4/4/2016 1:08:29 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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DVGOlday
Antelope, CA
29, joined Oct. 2015
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Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back.?
Quick background. Girlfriend of 2 years. Always said she loves me, wants to be my wife. Never this type of thing ever happened.
I wake up, my girlfriend is by me asking me questions about our future, she was mentioning her friend that I knew she was talking with on just friend basis. While we were talking I grew a suspicion that something shady is going on and I asked to see the conversation she had with her friend. (I m not a snooper but the occasion called for it). She refused and I said "then it s over and there s no going back" and she said "ok that s fine" I proceeded to go and take a shower, she came by apologizing that it had to be like this but she likes this guy and blah blah blah. Then few minutes later she comes back asking me to take her back, that she made a mistake and that she only loves me and she wants to be my wife blah blah blah (she erased all the messages so idk the exact convo but definitely it was not friend based)
I love her but this thought of her doing this is on my mind and I just don t trust her anymore. Since this has happened, she has been super nice to me, trying to prove how much she loves me, giving me blow jobs all the time even if I give her a cold shoulder.
So would you guys give her chance and build trust with her or would you end it.
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4/4/2016 1:36:56 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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joe4u2explore
Vestmannaeyjar
Iceland
50, joined Aug. 2013
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ok, so I SWEAR I'm not being a d*ck saying this...but first off..no way I take her back BUT,,,, blowjobs all the time and her kissing ass? Dude, the best revenge is staring you right in your face! Keep on with her this way. Let her "work" for your love but servicing you while you date other girls, etc...what is she going to say? YOU'RE an a**hole? She clearly was cheating or close to it. Use up your blow job payback as long as you can then when it explodes..let it. Hell, ask her if she will sleep with you and another girl. I know you won't likely do this but you have a get out of jail for free card. Use it! It' a win/win!
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4/4/2016 1:44:23 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
59, joined Jul. 2010
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Lawd what a wailin' wall
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Joined Oct. 2015
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4/4/2016 2:15:04 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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DVGOlday
Antelope, CA
29, joined Oct. 2015
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Yea I'm not going to do all that. I rather just end it and move on. Thx.
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4/4/2016 2:24:57 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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I'd take the blowjobs and asskissing too.
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4/4/2016 5:06:22 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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You ever hear the phrase: Screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice, shame on me.
Trust is like trying to build a house of playing cards. Have you ever tried or succeeded in doing that?
It will take forever to get the cards perfectly balanced and standing in place to complete the house. Remove just about ANY card from it, and the whole thing will come crashing down.
So, the question is this:
Do you see the investment of your time, to repair this breach of trust, as a valuable investment?
Because, there are other women. You can have different living conditions, and a different car. You can make more money, when you money runs out.
BUT, every second you waste, in your life, is time that you will NEVER get back. Einstein proved that time travel is impossible.
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4/4/2016 5:27:24 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
64, joined Oct. 2010
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Ah-Nold got taco sauce on his swartzn**ger ...
he is an addict ... she is an addict.
Look what happened to him.
So there is not to worry ... it will never happen to you.
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4/4/2016 5:34:24 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
45, joined Nov. 2012
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Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back.?
Quick background. Girlfriend of 2 years. Always said she loves me, wants to be my wife. Never this type of thing ever happened.
I wake up, my girlfriend is by me asking me questions about our future, she was mentioning her friend that I knew she was talking with on just friend basis. While we were talking I grew a suspicion that something shady is going on and I asked to see the conversation she had with her friend. (I m not a snooper but the occasion called for it). She refused and I said "then it s over and there s no going back" and she said "ok that s fine" I proceeded to go and take a shower, she came by apologizing that it had to be like this but she likes this guy and blah blah blah. Then few minutes later she comes back asking me to take her back, that she made a mistake and that she only loves me and she wants to be my wife blah blah blah (she erased all the messages so idk the exact convo but definitely it was not friend based)
I love her but this thought of her doing this is on my mind and I just don t trust her anymore. Since this has happened, she has been super nice to me, trying to prove how much she loves me, giving me blow jobs all the time even if I give her a cold shoulder.
So would you guys give her chance and build trust with her or would you end it.
She'll have to do a lot more than giving me BJ's . She have to let me see all the texts all the time and she may end up not being friends with that guy no longer . If she has problem with that she got to go.
