| 1/28/2015 7:31:02 AM |
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missright1970
Roebuck, SC
44, joined Jun. 2014
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
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| 1/28/2015 7:32:30 AM |
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Lokin4AReason
Kenner, LA
38, joined Jan. 2015
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welcome to reality =0/
everyone has something that they are going through ( can be positive or negative )
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| 1/28/2015 7:34:39 AM |
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groo_wanderer
Litchfield, CT
40, joined Dec. 2014
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Because those kinds of men are married or have girlfriends or they are gay.
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| 1/28/2015 7:47:42 AM |
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lovetodoit
Buffalo, MO
59, joined Sep. 2011
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I have my life together, however I just don't feel the need to get into a relationship but I'm up front when I meet a new lady. So playing games not me
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| 1/28/2015 7:59:43 AM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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Wish in one hand, and shit in the other, and see which one gets full first.
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| 1/28/2015 8:40:04 AM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
Just because a man doesn't want a relationship doesn't mean he don't have his life together.
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| 1/28/2015 8:41:39 AM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
39, joined Feb. 2014
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I will continue to play Candy Crush.
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| 1/28/2015 8:44:31 AM |
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septembersong27
Beverly Hills, CA
46, joined Nov. 2012
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Games can be fun. Loosen up.
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| 1/28/2015 8:46:44 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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nothingneeded^^^^^^^^^good point.
and sometimes sex happens inadvertently as supposedly concensual between two adults, or at least that's the impression at that time....very early on in their beginning...as meer daters.
But then after it happens, the woman is carrying on like its now a full fledged relation with all the trimmings.
And when he gets to know her better, he decides she is not the one and moves on.
He is deemed as another player.
And op....there are enough men seeking a real relation....however that doesn't mean he will have it with just anyone he dates..
And, its up to you to have the fortitude to weed out the players vs. those that are more real.
Its called being....Strong and Independent..and for the record its hard for us all to find that right person.
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| 1/28/2015 8:49:20 AM |
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septembersong27
Beverly Hills, CA
46, joined Nov. 2012
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^^^^^^^^^good point.
Duh
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| 1/28/2015 8:50:14 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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You know...maybe putting more into your profile might help some.
especially not just saying what YOU want.
a line or two?
come on now...your not even trying that hard going by that alone....and how do we know your so great?
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| 1/28/2015 9:10:36 AM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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Its called being....Strong and Independent..and for the record its hard for us all to find that right person.
Strong and independent.....
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| 1/28/2015 9:12:06 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
47, joined Sep. 2014
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Independence is counter productive if you want a partnership...
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| 1/28/2015 9:29:09 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
53, joined Jan. 2014
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
Same problem I have, meeting a decent woman.
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| 1/28/2015 9:40:24 AM |
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dezweather
Phoenix, AZ
43, joined Oct. 2014
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Like attracts like.
Take a look at yourself.
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| 1/28/2015 9:54:53 AM |
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ctr916v2
Roseville, CA
51, joined Nov. 2014
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
I heard all the nice guys got used for emotional tampon relationships and went on strike.
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| 1/28/2015 9:58:11 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
55, joined Jul. 2010
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Yes, another mystery of the universe.
Why indeed?
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| 1/28/2015 10:27:32 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
46, joined Jan. 2012
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
I agree. Most of the men I've dated since my divorce have been one night dates, knew I didn't want to see them again after that. But since 2010 these are the men I've dated:
-a man who was "separated" and ended up finding out he was still very much married and living with his wife and kids.
-a man who had been through tons of bad relationships and made sure he talked about all those horrible evil women to me all the time and he tried to kill himself 6 times while dating him if I didn't give him the attention he needed, smoked weed, didn't work and his mom paid his bills, he ignored texts from me on purpose to get a rise out of me when I wondered why he was ignoring me, then later said I played head games with HIM, cheated on me in the end and when I found out he called cops and said I was harassing him solely because I called his cell phone and told him I knew he was seeing someone else. He tried to take me to court on that one and I proved we had sex a few days before that through an email exchange we had. Biggest game player and moron I think I will ever meet in my life!
There are more but I don't want to drag my response out.
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| 1/28/2015 10:28:45 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
46, joined Jan. 2012
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I heard all the nice guys got used for emotional tampon relationships and went on strike.
Not true. I get sick of these types of commments. There are men out there preying on newly divorced and widowed women over 40 every day.
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| 1/28/2015 11:11:46 AM |
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unique_woman
Omaha, NE
27, joined Dec. 2014
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Sometimes That's Just The Way It Is & Good Luck
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| 1/28/2015 11:28:08 AM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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Gotta get their money back somehow. 
