| 9/29/2013 7:20:20 PM |
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ladydarkmoon
Sulphur, OK
43, joined Sep. 2013
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I was married for 16 years lost him to cancer.hes been gone for 4years now. Ive dated some but all I want is a good guy to treat me right. It seems impossible im ready for a commited relationship. Just cant find the right guy.
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| 9/30/2013 12:21:15 PM |
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vida60
Norman, OK
56, joined Jul. 2012
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Don't get in a rush, stop looking, the right guy will find you, you just have to put yourself out there, in the right situations, join some clubs, a gym, a group activity, be aware of the guys intentions due to the fact that there are a lot of scammers that loves to prey on widows/widowers, if you are ready for a relationship, that's great, of course you will never forget the love between you and your late hubby, and that's okay, feel good about yourself, know that you are worth a very good man, don't just settle for whoever may jump at you first.
Good luck in your ventures and God Bless...
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| 10/1/2013 10:39:06 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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When you compare the NEXT to what you had previously -- then you, apparently, didn't have the best -- just one of the rest.
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| 10/1/2013 11:50:10 AM |
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miss_mistylight
Franklin, GA
54, joined Sep. 2013
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best of luck
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| 10/1/2013 5:54:32 PM |
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ladydarkmoon
Sulphur, OK
43, joined Sep. 2013
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Thank you for all the advicei needed that
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| 10/5/2013 10:33:36 AM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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It's possible, yes. I wouldn't look, just let him find you.
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| 10/5/2013 7:14:32 PM |
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meetme28269
Mooresville, NC
71, joined Apr. 2011
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Possibly you are not ready to date yet.
Perhaps you have your deceased spouse on a pedestal and are comparing new men in your life to him.
Was your spouse one that never made a mistake? In other words was he human?
Perhaps you don't have him in perspective so your scales are skewed.
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| 10/8/2013 9:01:02 AM |
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primatx
Spring, TX
61, joined May. 2012
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It's 2 year today since I lost my husband, the sweetest man I ever knew. I haven't dated yet but when I browse profiles, I don't intentionally look for the same type of man as him, but sometimes there is something in someone's eyes or a certain smile or the way they are standing in their pic that reminds me of him. I'd like to think I'm being objective when I message someone and say hello, but who knows. 
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| 10/13/2013 9:59:53 PM |
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icucnmenow1
Owens Cross Roads, AL
61, joined Oct. 2012
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It seems you might still be grieving some. It will be 7 years this week for me and I have yet to find a man that really understands the loss of a spouse. I have looked and had relationships but ,I have found the men don't want a real and loving relationship . One that will complete each other like we had before. They say they want a relationship but really only sex and never want to introduce you to there friends or family which are very important to me. I think I am attractive have a kind and generous heart and love the wanting to give him what he needs sexually but it never seems to work out. I still cherish what I had with my husband but would never compare him to a new love. I hope you find peace and the happiness you deserve.
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| 10/15/2013 7:36:44 AM |
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mr_crash
Corpus Christi, TX
49, joined Oct. 2013
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I think the people in this group make up the best.
This group is made up of people who are not single because they are cheaters, beaters, a** holes and b*tches. We are people who lived up to the vow of till death do us part.
If others can not see the value in that well the hell with them. I am content to wait.
We lived our life together with one moto "have fun life is short" wish I had known how short would have had more fun and less stress over the small things. The next time if there is one i will be a little more understanding and less hung up on small things that in the end don't matter.
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| 10/16/2013 5:53:38 PM |
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d_voted
Winnipeg, MB
64, joined Sep. 2008
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I think the people in this group make up the best.
This group is made up of people who are not single because they are cheaters, beaters, a** holes and b*tches. We are people who lived up to the vow of till death do us part.
If others can not see the value in that well the hell with them. I am content to wait.
We lived our life together with one moto "have fun life is short" wish I had known how short would have had more fun and less stress over the small things. The next time if there is one i will be a little more understanding and less hung up on small things that in the end don't matter.
Great observation sir.
Alas it took me a while to figure out I was an ass.
Striving for something more healthy.
D
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| 10/17/2013 1:50:22 AM |
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mr_crash
Corpus Christi, TX
49, joined Oct. 2013
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Great observation sir.
Alas it took me a while to figure out I was an ass.
Striving for something more healthy.
D
My point was not that you were an a** but you might have been on the reviving end of a bad relation ship.
