| 9/6/2013 12:43:33 AM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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At first after he was killed I saw him in my dreams a lot. Most of the dreams (in this case, nightmares) were his murder being played out over and over. Others were just him or us doing random stuff. My favorites were when he would talk to me via text, phone, letter, etc. The only sad part is I would wake up after one of these dreams and usually check my phone, disappointed that there was nothing there. It's been over 3yrs since he was murdered and any and all dreams about him have steadily decreased. I miss him coming to talk to me. He understood me best out of anyone I've ever known and was there for the toughest parts of life. I just wonder why he has stopped visiting me.
Has anyone else gone through this? Having dreams at first then they slowly go away? Maybe someone has experienced them coming back after several years or they didn't start until years after he/she passed...
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| 9/6/2013 8:16:13 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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I didn't get many of those dreams. I envied those who do.
When I did get them, often it was that I'd see him in a crowd, but I couldn't get to him to touch him, or hold him, or kiss him. I'd be pushing against the swarm of people, but we'd be pulled farther and farther apart, and then I'd no longer see him anywhere in the crowd.
Maybe he doesn't visit you in your dreams as often because you don't need him to. Maybe you're moving forward and healing.
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| 9/8/2013 8:31:54 PM |
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miss_jlow
Madison, AL
48, joined Aug. 2013
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I also envy you both. Since my husband passed I haven't had one dream with him in it.
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| 9/11/2013 7:50:27 PM |
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girlygurl1414
Riverside, CA
43, joined Jun. 2013
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I also envy you both. Since my husband passed I haven't had one dream with him in it.
I've had the same experience! No dreams of my husband since he passed away either!
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| 9/11/2013 7:55:34 PM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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Did you any of you have dreams about him before passing?
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| 9/11/2013 7:59:49 PM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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I didn't get many of those dreams. I envied those who do.
When I did get them, often it was that I'd see him in a crowd, but I couldn't get to him to touch him, or hold him, or kiss him. I'd be pushing against the swarm of people, but we'd be pulled farther and farther apart, and then I'd no longer see him anywhere in the crowd.
Maybe he doesn't visit you in your dreams as often because you don't need him to. Maybe you're moving forward and healing.
I'm sorry to hear that. I guess I'm blessed to have seen him in my dreams.
It sure would be nice for him to visit. Nobody can comfort me like he did and I need that right now. I don't know if I'm healing and moving forward, but I don't feel like I am.
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| 9/11/2013 8:08:15 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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No, OP. I have never dreamed of my late husband. I believe that the 9 months we had to prepare for his ultimate demise erased the sub-conscience will of dwelling on a fantasy after his death.
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| 9/11/2013 8:26:28 PM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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I'm glad you had that time, Cup. I wish I had as well.
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| 9/11/2013 8:28:51 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Thank you, Nuhs. My condolences to you on your loss.
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| 9/16/2013 12:43:03 AM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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My wife has been gone for 14+ years and I find myself still dreaming of her. Albeit unexpectedly. It was a surprise and it was over before I knew what happened. I've dreamed of her off and on since she died. It used to disturb me sometimes and happy at others. It's happens now and it's okay.
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| 9/16/2013 11:33:59 PM |
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softltouch
Denver, CO
48, joined Sep. 2013
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I am sorry he is gone. Maybe they are going cause you doing a tiny bit better. My husband laughed all the time and I would see him laughing in my dreams Then one time I saw him trying to protect me in a dream now it has been 3 years and I dream of him no more. Maybe I am a tiny bit better
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| 10/9/2013 12:51:25 AM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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My wife has been gone for 14+ years and I find myself still dreaming of her. Albeit unexpectedly. It was a surprise and it was over before I knew what happened. I've dreamed of her off and on since she died. It used to disturb me sometimes and happy at others. It's happens now and it's okay.
Same here, depending on the type of dream.
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| 10/9/2013 3:17:47 AM |
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miss_mistylight
Franklin, GA
54, joined Sep. 2013
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Dreaming about him, laughing with him, I feel as if he comes for a nice visit, the dreams have almost stopped and makes me really feel alone.
