| 11/13/2014 6:19:21 PM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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I am only on here for opinions. I met a great man online and recently saw a dating site app on his phone. I looked him up online (made a fake profile) and there he was...his profile, which said he was online that day. Any thoughts? I confronted him and he said that his internet connection is always on, so that is why it showed that he was online when it did. But I know that is hogwash. Thanks!
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| 11/13/2014 6:20:47 PM |
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inni_dreamz
Pasadena, CA
50, joined Nov. 2012
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I don't know how long the two of you have been dating - so this is hard to comment on.
Obviously - there are trust issues.
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| 11/13/2014 6:23:57 PM |
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soulflight
Dayton, OH
52, joined Apr. 2014
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if it concerned you, why didn't you just ask him when you saw the app on his phone?
why the cloak and dagger routine?
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| 11/13/2014 6:24:48 PM |
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studframer
Middletown, NY
47, joined Sep. 2014
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If you really wanted to find out, you should have messaged him. I know that's baiting, but if the fish bites, well...
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| 11/13/2014 6:28:06 PM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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I was with my children and him so I didn't want to get into it. We have been together a few months...
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| 11/13/2014 6:37:00 PM |
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soulflight
Dayton, OH
52, joined Apr. 2014
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that's BS. you chose to play Nancy Drew instead of being an adult and asking him right out.
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| 11/13/2014 6:44:34 PM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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that's BS. you chose to play Nancy Drew instead of being an adult and asking him right out.
You think what you want but that is the truth. However, being more forthright and direct might have made me feel like I was being hasty...I didn't want to make any assumptions.
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| 11/13/2014 6:47:22 PM |
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studframer
Middletown, NY
47, joined Sep. 2014
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You think what you want but that is the truth. However, being more forthright and direct might have made me feel like I was being hasty...I didn't want to make any assumptions.
Remember what words "assume" breaks into
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| 11/13/2014 6:49:32 PM |
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myrealme
Nampa, ID
40, joined Aug. 2013
online now!
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I never log off of here from my phone. It always says im on even when im not
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| 11/13/2014 6:59:31 PM |
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soulflight
Dayton, OH
52, joined Apr. 2014
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You already assumed he was guilty when you decided to be sneaky.
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| 11/13/2014 7:09:22 PM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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You already assumed he was guilty when you decided to be sneaky.
That is not the case, however, I wanted to be sure I wasn't being played like a fool. I think it is natural, and many others would have felt the same.
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| 11/13/2014 7:13:49 PM |
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soulflight
Dayton, OH
52, joined Apr. 2014
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I don't care how others feel. It feels sneaky and deceitful to me. I would have asked him. It's the adult thing to do.
if he was playing you it doesn't matter how you find out. he's still playing you and now you are sneaky game player too.
You asked for thoughts. I gave mine.
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| 11/13/2014 7:15:25 PM |
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brywithayfromca
Long Beach, CA
50, joined Jan. 2011
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You are not worthy of trust
neither is he
invest in battery companies. 
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| 11/13/2014 7:22:26 PM |
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missamicable
Hurst, TX
55, joined Jul. 2014
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He is still looking.
He'll hold on to you until he can trade you in.
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| 11/13/2014 7:25:43 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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U can't get upset, u on dh
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| 11/13/2014 7:32:35 PM |
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neo52
Tallahassee, FL
58, joined Sep. 2009
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He is still looking.
He'll hold on to you until he can trade you in.
Agreed .If he was Happy in /with the current relation he wouldn't be on
a Dating site To find a "Date"..
Or ,he's out looking for an easy mark ... Wants to cheat .....
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| 11/13/2014 7:37:14 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
62, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - It sounds like he sees you not as a GF, but as a FWB...and one of many. I have a GF, and am still online here, but I made my profile invisible, and have often announced that I am here just for the forums...not dates any longer, because I am currently taken. If he is online still, and his profile is visible, and he is messaging women, or answering messages from women, or both messaging, and answering messages, it is clear that he is not exclusively yours. Did he ever say that he would be exclusive to you? Did he promise fidelity, or not mention it, or did he announce that he is a 'Player', and expect you to understand? If you want him badly enough to share him with others, stay with him. Otherwise dump him and find someone new.
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| 11/13/2014 7:55:52 PM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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U can't get upset, u on dh
I just came on to get some opinions answered not to fish for other guys...
