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motorcycleman4u
West Jordan, UT
48, joined Jul. 2013
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Why is it some women want a man to respond to their profile like their filling out a job application ?
I hear all the time in profiles send more than hello or i'm not going to bother talking to you. This is after you read their profile with next to nothing in it I found this kind of ironic.
They want your life's story but aren't willing to give any of themselves and they wonder why they are single. Dating is so we can get to know each other yes ? Meet us part way guys don't want to do all the heavy lifting.
Hello is just a ice breaker you ought to be flattered the guy messaged you. Quit being so up tight and once in awhile respond to one not everyone is a troll. It's not like he sent you naked pics or asked for yours. I know women like to be chased but this is crazy to me. You could just be letting the right one go just my .02 cents.
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| 3/2/2014 5:58:57 PM |
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dreamofangels
West Jordan, UT
53, joined Jul. 2013
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Some times men tell you one thing when mean another from my experience men were the confusing ones still I'm glad while not really looking anymore my best friend ended up being the man I was looking for all along but I got lucky. JS 
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| 3/2/2014 6:46:19 PM |
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motorcycleman4u
West Jordan, UT
48, joined Jul. 2013
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Some times men tell you one thing when mean another from my experience men were the confusing ones still I'm glad while not really looking anymore my best friend ended up being the man I was looking for all along but I got lucky. JS
Not all men are alike it's just like anything else you have to take a risk to get a reward once in awhile. You are benefiting from taking that leap it was not luck you just put your guard down finally. Not all women are that close minded either some are just so guarded or picky they will die alone. I am sure this is not unique to women but I don't read guys profiles to know I dig chicks. 
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| 3/3/2014 4:47:05 AM |
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forthehordekt
Roy, UT
34, joined Jan. 2013
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I tend to figure the ones who expect men to do all the heavy lifting, so to speak, during the dating process, are the ones who are also going to expect us to do the heavy lifting during the relationship. So bullet dodged lol. Relationships are definitely a two-way street requiring equal effort on both sides.
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| 7/11/2014 10:09:22 PM |
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51percent
Ogden, UT
44, joined Sep. 2013
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Why is it some women want a man to respond to their profile like their filling out a job application ?
I hear all the time in profiles send more than hello or i'm not going to bother talking to you. This is after you read their profile with next to nothing in it I found this kind of ironic.
They want your life's story but aren't willing to give any of themselves and they wonder why they are single. Dating is so we can get to know each other yes ? Meet us part way guys don't want to do all the heavy lifting.
Hello is just a ice breaker you ought to be flattered the guy messaged you. Quit being so up tight and once in awhile respond to one not everyone is a troll. It's not like he sent you naked pics or asked for yours. I know women like to be chased but this is crazy to me. You could just be letting the right one go just my .02 cents.
I can't talk for all 'women', but I personally like a message with some content. Maybe not a full resume, but enough to know a guy can carry a meaningful conversation. I am also an open book though, so do agree it needs to be a two way conversation.
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| 7/12/2014 7:03:31 AM |
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topendstuff
Eden, UT
61, joined May. 2007
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I don't send out many messages much any more. But when I do I always try to include some reference to a comment in their profile, just to show that I read it and agree with the statement. Or a witticism about something in said profile. Most generally after this much effort they could at least be cordial with a response. Or they (not just men) are looking to climb the "social ladder" and be seen somewhere doing something for some exposure. Or thrilled for a "one night stand". (Might get something that penicillin cant cure?) Could be just trying to get a free meal and a movie. the last few have been system abusers. Milking SSD for all it is worth. Some are like in a halfway house for drug abuse or something like that. They need a financial statement of assets, when in fact their financial statement consists of the 2 pennies in their pocket that they are rubbing together trying to get Abe to shed a tear.
All that said..... Doesn't really matter who nor what.... The true personality of people indirectly shows through their response content. (If they respond at all!) To get a herd of questions and no personal content back in the reply generally throws a red flag up an would rather walk away than to waste time and effort going 80 miles per hour on a dead end street that has a brick wall at the end. Sorry to burst anyone's bubble but the there is gwanno on both side of the fence.
With these types available. I would rather be by myself. I am a hold out for the right Mz. Right On
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| 7/13/2014 12:42:05 PM |
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51percent
Ogden, UT
44, joined Sep. 2013
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Holding out for the right one, is all one can do in a world as messed up as ours.
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| 7/13/2014 10:02:25 PM |
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rick0123
Salt Lake City, UT
31, joined Jan. 2012
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I read guys profiles! 
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| 10/24/2014 10:46:10 AM |
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cindy1358
Ogden, UT
58, joined Oct. 2011
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I like reading a profile to see if the man is religious,smokes has kid under the age of 18 living with him or not just little hints that tells me to not contact this person or I will take a chance and contact them. If I receive a message and their is no profile pic I will not contact them. For instance if a man is raising a young child and I don't want that in my life it is nice to see it in their profile and then I will not contact them.