So I know how impotrant they are, hope all of you get to have them
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| 10/12/2013 10:37:09 PM |
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kermit13
Olympia, WA
35, joined Aug. 2008
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I like these dreams. If it's been a while since I've had one, I'll spray her purfume on my pillow to get one. Anything to see her or touch her again, even if it's all made up. I guess I'll be doing this until another woman can make me feel that way again, which is a long shot.
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| 10/18/2013 7:41:53 PM |
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mr_crash
Corpus Christi, TX
49, joined Oct. 2013
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Was thinking about trading in her car. Last night I had a dream where my brother traded in her car and only got half of its value. She came into the dream at that time and was pissed that we got rid of her Mustang. I don't think she wants me trading in her car.
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| 10/22/2013 11:04:47 PM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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I had a nightmare last night.. he wasn't it it, but his killer was
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| 10/22/2013 11:05:10 PM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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Was thinking about trading in her car. Last night I had a dream where my brother traded in her car and only got half of its value. She came into the dream at that time and was pissed that we got rid of her Mustang. I don't think she wants me trading in her car.
that's what I would take from that
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| 10/23/2013 1:23:46 AM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
61, joined Jun. 2012
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Yes I used to have those dreams. It was like he was still alive. He would tell me it was all a mistake and hold me as I cried from happiness and relief..When I woke up I would feel so let down once I was awake enough to realize it was just a dream. Then the dreams changed. I was always excited and surprised to see him then I would feel sad in the dreams because I always said to him, "you're dead arent you'?.. he always said yes. He never came to me in those dreams like he did in those first dreams. He was always at a distance..now I dont dream of him at all..
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| 10/28/2013 12:29:34 AM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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Well I'm not sure if it's good or bad to have dreams about them, but my husband has been gone for more than 2 years now and I just recently had my first dream about him. Unfortunately, it wasn't a happy dream. It related to his illness and I was in a panic because he had run out of oxygen and we weren't where we could get any more. It was more like a nightmare so I guess I would opt to go back to no dreams! 
I know the feeling. I hope you don't have anymore like that.
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| 10/29/2013 1:30:09 AM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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I had several dreams right after I lost him. He always looked happy and healthy, so the dreams helped me deal better.
I could use that right now.
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| 10/29/2013 8:30:16 PM |
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vida60
Norman, OK
56, joined Jul. 2012
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I remember having a really dream about two weeks after my hubby passed away, I was sitting on the side of the bed and he came from behind me and put his arms around me, it was so comforting, It seemed so real I could smell his cologne he use to wear, I remember feeling so much comfort, I use to sleep on his pillow after his death, then when my 7 year old daughter complained of having nightmares, I gave his pillow to her to sleep on, she never had another nightmare again.
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| 10/31/2013 11:12:05 PM |
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deanie883
Omaha, NE
57, joined Jul. 2012
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It's been 2 years 1 month since I lost my husband. I've yet to dream of him except in parts. I dream I've just woke up and my eyes blurry with sleep settles on his shoulder or back or that crook in his neck and shoulder that was mine. Where I laid my head thousands of nights as we quietly shared our day, our dreams and our love. I long to hear him say my name or look me in the eye so I could see his face again. My therapist says I'm not ready. My psyche protects me until my grief has move through enough stages so seeing or hearing him in my dreams won't open up those wounds and relive the tremendous loss again. It Makes sense to me but I am growing impatient I hope that's a sign I'm almost there. Cheri
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| 11/20/2013 1:04:10 PM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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Still no good dreams
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| 1/10/2014 11:36:50 AM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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I had only 2...one we were lying in bed and he hugging me tightly, I turned to face him and was so happy, I knew in the back of my mind somehow it couldn't be so and was so very afraid he would leave me again...I woke to distraught and cried the entire day...I prayed to god to please don't let me dream..my second dream we were in a shopping mall, he went into a store, we got separated and I was searching to no end...again I woke distraught!!!
Dreams stopped and I'm happy they did.
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