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| 11/13/2014 7:58:36 PM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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OP - It sounds like he sees you not as a GF, but as a FWB...and one of many. I have a GF, and am still online here, but I made my profile invisible, and have often announced that I am here just for the forums...not dates any longer, because I am currently taken. If he is online still, and his profile is visible, and he is messaging women, or answering messages from women, or both messaging, and answering messages, it is clear that he is not exclusively yours. Did he ever say that he would be exclusive to you? Did he promise fidelity, or not mention it, or did he announce that he is a 'Player', and expect you to understand? If you want him badly enough to share him with others, stay with him. Otherwise dump him and find someone new.
yes he said he wanted to be exclusive. Thanks for the positive advice....seems most are just here to dump on me not actually give any actual advice lol..many thanks.
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| 11/13/2014 8:38:24 PM |
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rainydaze26
Columbus, OH
50, joined Nov. 2013
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Build some trust & don't covertly try to catch him something... just ask & if you don't believe him then there's nothing real to begin with.
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| 11/13/2014 8:52:31 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
62, joined Oct. 2009
online now!
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You think you're an intelligent woman, right?
He's CHEATING on you. You cannot trust him to be faithful if you marry him. DUMP HIM! There's no future for you with that guy.
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| 11/13/2014 8:56:44 PM |
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wedontgiveaf
Vancouver, WA
27, joined Dec. 2013
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If you really wanted to find out, you should have messaged him. I know that's baiting, but if the fish bites, well...
This is true
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| 11/13/2014 9:27:46 PM |
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norwegianwood64
Mobile, AL
50, joined Jul. 2014
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It depends on the phone and which app he has got. I used to have women ask me why I was on pof all the time when I had not logged on there for months. Alot of people think the person is on the dating site when actually they are only online....big difference.
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| 11/13/2014 9:33:46 PM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
39, joined Feb. 2014
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A guy should always be on the lookout for someone new and make sure she knows. That way the woman either steps up her game or gets replaced. 
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| 11/13/2014 10:07:25 PM |
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eyes4unow
Pomfret, CT
45, joined Dec. 2013
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Entrapment.... End of story! If you saw the app and discussed it, then asked him close his account and to delete the app off the phone or asked to read his profile to see what his intent on the site is, then his answer of yes or no at that moment would have told you the whole story.
Jmo..
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| 11/13/2014 10:18:41 PM |
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blue3rose
Saint Louis, MO
39, joined Jun. 2013
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You don't trust him n he's looking elsewhere. So why are you still together?
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| 11/13/2014 10:57:17 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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I just came on to get some opinions answered not to fish for other guys...
Ok then, but u do know the
answer he gave u is bs and yall
relationship not gone last, there's
no trust in it
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| 11/13/2014 11:03:34 PM |
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blue3rose
Saint Louis, MO
39, joined Jun. 2013
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Ok then, but u do know the
answer he gave u is bs and yall
relationship not gone last, there's
no trust in it
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| 11/13/2014 11:03:49 PM |
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carmelcb
Leonia, NJ
24, joined May. 2012
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when you go looking for stuff, you'll find something
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| 11/13/2014 11:12:58 PM |
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dixie_dancer
Kansas City, KS
26, joined Feb. 2013
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two months in and you can't communicate.
have you both TALKED about the level of exclusivity you are?
if you're just DATING, there's nothing wrong with talking to other people, until you both have had the EXCLUSIVE TALK.
once you're an item, that's when things are a little bit more unclear. i still have this profile for the forums. my boyfriend has known i've had this profile, and there's no problem with it. but we have talked about it.
so, OP. have you had the EXCLUSIVITY TALK?
until then, asking for an opinion on this is irrelevant.
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| 11/13/2014 11:19:08 PM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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But I know that is hogwash. Thanks!
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
You don't need our opinion...you already know the answer.
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| 11/13/2014 11:41:04 PM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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I met a great man online
Obviously not. Tell him to delete profile and see what he says.
OP do u actually know him? Have you spent time with him?
Dating guy a few times doesn't qualify him as a bf.
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| 11/14/2014 12:39:50 AM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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Obviously not. Tell him to delete profile and see what he says.
OP do u actually know him? Have you spent time with him?
Dating guy a few times doesn't qualify him as a bf.
lol....yes we have dated a total of six months. It was discussed that we were in a committed relationship. He deleted it, so we shall see.
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| 11/14/2014 12:41:32 AM |
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lovelylady13130
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Jun. 2014
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It depends on the phone and which app he has got. I used to have women ask me why I was on pof all the time when I had not logged on there for months. Alot of people think the person is on the dating site when actually they are only online....big difference.
that is the site it was. I guess that is a possibility then huh? That is why I wanted opinions. Thanks.