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| 10/27/2013 12:23:53 AM |
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oldlady4oldman
Tacoma, WA
98, joined Jun. 2012
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I think the people in this group make up the best.
This group is made up of people who are not single because they are cheaters, beaters, a** holes and b*tches. We are people who lived up to the vow of till death do us part.
If others can not see the value in that well the hell with them. I am content to wait.
We lived our life together with one moto "have fun life is short" wish I had known how short would have had more fun and less stress over the small things. The next time if there is one i will be a little more understanding and less hung up on small things that in the end don't matter.
WOW
You are pretty smart for someone so young.
Demonstrating a faithfulness to a vow IS important, which is why I put widowers ahead of others.
Love is what you DO, not what you just say, (or feel) in my book.
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| 11/7/2013 11:47:56 PM |
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talentedmom
Colton, CA
61, joined Oct. 2011
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I don't think so. Things are so different now. The meeting room is now the bedroom and men don't want a stable committed relationship. They want to see how many females they can bed before they die. Sad.
Keep praying for that one who doesn’t fear breaking the norm and wants to be loved and cherished.
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| 11/8/2013 11:39:53 AM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
74, joined Mar. 2008
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If you "had the best", then I guess all other men would not come up to your standards, so,
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| 11/8/2013 12:46:19 PM |
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barb61270
De Witt, IA
64, joined Nov. 2011
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If you "had the best", then I guess all other men would not come up to your standards, so,
 so true
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| 11/13/2013 5:23:28 PM |
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softltouch
Denver, CO
48, joined Sep. 2013
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I share your pain. This is so ridiculous man it is hard to even keep considering that there are guys out there that want a serious relationship for any reason
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| 11/14/2013 8:11:06 AM |
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lis629
Dickinson, TX
54, joined Aug. 2013
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I lost my husband over 3 1/2 years ago...we are single but not by choice. The one thing we all have in common is we are not afraid of commitment...but we know what is involved to make that commitment. So that makes us a little more careful with hearts . Good luck guys, have fun and be safe! )
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| 11/14/2013 11:27:26 AM |
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fairysparkles
Pickens, SC
51, joined Dec. 2008
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I think the people in this group make up the best.
This group is made up of people who are not single because they are cheaters, beaters, a** holes and b*tches. We are people who lived up to the vow of till death do us part.
If others can not see the value in that well the hell with them. I am content to wait.
We lived our life together with one moto "have fun life is short" wish I had known how short would have had more fun and less stress over the small things. The next time if there is one i will be a little more understanding and less hung up on small things that in the end don't matter.
This was the best thing I have read in a while, Those little things were some of the things that you miss the most, I know for me they are!
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| 11/14/2013 4:01:27 PM |
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bigpapas23
Kalamazoo, MI
51, joined Oct. 2013
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I think that u are not going to find a person that u had,but u got to find whats inside of the next person that going to make u happy
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| 11/15/2013 8:42:03 PM |
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mybestshot
Greenbrier, TN
67, joined Jun. 2010
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Do you think you can have more then one great love in your life? Maybe we are only entitled to one. I know you can love more than one person but I'm talking about a love that is unconditional..a true partnership. Personally I don't want to be alone the rest of my life but I don't want to settle. Love is caring about another person so much that you think of him or her first. If both parties do that, you both get all you need out of the relationship. When you hit the rough patches it is mostly because one or both of you are thinking only of yourself..that's what gets you in trouble. I want to believe...yes you can find another person to be happy with.
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| 11/29/2013 12:23:07 PM |
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shaggyoledog
Ocean Shores, WA
69, joined Apr. 2011
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There were good times and bad times
Some highs and some lows
Neither so perfect, GOD only knows
After seaching the world over
I finally found love
But gone way too soon, no trumpets, no doves
Our time was cut short
I'll not try to compare
What we had together, was certainly rare
There were never 'I do's'
But the ring on her finger
Meant we were hitched, hook line or sinker
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| 11/30/2013 12:29:50 PM |
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shaggyoledog
Ocean Shores, WA
69, joined Apr. 2011
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I guess you could say, that I've been lucky
And I'd have to say, that's because of you
Who knew sooner would be so much sooner
And that our later would never come.......................I miss you
[Edited 11/30/2013 12:31:12 PM ]
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| 11/30/2013 1:22:55 PM |
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monalisa9
Chambersburg, PA
51, joined Jan. 2013
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I lost my husband a little over 2 years ago. He was a wonderful man. But I think would he want me to be miserable and alone the rest of my life? Mourning something that can never be again. Think about what your lost loved one would want for you. I'm sure it would be happiness.
