Thoughtful Gifts

6/18/2015 12:58:38 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	I'm curious about other people's thoughts and experiences about gift giving while dating or in a relationship. How long do you wait before giving the man or woman you are dating a thoughtful gift? Have you ever received a special gift too early in the relationship and just thought it was a little inappropriate? Too soon for that? How about giving a gift and not having the reception going quite as you thought it would be? i.e. epic fail. What have been some of your favorite gifts... either gifts you have given or gifts you have received? Can you count sports tickets for you and your date as a gift if it is on their birthday? Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
6/18/2015 1:15:41 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
ocnfshn4 Fort Lauderdale, FL 50, joined Sep. 2014	you cant handle the truth
6/18/2015 1:18:53 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
bigdinv Houston, TX 36, joined Sep. 2011	I gave a girl a warning before I came.
6/18/2015 3:19:02 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
pastmybedtime Huntingdon, TN 41, joined Apr. 2015	A happy ending is always a thoughtful gift to give me
6/18/2015 4:31:59 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
Gardenguy68 Wake Forest, NC 61, joined Dec. 2014	A Sex Toy From Adam And Eve Is Always A Thoughtful Gift.... One The First Date Works Well!......
6/18/2015 4:45:35 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
lareveur La Follette, TN 33, joined May. 2013	One guy drew a sketch of me on our first date, I thought that was sweet. Some people might consider that creepy, but most who consider any form of creativity as being "creepy" are typicaly the ones who fail to read the between the lines. The effort is sweet, it's the charming ones (slick talkers) to be wary of. A man who is willing to put genuine time in you is worth observing a little more, rather than dismissing it over some bullshit magazine article that states as to what is "appropriate" and what isn't. It's all illusory adn insecure. Love (at least fro me) is boundless and liberating. I think it's in Corinthians? Sorry for my deplorable misspelled typing.
6/18/2015 4:55:13 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
theloser2123 Manassas, VA 25, joined Apr. 2014	One time at band camp, I gave this girl my d*ck in a box
6/18/2015 6:52:07 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
kawkasian Beverly Hills, CA 36, joined Sep. 2014	Quote from lareveur: One guy drew a sketch of me on our first date, I thought that was sweet. Some people might consider that creepy Creepy would have been a sketch of your mother.
6/18/2015 7:03:33 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	SEX appears to be on the top of some people's list of favorite gifts to give and receive. Just remember... 3 minutes isn't a gift. We all know that. If you aren't expecting a happy ending... it is a surprise and very thoughtful. A toy you can share with the one you love is the best kind. A box with nothing in it is disappointing. Quote from lareveur: One guy drew a sketch of me on our first date, I thought that was sweet. Some people might consider that creepy, but most who consider any form of creativity as being "creepy" are typicaly the ones who fail to read the between the lines. The effort is sweet, it's the charming ones (slick talkers) to be wary of. A man who is willing to put genuine time in you is worth observing a little more, rather than dismissing it over some bullshit magazine article that states as to what is "appropriate" and what isn't. It's all illusory adn insecure. Love (at least fro me) is boundless and liberating. I think it's in Corinthians? Sorry for my deplorable misspelled typing. From my perspective... that is indeed a more thoughtful gift than sex. A man I once met saved all of my pictures from my dating profile and photo-shopped me into various funny scenes. I had mixed feelings about that. Sure. I see the creative effort and I can appreciate that. But, it made me reluctant to post new pictures. [Edited 6/18/2015 7:05:40 AM ]
6/18/2015 7:04:35 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
truckerdaddy915 El Paso, TX 41, joined Feb. 2014	Quote from kawkasian: Creepy would have been a sketch of your mother. I sketched a girl once. She didn't like it.
6/18/2015 7:46:35 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
bumblebee7 Fort Payne, AL 61, joined Apr. 2011	OP..those sex comments were....jokes and sarcasm....don't take them seriously. and to fire back like that...shows issues generally. There is no time length for all situations and people. This is simply another one of those....it depends things. It depends on the person and the situation, how they feel about the person. I never give gifts for browny points....If I do so, its because I'm inspired to do so. I think picking wild flowers and giving them shows something.....as far as early on....and even later on. I think I've only had one woman give something fairly early on....showing times haven't changed as much as we had hoped....or if they did, it was one sided still. [Edited 6/18/2015 7:47:19 AM ]
6/18/2015 7:51:29 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
hippo65 Albuquerque, NM 51, joined Apr. 2013	Quote from truckerdaddy915: I sketched a girl once. She didn't like it. It was a hair.. I really don't know what is a thoughtful/special gift? Guess I don't put too much thought into giving and receiving, so I don't worry about epic fail, I give gift without thinking what will I receive. I got a mini race car to someone because while we talked she mentioned her favorite driver, and I just happen to saw that in the store. And it was our first meet. She thought it was sweet, she was embarrassed that she didn't got me anything. I told her that honestly I didn't go shopping for one, just saw it, so... I received a few hippo figurines, so those are my favorite. Sport tickets IMO is a good birthday gift... Guess I don't get all t5his gift giving/receiving. Isn't it the thought that counts?
