| 7/2/2015 2:21:28 PM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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In another thread, a lot of people are talking about wounded pride and loss of face when they're "rejected".
So...those who persist after no response or a flat out "no"...is it really about the particular woman or man and being that determined to move forward with him/her, or is is about saving face and needing to prove to him/her that you were worthwhile after all.
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| 7/2/2015 2:31:25 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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I only go where I'm accepted- Don't wanna' to go where I'm not- Has always worked for me. 
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| 7/2/2015 2:39:52 PM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
48, joined Aug. 2014
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I honestly have approached only one man in my life. I'd say we are friends now.
So I really don't know the answer. 
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| 7/2/2015 4:29:58 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
48, joined Oct. 2013
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U can approach me candy!
I won't reject u....
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| 7/2/2015 4:31:04 PM |
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mustangwriter
Boerne, TX
55, joined Nov. 2009
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I only go where I'm accepted- Don't wanna' to go where I'm not- Has always worked for me.
Hell...Thats what I told the Judge and the restraining order against me was granted.
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| 7/2/2015 4:32:06 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
80, joined Aug. 2013
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Next time approach wit yo mout open, OP, and there will be no mistaken!!!
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| 7/2/2015 4:33:03 PM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
45, joined Feb. 2014
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Idk...it doesn't bother me when they tell me to go fk myself. ....cuz I was gonna have to do that anyway if she turns me down
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| 7/2/2015 4:35:46 PM |
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
65, joined May. 2007
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Some seem to just stand in their intendeds face and just wear them down. Guess it is kinda a game they're gonna win, not that the person is that valuable to them. Weirdly it seems to work. Too much work for me
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| 7/2/2015 4:38:34 PM |
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mustangwriter
Boerne, TX
55, joined Nov. 2009
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If I get turned down... I just smile an egnimatic smile like Mona Lisa.
Because I know things that are not only secret...but sacred, and now...she can go on and live her life in total ignorant bliss.
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| 7/2/2015 4:42:16 PM |
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ol39er
Cicero, IL
44, joined Jul. 2011
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Different people have different reasons for doing things. It all varies.
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| 7/2/2015 4:45:57 PM |
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
65, joined May. 2007
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If I get turned down... I just smile an egnimatic smile like Mona Lisa.
Because I know things that are not only secret...but sacred, and now...she can go on and live her life in total ignorant bliss.
I wuz married to one that turned into a witch 
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| 7/2/2015 4:52:38 PM |
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mustangwriter
Boerne, TX
55, joined Nov. 2009
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I wuz married to one that turned into a witch
(I WAS joking)
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| 7/2/2015 4:53:40 PM |
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
65, joined May. 2007
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(I WAS joking)
I wasn't
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| 7/2/2015 5:08:38 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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There is no beatin' round' the bush anymore. I tell women, in the first five minutes, everything they need to know to reject me now! 
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| 7/2/2015 5:20:53 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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I can't answer....If I inquired and got no interest or a no....I move on.
that's that.
There's nothing really that much in a profile or picture that really tells you that much anyway.
I mean you take those things with a grain of salt.
I real life, it can be different...but I don't chase, and play games.
She is either interested or not from the get go.
and I've been approached to, more than I've approached
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| 7/2/2015 5:23:31 PM |
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barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Dec. 2007
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I've never re-approached. If I am shot down I graciously spiral into the ground, smoke filling the c*ckpit and call it a try. I want nothing to do with a woman that I have to "convince" to go out with me.
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| 7/2/2015 5:26:42 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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When i hear stop stalking me...i know it's time to give up cause my covers been blown....
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| 7/2/2015 5:28:16 PM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
35, joined Nov. 2009
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A lot of this could be prevented if women knew what they want.
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| 7/2/2015 5:30:23 PM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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The only men I ever hear say women don't know what they want are men who feel women don't want them.
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| 7/2/2015 5:31:23 PM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
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They're well known to be wishy washy.
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| 7/2/2015 5:32:16 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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Wrong...there are men who are the same way...who say one thing and do another...
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| 7/2/2015 8:32:51 PM |
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seth097
Arvada, CO
48, joined May. 2014
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When i hear stop stalking me...i know it's time to give up cause my covers been blown....
Lmao...generally what snaps me out of it.
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| 7/2/2015 8:34:19 PM |
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bugsy49
Redding, CA
52, joined Mar. 2014
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just could not do it zane....  
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| 7/2/2015 8:34:21 PM |
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seth097
Arvada, CO
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I've never re-approached. If I am shot down I graciously spiral into the ground, smoke filling the c*ckpit and call it a try. I want nothing to do with a woman that I have to "convince" to go out with me.
