| 11/29/2013 6:07:29 AM |
What is your goal,when the dust settles and healing is finished? |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
61, joined Apr. 2006
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| 1. Stay single,casual date,and casual sex |
| 2. Review,what happiness is. |
| 3. Find love and commitment again |
| 4. Pursue remarriage |
| 5. Stay a loaner |
| 6. fill in the blank |
Keep in mind divorce happens,because of 2 people, it's never one sided.We all have flaws.
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| 12/1/2013 5:49:34 AM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
61, joined Apr. 2006
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For those who were married long term,over 15/20 years.I'm sure they see dating has changed drastic.For some they never heal,because they chose not to.Sometimes one can be so guarded.I fined that true with myself.As for checking something in this poll,would be 3 and 4 in the same order.
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| 12/1/2013 10:42:52 PM |
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anja_lou514
Kissimmee, FL
42, joined May. 2011
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My original goal was #1. I found someone that made #3 the reality. If/when it ends, I'll switch to #2 for a while just to get myself centered again.
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| 12/2/2013 11:35:11 AM |
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pickygirl72
Picher, OK
46, joined Sep. 2011
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I picked #3 for your poll. But I also picked #4, too. Was married 20 yrs.
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| 12/3/2013 12:20:40 AM |
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efb1982
Port Orchard, WA
35, joined Nov. 2013
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I stayed single the first year after the split but probably should have for two...but I'm finally ready for romance again since everything else in my life is going so wel.
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| 12/3/2013 5:28:31 AM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
61, joined Apr. 2006
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Everyone is different,I started with 2 on the poll,3,4,5 are in a street fight ,lol.
Only because some men are like bouncing balls.
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| 12/3/2013 8:06:22 AM |
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
68, joined Mar. 2009
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i've decided to rent for awhile. 
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| 12/3/2013 10:32:37 PM |
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legaleye
Columbus, OH
65, joined Mar. 2008
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Being newly single was interesting after 20 years but that was quite a while ago. My goal has always been a long term committed relationship, and have walked that path a few times, but well, found the fork in the road.
What I find interesting is that I have managed to communicate with very few people on dating sites over the years. I would guess that most are just here playing and are either married or otherwise spoken for, or are just passing time. Amazing how few people even respond, let alone engage in meaningful conversation leading to something more. I also have very few things that I just have to have in a relationship, everything else is negotiable; but even then, many people are unrealistic in what they seek for what they have to offer.
Heck, I am not even trying to rob the proverbial cradle and look for people in my age group.
I will say this though, and its personal preference. Nobody who outweighs me and I and finding this somewhat hard to find.
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| 12/4/2013 9:30:07 AM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
66, joined Jul. 2010
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 I certainly can't deny having some flaws, but I have been married twice, for around 7 & 23. For me it always seemed a struggle to keep my partner happy, they didn't seem capable of being happy on their own.
I am retired, 4 kids and 4 grand kids. I have no intentions of looking for anyone that might create more work or drama for me.
I am not a loner, I can just be happy with out a partner.
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| 12/4/2013 9:56:38 PM |
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texas_aries
Austin, TX
43, joined Oct. 2013
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When I first divorced, I had no intention of dating. I wanted to concentrate on my kids and myself. For that, I'd choose #5.
However now that I've been divorced for over five years, I'm thinking more along the lines of #1 & #2.
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| 12/5/2013 2:38:41 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Well seeing how I tried #1,2,3 with no luck what so ever, and I have no interest in #4, I guess it is good old #5 for me.
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| 12/5/2013 3:22:25 PM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
61, joined Apr. 2006
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It great to read others view points.We know at times they change,as well as how our life leads us.There is no right or wrong answers,because we make it personal goals,day by day.
I hope everyone here can always leave a positive comment,with their life.And always remember we wear our own shoes,we walk in.Positive attract positive.And a few times we make get a shocker..lol.((((hugs for all)))
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| 12/5/2013 4:37:18 PM |
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legaleye
Columbus, OH
65, joined Mar. 2008
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What is interesting about all of this is that it should be pretty easy. Then human nature takes hold. There are a couple thoughts here. First, either you are all in or its a waste of time... you cant have half a relationship. Second, get rid of doubt. Amazing how many people come to the conclusion that because things are going well there must be something wrong. And then they work to make sure it does go wrong.
Life should be simple. People make it way too complicated.
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| 12/6/2013 1:42:24 PM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
61, joined Apr. 2006
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What is interesting about all of this is that it should be pretty easy. Then human nature takes hold. There are a couple thoughts here. First, either you are all in or its a waste of time... you cant have half a relationship. Second, get rid of doubt. Amazing how many people come to the conclusion that because things are going well there must be something wrong. And then they work to make sure it does go wrong.
Life should be simple. People make it way too complicated.
I'll have to agree with you.I have always said a relationship is 100%/100% by each party.If you only give 50%,what do you do with the other 50%?? Put it in your back pocket?
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| 12/6/2013 6:59:08 PM |
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angeleyes4400
Cranston, RI
35, joined Feb. 2013
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#3 I am already healed from my last relationship and ready to start a new chapter of my life with the right man!
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| 12/8/2013 9:47:28 AM |
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1svelte
Chino Valley, AZ
39, joined Apr. 2010
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There is no definite answer to that question. Things happen when you least expect it. If you try too hard to stick to one path, you tend to run into a dead end.
[Edited 12/8/2013 9:47:56 AM ]
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| 2/6/2014 12:23:27 AM |
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smokincigars
Covington, TN
68, joined Oct. 2011
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First choice: Find love and commitment again.
Second choice: Pursue remarriage (assuming she is also interested).
Third choice: Stay single, casual date and casual sex.
Whatever else happens, staying a longer is not an option I will accept.
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| 2/10/2014 6:41:33 PM |
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countryboy4279
Brighton, CO
38, joined Oct. 2013
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For the poll, I put #3, because I would EVENTUALLY like to be in a relationship again.
I'm not sure about marriage, it kind of seems like a joke to me after the divorce.
For a while now, I just want to focus on getting my sh*t together and focus on enjoying my daughter as much as I can. For that reason, staying a loner seems to be my short-term plan.
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| 2/12/2014 8:17:34 AM |
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
68, joined Mar. 2009
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i'm waaaaaaaay too retired to have goals.
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| 2/12/2014 2:32:10 PM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
61, joined Apr. 2006
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You maybe right not to have goals.The point being is healing and understanding your own flaws.Only you can repair.As well as forgiving a past.Being honest with yourself.
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| 3/9/2014 12:53:59 PM |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
61, joined Aug. 2011
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I'll stay flying solo. I think I'm burned out trying to make another lady happy. Might have been whom I was with, but so far all the women that I've met expect me to be their source of entertainment. How come my opinion doesn't count?
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| 3/10/2014 3:00:35 PM |
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caliokc
Oklahoma City, OK
45, joined Jan. 2014
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I'm thinking a philanthropist extraordinaire. Just kidding. Thought a lot about it. My options are open but I guess I'm not yet. I'd like to think out of the box with something fulfilling & not ordinary.
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