6/18/2015 8:08:53 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
archer513 Cincinnati, OH 43, joined Dec. 2014	Moi...the greatest gift a lady can receive
6/18/2015 12:02:17 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	The lack of money as a kid and not really getting much of anything, I 've learned to do without as an adult. I have a hard time excepting gifts from a man at any stage of the relationship. In the beginning no gifts should be exchanged. Maybe at the 6 month mark is good for all the shyt trinket gifts to be passed out. Ugh I hate that shyt. Just give me $20 I will go buy my own crappy gift, but something I like [Edited 6/18/2015 12:03:04 PM ]
6/18/2015 12:47:35 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
dixie_dancer Kansas City, KS 28, joined Feb. 2013	I gift mostly practical things. And am happier receiving practical things. Lavish jewelry and diamonds is too much for me. I've received a few practical simple yet elegant pieces of jewelry and even that was stressful for me. My guy gets me rare and limited release beers I can't get here. And I do the same for him. I got him a pair if work boots. He surprises me with a sack of my favorite gas station burritos. To me those things mean more than any piece of jewelry or whatnot. Those gifts are thoughtful because they're exceptionally personal. Knowing the type of burrito I absolutely get a foodgasm from. Knowing which types of beer I like. Knowing that his old work boots are getting rough and the fact I work at a western store. Those aren't gifts you could give to just ANY guy or girl.
6/18/2015 12:53:58 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from hippo65: I got a mini race car to someone because while we talked she mentioned her favorite driver, and I just happen to saw that in the store. And it was our first meet. She thought it was sweet, she was embarrassed that she didn't got me anything. I told her that honestly I didn't go shopping for one, just saw it, so... I received a few hippo figurines, so those are my favorite. Sport tickets IMO is a good birthday gift... I think one small gift is thoughtful and appropriate... especially if you both like race cars. I seem to have problems with larger gifts or a multitude of gifts where someone has really gone out of their way too early in the relationship. Quote from bumblebee7: OP..those sex comments were....jokes and sarcasm....don't take them seriously. and to fire back like that...shows issues generally. I think I've only had one woman give something fairly early on....showing times haven't changed as much as we had hoped....or if they did, it was one sided still. My sense of humor is sometimes underplayed. I thought the sex comments were funny. But my response must not have been?????? Perhaps I will have to take up drawing pictures to up my humor value or use "lol" more often so people know when I am joking too. lol. So... what about a woman who cooks you dinner early on in the relationship? If sex and spending time with someone are considered a gifts, are home cooked meals considered a gift too? Do most men feel in general that women are a little slow in the giving area? [Edited 6/18/2015 12:55:03 PM ]
6/18/2015 1:10:42 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
smexysuperstar Sapphire, NC 53, joined Sep. 2014	Some of the most thoughtful gifts I've received from past someone's I was dating... A Camo shirt matching his, A pair of Gurkee sandals, A handmade carved candle, A computer, a handmade rose woven from sweet pampas grass, a nice goose down pillow. Things I've gifted... Fishing lures, an Indian amulet necklace that was a heart carved from a deer antler, clothes, cologne, tools, and massages, lots of massages. I don't think there is should be a rule for appropriate/inappropriate time for gift giving if it's truly from the heart. A gift is a token of appreciation and their just plain nice. [Edited 6/18/2015 1:11:48 PM ]
6/18/2015 6:29:15 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
packersbabe920 Green Bay, WI 51, joined Jul. 2013	Guess it's the thought what counts, whether they except it or not
6/18/2015 6:41:07 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
driver406 Saint Paul, MN 65, joined Oct. 2009	Quote from bigdinv: I gave a girl a warning before I came. Good move and it was thoughtful!
