| 11/4/2014 6:18:04 PM |
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odamadi
Lubbock, TX
24, joined Mar. 2013
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I am sure most of us have been there. You are talking to him/her and you feel that you have something good going on. Next thing you know, the person stops replying back. He/she has seemingly vanished into thin air. That person for whatever reason has stopped contacting you. More often than not, they are no longer interested in you. But instead of telling you, they just quietly fade away. You are left wondering what just happened and what you did to scare them away. To me, that is the crappiest way to to be dismissed in a relationship. It's cowardly and disrespectful.
What is your opinion on ghosting?
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| 11/4/2014 6:39:36 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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Ye it is, but there is really nothing
a person can do, but move on
and not dwell on it
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| 11/4/2014 8:54:06 PM |
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myrealme
Nampa, ID
41, joined Aug. 2013
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Means it is probably for the best and it wouldnt have worked anyway
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| 11/4/2014 8:55:44 PM |
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tjl503
Portland, OR
36, joined Dec. 2012
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Some of people are just trying to get there ego stroked and have no intention of meeting. Some are in relationships and have no intention of meeting. Some are catfishing hiding behind someones pretty pic with their fat faces. There are some people who have intentions of meeting but when the day comes they're nervous. Its easy for someone to just ghost out than give people a reason why they don't want to talk anymore.
Ghosting really doesn't affect me because I meet women within the first week of contact. I don't invest time f**king with them through electronics like a lot of people do. If they can't meet within the first week it's a wrap. So if they want to disappear it doesn't matter to me. I didn't invest weeks trying to get to know someone for it to bother me.
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| 11/4/2014 9:04:05 PM |
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verginmenot
Saint Cloud, MN
41, joined Aug. 2014
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I think that anyone that can't own up to their feelings and just dissapears is cowardly...weather it from online or a date or a relationship... but then again there are a lot of people who would rather cowar.
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| 11/4/2014 10:00:47 PM |
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theloser2123
Manassas, VA
24, joined Apr. 2014
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Black Country guy man f**k yes! Goddamn 'merica at its finest right here
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| 11/5/2014 6:26:39 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Well, I try to find the bright side of things, as much as can. And when I think of "ghosting," though it's certainly disappointing, I can tell you from unpleasant direct experience, that "quietly fade away" beats the hell out of "send vicious, sadistic, insulting personal attack" to close things out, and it's far better than a gently insulting message that treats you like a child who needs to be weened, and it's far superior to an intellectual analysis of how useless you are to them.
Give me the ghost any time, over that crap.
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| 11/5/2014 7:06:18 AM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
41, joined Feb. 2014
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I thought this was going to be about profile deletions and FTD.
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| 11/5/2014 9:05:25 AM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014
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First of all, calling it a 'relationship' when you only chat is probably often giving it more weight than it deserves. It is a relationship because it is interaction but often these things are very temporary and/or superficial..something fun to pass the time.
I've built some pretty rich and fulfilling friendships that way though.
The etiquette for ending it is often questionable.
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| 11/5/2014 10:45:47 AM |
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odamadi
Lubbock, TX
24, joined Mar. 2013
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Black Country guy man f**k yes! Goddamn 'merica at its finest right here
Haha well thank you.
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| 11/5/2014 11:42:00 AM |
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pike45
Omaha, NE
63, joined Feb. 2009
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She didnt like you, man-up and accept it.
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| 11/7/2014 10:52:04 AM |
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heartsnew
Stanley, NC
49, joined Oct. 2014
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I have to agree that it is very cowardly and insensitive to do to another who may have invested some of their emtions in you,but unfortunately it is much more common than you might think. Personally I would prefer to be told the truth, hurtful or not.
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| 11/7/2014 11:02:08 AM |
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thekid36
Mohrsville, PA
43, joined Oct. 2014
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I have to agree that it is very cowardly and insensitive to do to another who may have invested some of their emtions in you,but unfortunately it is much more common than you might think. Personally I would prefer to be told the truth, hurtful or not.