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| 10/25/2014 12:17:16 PM |
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51percent
Ogden, UT
44, joined Sep. 2013
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I don't send out many messages much any more. But when I do I always try to include some reference to a comment in their profile, just to show that I read it and agree with the statement. Or a witticism about something in said profile. Most generally after this much effort they could at least be cordial with a response. Or they (not just men) are looking to climb the "social ladder" and be seen somewhere doing something for some exposure. Or thrilled for a "one night stand". (Might get something that penicillin cant cure?) Could be just trying to get a free meal and a movie. the last few have been system abusers. Milking SSD for all it is worth. Some are like in a halfway house for drug abuse or something like that. They need a financial statement of assets, when in fact their financial statement consists of the 2 pennies in their pocket that they are rubbing together trying to get Abe to shed a tear.
All that said..... Doesn't really matter who nor what.... The true personality of people indirectly shows through their response content. (If they respond at all!) To get a herd of questions and no personal content back in the reply generally throws a red flag up an would rather walk away than to waste time and effort going 80 miles per hour on a dead end street that has a brick wall at the end. Sorry to burst anyone's bubble but the there is gwanno on both side of the fence.
With these types available. I would rather be by myself. I am a hold out for the right Mz. Right On
Re-read this thread, being as it has come back up this week.
Something has struck me oddly about you Top. You always complain about woman wanting you to spend money on them. I am sorry you feel woman are such gold diggers. Have you ever read, or heard of 'Love Languages'? I dont know all your stories, but one where a first date asked for jewlery comes to mind (from another one of your posts). I can see scenarios where you are at a fair or trade show where I may point out some crafty piece of handmade jewlery that I liked. Not neccessarily expecting or asking for it to be bought. I am just wondering if maybe you mis-interpret women.
Another thing that stood out to me in your response, about someone responding with a 'herd of questions'... Sometimes I like to see if a guy is interested enough to ask questions back. If I ask a few questions (so many guys profiles say 'if you want to know more, just ask') and they come back with just answers to the questions and no questions for me, then I tend to come to the conclusion that they are not interested in knowing anything about me. Same with just a conversations, if I share something personal and nothing comes back in direct response about those details, I feel like they dont really want to know me and lose interest.
I am sorry I have used some of your threads to 'pick a heated discusion and make some waves'. I am sorry you think all women are just out for your money. I wonder how much of that falls into a categorie like a man only wanting to date perfect looking barbie doll types and then complain that all women are so high maitance. (not that all barbie types are, just an example)....
I have rambled to long....
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| 10/26/2014 10:09:43 PM |
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topendstuff
Eden, UT
61, joined May. 2007
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Re-read this thread, being as it has come back up this week.
Something has struck me oddly about you Top. You always complain about woman wanting you to spend money on them. I am sorry you feel woman are such gold diggers. Have you ever read, or heard of 'Love Languages'? I dont know all your stories, but one where a first date asked for jewlery comes to mind (from another one of your posts). I can see scenarios where you are at a fair or trade show where I may point out some crafty piece of handmade jewlery that I liked. Not neccessarily expecting or asking for it to be bought. I am just wondering if maybe you mis-interpret women.
Another thing that stood out to me in your response, about someone responding with a 'herd of questions'... Sometimes I like to see if a guy is interested enough to ask questions back. If I ask a few questions (so many guys profiles say 'if you want to know more, just ask') and they come back with just answers to the questions and no questions for me, then I tend to come to the conclusion that they are not interested in knowing anything about me. Same with just a conversations, if I share something personal and nothing comes back in direct response about those details, I feel like they dont really want to know me and lose interest.
I am sorry I have used some of your threads to 'pick a heated discusion and make some waves'. I am sorry you think all women are just out for your money. I wonder how much of that falls into a categorie like a man only wanting to date perfect looking barbie doll types and then complain that all women are so high maitance. (not that all barbie types are, just an example)....
I have rambled to long....
Nah. Pretty much wrong. It was on the counter being priced up for sale. No just a passing comment of how nice it looked.
"Barbie"? Yep Barbie for me. That does not mean knock down drag out gorgeous. With two separate un-named land masses on her chest. Just that there might be Mz. Perfect for me somewhere. More like going the same direction on a two way street.
And I read your attempts at making waves. Sorry I am not taking the bait.
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| 10/27/2014 9:57:34 AM |
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51percent
Ogden, UT
44, joined Sep. 2013
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Nah. Pretty much wrong. It was on the counter being priced up for sale. No just a passing comment of how nice it looked.
"Barbie"? Yep Barbie for me. That does not mean knock down drag out gorgeous. With two separate un-named land masses on her chest. Just that there might be Mz. Perfect for me somewhere. More like going the same direction on a two way street.