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4/4/2016 6:24:32 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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Op u want her back, u didn't tell her to move either while she was giving u a bj, u is a man so u enjoyed it and all the kiss a** thing, so it's up to u regardless what anyone else says and most likely u will take her back so umma tell u what u really want to hear, work through the trust issues and see where it goes
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4/4/2016 6:39:28 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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DVGOlday
Antelope, CA
29, joined Oct. 2015
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You ever hear the phrase: Screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice, shame on me.
Trust is like trying to build a house of playing cards. Have you ever tried or succeeded in doing that?
It will take forever to get the cards perfectly balanced and standing in place to complete the house. Remove just about ANY card from it, and the whole thing will come crashing down.
So, the question is this:
Do you see the investment of your time, to repair this breach of trust, as a valuable investment?
Because, there are other women. You can have different living conditions, and a different car. You can make more money, when you money runs out.
BUT, every second you waste, in your life, is time that you will NEVER get back. Einstein proved that time travel is impossible.
I line the way you think.
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4/4/2016 6:42:09 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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DVGOlday
Antelope, CA
29, joined Oct. 2015
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She'll have to do a lot more than giving me BJ's . She have to let me see all the texts all the time and she may end up not being friends with that guy no longer . If she has problem with that she got to go.
She did send a message to him in front of me saying she can't talk to him anymore because she has a bf.
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4/4/2016 6:42:51 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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as long as man an woman live theres a risk being 100 percent trusting especially with a woman,i say this cause they hate me here more an more each day an truth is the truth,you never know.life is a risj with a woman or without,i love them,but trust is never 100 percent. some ,,,dude,,allways after her p*ssy too,an who knows..good luck.
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4/4/2016 6:46:18 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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DVGOlday
Antelope, CA
29, joined Oct. 2015
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Op u want her back, u didn't tell her to move either while she was giving u a bj, u is a man so u enjoyed it and all the kiss a** thing, so it's up to u regardless what anyone else says and most likely u will take her back so umma tell u what u really want to hear, work through the trust issues and see where it goes
True. I do enjoy it very much. But I'm not doing it because I want revenge, just wanna see how much she willing to do to make up. But I love her and I don't want to just take advantage of it and then leave her.
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4/4/2016 7:24:10 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
49, joined Jun. 2014
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find another
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4/4/2016 7:33:53 PM |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
45, joined Nov. 2012
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She did send a message to him in front of me saying she can't talk to him anymore because she has a bf.
Ok but for now on she has to let you see all the texts if you ask . I do mean on the spot .
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4/4/2016 7:40:54 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
45, joined Nov. 2012
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And if you do want to get married to her I would start all over I mean be with her for another year before you get married and this time she cant be like she was when asked to see her texts and or emails . That b/s she did was a red flag all day .
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4/4/2016 7:54:34 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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lightbrownie1
Johnston, IA
48, joined Feb. 2016
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So...you know that it was all a lie about the friend thing right?
She was testing you.
Childish...and no i wouldnt trust her either.
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4/4/2016 8:13:08 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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DVGOlday
Antelope, CA
29, joined Oct. 2015
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Came home from work, acted like a total d*ck to her, refused the bj. Her reaction is sweet,asked if I wanted bj later, all she wants to do is please me. I think I'm going to start being nice to her as long as she stays this way.
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4/4/2016 8:19:34 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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Dump her worthless a** and never take her back! That's what she'd do to you if she thought you were cheating. You can't trust her anymore and women never respect a guy they're playing for a fool.
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4/4/2016 10:02:54 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
64, joined Oct. 2010
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find another
just like dear old mom ...
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4/4/2016 10:42:56 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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chairman_drth
Toronto, ON
47, joined Dec. 2015
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Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back.?
Quick background. Girlfriend of 2 years. Always said she loves me, wants to be my wife. Never this type of thing ever happened.
I wake up, my girlfriend is by me asking me questions about our future, she was mentioning her friend that I knew she was talking with on just friend basis. While we were talking I grew a suspicion that something shady is going on and I asked to see the conversation she had with her friend. (I m not a snooper but the occasion called for it). She refused and I said "then it s over and there s no going back" and she said "ok that s fine" I proceeded to go and take a shower, she came by apologizing that it had to be like this but she likes this guy and blah blah blah. Then few minutes later she comes back asking me to take her back, that she made a mistake and that she only loves me and she wants to be my wife blah blah blah (she erased all the messages so idk the exact convo but definitely it was not friend based)
I love her but this thought of her doing this is on my mind and I just don t trust her anymore. Since this has happened, she has been super nice to me, trying to prove how much she loves me, giving me blow jobs all the time even if I give her a cold shoulder.
So would you guys give her chance and build trust with her or would you end it.