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| 12/4/2013 2:50:22 PM |
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shaggyoledog
Ocean Shores, WA
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| 2/10/2014 10:47:22 PM |
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spoiledwidower
Hagerstown, MD
61, joined Jul. 2010
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have the same question about women.. so far my answer has been no.
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| 2/13/2014 3:14:32 PM |
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venus336
Oxford, CT
67, joined Jan. 2014
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I chide myself sometimes, thinking that I'm just too picky. It's not that either of us was perfect. When we were young, there were times we both wondered if we would make it. But we were committed, and we loved each other. When you have a lifetime working at something that is such a high priority, you make it a thing of exquisite beauty. The diamond that is your life together gets polished to such a degree that it delights not only you two, but those around you as well. How do you do that again? It took a lifetime! My only hope is to find someone who lived a similar life. This is why I could not consider dating younger(that is MUCH younger) men. After 5 years, I am feeling whole again, but I can never settle for a mediocre relationship.
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| 2/13/2014 5:46:02 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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If you think you're late husband was great and no one measures up then you'll never find one. No one will ever be like him. Most likely you're doomed to loneliness if you keep that outlook. We tend to put our late spouses on a pedestal(which is the norm) and it stands in the way of having a relationship.
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| 2/14/2014 3:08:41 AM |
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teddygreene
Show Low, AZ
56, joined Dec. 2013
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Was married for over 20yrs.by her side for a year while she was in a coma. It has been very very hard since my wife passed two yrs ago. I know why i am writing this right now. I need support from others thathave been thru similar. I ask where are the good woman?we all are here. It just takes finding each other.
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| 2/26/2014 3:05:58 PM |
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tasgosa
Knob Noster, MO
62, joined Jul. 2013
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15-1/2 yrs.....
I made her a Promise...to find a New Love...that I can love as much...and as well...as I loved Her..!!!
I'm going to continue Trying...
But it doesn't get any Easier....year after year..!!!
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| 2/26/2014 7:54:02 PM |
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edwardskc5qyn
Conroe, TX
54, joined Feb. 2013
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I know what you mean. Mine has been gone for 3 years and it's hard to find the right one again. I want to be able to have the feeling again, but the guys I've seen don't seem to match up to what I had.
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| 2/28/2014 12:07:34 PM |
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swtsimple
Midlothian, IL
49, joined Feb. 2014
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I understand its off topic but is there any other parents out there whos in same boat as me. Or am i tugging along alone aimlessly. My son shouldn't of died, he was only 17. His entire life ahead of him. I love you christopher! Love, mom.
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| 3/19/2014 6:04:54 PM |
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txlady2476
Waco, TX
58, joined Feb. 2014
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Tomorrow marks 7yrs for the loss of my husband. I believe each person is unique in there own way. It has taken me some time to realize that men are not all the same. And the man that I had in my life for nearly thirty yrs was a very special man.
I have an open heart to have that kind of love again. But its in Gods hands
If things are ment to be they will be.
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| 3/21/2014 7:14:38 AM |
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1234purplehaze
Ville Platte, LA
58, joined Feb. 2014
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it very hard to find anotehr to whom you will click with--dont be in a hurry-
time will take care of it---ask GOD to send you another--be patient though-
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| 3/21/2014 11:30:26 AM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
74, joined Mar. 2008
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I doubt if there is such a thing as a great man, or woman, I know I am not, think back those of you who were married several years, you went thru many pleasant, and unpleasant experiences with your mate. probably will be the same with the next one. so don't expect mr. or mrs. perfect, because I don't think they exist. only human beings.
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| 3/22/2014 8:23:32 AM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
51, joined Apr. 2013
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After many dates with bitter divorced men, a wise friend said to me that I was dating in the wrong group. Divorced and never married men choose to be divorced and never married. They are not likely to ever measure up for you. Their conversations will be negative about the women in their past. Their futures will be in response to the negativity they are living. He was right.
Dating a widowed man was what I needed. Someone who had been married a long time and went through similar emotions. One who didn't choose to be single and wanted the commitment of a relationship. One who knew how to love and understand. One who can appreciate positive comments about my children's father and not have an issue. One who can see his picture on the wall and not say you need to take that down. One that wants you to meet the family and be part of your family. One that knows just what to say to make you feel again.