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| 11/14/2014 8:45:02 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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Who knows....whe I leave here, I really don't log off....I just turn off the computer.
and I suppose that gives me the appearance of still being online.
So you see this little app.....and out goes all the trust, enough you create a fake profile...
but have no fear....enough here have as many issues as you do.
So..at least you came to the right place I guess.
Nutcases!!!!...when will it end?
Who is he? I need to tell him to bail and fast.....too much drama....your a nutcase and no way the relation will last.
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| 11/14/2014 8:49:57 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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It seems to me, if he is this great guy...and treated you so well all this time.
Before you made a fake profile and all this suspicion...over something as thin as that.
you might have talked with him first.
Lady, its common for many just to turn off their computer, instead of actually logging out.
go see a shrink about your issues....but first tell him your a kook , but to hang on your seeking help.
Maybe, he'll be stupid enough to stay.
because I'd a ran off as fast as I could.
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| 11/14/2014 8:58:08 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Blue Diamond, NV
45, joined Jan. 2012
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I am only on here for opinions. I met a great man online and recently saw a dating site app on his phone. I looked him up online (made a fake profile) and there he was...his profile, which said he was online that day. Any thoughts? I confronted him and he said that his internet connection is always on, so that is why it showed that he was online when it did. But I know that is hogwash. Thanks!
How long have you been dating?
Keep in mind that you are only dating and are not married or engaged. He has every right (just as you do) to still date other people until you have both decided to become monogamous or committed to one another forever.
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| 11/14/2014 8:58:45 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Blue Diamond, NV
45, joined Jan. 2012
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that is the site it was. I guess that is a possibility then huh? That is why I wanted opinions. Thanks.
It does not keep repeatedly logging someone in day after day. Don't be stupid enough to believe that crap.
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| 11/14/2014 9:10:21 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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I was with my children and him so I didn't want to get into it. We have been together a few months...
U seem a bit needy. If its only been a few months, for god sake move on.
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| 11/14/2014 8:01:10 PM |
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larena40
Lemon Grove, CA
42, joined Jan. 2014
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And we care because. Ain't that were you found him.
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| 11/14/2014 8:40:36 PM |
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uronlyme
Compton, CA
32, joined Feb. 2014
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first of all if you already have a relationship with him for months there is no reason for him to have a profile on the dating site. 2nd if you think he is still looking than move on and leave him right away don't need to waste your time on someone that can't respect you by dedicating his time to only be your partner and not many girls partner. 3rd you are not a youngster you are a grown up and if you have kids you should know better not to let them get attach to someone that you have doubts about. good luck.
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| 11/14/2014 8:58:13 PM |
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tanklp320
Laguna Hills, CA
38, joined Sep. 2014
online now!
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You only been dating for two months
Why do people always expect others to drop everything at the drop of a hat it doesn't work that way
You may have been dating him for 2 months but that doesn't justify you needing him to end his account just like you he is looking for the right match and sorry to say it takes a while to know someone before they are a good match dating takes even longer
What this sounds like to me you are looking for a instant family man and that is the wrong way to go about things give the man his space if he truly wants to be with you eventually he'll let it go but pestering him after just 2 months is not cool most women keep their accounts as well hence you're on here asking about what you should do about him what should he do about you ?
Main reason why most women can't find a good man they don't give him a chance to prove he is and whilist you are spying on his phone and things you are making his decision that much easier just saying 
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| 11/14/2014 9:23:23 PM |
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tanklp320
Laguna Hills, CA
38, joined Sep. 2014
online now!
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You are not worthy of trust
neither is he
invest in battery companies.
lol so true man
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| 11/14/2014 9:28:57 PM |
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mehbleh
Glendale, AZ
99, joined Oct. 2014
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I met a great man
If that were true, you wouldn't be here.
I am only on here for opinions
You have absolutely no friends or family?
People that actually know you, and possibly him, and the situation?
I know that is hogwash.
Maybe you have information that isn't in the OP but it is a plausible reason for what information you do provide.
I know the POF app was never automatically signing people out, even if the app was closed and they hadn't been using it for hours, and some apps will sign you in automatically if you ever connect to the internet, even if you don't go to the site.
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| 11/14/2014 9:31:15 PM |
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lovinadventure
Palmdale, CA
40, joined Mar. 2013
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Done!!! It's over! Trust me! If I really really like a girl, the first thing I do is erase all contacts of women I've dated or can possibly date, and I erase every profile that are on dating sites. If he's still looking, he is not that into you. Sorry!
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| 11/14/2014 9:44:00 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
61, joined Oct. 2010
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ahhhh .... you love to lick taco sauce off his swartzn**ger ... maybe ???