Agreed. I have heard people speak of successes like that but I have no desire to change anyone's mind.
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| 7/2/2015 8:37:50 PM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
50, joined Apr. 2013
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I've never re-approached. If I am shot down I graciously spiral into the ground, smoke filling the c*ckpit and call it a try. I want nothing to do with a woman that I have to "convince" to go out with me.
This.
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| 7/2/2015 8:38:07 PM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
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I've never re-approached. If I am shot down I graciously spiral into the ground, smoke filling the c*ckpit and call it a try. I want nothing to do with a woman that I have to "convince" to go out with me.
But what if they are just not ready to date yet and actually enjoy hanging out with you and talking. They just aren't ready for the emotional attachment due to life circumstances. Could you still be friendly and give them time to get their life in order?
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| 7/2/2015 8:43:27 PM |
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bill_i_am2
FPO, AP
53, joined Apr. 2010
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But what if they are just not ready to date yet and actually enjoy hanging out with you and talking. They just aren't ready for the emotional attachment due to life circumstances. Could you still be friendly and give them time to get their life in order?
For you, yes I could 
Another long weekend is fast approaching
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| 7/3/2015 5:32:12 PM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
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But what if they are just not ready to date yet and actually enjoy hanging out with you and talking. They just aren't ready for the emotional attachment due to life circumstances. Could you still be friendly and give them time to get their life in order?
Sorry I know it wasn't directed at me, but since I agreed with him, I can answer.
And it's a yes!
In my case, that would be different from shooting me down.
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| 7/3/2015 6:51:55 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
31, joined Dec. 2012
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I LOVEEEE... Begging 
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| 7/3/2015 6:57:30 PM |
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nuerofire78
Sunnyvale, TX
37, joined Aug. 2013
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But what if they are just not ready to date yet and actually enjoy hanging out with you and talking. They just aren't ready for the emotional attachment due to life circumstances. Could you still be friendly and give them time to get their life in order?
That is what I did.......and now we are dating.
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| 7/3/2015 7:06:07 PM |
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barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Dec. 2007
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But what if they are just not ready to date yet and actually enjoy hanging out with you and talking. They just aren't ready for the emotional attachment due to life circumstances. Could you still be friendly and give them time to get their life in order?
Sure I guess. that is a fair point. I was talking strictly about the "no" I don't want to do anything with you shoot down.
I'm not a big fan of being a pal to someone I want to have sex with though- I think that just builds resentments in both people- better to just go your separate ways until...
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| 7/3/2015 9:01:07 PM |
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browneyz
San Diego, CA
97, joined Jan. 2008
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They're well known to be wishy washy.
Wishy washi is just a cowards way of saying no.
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| 7/3/2015 9:16:25 PM |
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bezt
Australian Capital
Australia
95, joined Aug. 2014
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I wasn't
No biggie if I get rejected.. but I would not persist.
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| 7/3/2015 11:17:00 PM |
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kandykayn
Clarksville, TN
29, joined Dec. 2013
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Persistence after politely saying no is a pet pev of mine.
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| 7/4/2015 4:57:53 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
56, joined Feb. 2010
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Once a woman says NO, there is no changing her mind, so why would anyone still persist in asking them out.
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| 7/4/2015 5:52:43 AM |
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holly_z
San Antonio, TX
49, joined Jun. 2015
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^^^^I guess some men think she's playing hard to get.
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| 7/4/2015 7:06:51 AM |
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ibeenseenitall
Weed, CA
35, joined Jul. 2014
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Results from trying different hypothesis. What's the big deal
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| 7/4/2015 7:24:11 AM |
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ahleah4mriris
Fort Worth, TX
45, joined Jul. 2014
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Once a woman says NO, there is no changing her mind, so why would anyone still persist in asking them out.
I said "NO" to my ex-husband when I first met him. I ended up being with him for over 15 years.
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| 7/4/2015 8:11:02 AM |
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holly_z
San Antonio, TX
49, joined Jun. 2015
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I said "NO" to my ex-husband when I first met him. I ended up being with him for over 15 years.
Yes, sometimes a woman changes her mind.
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| 7/4/2015 8:20:07 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
52, joined Jul. 2014
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If I'm REALLY interested, I persist until I know she knows me well. People sometimes have the wrong impression of you so you have to factor that in.
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| 7/4/2015 8:29:39 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
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But what if they are just not ready to date yet and actually enjoy hanging out with you and talking. They just aren't ready for the emotional attachment due to life circumstances. Could you still be friendly and give them time to get their life in order?