This all comes natural from people who were married and lost their spouse ...
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| 3/31/2014 1:17:49 PM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
66, joined Sep. 2011
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No.
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| 3/31/2014 8:34:33 PM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
55, joined Dec. 2012
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Yes
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| 7/4/2014 8:31:21 PM |
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daisy_so_hood
Phoenix, AZ
41, joined Mar. 2014
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If you "had the best", then I guess all other men would not come up to your standards, so,
Very true, hard to find a good man when you know he was the love of your life. That he cld do no wrong, and that he always said the right things to you. And he was the most gorgeous man on earth. Plus his mom will agree with me on all of this...lol. But, I can still hope and try...right?
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| 7/5/2014 4:22:47 PM |
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bunnyfastard
Fort Morgan, CO
58, joined Jun. 2008
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Not with a closed mind.
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| 7/6/2014 11:50:21 AM |
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myrasbubble
Festus, MO
48, joined May. 2014
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I have an open mind and a big heart.
It just seems I have been out of the loop for so long not sure how to get back in.
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| 7/9/2014 1:16:16 PM |
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widowedand61
Deltona, FL
64, joined May. 2014
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No if you are looking to replace him. We can not replace a loved one we lost. My be the next man in your life will be the best if you let him and not compare him to the one you lost.
There is no way I want to replace my wife with someone like her.
Good luck finding your next best.
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| 7/16/2014 7:55:12 AM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
66, joined Sep. 2011
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No if you are looking to replace him. We can not replace a loved one we lost. My be the next man in your life will be the best if you let him and not compare him to the one you lost.
There is no way I want to replace my wife with someone like her.
Good luck finding your next best.
Wishing you the Best
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| 7/16/2014 3:47:03 PM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
67, joined Aug. 2011
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Wishing the best to everyone here 
Sunshine & Happiness to all 
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| 7/26/2014 9:07:38 PM |
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peachy1954
Sacramento, CA
63, joined Oct. 2010
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I think that mind set will probably doom you .
I was married to a great guy, thankfully, but I try to keep it forward in my mind that what was best for me then is maybe not exactly what is best for me now.
Will there be some basic traits in common? Yea sure my choices are not totally trashed just because I was widowed but I don't want a duplicate in my future. Anymore than I want to be that for someone else.
It is not betraying a former spouse to say they were not perfect or that your needs change as life moves forward.
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| 7/31/2014 9:30:39 PM |
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chellenm
Forest City, NC
39, joined May. 2014
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Damn,this is so true. thanks for putting into words how I feel in my heart since I lost my husband he was only 36 and all the things we stressed about don't even matter now. I know he's still Close. R.I.P Michael Marks,you were loved.
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| 8/1/2014 1:36:52 AM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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you know one of the worse things is the men don't want you to talk about your late husband.
I was married for 33 years had 3 kids and 4 grand kids to him. everything I did I did with him. Men talk about their ex wives but heaven forbid if I mention Tom. If I hear "your still healing" one more time I am going to take the frying pan and hit someone over the head with it. I Face the facts he is gone I have to move on to do that I need another love in my life.
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| 8/1/2014 12:11:55 PM |
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103tl1
Nesbit, MS
67, joined Jul. 2011
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I have found that those who have not experienced loss of their spouse do not understand. We did not choose to be single, we did not fall out of love. When someone tells me to "get over it" I find it easier to get over them. To know me is to understand what made me who I am. I will accept the loss of my loved one but I will never forget.
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| 8/2/2014 12:55:43 AM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
67, joined Aug. 2011
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I have found that those who have not experienced loss of their spouse do not understand. We did not choose to be single, we did not fall out of love. When someone tells me to "get over it" I find it easier to get over them. To know me is to understand what made me who I am. I will accept the loss of my loved one but I will never forget.
I find this is so true, thanks 103 
Especially the part...understanding they helped you to become who you are and we can accept but will never forget.
I will never "get over" it but I will get through it 
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| 8/2/2014 10:11:12 AM |
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tasgosa
Knob Noster, MO
62, joined Jul. 2013
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It CAN be done....but Difficult to find someone Compatible...AND...Close enough to make
it Plausible to Meet..!!
MY biggest ~Peeve~ is that most women put up a *Wall* ...and ANYone Outside it just doesn't Qualify...
No Matter how _Perfect_ the match -MAY- be...!!!