I could not agree more. Open honesty and complete respect should always be key.
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| 11/7/2014 11:10:08 PM |
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ladymelody71
Land O Lakes, FL
44, joined Sep. 2014
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This has happened to me a couple of times. Didn't even know there was a term related to it. I just chalked it up to the person not wanting or being interested any longer. Kind of sucks though but I guess it does happen and it's part of being in this kind of dating environment.
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| 11/8/2014 3:11:44 AM |
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newworldman4
Trenton, MI
52, joined Jan. 2012
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you dodge a bullet
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| 11/8/2014 4:29:32 PM |
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mehbleh
Glendale, AZ
101, joined Oct. 2014
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What is your opinion on ghosting?
That the majority of the time it's the best option in what's available to end things.
I mean look at the innumerable threads of whiners complaining about people just "disappearing."
There are a ton of comments like "they're cowards! A-holes! Disrespectful! Inconsiderate! Players! Jerks! Liars! etc."
Anyone that has ever complained about "ghosting" or disappearing probably deserved to be ghosted.
As more than likely the person knew they were going to have to sit there and be a punching bag and continue a relationship they have no desire to continue just to make the other person accept it.
So, their only options were sit around in an argument, or just move on and leave someone to their own problems.
Most people don't believe they are the type that argues and whines and mewls and pules and hissy's when things don't go their way.
They simply see it in hindsight and think "well gee, I would have had a rational reaction and discussion. I would have simply appreciated a clear and concise response and then I would never have bothered them again."
Other than that sometimes this is a huge problem:
You are talking to him/her and you feel that you have something good going on.
Sometimes your feelings about how good it is are completely wrong and refusing to look at what's there, and any attempt to get you to see how not "good" it's going on is simply argued against, or ignored entirely, meaning any further discussion is pointless.
But instead of telling you, they just quietly fade away.
That is communication.
Just not what you might want.
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| 11/8/2014 5:48:43 PM |
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blondemom76
Spring Lake, MI
39, joined Jul. 2014
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I am sure most of us have been there. You are talking to him/her and you feel that you have something good going on. Next thing you know, the person stops replying back. He/she has seemingly vanished into thin air. That person for whatever reason has stopped contacting you. More often than not, they are no longer interested in you. But instead of telling you, they just quietly fade away. You are left wondering what just happened and what you did to scare them away. To me, that is the crappiest way to to be dismissed in a relationship. It's cowardly and disrespectful.
What is your opinion on ghosting?
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| 11/8/2014 7:56:42 PM |
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zimzane2
High Point, NC
56, joined Jan. 2013
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Most of it is bogus.
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| 11/9/2014 9:51:30 AM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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I am sure most of us have been there. You are talking to him/her and you feel that you have something good going on. Next thing you know, the person stops replying back. He/she has seemingly vanished into thin air. That person for whatever reason has stopped contacting you. More often than not, they are no longer interested in you. But instead of telling you, they just quietly fade away. You are left wondering what just happened and what you did to scare them away. To me, that is the crappiest way to to be dismissed in a relationship. It's cowardly and disrespectful.
What is your opinion on ghosting?
I think after getting to know you, they decided they don't like you. So they disappear. If they did that, don't follow them. They are shallow for doing that. They probably decided they are too good for you & you are not good enough to be with them.
Just move on & let them go. Don't chase after someone that don't want to be with you. You are just wasting your effort & your time.
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| 11/9/2014 9:56:55 AM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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" Why did they just quietly fade away, disappear & not say a word."
Because they are shallow & they don't care about your feelings. They don't care if they hurt your feelings. Don't go chasing after them. You are just wasting your time & effort.
" That is communication. It's not what you may want."
That's a mean way to treat someone. But they are selfish & don't care about your feelings. Let them go. They don't want to be with you. Give your time to someone that deserve you.
