hey....i want to thank ALMOST everyone...lots of seriously good advice...both ways...i have helped, and my son helped...i am going a couple nights this week to finish up, too....i figure like this...we are tied together , like it or not, forever...we are family. my son, at 14 has a huge lesson about being a man to learn here.....when the person in the world you love most hurts you , you got 2 choices....hate them and poison your heart, or forgive them best you can, and show them kindness....hate takes too much work. we wont be getting back together, but we will be friends for life. thanks again...when it is done i will post pics!

So, my ex wife....whom I still love though she crushed me....bad..... wants me to help with and participate in the Halloween graveyard we have put on each year for the last 7 years...each one bigger every year. We seperated in may and she has told me that Halloween is ''our'' holiday and she would feel weird doing it without me. It is the last one as the house is for sale in November...she cheated and has shown me no remorse or interest, despite my every effort to interact with her....but tells me if we hang out n do this it would be a good ''start''. She still has the boyfriend....is she just trying to get me to do the graveyard building and setup, or should I try to start repairing what I fear is too broken?

So, my ex wife....whom I still love though she crushed me....bad..... wants me to help with and participate in the Halloween graveyard we have put on each year for the last 7 years...each one bigger every year. We seperated in may and she has told me that Halloween is ''our'' holiday and she would feel weird doing it without me. It is the last one as the house is for sale in November...she cheated and has shown me no remorse or interest, despite my every effort to interact with her....but tells me if we hang out n do this it would be a good ''start''. She still has the boyfriend....is she just trying to get me to do the graveyard building and setup, or should I try to start repairing what I fear is too broken?

Tell her, "sorry, but Halloween wasn't our thing--I liked doing it for my son."
You have your son. There is no reason to do Halloween at the old house. Like you said, it'll be gone soon enough. Why waste more time with that house? Start doing Halloween with your son at your new place. 14? The boy is old enough to operate power tools with his father's supervision. Enjoy the holiday with your son.

If she really likes Halloween, she can do her own thing with her new boyfriend.

You said she has shown no remorse about cheating on you (except that she's going to miss you pampering her). You shouldn't feel anything for a person like that, except disgust when you have to see her. Wanting to have you work for her, while she's with the guy she cheated on you with is just salt in a wound. She's a b*tch, simply put.


By the way, she's eventually going to come crawling back to you, when her boyfriend and next one or two don't treat her as well as you always did. Her tears will be lies. Don't accept her back. She'll just turn back to cheating eventually when she has what she wants...she'll just be sneakier about it.