| 7/15/2015 10:14:30 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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When you realize that a relationship can't last, do you cut it off before you get in any deeper, to avoid future pain, or do you ride it out and take what it has to offer while it lasts?
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| 7/15/2015 10:14:52 AM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
31, joined Dec. 2012
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| 7/15/2015 10:15:37 AM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
31, joined Dec. 2012
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Ride...
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| 7/15/2015 10:28:32 AM |
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inknpink
Castle Rock, CO
31, joined Feb. 2015
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Cut it off!
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| 7/15/2015 10:29:39 AM |
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pinwizard09
Shelbyville, KY
38, joined Jun. 2013
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damn 
OP's violent
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| 7/15/2015 10:30:25 AM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
60, joined Mar. 2014
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It wasn't my choice to end it but i knew it might. I went along for the ride though i knew it could eventually end enjoying it for what it was while it lasted. It lasted 13 years.
I took a chance.
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| 7/15/2015 10:31:24 AM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
48, joined Aug. 2014
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This is a great question. I don't know my answer yet.
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| 7/15/2015 10:32:28 AM |
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pinwizard09
Shelbyville, KY
38, joined Jun. 2013
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thank god Candy showed up 
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| 7/15/2015 10:33:59 AM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
19, joined Apr. 2012
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no still means no, don't it?
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| 7/15/2015 10:34:07 AM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
48, joined Aug. 2014
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Pin 
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| 7/15/2015 10:34:59 AM |
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inknpink
Castle Rock, CO
31, joined Feb. 2015
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This is a great question. I don't know my answer yet.
Follow your gut 
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| 7/15/2015 10:35:18 AM |
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pinwizard09
Shelbyville, KY
38, joined Jun. 2013
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im gonna pester you for a** and tit pics all day today 
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| 7/15/2015 10:35:28 AM |
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lunaglider
Edwards, CO
62, joined Dec. 2013
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I think cutting IT off is rather drastic for a doomed relationnship....but I would threaten with the knife.
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| 7/15/2015 10:36:33 AM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
48, joined Aug. 2014
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Awesome.. It's gonna be a good day.  It's raining and I have nothing better to do.
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| 7/15/2015 10:37:13 AM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
31, joined Dec. 2012
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It wasn't my choice to end it but i knew it might. I went along for the ride though i knew it could eventually end enjoying it for what it was while it lasted. It lasted 13 years.
I took a chance.
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| 7/15/2015 10:38:15 AM |
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pinwizard09
Shelbyville, KY
38, joined Jun. 2013
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d*ck pics sent to Candy 
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| 7/15/2015 10:39:42 AM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
48, joined Aug. 2014
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Follow your gut
You.
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| 7/15/2015 10:40:02 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
52, joined Jan. 2013
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I'm not really a fortune teller..as to "what will last" what I will do is continue in a relationship if it's healthy/good and it's meeting my needs, wants and desires.
When they cease to do that and from behavior evidencing a serious incompatibility(especially with arguments..I won't continue..one too many of those and you know where the door is)
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| 7/15/2015 10:41:13 AM |
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sandycrabs
Land O Lakes, WI
48, joined May. 2011
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Punt with steel toes.
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| 7/15/2015 10:42:34 AM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
64, joined Jul. 2010
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRwwUZLV-IE
After analysis, there were situations in relationships that I had no interest or desire to be a part of long term. Others, less severe and troubling I could muck on through.
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| 7/15/2015 10:43:34 AM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
60, joined Mar. 2014
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I think any relationship is a risk. you never know until you try...
unless you know ahead of time that you definitely couldn't get along with him.
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| 7/15/2015 10:46:17 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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I think any relationship is a risk. you never know until you try...
unless you know ahead of time that you definitely couldn't get along with him.
What if it's not a matter of getting along? What if it's all good, but there's some reason that you know it's time limited?
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| 7/15/2015 10:47:29 AM |
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acdmv
Binghamton, NY
48, joined Aug. 2014
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When you realize that a relationship can't last, do you cut it off before you get in any deeper, to avoid future pain, or do you ride it out and take what it has to offer while it lasts?
Nope....she's gone.
Once caught an ex talking on the phone to her friend when I got home....saying bad things about my folks.
I took her home minutes later....done
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| 7/15/2015 10:48:52 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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Nope....she's gone.
Once caught an ex talking on the phone to her friend when I got home....saying bad things about my folks.
I took her home minutes later....done
That's a bit different, though, isn't it, if it was triggered by you having a problem with her?
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| 7/15/2015 10:49:20 AM |
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inknpink
Castle Rock, CO
31, joined Feb. 2015
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Lil, I was just in that situation. We got a long great but outside situations were getting worse. It had to be cut.