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| 1/28/2015 11:54:38 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
47, joined Sep. 2014
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The obvious answer would be, they already have their life together and so are already married/involved.
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| 1/28/2015 6:50:52 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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I'm totally centered, OP and staying within myself. Got a job, go to church, no kids, don't drink or smoke or do drugs, politically conservative. I have my ducks in a row!
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| 1/28/2015 7:12:57 PM |
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luxorus
Peoria, IL
36, joined Apr. 2014
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my life is in a tangle  
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| 1/28/2015 7:37:02 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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Just because a man doesn't want a relationship doesn't mean he don't have his life together.
Agreed
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| 1/28/2015 7:39:50 PM |
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luxorus
Peoria, IL
36, joined Apr. 2014
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around here, some dudes have to pay like a quarter of their income in child support, their life is over lol
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| 1/29/2015 5:42:35 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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The obvious answer would be, they already have their life together and so are already married/involved.
Or it could be they avoid women who seem to not have their life together.....and blame the men always....
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| 1/29/2015 5:48:08 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
61, joined Sep. 2009
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Of course, one might want to keep in mind, that those of us who are here and available, are here and available for a reason. If we were perfect and wonderful, the only reason you'd come across us single, is because our mate recently died. And then you'd be wise to investigate why they did.
It may sound like a negative way to look at things, but it really isn't: everyone is second rate, at best. Less than perfect. And no one magically becomes wise, caring, and rational just because they survived past the age of 25. Adulthood is an illusion, in that sense.
But bottom line, the reason YOU are asking why it's hard to find a good mate, is the same reason why what you have to select from isn't all that enticing: none of us who are available, are so because we are just tooo fab.
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| 1/29/2015 6:01:18 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
55, joined Feb. 2010
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
It is not that hard. It is you are not attracted to the man.
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| 1/29/2015 10:04:30 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
33, joined Jul. 2012
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Not true. I get sick of these types of commments. There are men out there preying on newly divorced and widowed women over 40 every day.
Good point, there's plenty of users and toxic ppl regardless of gender. They prey on anyone lonely and vulnerable.
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| 1/29/2015 10:11:08 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
33, joined Jul. 2012
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Many ppl are struggling right now whether by events beyond their control or through their own choices. I've chatted with some who disclosed their situation upfront and I appreciate that since it avoids wasting extra time. Many on here have DUIs, no job, are deadbeat parents or just got out of jail/prison. No one's perfect but I wouldn't feel comfortable taking that on.
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| 1/29/2015 11:06:07 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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That works both ways.
I see many women on disability and don't need to be, or tired of working and just trying to some guy so they can stop working.
etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc.
and why do you not post a picture?
Cheating???
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| 1/29/2015 11:07:41 AM |
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iceheart86
Florence, OR
28, joined Jan. 2015
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Another thread complaining about how men must be. Basically a good man thread in disguise. Pathetic.
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| 1/29/2015 11:21:27 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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I'll ad one thing here, none of those I talk to who were of suspicious nature or didn't turn out to be as advertised....were "ever" up front about anything.
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| 1/29/2015 1:35:04 PM |
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
61, joined Feb. 2014
online now!
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
Well the very fact they don't have a woman in their life meens they don't have their life together. You wouldn't want him to chead would you?????
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| 1/29/2015 1:40:55 PM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
37, joined Apr. 2014
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It simply doesn't exist now get off it
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| 1/29/2015 5:04:18 PM |
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happylauren
Crown Point, IN
53, joined May. 2013
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There are so many people male and female that are struggling with so many different issues. There are people battling mental illness and depression. The recession and unemployment have really affected a lot of people. So many relationships break up and there are a lot of people grieving. Life is tough. Don't give up someone who has their act together will find you. Never ever give up hope.
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| 1/29/2015 6:05:29 PM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
47, joined Jun. 2014
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cause u aint looking for one
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| 1/29/2015 6:58:43 PM |
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purdiibirdi
Nice
France
40, joined Aug. 2014
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you aren't gonna find them/him on DH, either.... OP. 
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| 1/29/2015 7:31:12 PM |
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hisbaby4ever13
Ramseur, NC
32, joined Jul. 2014
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Obviously it's not...you just have to weed out the idiots, have patience, etc.