Exact. They could potentially be a great partner. And in the meantime we can hang out, go to a movie, etc
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| 7/4/2015 8:34:27 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
70, joined Jan. 2008
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Dan,
That is obstinancy.
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| 7/4/2015 8:37:18 AM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
50, joined Apr. 2013
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If I'm REALLY interested, I persist until I know she knows me well. People sometimes have the wrong impression of you so you have to factor that in.
Makes sense, I however just can't do it.
Once she says no, or doesn't show sign of interest, I am out of her life.
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| 7/4/2015 9:07:44 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
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Dan,
That is obstinancy.
How?
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| 7/4/2015 9:09:45 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
70, joined Jan. 2008
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She Sera, Sera.
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| 7/4/2015 9:18:18 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
52, joined Jan. 2013
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Exact. They could potentially be a great partner. And in the meantime we can hang out, go to a movie, etc
so you waste time on the one that's not available?
and when they are ready they don't want you "like that' you're friend zoned.
Stumpy that's something else entirely psychologically speaking.
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| 7/4/2015 9:23:58 AM |
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branbx
Orlando, FL
30, joined Jun. 2015
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In another thread, a lot of people are talking about wounded pride and loss of face when they're "rejected".
So...those who persist after no response or a flat out "no"...is it really about the particular woman or man and being that determined to move forward with him/her, or is is about saving face and needing to prove to him/her that you were worthwhile after all.
Honestly the way I see it is why waste time. Everyone has their own preferences, and why try to push something to try and make it work. Granted not saying someone who gets rejected now, and eventually gets with person doesn't happen. But everything happens for a reason, and trying to push something that isn't going to budge is just being desperate.
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| 7/4/2015 9:24:07 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
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Sorry rose, but it is the same root weakness, simply a different mask.
Nothing in life is complicated. Only people complicate life.
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| 7/4/2015 9:26:49 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
52, joined Jan. 2013
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you've got a point...the root of it's basically the same.
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| 7/4/2015 9:37:25 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
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so you waste time on the one that's not available?
and when they are ready they don't want you "like that' you're friend zoned.
Stumpy that's something else entirely psychologically speaking.
No, I "waste" time on someone who's not ready yet but we know we find each other attractive.
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| 7/4/2015 10:13:41 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
56, joined Feb. 2010
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Yes, sometimes a woman changes her mind.
Then they would have to do the asking the second time.
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| 7/4/2015 12:58:44 PM |
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off_da_chart
Port Arthur, TX
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But what if they are just not ready to date yet and actually enjoy hanging out with you and talking. They just aren't ready for the emotional attachment due to life circumstances. Could you still be friendly and give them time to get their life in order?
So just be friends, and then what if she says all that, starts dating someone else, or bangin someone else...
Now ya just look like a dummy.
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| 7/4/2015 1:01:11 PM |
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apokernut
Elk Grove Village, IL
53, joined Jan. 2008
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Another wgaf thread!!
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| 7/4/2015 1:02:15 PM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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So just be friends, and then what if she says all that, starts dating someone else, or bangin someone else...
Now ya just look like a dummy.
Only if you were just biding your time, faking friendship until she was ready to date.
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| 7/4/2015 1:03:02 PM |
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ibeenseenitall
Weed, CA
35, joined Jul. 2014
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It's all about her finally giving in and bring me a beer. Dying of thirst
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| 7/4/2015 1:11:53 PM |
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off_da_chart
Port Arthur, TX
31, joined May. 2015
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Only if you were just biding your time, faking friendship until she was ready to date.
Even if it's real friendship, she told you she wasn't ready to date, and then in a week of knowing her, she's dating someone else...
Seems like the the initial lie kinda makes the friendship null before anything else :/
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| 7/4/2015 3:20:51 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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It's all about her finally giving in and bring me a beer. Dying of thirst
Im on my way to get some in a little while...but you're just too damn far away to share...
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| 7/4/2015 4:20:03 PM |
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ibeenseenitall
Weed, CA
35, joined Jul. 2014
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You definitely get use to rejections and being let down. should pick up smoking and high expectations
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| 7/4/2015 5:27:38 PM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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Even if it's real friendship, she told you she wasn't ready to date, and then in a week of knowing her, she's dating someone else...
Seems like the the initial lie kinda makes the friendship null before anything else :/
If it's in a week, I agree.
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| 7/4/2015 6:01:51 PM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
52, joined Jan. 2013
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No, I "waste" time on someone who's not ready yet but we know we find each other attractive.
what's the point then?
if for friendship ..but if someone has stated they're NOT emotionally ready to be with another that's all I'd need honestly. They're NOT ready.
invest that time, energy and emotion in someone that is ready..is what I was saying.
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