6/18/2015 6:55:10 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from pickygirl72: In the beginning no gifts should be exchanged. Maybe at the 6 month mark is good for all the shyt trinket gifts to be passed out. Ugh I hate that shyt. Just give me $20 I will go buy my own crappy gift, but something I like I feel similarly to you. I prefer that gift giving start a little later when the relationship is on reciprocal grounds emotionally. Sometimes a gift too soon feels like an ulterior motive... even though I recognize that it is nice and thoughtful. Quote from dixie_dancer: To me those things mean more than any piece of jewelry or whatnot. Those gifts are thoughtful because they're exceptionally personal. Knowing the type of burrito I absolutely get a foodgasm from. Knowing which types of beer I like. Knowing that his old work boots are getting rough and the fact I work at a western store. Those aren't gifts you could give to just ANY guy or girl. This is a great place to be in a relationship! Quote from smexysuperstar: ... and massages, lots of massages. Who doesn't love a good massage? Almost as thoughtful as sex. Quote from packersbabe920: Guess it's the thought what counts, whether they except it or not That is true. Sometimes there is a joy in giving to others just because you enjoy giving and you generally hope to make your partner happy. There is a point in a relationship where I am more like Dixie and the gift giving is just an extension of my feelings towards the man I love.
6/18/2015 7:41:12 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
pastmybedtime Huntingdon, TN 41, joined Apr. 2015	The most overlooked and underappreciated gift people give is time. In all reality it is the most precious gift that can be given by 2 people.
6/18/2015 7:51:54 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
cubcougar Lucerne, CA 64, joined Oct. 2010	I always ask permission if I can cum inside of her ...
6/18/2015 9:14:25 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
pastmybedtime Huntingdon, TN 41, joined Apr. 2015	Stay away from the taco sauce lickers cub
6/18/2015 9:20:34 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
nothingneeded Johnston, IA 48, joined Sep. 2014	Money can't buy love neither gifts. Now if you been with somwone for sometime (more then a few months) then i dont see anything wrong with a gift. But..not going overboard. I just can't imagine a woman wanting to give a thoughtful gift though...kind of makes it look like... Oh im giving you a gift...please stay with me.
6/18/2015 10:44:21 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
smexysuperstar Sapphire, NC 53, joined Sep. 2014	Quote from pastmybedtime: The most overlooked and underappreciated gift people give is time. In all reality it is the most precious gift that can be given by 2 people. Amen to that
6/19/2015 1:02:24 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from pastmybedtime: The most overlooked and underappreciated gift people give is time. In all reality it is the most precious gift that can be given by 2 people. Quality time, attention, and affection are important for a relationship. You are right. Time together is often taken for granted. Quote from nothingneeded: I just can't imagine a woman wanting to give a thoughtful gift though...kind of makes it look like... Oh im giving you a gift...please stay with me. Well, I suppose you might end up looking like a sugar-mama if you bought too many gifts. I wonder do men perceive this as desperate? Or do women just think that's how it comes off?
6/19/2015 1:23:15 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from cubcougar: I always ask permission if I can cum inside of her ... A thoughtful gift of extra time. lol.
6/19/2015 1:33:37 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
mccirrus Indianapolis, IN 38, joined Nov. 2010	Cash money is def my top choice. That's both thoughtful and practical ffs!
6/19/2015 2:17:49 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
tjl503 Portland, OR 36, joined Dec. 2012	Shit, I like gifts. Who doesn't. I've learned a lot in my years, sometimes buying shit for women and getting nothing in return. Not that I expect it but it gets old if you're the only one giving. Some women think that laying on their back and spreading their legs a few times a week is enough giving and thoughtfulness. I'd say wait until at least 3 months in that btch to buy her shit. If you want to know what to get your girl take her a* to the mall. You won't go out of there without her giving you 30 fking ideas of what to surprise her with. I've had 2 times in my life where women gave me a gift where I was tripping. The first knitted me a blanket of my favorite basketball team. I received it the 4th time I met her. I still have that fker but I got rid of her. It was really creepy how fast she was moving. The other woman bought me a very expensive watch that I pointed out I wanted. I wasn't pointing it out to have her buy it for me. I had only been with her for 3 months. Don't lead with money and gifts. Oh, and yeah, sports tickets are great gifts! If you really want to get your man a gift act like a f*king whre! Surprise him when he gets home!
6/19/2015 6:14:45 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
testsignup Springfield, VA 63, joined Sep. 2009	Calculated gifts are a problem. It's related to the whole "thought that counts" aspect. No matter how small the gift, if the plan behind it is manipulation or bribery or "schmoozing" then it's not really good for the relationship. Locker room talk can be revealing. I've heard guys brag about how they have some standard FAKE "thoughtful gifts" that they use over and over to fool women into thinking they are deeply romantic. I've had gifts be epic fails in various ways. So much so, that I get to be gun shy about gifting for some situations. Mostly, I try not to think of what I want to accomplish with a gift, and just give it. One last thing, the most appreciated "gifts" I've given or received, have been the ones where we didn't think of them as gifts at all. I or my mate just did some small wonderful thing because we wanted to do it, because we cared about each other, and not because we even had the word "gift" in our heads as we did it.
