| 9/24/2013 12:17:27 AM |
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tm7535
Springfield, IL
30, joined Sep. 2013
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After being separated and now divorced I have noticed that I don't find the same childish satisfaction with one night stands and the bar scene. Having a real household and real family has totally turned me off to the one night stand mentality. Unfortunately finding a real partner seems to be a lot hard than finding a single serving partner on the Internet dating scene.
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| 9/24/2013 1:33:39 AM |
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d_voted
Winnipeg, MB
64, joined Sep. 2008
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YIKES
actually - truthfully - Double YIKES
I approach with fear and trepidation.
D
PS: Yeah the swinging scene is for monkeys not men.
A man of substance expects something substantial not superficial folly.
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| 9/24/2013 9:23:36 PM |
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johneboy40
Brockton, MA
45, joined Feb. 2012
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I finding it hard just to put myself out there. My ex hurt me pretty bad and still does.
I did meet a wonderful woman in Mississippi who I love. My ex killed that dragging her feet on the divorce and she had to give up on me.
I know I'm not ready now
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| 9/25/2013 8:50:43 AM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
66, joined Jul. 2010
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Married and divorced x2, it's a much easier task to keep myself occupied and happy than a woman.
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| 9/25/2013 10:27:06 AM |
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good_dr
Spokane, WA
53, joined Dec. 2011
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Heck, I have more or less tossed in the towel. Even on relationships. I don't really go out of my way looking for something anymore. Not into bars, head games, and other BS. I don't just jump for a gal as well. Besides after mostly taking everything I had to save my kids. I don't have the funds to just go blow on someone for a night. I have returned to family, and not ashamed to say so, and it's time that they need me as well. We all work together. Most gals view me has baggage, looser, or just a dirty old man. Personally I don't care. They are the ones that don't have a clue. I have seen my father through his dieing days, and it's time to help my mother.
Guess you can say that if a gal can not see value in family. Than I don't want a thing to do with them. I'm not going to ditch my kids, and the rest of my family for no woman.
Besides, I'm tired of the hunt. Let a good one find me for a change, but don't expect me to jump at a snap of the fingers.
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| 9/25/2013 9:25:38 PM |
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angeleyes4400
Cranston, RI
35, joined Feb. 2013
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It has taught me to look inside myself and figure out what kind of girlfriend or wife I wanna be next time....and has taught me what kind of things I will put up with and wont. And also what kind of man I want in my life. My outlook was bad and I thought all men are the same lying and cheating jerks.....but since moving to AZ I have met some really nice guys so it gives me faith again. and I know i will find someone special...
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| 9/29/2013 12:31:14 AM |
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alicia1031
Temecula, CA
29, joined Oct. 2012
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i am less naive.
Thanks to being married young, to a man in uniform. i have learned tons about myself. for instance i don't need someone to be next to me 24/7 i can figure out how to fix things, and think out solutions to problems on my own. Second, i will never rely on someone to support me financially.
it has changed my out look that when i want to be with a man. it is because i truly want to be with him and not because i need to be with him or anything other than he makes me happy.
my outlook on marriage, i would rather live with a man then ever go through a piece of paper held over my head, ceremony again!!
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| 9/29/2013 10:09:58 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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It changed me so that now I won't settle. I won't marry a man again if I feel the least bit uncertain about it, no matter if the children all want me to marry him, we have everything all set up and life seems perfect. I won't be stuck in a boring, love-less marriage again! I'm too old for that.
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| 9/29/2013 8:30:14 PM |
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
68, joined Mar. 2009
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After being separated and now divorced I have noticed that I don't find the same childish satisfaction with one night stands and the bar scene. Having a real household and real family has totally turned me off to the one night stand mentality. Unfortunately finding a real partner seems to be a lot hard than finding a single serving partner on the Internet dating scene.
hey, let me know if this helps you get laid.
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| 9/30/2013 7:17:21 PM |
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amiez
Shawnee, OK
32, joined Sep. 2008
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I don't put up with the same crap that I had put up with previously.
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| 10/6/2013 5:22:42 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Easy answer ....... unconditional love in a committed relationship.
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| 10/6/2013 7:00:45 PM |
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tellear
Saint Joseph, MI
51, joined Jun. 2013
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Unfortunately finding a real partner seems to be a lot hard than finding a single serving partner on the Internet dating scene.
From my standpoint, it's may not be something that will happen again for me.
Sure I live a single lifestyle now and mix and mingle when possible. But in reality those days may be behind me.
Relationships can be very devastating and life ruining. Having been through it once at that magnitude is enough. It would be unfair of me to present myself to someone as "husband material" when the wounds are so deep that they'd be getting half a man.
In order for it to happen again, the woman would have to be a truly exceptional, accepting, devoted, and tolerant human being.
As far as the casual sex stuff: I agree. If you've been "husband"... being something else isn't an option.
But perhaps, the more important part of being on a site like this (for me) is just reaching out to other people. Part of the healing process I suppose. And not entirely easy for me because of my quiet nature.
It is what it is 
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| 10/6/2013 8:05:50 PM |
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clyde222
Minooka, IL
53, joined Dec. 2012
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I'll Never Go There Again....Down The Aisle That Is
[Edited 10/6/2013 8:06:31 PM ]
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| 10/8/2013 4:48:30 PM |
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trinkel86
Bristol, FL
31, joined Oct. 2013
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I rushed into a marriage when I was young. Yes we loved each other and are good friends. But as I am going through this divorce I realize the type of partner I want won't lie, won't hide things from me. I won't find that person at a club or bar. I know better now what I am looking for, I also know I will find it.
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| 10/10/2013 10:22:18 PM |
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wk1965
Suwanee, GA
51, joined Aug. 2013
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I am a skeptic....I will probably care for many but very hesitate to "love" any. But I am optimistic that my life will be far more rewarding now that I am on my own and making more mature decisions.
My aunt married very young, then married her high school best friend, then found a man she truly loved and has been with for 35 years. Her advise to me as a woman...Find yourself, enjoy yourself, grow into a very happy person and forget the negative....and above all enjoy your new freedom and she stressed the importance of having fun, doing things with family, friends, new mates, everything....Then once you know yourself, find a good man to share in your journey.....
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| 10/11/2013 6:11:32 AM |
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wk1965
Suwanee, GA
51, joined Aug. 2013
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After 11 years, thanks for nothing. Starting from scratch sucks
Oh you got something after 11 years. You learned what you don't want in a partner and hopefully a gauge of the Ex type and never go there again. You probably learned a few of your weaknessess and can be a better partner in the future. You probably also learned that you can get really, really freaking mad at another human being, which you never knew before.
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