I would've been ~Off-The-Market~...YEARS Ago...if not for the
 %#@&)(!! "Distance-Factor"!!
You Can't find another ~Great One~....IF...you won't Discuss the Potential...
...at least a Little-Bit..!!!
 
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| 8/4/2014 2:01:23 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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I know this is an old thread but I agree with others on not rushing it and just wait on love to find you, if that makes sense. You may be looking for someone to fit the bill of who your husband was and that won't work. You will have to be ready and willing to accept someone totally new and different and that may take some time.
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| 8/7/2014 2:26:50 PM |
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tasgosa
Knob Noster, MO
62, joined Jul. 2013
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ThereAreSomeGoodOnesStillAvailable!!
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| 8/9/2014 2:25:21 PM |
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billyytt
Dearborn, MI
45, joined Jul. 2014
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I lost my wife a year and half ago. We were together22 years. I miss her very much. And will always love her. We were a great couple and we still weren't perfect. We were getting there each and every day. And I don't think you find perfection you both make perfection. At some point you have to take a chance because you took the chance when you first met your husband. I'm not saying it's easy because I still have problems with my wife being gone . My wife would have wanted me to be happy and just being through what we all have one thing we all know is life's too short... hugs to you all....Billy
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| 8/9/2014 5:54:37 PM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
67, joined Aug. 2011
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I lost my wife a year and half ago. We were together22 years. I miss her very much. And will always love her. We were a great couple and we still weren't perfect. We were getting there each and every day. And I don't think you find perfection you both make perfection. At some point you have to take a chance because you took the chance when you first met your husband. I'm not saying it's easy because I still have problems with my wife being gone . My wife would have wanted me to be happy and just being through what we all have one thing we all know is life's too short... hugs to you all....Billy
I am so sorry for your loss Billy. But you are among friends here. Wishing you the best
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| 8/16/2014 7:43:14 PM |
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yuhaszb
Indiana, PA
45, joined May. 2014
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There were good times and bad times
Some highs and some lows
Neither so perfect, GOD only knows
After seaching the world over
I finally found love
But gone way too soon, no trumpets, no doves
Our time was cut short
I'll not try to compare
What we had together, was certainly rare
There were never 'I do's'
But the ring on her finger
Meant we were hitched, hook line or sinker
This is very nice
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| 8/16/2014 7:52:45 PM |
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yuhaszb
Indiana, PA
45, joined May. 2014
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I lost my husband 7 years ago to cancer. It is time to start a new chapter in my life. I know that I will never forget all the things that we have been through together nor would I want to there were many great memories. but now it is time to make some new memories with someone else that will appreciate and cherish for the person that I am. and I will appreciate and cheris the person that they are. I am not looking for someone like my husband because everyone is different. We are all treasures that GOD made in his image and we are blessed to have known a special love that only a husband and a wife share.
We will always our precious  that God gave us to love, honor and cherish til death do us part
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| 8/16/2014 11:18:49 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Yes ... God made many wonderful men ---what you need to do OP is realize that you are hurting your own chances by staying in denial..........and making comparisons certainly isn't going to help you any, either. j/s
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| 8/23/2014 11:58:41 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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I have found that those who have not experienced loss of their spouse do not understand. We did not choose to be single, we did not fall out of love. When someone tells me to "get over it" I find it easier to get over them. To know me is to understand what made me who I am. I will accept the loss of my loved one but I will never forget.
My husband and I were married for 33 years before he died.
I was with a friend (only a friend) tonight he was talking about his ex-wife this and ex-wife that but when I said something about my late husband he said that's enough talk about him.
I did meet a man on DH the 1st man that said how do people expect you to talk about yourself with out talking about him, 33 years is a long time you spent more than 1/2 of your life with him. I am already falling in love with this man
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| 8/24/2014 12:12:16 AM |
Can you find a great man after having the best? |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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I lost my husband a little over 2 years ago. He was a wonderful man. But I think would he want me to be miserable and alone the rest of my life? Mourning something that can never be again. Think about what your lost loved one would want for you. I'm sure it would be happiness.
The day my husband died(cancer) he held me in his arms and said " You are beautiful and special you can have any man you want do not settle for less than you deserve" He wanted me to find another love not to be lonely.
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| 9/27/2014 6:46:11 PM |
Can you find a great man after having the best? |
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maviebaby400
Salt Lake City, UT
54, joined Mar. 2014
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Its called being patient. I lost my husband 3 years ago to cancer.
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