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| 11/9/2014 5:21:47 PM |
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carmelcb
Tallahassee, FL
25, joined May. 2012
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eh...wouldn't it hurt your feelings more if she was like sorry buddy, I don't like you, you bore me and I found someone else...stop talking to me??
I think decreasing frequency in contact is a more subtle yet definite this isn't working move.
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| 11/9/2014 6:59:26 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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eh...wouldn't it hurt your feelings more if she was like sorry buddy, I don't like you, you bore me and I found someone else...stop talking to me??
I think decreasing frequency in contact is a more subtle yet definite this isn't working move.
I think some people need to be told that the other person is not interested in them.
If they disappear, let them go. Don't follow them. U become like a wet rag if u do. There are more than one fish on the sea, right? Why waste your time & effort on someone that doesn't want to be with u?
After getting to know you, they have decided that u are not interesting & they don't want to be with u. So they disappear. Don't follow them. Don't follow them.
They are shallow for not saying good bye to u first. But that's just how some people are. Not everyone is a nice guy.
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| 11/9/2014 7:00:06 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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On = in
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| 11/10/2014 4:41:40 AM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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sHit happens
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| 11/11/2014 7:11:57 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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I agree with others who mentioned it as a form of ego-stroking. They pursue you first to get you interested in them only to fade out, its a game of manipulation to make themselves feel as if they are something to be desired. I refuse to play into that. As far as attention goes, I give only what I'm given.
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| 11/12/2014 6:07:45 AM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
39, joined Sep. 2013
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ghosts are fake people looking for amusement ....they are one step above flat out scammers in it for the long haul
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| 11/13/2014 11:21:37 PM |
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tooflyforawhguy
Oshkosh, WI
24, joined Oct. 2014
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Means it is probably for the best and it wouldnt have worked anyway
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| 11/28/2014 10:55:03 AM |
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heartsnew
Stanley, NC
49, joined Oct. 2014
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AGREED
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| 11/29/2014 3:43:15 AM |
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legendary_j420
Cicero, IL
24, joined Aug. 2014
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I'll admit I've been MIA before..... BUT not to a person I'am interested in. It was just a chat room, I lost contact with my friends which made me sad, but I left because it just felt like it was time for something different.
I really don't know how to explain it but once I get that feeling I just have to move......
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| 12/2/2014 4:59:39 AM |
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heartsnew
Stanley, NC
49, joined Oct. 2014
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Wow, talk about irony. I just had a guy that I've been talking to for awhile now,delete me because of what I posted in this thread. Seriously? Had he bothered to ask me about it instead of jumping to conclusions I would have gladly told him that while I haven't heard from him in a little while, I was NOT talking about him, I have in the past had a man just disappear on me without reason or rhyme given and yes I was hurt. Damn, all I did was state my opinion on here cuz I was bored waiting for Rick, oops did I say his name,well damn! anyways, and decided to read the forums and responded to a few. Am I not suppose to have an opinion? Anyways, I'm pretty much done with this crap anyways. Does anyone know if you set your profile to invisible if you can still post in the forums?
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| 12/2/2014 5:08:16 AM |
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naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
40, joined Jul. 2011
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I do this "ghosting" alot ... and do not mean to.
I get lost in my own little world and tend to forget the people around me..except my kids..
Someone could text me and than we have good conversations and such..and I will not even really pay attention to my phone or messages for days on end..
Its not on purpose, its just who I am.
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| 12/2/2014 7:00:05 AM |
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heartsnew
Stanley, NC
49, joined Oct. 2014
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that's a bit different than what I'm talking about though. I'm talking about someone telling you that you've messed up,then just disappear without bothering to tell you what the hell it is you've supposedly done.
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| 12/2/2014 1:42:38 PM |
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pike45
Omaha, NE
63, joined Feb. 2009
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that's a bit different than what I'm talking about though. I'm talking about someone telling you that you've messed up,then just disappear without bothering to tell you what the hell it is you've supposedly done.