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| 7/15/2015 10:51:18 AM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
45, joined Feb. 2014
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All ya wanna do is ride around Sally
Ride Sally Ride
Idk how to answer cuz Idk why its gonna end soon if everything is goin fine
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| 7/15/2015 10:51:35 AM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
19, joined Apr. 2012
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my goal is a broken heart every week
anything +/- than that, i start worrying that chicken little knows what he's talking
you ppl talk like you go into a relationship with a well coordiated schedual and no exactly when it will end
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| 7/15/2015 10:52:20 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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If there is absolute no hope for it....I move on.
If I think there is...I stay and see.
and considering the question....do you expect all honest answers on a public forum where all can see and might be seeking a relation??????
where others can read they would use to stay on and get just what they want???
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| 7/15/2015 10:52:32 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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Ink, did you cut it off because the outside stuff was making it not worth the cost, or because you knew that it ultimately wouldn't last?
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| 7/15/2015 10:55:45 AM |
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acdmv
Binghamton, NY
48, joined Aug. 2014
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That's a bit different, though, isn't it, if it was triggered by you having a problem with her?
In that situation, you wouldn't have an issue with the person?
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| 7/15/2015 10:57:56 AM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
51, joined Jun. 2012
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End it..
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| 7/15/2015 11:00:13 AM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
31, joined Dec. 2012
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If u go into a relationship with a list...ur bound to fail  things that happen naturally... Sometimes go smoothly
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| 7/15/2015 11:00:30 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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All ya wanna do is ride around Sally
Ride Sally Ride
Idk how to answer cuz Idk why its gonna end soon if everything is goin fine
I think there could be many reasons.
I've been in this situation twice.
The first time, I was a young professional just building a career that depended heavily on reputation and trust, and he lived in an entirely different world. We had an intense, passionate relationship, but there was no way that either of us could have fit into the other's world without giving up chunks of ourselves.
The second time was much later in life, and the connection I felt to that man was probably deeper than any other I've ever had. But, he was quite a bit younger than me and ultimately having a traditional family was very important to him, while I was already a grandmother and well past the point of starting another family.
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| 7/15/2015 11:00:51 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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Why, Medusa?
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| 7/15/2015 11:01:34 AM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
19, joined Apr. 2012
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some "why's" are more harsh than others
but the root is,
ifn ya don't want, you don't want
running it in circles is jes misleading
sooner ya put it end to it
sooner getting over it gets a chance to start
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| 7/15/2015 11:01:34 AM |
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j1323j
Blue Ball, PA
39, joined Mar. 2015
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Ouch
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| 7/15/2015 11:01:44 AM |
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ohdannyboy59
Arlington, TX
56, joined Sep. 2012
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If it really "can't last," I don't see the point in letting it drag out to what easily could become a nasty end.
If it's just a matter of hitting a wall and you know you aren't going to take the next step (whatever that might be), then if you're both good with where you are, there's no rush.
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| 7/15/2015 11:01:59 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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In that situation, you wouldn't have an issue with the person?
I'm not saying that. I'm just saying, it's not really the scenario I was asking about, because you had reason not to WANT to be with her after that.
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| 7/15/2015 11:02:30 AM |
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acdmv
Binghamton, NY
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| 7/15/2015 11:03:32 AM |
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tropicalhotness
Blacksburg, VA
29, joined May. 2014
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I let it fade away. Cutting off requires talking and listening, seeing them. Meh nobody got time for that. Let it fade or just disappear, more humane
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| 7/15/2015 11:05:37 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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I let it fade away. Cutting off requires talking and listening, seeing them. Meh nobody got time for that. Let it fade or just disappear, more humane
This seems like kind of a side issue to me, but it raises an interesting question. Do you really think it's "more humane" to leave someone hanging and hoping than to cut it off clearly?
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| 7/15/2015 11:06:09 AM |
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inknpink
Castle Rock, CO
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Ink, did you cut it off because the outside stuff was making it not worth the cost, or because you knew that it ultimately wouldn't last?
Both in away. It was like walking on broken glass. Once it got to the point it was out of control and affecting my daughter I had to. It was killing the relationship as well.
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| 7/15/2015 11:07:08 AM |
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j1323j
Blue Ball, PA
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Once it affects the kids there is no other choice. Imo
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| 7/15/2015 11:07:46 AM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
45, joined Feb. 2014
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That clears it up a bit.
If it's someone I'm really into...really really into and I believe they feel the same....everything else is small stuff.
All the other crap that comes with a relationship can be dealt with if u absolutely wanna be together.
If u truly believe he/she is the one..
How often does that happen.
