turn offs on a first date

7/14/2008 4:24:20 PM	turn offs on a first date
atime4change Hillsborough, NH age: 38	Do not talk about marriage, Do not talk about your ex, do not ask me to smoke pot with you, dont try jamming your tongue down my throat, and definitely do not talk about sex sex sex. Hey I love sex too but theres a time and a place. And most important do not talk about yourself too much. I just feel like being a "dr phil" today. Just the mood IM in. Well I'm just speaking for myself, and what turns me off. Just trying to give the guys a few tips. And If you have a few tips for me also. I would love to hear them. And please dont be mean, I'm just being honest.
7/14/2008 4:25:39 PM	turn offs on a first date
bonsaijoe Vero Beach, FL age: 41	i wish you were closer dear
7/14/2008 6:08:17 PM	turn offs on a first date
luv2laffnh Nashua, NH age: 48	Hello Atime.....I'm thinking you need to give us a list of the things we can talk about on a first date....it might be shorter!
7/15/2008 11:52:15 AM	turn offs on a first date
kelkelre Belleville, IL age: 24	Biggest turn off for me is man thats all over me to soon....got to be biggest...
7/15/2008 11:57:17 AM	turn offs on a first date
sunfish66 Mooresville, NC age: 42	on a first date? showing up at my door with a beer already in hand....
7/18/2008 11:10:29 AM	turn offs on a first date
heelandtoe2008 Cromwell, CT age: 45	Quote from luv2laffnh: Hello Atime.....I'm thinking you need to give us a list of the things we can talk about on a first date....it might be shorter! LOL (I'm assuming you mean the other list would be shorter, rather than the date itself) Actually, I agree with atime on all points (yes, even the tongue). I also think most men and women tend to think similarly about this stuff. In addition, I'd add don't forget to talk about yourself enough! It should be a good balance of give and take (tell and listen). I've seen both extremes, and somewhere in the middle is definitely best. Someone who doesn't open up at all is just as unappealing as someone who can't stop talking about themselves. Personally, I like to hear about the quirks, kinks in the armour, etc., even though most like to just get the basics on a first date (you know, where are you from, what do you do, where are you going, etc.). So, as for what can or should be discussed on a first date, I'd say just to keep it light for the most part. The time, place, season, food, things you've done recently, current events (I'd avoid politics and religion, even if you think you agree, unless you're in very sophisticated company), some give and take about each other (tell about the same amount as you're hearing), and, if it's going smoothly, perhaps things you'd like to do soon (no - not today). Both should be able to enjoy the date without any pressure, even if they know from the first moment that there's no spark. Of course, being able to read that is one area that we all should work on. Projecting it is not important. Above all else, NO assumptions should be made on a first date. [Edited 7/18/2008 11:13:31 AM]
7/19/2008 2:49:39 AM	turn offs on a first date
gritziam Shallotte, NC age: 34	Worst thing is when no one wants to talk,Ihate that-its freeken rude.And folks who dont tips waiters and waitresses who have done agood job
7/19/2008 3:00:46 AM	turn offs on a first date
kenb5b01 Northport, WA age: 44	Quote from atime4change: Do not talk about marriage, Do not talk about your ex, do not ask me to smoke pot with you, dont try jamming your tongue down my throat, and definitely do not talk about sex sex sex. Hey I love sex too but theres a time and a place. And most important do not talk about yourself too much. I just feel like being a "dr phil" today. Just the mood IM in. Well I'm just speaking for myself, and what turns me off. Just trying to give the guys a few tips. And If you have a few tips for me also. I would love to hear them. And please dont be mean, I'm just being honest. Lemme see if I got your point correctly? No discussion of the possible future, No discussion of the past, You don't smoke, You don't kiss, No sex, Phuck why not just give you 100 bucks and you can go eat dinner alone? The biggest turn off for well, most people, is when a date hands you a freakin instruction guide and text book when you open the car door for her. Hell I figure that since we are adults, we should be capable of having an evening together and LEARNING what each likes and dislikes, DURING the date. Instead of just going along to pay phuckin bill.
7/19/2008 3:50:54 AM	turn offs on a first date
atime4change Hillsborough, NH age: 38	boy your a little touchy. I guess those are the things you do on a date
7/19/2008 5:29:06 AM	turn offs on a first date
kenb5b01 Northport, WA age: 44	No I ain't My point is that a date is far more interesting and enjoyable when there are no predetermined expectations. Relax, have fun and let things flow naturally. You might even get a kiss AND another date.
7/19/2008 6:01:54 AM	turn offs on a first date
zeanah Clarion, PA age: 49	When he tells me how many beautiful women he has been with, but now is looking for something deeper on the inside. Soooo...is he saying I am ugly or not very attractive? Asks me if I "shave" my coochie or not That he could help me lose weight That he doesn't have much time to date Asks if I have money to buy he and I some coffee Tells me his penis size That he feels guilty being on a date and not spending the time with his kids instead "Z"
7/19/2008 6:33:47 AM	turn offs on a first date
cece123 Warren, MI age: 48	I say READ THE PROFILES people.... size, and height...., I met one dh'er that when I met him for coffee... I was shock when I saw him for the first time..... I thought he was way taller.... and way brooder in the shoulder.... much bigger than he was...., actually I made him into a much bigger person.... My first mistake.
7/19/2008 8:30:54 AM	turn offs on a first date
filmcriti Springfield, MA age: 48	See the movie Baby Mama most of the don'ts are in there on her first dates but she brings them up like "i'd like to get pregnant what too much for a first date?" She says to the guy....
7/19/2008 3:50:02 PM	turn offs on a first date
sheeedevilspal Bremerton, WA age: 40	Talking about their ex's - especially negatively, that is a total turn off. Really, at all talking about the ex's on a first date.
7/19/2008 4:09:52 PM	turn offs on a first date
ojosnegros013 Cromwell, CT age: 45	first dates should be fun..give and take dialogue, flirting, laughing,,please NO DRAMA , do not go into how your x ruined your life , and your other x cheated on you , and your other x was a barbie on drugs,and you are not appreciated at work, and you want me to spank you , and you forgot your wallet at home ...and please do not ask me to go over your house, and please please don't prented i didnt see you put that wad of tobaco in your mouth, and please stop looking over your shoulder worrying who is going to see you, ok ok i feel better know .. first daters should have fun, relive and retell pleasant childhood memories, favorites foods,joke, dance , flirt, be yourself ...and if there is no "connection" hopefully you have made a friend. ok ..off my soap box

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