Im not sure why this is a question?
She likes another guy, as she is with you, she is communicating with him as she is with you hello.
you are the safe person and he is the exciting mystery person adding some spark.
Let her go and move on, pretty simple.
Without trust there is no relationship PERIOD, dont care how many blow jobs she gives.
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4/4/2016 10:45:55 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
59, joined Jul. 2010
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Take her back
& then dump her.
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4/4/2016 11:33:39 PM |
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markjetson
Albuquerque, NM
61, joined Jan. 2013
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Do what you have to do but, I wonder just how many of those great blowjobs she'll use on that other guy to make up for that text she sent to him.
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4/5/2016 1:11:29 AM |
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god_says
Cabo San Lucas
Mexico
48, joined Aug. 2014
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Just go f**k her mom.
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4/5/2016 1:28:37 AM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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She is a game player. Move on. You dodged a bullet. This is your way out...take it.
You cannot change her, so if you stay her game playing will continue...even as your wife.
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4/5/2016 6:23:18 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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She stated in all of this.....that it had to be like this but she likes this guy and blah blah blah.
Likes this guy? if that's what I think it meant and had foundation in this argument.
Move on.
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4/5/2016 6:24:14 AM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
54, joined Oct. 2013
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I don't believe a word of it.
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4/5/2016 4:35:27 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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Came home from work, acted like a total d*ck to her, refused the bj. Her reaction is sweet,asked if I wanted bj later, all she wants to do is please me. I think I'm going to start being nice to her as long as she stays this way.
It's your call, but don't let your guard down cause she giving u bj's, don't let that be your downfall
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4/5/2016 4:49:26 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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masterofbacon2
Kirkjubæjarklaustur
Iceland
90, joined May. 2014
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She has violated the foundation of any relationship: TRUST. F**k the b*tch let her marry that other motherf**ker.
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4/5/2016 4:50:43 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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micheleisgreat
Pittsburgh, PA
54, joined Nov. 2013
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What a complete bunch of douchebags...
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4/6/2016 7:06:02 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
59, joined Jul. 2010
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What,
Opie deletes?
Imagine that...
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4/7/2016 3:59:37 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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joe4u2explore
Vestmannaeyjar
Iceland
50, joined Aug. 2013
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What a complete bunch of douchebags...
Now THAT'S funny
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4/7/2016 5:28:56 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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chris3357m
Columbus, OH
29, joined Dec. 2012
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Yea I'm not going to do all that. I rather just end it and move on. Thx.
good call. [compassion], intamacy, [commitment] - she's a game player and she's using those bjs to her advantage to get over on ya. i've had this thing done to me most recently as well, but yeah i'd agree it's not worth the heartache, although quite enjoyable at the time.
i don't see it ending well for you, your emotions are involved while she's a heartless b*tch playing mind games. if she cared about you, she wouldn't have been considering other guys. it didn't end well for me in a near same scenario with her ex. sounds like you've only got the intimacy part from her which is great and fun if that's all you need but it's only a 1/3 of what you need to build something long lasting. i guess it's all in what you're looking for... i do feel for ya thou esp if you continue down this path
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4/7/2016 6:38:44 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
50, joined Jun. 2013
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(I m not a snooper but the occasion called for it). She refused and I said "then it s over and there s no going back" and she said "ok that s fine" I proceeded to go and take a shower, she came by apologizing that it had to be like this but she likes this guy and blah blah blah.
I definitely would end things point blank if I found out that the man I was dating was having sex with someone else.
However, to me being secretive over phone messages and occasional flirting with people of the opposite sex seems sort of small... when you put it in the context of being just boyfriend and girlfriend and not married.
IDK... I guess I'm not overly possessive... and/or I extend trust too easily.
On the other hand... 2 years seems to be a breaking point for relationships that aren't going to last the test of time.
Maybe it's time to look for someone new.
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4/7/2016 6:49:13 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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If two years is what you have observed as an average, before a relationship ends, where do you live?
I mean, hell, I would pullout teeth to be able to have a relationship, that did not start deception and mind games for at least two years.
Where I live, you are lucky if you can make it to the first date, without mind games and deception.
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4/7/2016 7:30:44 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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ltlwing
Williamsburg, OH
53, joined Oct. 2013
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If she had never been up to no good in the first place??? She wouldn't of felt the need to make up for it in the first place??
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4/7/2016 8:02:27 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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teigeasaurus
Sandy, UT
32, joined Aug. 2014
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Please stop talking about my boyfriend. Thanks.