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| 7/15/2015 11:09:08 AM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
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"Do you really think it's "more humane" to leave someone hanging and hoping than to cut it off clearly?'
i love you
thank you
YEHHHH! sum to be happy about, lol
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| 7/15/2015 11:11:49 AM |
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tropicalhotness
Blacksburg, VA
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This seems like kind of a side issue to me, but it raises an interesting question. Do you really think it's "more humane" to leave someone hanging and hoping than to cut it off clearly?
Letting it fade away makes them feel better. Give them a reason other that "it's them" that it failed. Reasons like, too busy, too much distance, not enough interest to put in the work etc. Those third party reasons I find is more humane rather than the post partum, it's me not you crapfest. Guys are less angry with you and treat you better in future meetups/when they see you again. Works for me
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| 7/15/2015 11:12:29 AM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
48, joined Aug. 2014
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This seems like kind of a side issue to me, but it raises an interesting question. Do you really think it's "more humane" to leave someone hanging and hoping than to cut it off clearly?
I think that is cruel and cowardly. How hard is it to say, I'm sorry it was fun but it's not working out, Good bye.
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| 7/15/2015 11:14:18 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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That clears it up a bit.
If it's someone I'm really into...really really into and I believe they feel the same....everything else is small stuff.
All the other crap that comes with a relationship can be dealt with if u absolutely wanna be together.
If u truly believe he/she is the one..
How often does that happen.
Well...
in my experience, twice.
But, I don't necessarily believe that every good thing is meant to last forever.
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| 7/15/2015 11:15:12 AM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
45, joined Feb. 2014
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Letting it fade away makes them feel better. Give them a reason other that "it's them" that it failed. Reasons like, too busy, too much distance, not enough interest to put in the work etc. Those third party reasons I find is more humane rather than the post partum, it's me not you crapfest. Guys are less angry with you and treat you better in future meetups/when they see you again. Works for me
Cruel
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| 7/15/2015 11:17:30 AM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
45, joined Feb. 2014
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Well...
in my experience, twice.
But, I don't necessarily believe that every good thing is meant to last forever.
That sounds a bit like ur goin in expecting failure
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| 7/15/2015 11:17:50 AM |
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tropicalhotness
Blacksburg, VA
29, joined May. 2014
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I think that is cruel and cowardly. How hard is it to say, I'm sorry it was fun but it's not working out, Good bye.
This is news to me. Which break is never not cruel? 
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| 7/15/2015 11:22:41 AM |
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inknpink
Castle Rock, CO
31, joined Feb. 2015
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Not all outside stuff is "just small". As much as I dug him, I won't put my daughter in a volatile situation of random craziness and outburst.
In other words, I won't put up with a crazy ex showing up at my house causing a scene.
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| 7/15/2015 11:25:05 AM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
45, joined Feb. 2014
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I wouldn't consider kids outside stuff
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| 7/15/2015 11:26:26 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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That sounds a bit like ur goin in expecting failure
Or, I define failure differently than you do.
I don't consider either of those relationships a failure because they weren't permanent.
Generally, I don't go in to anything expecting anything specific.
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| 7/15/2015 11:28:46 AM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
48, joined Aug. 2014
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This is news to me. Which break is never not cruel?
In the case Lil is talking about it doesn't have to end badly. You can still care about someone, but decide not to be with them and remain friends (I can at least).
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| 7/15/2015 11:31:45 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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Yes, Ink--once kids are involved, the whole equation changes dramatically.
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| 7/15/2015 11:33:09 AM |
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helmholtzwatson
Raleigh, NC
51, joined Jun. 2014
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If they are a fun person & I think it can be resolved nicely when it comes time to part ways, I would continue to date them.
Not every relationship has to have "til death do you part" potential.
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| 7/15/2015 11:34:21 AM |
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tropicalhotness
Blacksburg, VA
29, joined May. 2014
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I have had "the talk" with a few bf back in HS they all ended badly. My fiance ended the same way. Heated yelling and months upon months of stalking. Meh, I don't want to ever face a scorned man's wrath again...shudders. Better to let it fade and make them believe it's circumstances instead of "it's me not you" or "you did this and that that's why!" etc
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| 7/15/2015 11:36:36 AM |
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lilod
Aurora, IL
49, joined Aug. 2012
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I have had "the talk" with a few bf back in HS they all ended badly. My fiance ended the same way. Heated yelling and months upon months of stalking. Meh, I don't want to ever face a scorned man's wrath again...shudders. Better to let it fade and make them believe it's circumstances instead of "it's me not you" or "you did this and that that's why!" etc
This sounds a lot more like you're avoiding unpleasantness for yourself than like you're trying to be "more humane".
How exactly would you have let your engagement "fade"?
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| 7/15/2015 11:39:55 AM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
19, joined Apr. 2012
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if a person already knows they on their way out
in bidding their time, aren't they just using the other person
isn't that one the things that's despised about some ppl
sounds like some ppl are just looking for a way to say it's ok
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