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| 1/29/2015 7:36:01 PM |
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jfs1776
Grosse Pointe, MI
38, joined Aug. 2013
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I think people gravitate to the bull shitters. Lol
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| 1/29/2015 7:53:34 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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I still have mine together! STILL employed, go to church etc. Paid my bills, didn't get a ticket, don't chase around with nasty feminists, don't drink or do drugs. How much more together do you want? I'll bet you haven't even checked out my profile because you think this is complete bullshit.
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| 1/29/2015 11:57:38 PM |
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tooosweer
Baton Rouge, LA
30, joined Jan. 2013
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You must first have your together with strong standards and don't break them for the right now guy...
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| 1/30/2015 12:34:06 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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Because those kinds of men are married or have girlfriends or they are gay.
doesn't mean they have their shit together.
OP just live your life and have fun. you may be trying to hard. And don't think DH is the only date website out there.
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| 1/30/2015 5:59:58 AM |
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hisbaby4ever13
Ramseur, NC
32, joined Jul. 2014
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you aren't gonna find them/him on DH, either.... OP.
Hey! NOT ENTIRELY TRUE, woman!
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| 1/30/2015 6:33:47 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
62, joined Oct. 2010
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
ahhhh ... because boys love to play with their balls ... maybe ???
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| 1/30/2015 7:46:40 AM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
47, joined Jun. 2014
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u can if u look
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| 2/11/2015 12:26:39 AM |
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missright1970
Roebuck, SC
44, joined Jun. 2014
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I'm trying....just discouraged.
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| 2/11/2015 1:50:20 AM |
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onetodo
Houston, TX
65, joined Jun. 2010
online now!
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Primarily, due to the fact that Women have a genetic thing about driving men CRAZY !!!
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| 2/11/2015 1:59:52 AM |
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sammyluevano11
Lovington, NM
32, joined Jan. 2015
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Those guys are in bed wit their wife and check-in this once a week when they get drunk with friends. But woman want the guy that had four girlfriends and one pregnant. And that's the one they want to settle with. When there are plenty of mature male like me that make 100k,a year and don't flinch to raise bastard kids with no prob. Give every dime they have to cloth the kids. Go to all the school meetings for the kids and give ebb a car. So you b*tched to say my kids don't like you do I can't be with you. F**k you single b*tches not once but three times I am the dumb as good man that b*tches don't deserve
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| 2/11/2015 2:41:49 AM |
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Elisa78
GhurianAlmerÃa
Spain
36, joined Jan. 2015
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It no difficult meet a man, they are a plague but is difficult to meet the rite one for you, keep looking maybe you lucky one day if u know what u want.
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| 2/11/2015 3:34:02 AM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
37, joined Apr. 2014
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Ever heard the term ladies first
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| 2/11/2015 3:59:47 AM |
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boyinneed
Miami, FL
50, joined Aug. 2011
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Sweetie your on DHU...
It is for free...Remember...
You get what you pay for...
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| 2/11/2015 4:23:33 AM |
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marriedncheatin
Twin Falls, ID
48, joined Jul. 2012
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Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
Men today aren't the men like your father.. they made this country great but now most men are big pussies and they cow down to shit all the time
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| 2/11/2015 8:03:34 AM |
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norwegianwood64
Huntsville, AL
51, joined Jul. 2014
online now!
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Getting a guy to delete his profile after one date is the new game.
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| 2/11/2015 8:09:38 AM |
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browneyz
San Diego, CA
58, joined Jan. 2008
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No one has their life together all the time. I had rather meet a man that is open to learning and change.
Then he may be open to anew relationship and is not stuck in the past.
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| 2/11/2015 9:22:47 AM |
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iceheart86
Florence, OR
28, joined Jan. 2015
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F**k her right in the p*ssy!
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| 2/11/2015 10:25:19 AM |
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wnts2byrs
Conway, AR
42, joined Oct. 2014
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Just because a man doesn't want a relationship doesn't mean he don't have his life together.
I agree!
There are many reasons why an individual may or may not want a relationship. But to say it's because they don't have their life together?
And as far as games go, don't indulge the individual. Move on!
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| 2/11/2015 11:18:28 AM |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
56, joined Feb. 2014
online now!
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I don't get it.. I dated awesome men locally.. I am engaged now.. Met them on dh.. I just don't understand..
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| 2/11/2015 10:22:52 PM |
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indianadave1951
Elkhart, IN
64, joined Dec. 2010
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1. Why is it so hard to meet a man that has their life together?
2. Wishing it wasn't so hard meeting a man that wants a real relationship and not into playing games.
It seems these two statements are contradictory. If all he wants to do is play games he doesn't have his life together. Unless, of course, I'm misinterpreting your phrase "has his life together".
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