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4/7/2016 8:31:41 PM |
Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back. |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
45, joined Nov. 2012
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Please stop talking about my boyfriend. Thanks.
Oh hell naw
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4/7/2016 9:58:16 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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Then maybe you should tell your boyfriend to stop posting all your drama on a dating site
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4/7/2016 10:30:27 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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Op has deleted
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4/7/2016 10:32:59 PM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
54, joined Oct. 2013
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Op has deleted
I didn't believe a word of the OP anyway.
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4/7/2016 11:20:53 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
64, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - She did it once. She will do it again. Dump her, and never so much as speak to her on the phone, or send her a letter, or read one she sends you....unless you enjoy her cheating on you, dumping you, taking yo back, cheating on you some more, etc. No MAN would give her a second chance, but many needly, little, boys would. Which are you?
The world is full of faithful women who give BJs. There is no need to settle for a cheater.
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4/8/2016 1:17:49 AM |
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teigeasaurus
Sandy, UT
32, joined Aug. 2014
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He's not really my boyfriend.
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4/8/2016 10:03:45 AM |
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joe4u2explore
Vestmannaeyjar
Iceland
50, joined Aug. 2013
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He's not really my boyfriend.
mhmm...you're just exhausted by giving him all those pity bj's.
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4/8/2016 4:06:34 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
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I'm her boyfriend.
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4/8/2016 4:26:17 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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I'm her boyfriend.
Legal 'boyfriend'?
How did the surgery go?
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4/8/2016 7:42:16 PM |
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chris3357m
Columbus, OH
29, joined Dec. 2012
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On the other hand... 2 years seems to be a breaking point for relationships that aren't going to last the test of time.
the 2 year quote, is that an observation of yours? my longest relationships died out at 2 years as well, i think that is quite interesting you say that. and i've heard studies saying avg marriages last 4.
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4/8/2016 11:55:30 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
50, joined Jun. 2013
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the 2 year quote, is that an observation of yours? my longest relationships died out at 2 years as well, i think that is quite interesting you say that. and i've heard studies saying avg marriages last 4.
Yes. This is my personal observation... and I have heard others say that 2 years was a breaking point for them too. It's like people sit back and start reflecting on things whether they want to take things to the next level or if they want to try something new.
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4/9/2016 1:23:48 AM |
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mufasa88
Lakeland, FL
44, joined Oct. 2013
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Man FDB,let that dude she like have her and you move on to the next woman
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4/9/2016 3:10:40 AM |
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apokernut
Elk Grove Village, IL
54, joined Jan. 2008
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I'd take my time on this one OP. Kinda like going back to first time dating. I do believe in second chances.
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4/9/2016 6:57:24 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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Man FDB,let that dude she like have her and you move on to the next woman
I think about all he accomplished here, is advertising to the scammers seeking a sugar daddy, that he is ripe for the pickins.
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4/9/2016 7:01:43 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
online now!
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Legal 'boyfriend'?
How did the surgery go?
BOOM! Cup dropping bombs!!!!
That just made my morning cheery,
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4/9/2016 7:12:54 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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trying to prove how much she loves me, giving me blow jobs all the time
Because that proves a whole lot lol
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4/9/2016 7:24:13 AM |
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chris3357m
Columbus, OH
29, joined Dec. 2012
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Because that proves a whole lot lol
honestly many ladies, what is the statistic, like only 19% of women enjoy giving head or something like that? maybe it was that only 19% give blowjobs. so when you look at it THAT way, okay your woman is sucking your d*ck and doing an outstanding job, she must really love me, ya know? i think you have to see it thru the eyes of a man whose needs are very basic: food, sex, sleep... then yeah we can hold a lot of weight on the value of a good blowjob... although, in all reality you're exactly right it doesn't really mean much at all in the grand scheme of things. i guess one would say, it's the little things that counts. this man would say his love language is most closely defined as one who enjoys his partner doing special things for him, or spending quality time, right?
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4/9/2016 7:30:37 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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ou have to see it thru the eyes of a man whose needs are very basic[
Lmfao
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4/9/2016 10:09:01 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
64, joined Oct. 2010
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Because that proves a whole lot lol
Viva Cinco De Mayo Putah Pendajo Gringo Cavassa
Party - Drink - Rape and Kill White People.
Wall Street RULES !!!
No condoms ... Ayatollah in the Vatican approved.
sumbuddie wear bllind sea
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4/11/2016 6:32:54 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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Man FDB,let that dude she like have her and you move on to the next woman
not everyone is a con job who uses women....
So, your theory and practices don't apply to everyone.
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