Why would you want to continue, to see someone, who thinks you are messed up?
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| 12/2/2014 7:52:02 PM |
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toxictears2014
Lafitte, LA
45, joined Nov. 2014
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Don't know never happen to me
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| 12/2/2014 7:52:56 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
50, joined Nov. 2014
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I just don't get excited about ghosts here. If there's nothing to begin with...there's no emotions to waste. Many are just scammers.
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| 12/3/2014 10:09:56 AM |
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heartsnew
Stanley, NC
49, joined Oct. 2014
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No,they didn't say I was messed up, what they said was "you f**ked up!" I was trying to be nice by saying messed up,sorry
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| 12/3/2014 11:43:50 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
48, joined Jan. 2012
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I am sure most of us have been there. You are talking to him/her and you feel that you have something good going on. Next thing you know, the person stops replying back. He/she has seemingly vanished into thin air. That person for whatever reason has stopped contacting you. More often than not, they are no longer interested in you. But instead of telling you, they just quietly fade away. You are left wondering what just happened and what you did to scare them away. To me, that is the crappiest way to to be dismissed in a relationship. It's cowardly and disrespectful.
What is your opinion on ghosting?
It's sad but unfortunately that's a reality of online dating. People like it for that very
reason. No commitment and they can talk to several other people all at one time and then
just disappear on the ones they don't want a relationship with.
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| 12/3/2014 2:45:50 PM |
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longdriver60
Lenoir, NC
56, joined Jan. 2013
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Till you meet in person you shouldnt be that emotionaly attached anyways.
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| 12/5/2014 4:43:10 PM |
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heartsnew
Stanley, NC
49, joined Oct. 2014
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I agree
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| 12/5/2014 4:53:33 PM |
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heartsnew
Stanley, NC
49, joined Oct. 2014
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Why would you want to continue, to see someone, who thinks you are messed up?
Well, actually he said "you just f**ked up". I was trying to be nice so I said messed up instead. He was referring to me responding to this topic. Had he bothered to ask me I would have gladly told him that my post was about an ex boyfriend,and that I was just posting on the forums here because I was bored, not because I was trolling , but no matter now, His loss not mine. I've found someone else who has my interest now and hoping that if nothing else, I've atleast developed a good friendship,but hopefully more
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| 12/5/2014 8:25:00 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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First of all, calling it a 'relationship' when you only chat is probably often giving it more weight than it deserves. It is a relationship because it is interaction but often these things are very temporary and/or superficial..something fun to pass the time.
I've built some pretty rich and fulfilling friendships that way though.
The etiquette for ending it is often questionable.
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| 12/6/2014 11:38:48 PM |
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midnightblue222
Canton, MI
51, joined Nov. 2014
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I'd had that happen to me and its not fun at all your wondering where u went wrong and I'm trying to firgure it out again maybe it's me and I'm shouldn't be in relationships
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| 12/7/2014 3:15:13 PM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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Move on.
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| 12/27/2014 2:31:40 AM |
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hunter12gauge
Bellaire, OH
53, joined Apr. 2008
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Wow, talk about irony. I just had a guy that I've been talking to for awhile now,delete me because of what I posted in this thread. Seriously? Had he bothered to ask me about it instead of jumping to conclusions I would have gladly told him that while I haven't heard from him in a little while, I was NOT talking about him, I have in the past had a man just disappear on me without reason or rhyme given and yes I was hurt. Damn, all I did was state my opinion on here cuz I was bored waiting for Rick, oops did I say his name,well damn! anyways, and decided to read the forums and responded to a few. Am I not suppose to have an opinion? Anyways, I'm pretty much done with this crap anyways. Does anyone know if you set your profile to invisible if you can still post in the forums?
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| 12/27/2014 11:48:34 AM |
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txbluegirl
Plano, TX
51, joined Jun. 2014
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Ghosting happens on dating sites and in the real world too. They aren't worth your time if they ghost out. Stuff happens and you move on.