And I read your attempts at making waves. Sorry I am not taking the bait.
I already assumed as much. You are one of those dish it but cant take it kind of people. Tis all good. Takes all types.
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| 10/28/2014 6:04:52 PM |
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jimirockzzz
Salt Lake City, UT
59, joined Jun. 2012
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Yeah how much do you make what do you drive where do you live. Yeah if you have a lot of money you can have whatever you want if you don't have any money you can have a date with yourself every night personally I don't look for golddiggers there sure are a lot in Utah that's what I call insecure. Yaaa daaaa
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| 10/28/2014 9:09:14 PM |
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topendstuff
Eden, UT
61, joined May. 2007
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I already assumed as much. You are one of those dish it but cant take it kind of people. Tis all good. Takes all types.
Oops. Wrong again
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| 10/29/2014 12:21:00 PM |
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51percent
Ogden, UT
44, joined Sep. 2013
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'From error to error one discovers the entire truth.' ~S.Freud
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| 11/1/2014 1:21:48 PM |
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shyann29
Riverton, UT
35, joined Jun. 2011
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Why is it some women want a man to respond to their profile like their filling out a job application ?
I hear all the time in profiles send more than hello or i'm not going to bother talking to you. This is after you read their profile with next to nothing in it I found this kind of ironic.
They want your life's story but aren't willing to give any of themselves and they wonder why they are single. Dating is so we can get to know each other yes ? Meet us part way guys don't want to do all the heavy lifting.
Hello is just a ice breaker you ought to be flattered the guy messaged you. Quit being so up tight and once in awhile respond to one not everyone is a troll. It's not like he sent you naked pics or asked for yours. I know women like to be chased but this is crazy to me. You could just be letting the right one go just my .02 cents.
You are so right, I've read profiles that say that also, I don't know why some girls won't reply to a guy who just says hello, like you said, they could be letting 'the one' get away.
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| 11/22/2014 5:55:47 PM |
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motorcycleman4u
West Jordan, UT
48, joined Jul. 2013
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Thanks.
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| 1/8/2015 10:46:04 AM |
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robin2545
Ogden, UT
60, joined Apr. 2012
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In my experience a lot of the profiles will state they are from Utah..when they really don't. Or they end up traveling out of the country for their jobs.(supposedly). I had one guy that said he has never traveled out of the country but when I sent him and email it I saw he opened it in Ghanna. I have sidekick to show me when an email is opened. I get tired of the lies that I get. So yes when I respond I will ask questions upfront because why waste both of our times to find out this person really isn't in Utah, he has small kids at home because I have raised mine, or we have no interests. If that makes me to picky and ask to many questions upfront oh well. I also have issues where I ask the guy questions and he won't answer them. lIke what his interests are. If they don't want to answer questions how do we get to know them!! Sorry just had to many issues.
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| 1/10/2015 12:48:43 AM |
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motorcycleman4u
West Jordan, UT
48, joined Jul. 2013
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In my experience a lot of the profiles will state they are from Utah..when they really don't. Or they end up traveling out of the country for their jobs.(supposedly). I had one guy that said he has never traveled out of the country but when I sent him and email it I saw he opened it in Ghanna. I have sidekick to show me when an email is opened. I get tired of the lies that I get. So yes when I respond I will ask questions upfront because why waste both of our times to find out this person really isn't in Utah, he has small kids at home because I have raised mine, or we have no interests. If that makes me to picky and ask to many questions upfront oh well. I also have issues where I ask the guy questions and he won't answer them. lIke what his interests are. If they don't want to answer questions how do we get to know them!! Sorry just had to many issues.
Questions are not a problem love them. It's the women who won't even respond to you unless you give them your life story first. You have every right to be cautious keep asking questions no problem there. If they are in Ghana it's a scam almost guaranteed.
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| 4/3/2015 6:37:14 PM |
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monkeyfree
Roy, UT
40, joined Dec. 2013
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If you say hello and she says hello back, what were you going to say then?
Just send that message first and assume you've already gotten the hellos out of the way.
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| 4/29/2015 1:30:43 AM |
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topendstuff
Eden, UT
61, joined May. 2007
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If you say hello and she says hello back, what were you going to say then?
Just send that message first and assume you've already gotten the hellos out of the way.
Totally disagree!
Why put much effort into a message when there is going to be no response. A lot of profiles are left overs because they have mover on/found what they were looking for. Or even just plain got disillusioned with the gaming and gamers. Quite a number just don't reply because they don't like the way you look. Don't show that you are willing or will spend untold amounts of money on them to go to the Bahamas.
Most assume that they know why you are here. Never once taking a good look in the mirror to come to grips with theirs. Could it be that the reason they are on a date site is that they are perfect in every way and should of been translated long ago. Yet still cant figure out why they were even send here to purgatory.
Yeap. All those religious words and I aint religious. 
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