| 12/2/2014 10:15:11 AM |
I hate divorce. |
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bobbynolan
Poplarville, MS
46, joined Oct. 2014
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I just sent the papers off. I am devistated.
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| 12/2/2014 12:36:24 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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I'm sorry. Here are some hugs for you. It gets better with time.
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| 12/2/2014 8:35:29 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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It gets worse before it gets better. Don't do anything that will make the outcome worse for yourself. Think about everything you say. Do not text or write anything that can incriminate yourself.
Be civil think about what you can do without.
Use patients and relax your temper.
think ahead there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Do not let anything get you down stay strong if you have children they are looking to you for strength they are suffering too. Never forget about your children they will not forget you!
Divorce can take a toll on you it is like working two jobs on you physically.
At the end of the day they are one person out of billions.
Take your time and spend what you have left wisely restabilize to the best of your ability.once you feel ready go and find the one.
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| 12/3/2014 7:34:01 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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dadof3looking
Bellmawr, NJ
37, joined Jul. 2013
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Also document anything she says does or just anything you feel is important. I went through a nasty divorce. Just stay positive especially if you have childern. Always remember that they are your childern also. Don't do anything bad cause that might be used against you when you ask for visitation with your childern. My xwife turned my kids against me for a bit. I never hurt so much. Now that my kids see me stay at my house they tell me how hurt they were when they were not allowed to call or see me because of my x. Just keep your head up. There's nothing wrong with going to talk to people. I did it and it helped.
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| 12/4/2014 3:08:23 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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calblueray
Arlington, TX
61, joined Sep. 2014
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Sad OP. it is devastating. if there are minors, win the home study. joint accounts, get the money. hire a lawyer who gives money to your judge's re-election fund. (yes the legal system is just a big freaking fraud). Read advice columns the judge wrote when they were divorce lawyers. Be smooth. Sit in on cases as an observer the judge has. Good luck.
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| 12/5/2014 12:38:04 AM |
I hate divorce. |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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I just sent the papers off. I am devistated.
At least you did it. My ex has papers he says he is finishing up. Its been four yrs. We are still not divorced. 
But its a hard situation to go through. Good luck.
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| 12/5/2014 12:57:34 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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calblueray
Arlington, TX
61, joined Sep. 2014
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At least you did it. My ex has papers he says he is finishing up. Its been four yrs. We are still not divorced.
But its a hard situation to go through. Good luck.
you have a smart ex.
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| 12/25/2014 4:13:17 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Dec. 2014
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I just sent the papers off. I am devistated.
I'm sorry. Divorce is always tough.
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| 12/25/2014 10:44:35 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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Poster above^^
Why is he smart? We are both walking away with nothing. We have no kids. Nothing left to separate. I am not asking him for alimony. He now pays me a very small amount of $ a month to help me maintain my truck. That's it. So if he was smart he'd get this shit done.
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| 12/29/2014 4:01:45 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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eli13
South Gate, CA
45, joined Oct. 2010
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Its easy when you have no kids but its hard on both when kids are involved. Harder on the kids. It is what its.
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| 12/29/2014 5:08:06 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
61, joined Aug. 2011
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Poster above^^
Why is he smart? We are both walking away with nothing. We have no kids. Nothing left to separate. I am not asking him for alimony. He now pays me a very small amount of $ a month to help me maintain my truck. That's it. So if he was smart he'd get this shit done.
Guess I should feel lucky. Mine said she wanted out on friday. She filed on monday. 90 days later, I was divorced. Cost me a whole whopping $76 bucks. Had I griped, she was willing to pay it all. I should have, just to be a pain in the but.
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| 1/29/2015 12:50:17 AM |
I hate divorce. |
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jenny_oo
American Falls, ID
40, joined Jul. 2014
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Holy cow. Why are y'all complaining? My divorce/custody costed more than a brand new car. It went on for over two years. 
In the end, it always seems that the one with the most intimidating attorney comes out ahead.
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| 1/29/2015 8:28:24 AM |
I hate divorce. |
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agooddaddy10
Liberty, KY
53, joined Aug. 2010
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Mine cost more than a better-than-average house in our town. When I complained about the prospect of this, my wise attorney said "Pick one fight you want to win and know you're going to lose the others." I chose custody of my son and threw everything else to the wind, knowing I stood the chance of losing everything.
I won the most important battle and lost the financial battle. Life is good. We're okay and my son is happy, well adjusted, safe and smart.
Not everyone can throw money into this war but you can offer something the ex wants, you know them better than anyone, just use your noggin. Everyone's situation is different but I'll echo that advice of "Pick one battle to win and throw the rest away". Some people choose to throw the kids away and I DO NOT feel sorry for them when they get what they choose.
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| 1/29/2015 10:47:45 AM |
I hate divorce. |
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springerstyle
Dawsonville, GA
48, joined Oct. 2013
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I couldn't agree more... I spent $118k fighting for 50% custody of my son, which took 18 months to go to trial. My divorce was final in 2011...
After the divorce, my ex also let me keep my then eight year old step son half of the time as long as I agreed to pay for half of all expenses, so I didn't hesitate. Last May, she told me I couldn't see him any longer because she no longer needed the financial help (He is now 13)...
My now eight year old biological son is confused again and we have experienced another "loss"... All I can say is that kids are resilient... Thank goodness.
In a nutshell, divorce sucks @SS
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| 1/30/2015 1:18:06 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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txcountrymedic
Pleasanton, TX
39, joined Mar. 2014
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Mine cost more than a better-than-average house in our town. When I complained about the prospect of this, my wise attorney said "Pick one fight you want to win and know you're going to lose the others." I chose custody of my son and threw everything else to the wind, knowing I stood the chance of losing everything.
I won the most important battle and lost the financial battle. Life is good. We're okay and my son is happy, well adjusted, safe and smart.
Not everyone can throw money into this war but you can offer something the ex wants, you know them better than anyone, just use your noggin. Everyone's situation is different but I'll echo that advice of "Pick one battle to win and throw the rest away". Some people choose to throw the kids away and I DO NOT feel sorry for them when they get what they choose.
this is very sound and noble advice. I my situation is the same as this, i only wish i had this advice 5years ago my self
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| 2/1/2015 10:38:34 PM |
I hate divorce. |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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Remember to breathe.
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