kids on visitation day or days for respect to the kids would you tell him or her not to call you until the kids are gone so they won't feel uncomfortable??? Cause I asked him this and he got so upset!!!!!
my ex ran off with her sisters husband.My boys don't like him at all my ex went to the point of sending them to a councilor. I would never allow another to call me while I have them. Texting maybe if it is important or I am extremely bored. Last thing I need to do is bring random women into their lives. Its bad enough that things are the way they are and its not their fault. Children don't need to be punished for the faults of their parents. I have been single since and I got the house. It is a little awkward but to them this is the real home with dad and that will not change.
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| 12/30/2014 11:16:10 AM |
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treec36
Saint Petersburg, FL
38, joined Oct. 2014
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they will understand why later in life,
you need say nothing after that because
prof will tell why
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| 12/30/2014 1:35:10 PM |
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sanddab
Ellisville, MS
65, joined Apr. 2008
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You probably hate your ex, but that is between the two of you and neither should put the other down in front of your children not even in laws.Children should not be expected to choose sides and that is what this will make them feel they are doing.
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| 12/30/2014 4:40:13 PM |
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mizzangeleyezo4
Tujunga, CA
40, joined Jan. 2013
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I believe that is the worst thing for a parent to do in front of their child.
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