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| 12/27/2014 4:28:19 PM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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Someone who does that to you (if you were good to them) isn't worth your time or energy. It's better to forget about that person asap.
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| 1/6/2015 4:27:15 AM |
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2hot2eat
Desert Hot Springs, CA
42, joined Jun. 2014
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Yes this happened to me but for some reason he decided to contact me and it was hell everyday after that. He twisted every word I said and blamed me for everything that could and would go wrong. If someone ghost you never let them back into ur life there not worth it.  
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| 1/6/2015 6:27:17 PM |
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treec36
Saint Petersburg, FL
38, joined Oct. 2014
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move on sexy handsome some people are just busy liers fakes
workaholics playful or tied up with their affairs you
can wait for them to respond move on or live laugh and smile
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| 1/6/2015 6:41:00 PM |
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treec36
Saint Petersburg, FL
38, joined Oct. 2014
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maybe their having problems and to embarrass to share with you
we all find problems and issues think positive and learn
to live happy no matter what happens know your worth
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| 1/6/2015 9:21:10 PM |
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forsyth4
Fort Payne, AL
30, joined Nov. 2014
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No f**k that don't let her quit texting u call her up and say hey f**k u you stupid a** b*tch
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| 1/7/2015 11:25:12 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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The worst ones are the ones who pop up weeks/months later. When I ask them why no contact they give every excuse in the book.
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| 1/7/2015 9:10:03 PM |
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personasaurus
Bridgewater, NJ
33, joined Jun. 2014
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I am sure most of us have been there. You are talking to him/her and you feel that you have something good going on. Next thing you know, the person stops replying back. He/she has seemingly vanished into thin air. That person for whatever reason has stopped contacting you. More often than not, they are no longer interested in you. But instead of telling you, they just quietly fade away. You are left wondering what just happened and what you did to scare them away. To me, that is the crappiest way to to be dismissed in a relationship. It's cowardly and disrespectful.
What is your opinion on ghosting?
is this before or after you have had sex
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| 1/8/2015 6:14:55 AM |
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happylauren
Crown Point, IN
54, joined May. 2013
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I think a lot of the time they are already in a relationship and they were cheating with you.
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| 1/9/2015 1:46:38 PM |
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
49, joined Dec. 2014
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They lost interest & probably took the easy way out of just stopping communication, never responding back to you.
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| 1/9/2015 1:51:55 PM |
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b2cold
Elk Grove Village, IL
36, joined Mar. 2014
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Ooooooooo so that's what ghosting is. Well it is a reply. If they don't reply. It sucks. Happens me all time. Idc. I c it as eh I'm better off with out.
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| 1/11/2015 10:21:11 PM |
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evajoy
Reston, VA
59, joined May. 2012
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it happens
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| 1/12/2015 12:37:39 AM |
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atom1977
Minneapolis, MN
39, joined Jan. 2014
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Hi evajoy
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| 1/14/2015 7:22:23 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
48, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from rose1206:
The worst ones are the ones who pop up weeks/months later. When I ask them why no contact they give every excuse in the book.
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I agree! And they never give the real excuse why they didn't contact you which is usually gonna be that the person they deserted you for dumped them eventually so now they are back to give you another chance. Gotta love people who do that. Not.
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| 1/15/2015 8:12:22 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Quote from rose1206:
The worst ones are the ones who pop up weeks/months later. When I ask them why no contact they give every excuse in the book.
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I agree! And they never give the real excuse why they didn't contact you which is usually gonna be that the person they deserted you for dumped them eventually so now they are back to give you another chance. Gotta love people who do that. Not.
I know people are too ridiculous to believe that you're not smart enough to realize they are back-pedaling. It takes a selfish egotistical person to think they actually got it that way. 
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| 1/19/2015 10:12:11 PM |
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2hot2eat
Desert Hot Springs, CA
42, joined Jun. 2014
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My ghosting is not texting r calling anyone that text me and I don't like them anymore 
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