6/19/2015 7:55:11 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
hippo65 Albuquerque, NM 51, joined Apr. 2013	Quote from smexysuperstar: Some of the most thoughtful gifts I've received from past someone's I was dating... A Camo shirt matching his, A pair of Gurkee sandals, A handmade carved candle, A computer, a handmade rose woven from sweet pampas grass, a nice goose down pillow. Things I've gifted... Fishing lures, an Indian amulet necklace that was a heart carved from a deer antler, clothes, cologne, tools, and massages, lots of massages. I don't think there is should be a rule for appropriate/inappropriate time for gift giving if it's truly from the heart. A gift is a token of appreciation and their just plain nice. A computer/ It's not funny I know, just funny how the other gifts were different. And of course I agree, there is no appropriate/inappropriate time..
6/19/2015 8:21:16 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
latinasm Amarillo, TX 48, joined May. 2014	Gifts should be given cause he/ wants to an be from the heart!! There's no 'when's the right time' an it shouldn't matter what is the gift, as long as it's from the heart! J/s
6/19/2015 8:24:26 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
hippo65 Albuquerque, NM 51, joined Apr. 2013	Well maybe not edible underwear on a first date..
6/19/2015 9:03:48 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
iheartidiots Grove City, OH 39, joined Feb. 2012	I don't need gifts persay. I like thoughtful gestures of actions. Or a simple text. Its the little things that mean the most to me.
6/19/2015 9:09:31 AM	Thoughtful Gifts
latinasm Amarillo, TX 48, joined May. 2014
6/19/2015 12:32:28 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from tjl503: I've had 2 times in my life where women gave me a gift where I was tripping. The first knitted me a blanket of my favorite basketball team. I received it the 4th time I met her. I still have that fker but I got rid of her. It was really creepy how fast she was moving. The other woman bought me a very expensive watch that I pointed out I wanted. I wasn't pointing it out to have her buy it for me. I had only been with her for 3 months. Don't lead with money and gifts. Oh, and yeah, sports tickets are great gifts! If you really want to get your man a gift act like a fking wh*re! Surprise him when he gets home! Sorry, I do have to admit that I have cut down the amount of dinner cooking and whoring that I will do for the man I am dating because it sometimes is not always received well. It's better for this to be a surprise than a common every day thing. Perhaps too much of a good thing isn't so good. Going to sports events is more my thing these days. I paid for opening day hockey tickets. He paid for basketball tickets for my birthday. We went to a bunch of games in between, but split costs. Quote from testsignup: One last thing, the most appreciated "gifts" I've given or received, have been the ones where we didn't think of them as gifts at all. I or my mate just did some small wonderful thing because we wanted to do it, because we cared about each other, and not because we even had the word "gift" in our heads as we did it. I think the more a person's thoughtfulness blends in with the normal dating/relating process that the gesture is perceived as being just part of a GOOD relationship rather than a ploy. It seems to me that things are more comfortable and natural among two people who lean on the giving side.
6/19/2015 12:43:05 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 50, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from hippo65: A computer/ I once got a TV. It was during the days that I preferred to be more active than to spend time watching TV at home so I had a tiny 15 inch TV just to listen to the news. The guy I was dating at the time had roommates and happened to have an extra. So, I inherited it with hesitation. A computer would be thoughtful if the one you were using crashed.
6/19/2015 4:31:35 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
nothingneeded Johnston, IA 48, joined Sep. 2014	Quote from lucky_1million: Well, I suppose you might end up looking like a sugar-mama if you bought too many gifts. I wonder do men perceive this as desperate? Or do women just think that's how it comes off? Men would probably think you're desperate...buying a gift so early in a relationship...
6/19/2015 4:42:00 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
inni_dreamz Pasadena, CA 97, joined Nov. 2012	Quote from nothingneeded: Money can't buy love neither gifts. Now if you been with somwone for sometime (more then a few months) then i dont see anything wrong with a gift. But..not going overboard. I just can't imagine a woman wanting to give a thoughtful gift though...kind of makes it look like... Oh im giving you a gift...please stay with me. No offense, but that seems very sad. That a woman can't give a man a gift unless she is desperate? I don't believe that is true at all.
6/21/2015 9:14:03 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
transformative Hartford, CT 40, joined Apr. 2015	Time and real love. My family only showed me love by gift giving, so materials dont mean much to me. My ex and I were poor...so for xmas I drew him a large picture of our favorite place...and he made me a wooden box to keep my journals... still friends, gifts we will always have. This new guy I went on a date with gave me a block with faces on each side to reflect different moods...sort of cute, thoughtful, personal...where did he get such a thing??? ((But at the same time seemed criticising of me...))) I guess, this is correct since yet again he had another "I dont feel well" excuse for not meeting up for our second date.
6/28/2015 8:24:57 PM	Thoughtful Gifts
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