| 1/10/2014 10:11:47 PM |
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waiting2holdu
Renton, WA
40, joined Feb. 2013
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I spent the past few days crying every time I looked at a photo of him and now I seem to have this numbness that is hard to describe. I just feel like I am in a daze and thought I am thinking of him my mind seems to be blocking out reality. I don't think my state should be so "calm" so to say. The burial is in the morning. 
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| 1/10/2014 10:20:14 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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My deepest condolences...I know exactly how you feel...I wish I could give you comforting words of wisdom, but I'm afraid the numbness will stay with you for awhile longer...please contact your local Hospice...they offer free grief counseling...
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| 1/11/2014 6:21:00 AM |
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qlindar
Paradise, CA
65, joined Nov. 2013
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Sorry for your loss. The numbness is probably a way for you to cope with the all of the emotions that you are experiencing. The grief counselors are very knowledgeable at Hospice. Praying that God will comfort you though this. After my loss I seemed so "controlled" and did all of the things I had to do of notifying people and all that legal junk, but the grief and crying and sadness returned as I worked my way through it.
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| 1/11/2014 8:18:16 AM |
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waiting2holdu
Renton, WA
40, joined Feb. 2013
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Thank you both I'm going to contact them soon.
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| 1/11/2014 12:43:11 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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I'm so sorry. These first days are so horrible.
I agree that the numbness is what will get you through right now. I believe that your body and mind can't handle the grief all at once, so it shuts down things while it's rewiring you to better enable you to handle it later.
You'll be in a fog for awhile, at least I was.
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| 1/11/2014 1:18:18 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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God bless you sweetie. Just do your grieving. You may feel like you're dying but you're physically not. It's too early to even know what to consider. Just breathe and take it a moment at a time. You're going through what is called "survival". The mind helps protect us even when we don't know it.
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| 1/11/2014 2:57:24 PM |
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tinkersdamnn
Victoria, BC
62, joined Dec. 2013
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think of your lost one and if a smile touches the corners of your mouth-then everything is ok
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| 1/11/2014 4:50:24 PM |
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waiting2holdu
Renton, WA
40, joined Feb. 2013
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I'm a call away L, js 
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| 1/11/2014 11:14:11 PM |
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thenorwegian69
Kent, WA
47, joined Dec. 2013
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I cannot begin to understand the shock and disbelief that you must be feeling. You must feel the gap left in life more than anyone. If there is anything I can do to be of practical help, please let me know. I hope you can find comfort in the memory of him.
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| 1/18/2014 6:53:47 AM |
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morejenn
Lower Lake, CA
45, joined Feb. 2013
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after the sheriff dropped me off from identifying my husband of 15 yrs. his sister Karen and mother kept his ashes from me and made my two teens lie to me about there secret funeral that I was excluded from. well they can have his ashes. trust and believe the numbness wears off. when the pain of permanent loss hits, let it out! scream and break shit don't hurt anyone, but let that shit out! I still miss him and its been almost 3 years. sometimes I feel him,get a whiff of his smell, strangers look like him from far away,a good movie that fits is with Adam Sandler Rain On Me. he does a great job in it. some would say we are all connected like a stream of electricity. when we die we return to the energy source. He did leave the song he wrote for me. I also had the pleasure to have loved someone like him. His family well God Bless them all. they had no idea what kind of person he was, I was there I was in the trenches with him and they weren't, his mother thinks I am the cause of his drug problem, lololol they should look at the head of the family, she is why Ben turned to drugs long before he ever met me. I loved him so much that it has taken over two years before I could even begin to quell the sorrow and pick up the fragments left of my life and seek another mate only this time I know a lot more than I did then,
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| 1/21/2014 7:30:42 AM |
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oceanair777
Reston, VA
53, joined Feb. 2012
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I spent the past few days crying every time I looked at a photo of him and now I seem to have this numbness that is hard to describe. I just feel like I am in a daze and thought I am thinking of him my mind seems to be blocking out reality. I don't think my state should be so "calm" so to say. The burial is in the morning.
Blessings for you during your moment of grieving. Pray for strength, understanding, acceptance and forward progress in time. Try not to displace feelings onto others and remember it's one day at a time. May the Creator send you a comforter to help guide you through the days ahead.
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