Besides the Virgin Mary cheated on her husband to do baby sex with the Ghost of her Father in Heaven.
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| 11/14/2014 10:51:30 PM |
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miss_smile1515
Fresno, CA
61, joined Sep. 2014
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Typical I went through the same thing it's not what I thought it was going to be meeting somebody online . He has never stop looking on other site all lies . online dating suck . ??
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| 11/14/2014 11:55:51 PM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
46, joined Aug. 2013
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I've run into that as well, some people are constantly looking for greener grass. It's sad so many others want to deceive & are never happy.
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| 11/15/2014 6:42:26 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
61, joined Oct. 2010
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I've run into that as well, some people are constantly looking for greener grass. It's sad so many others want to deceive & are never happy.
They are sex addicts dear Petal ...
addicts do not care about your welfare ... they do not care about your rights.
They will NOT give them selves to their woman where she is the only one who touches them.
They had an over sexualized childhood ... and as adults .. are overly sexualized.
Hey .. their God the Father in Heaven has baby sex with His Daughters ...
and the Priests who tell you to worship in Church ...
well they f**k your sons and daughters as well.
It is the triple holee miracle of the cherry pop nots.
Just believe and you get to go to Heaven ... after you put money in to the church bowl for what I am selling.
In another country they be tossing virgins into volcanos ... or you burn in HELL !!!
sumbuddie wear blind sea
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| 11/15/2014 8:19:49 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
43, joined Apr. 2007
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...or maybe he was on a site that has forums,such as this.and he was asking opinions on this great new gal he met online that he thinks has trust issues...
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| 11/15/2014 8:22:02 AM |
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armyfly86
Seminole, TX
28, joined Dec. 2013
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Well go mess with another dude
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| 11/15/2014 8:28:46 AM |
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ttrockz55
Wickenburg, AZ
56, joined Nov. 2013
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You think what you want but that is the truth. However, being more forthright and direct might have made me feel like I was being hasty...I didn't want to make any assumptions.
if that is your only reason to question him...dont.
everyone is always asking...is talking online cheating...
most men just like to look. And it has only been a couple months?
Give yourself time...you'll know if you need to be concerned or not.
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| 11/15/2014 9:01:20 AM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
52, joined Sep. 2014
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He's full of it, totally. Been there, done that; let him go. He may be someone interesting you like, but he's playin' you because he's still playing in the field.
He's not going to stop until he finds who he's looking for and ....whose to say if its you or not?
Its your call OP. If it were me, I wouldn't put up with it.
He'll only hurt you in the end. Don't let him..YOU'RE SMARTER THAN THAT.
Good luck!
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| 11/15/2014 9:04:24 AM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
52, joined Sep. 2014
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You've only been together for a few months...yeah. Let him go. Not worth the cat and mouse game...because that's what it will be until your satisfied he's all yours.
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| 11/15/2014 10:14:20 AM |
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ahleah4mriris
Fort Worth, TX
44, joined Jul. 2014
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He is still looking.
He'll hold on to you until he can trade you in.
I hate to be negative, but I think this one is happening. The 3rd guy I met on here, I thought liked me and was planning to be an item & form a relationship. I was loyal and deleted off...but he remained on----ANd not to chat in the forums. Loyalty in men is difficult to find. Online or offline, they're still not loyal.
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| 11/15/2014 10:28:26 AM |
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notlikeurex
Greenville, NC
37, joined Aug. 2012
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Drop him
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| 11/15/2014 10:46:12 AM |
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ms_meltmyheart
Fargo, ND
47, joined Apr. 2014
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And yet here you are on a dating site. Asking a bunch of strangers who have never met you or your boyfriend if he is cheating or not. Since you went to all the trouble of creating a fake profile, you should have grown a pair and messaged him to see if he would respond. Then you would know the answer.
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| 11/16/2014 7:54:58 PM |
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lagypsyhippie
El Paso, TX
51, joined Oct. 2014
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Sweety dump his silly macaroni a** DH stands for just that. U fck them n u leave them. So dnt boo hoo over that idiot find u a real man ... not on Dh Really?
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| 11/16/2014 9:11:01 PM |
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tanklp320
Laguna Hills, CA
38, joined Sep. 2014
online now!
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 11/16/2014 9:19:04 PM |
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Karmakicked
Rocky Mount, VA
37, joined Oct. 2014
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You should have had a talk about Internet dating sites when you decided to be together. And making a fake just to check up on him instead of just asking about it? There's some trust issues already.
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