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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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sorry but I disagree totally......open your heart and let down those guards.....live life with passion and love freely......the problem seems to be that people are so consumed with fear of pain and rejection that they rarely let others get close to them.....what if we all started treating each other the way that kids do before they are contaminated with all the "Crap".......remember in kindergarten when we all played side by side.....sharing our crayons and just going up to each other and giving a hug to a friend for no reason at all? Sure dont set yourself up to be preyed upon but open up again......you will reap the rewards........ 
i like your perspective....
i think , a lot of it depends on where you live...
like in a small town... i would agree with you...
but, in a larger city.... i wouldn't feel comfortable
with my guard down......
setting myself up for dissappointment,... is not a good thing...
don't get me wrong... i agree , with the things you said...
but, living in a larger city.... i would have to think
twice,... about ... letting my guard down..
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| 10/2/2008 7:24:04 AM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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I would love to drop my guard. Its gettin pretty heavy
hello... indoubt,
sometimes, i feel the same way....
i've noticed it doesn't take very long, for
somebody to try take advantage..., or "come up",
at your expense, ...when you drop your guard...
somethings, i just don't understand...
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| 10/2/2008 7:32:39 AM |
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kellie08
Blue Bell, PA
age: 37
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Drop your guard when you trust someone. Can't let someone in fully with your guard up.
Trusting someone will be difficult though because of your experiences (Well I am talking about myself too)...but when the trust is there the guard has to go.
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| 10/2/2008 7:44:05 AM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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cruise427
Then you're with the wrong type of person. Be more selective, don't settle for just anyone. Aim higher with the women you choose, you'll see it makes a difference. You're worth it, go for it. 
hello.... got fever,
yea... you're right....
i was with the wrong person..... but when we started out,
things were differant.....
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| 10/2/2008 7:48:30 AM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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I understand what you are saying, I am very afraid to drop my guard with anyone. Every time that I have dropped it even for a minute, they do something awful to me.
sometimes damage gets done, in less than a minute..
like if they're waiting to pounce.....
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| 10/2/2008 11:40:25 AM |
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tryinagin
Fort Pierce, FL
age: 43
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Trust no one. Be guarded at all times. This does not mean "paranoid". A level of trust can be granted but that trust must be earned by both parties. An element of trust is necessary for a lasting true relationship but as to dropping your guard-NEVER.
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| 10/2/2008 2:52:10 PM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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First reaction is ofcourse to say to just never drop your guard. It would prevent heartache, and in your case possibly theft? But it could also cost you the love of your life, the soul mate you have waited for your whole life. Think of all the wonderful things you could miss out on because you failed to let your guard down.
i agree.....
that usually is my first reaction ....
i try to go with my ,"gut feeling".....
don't know how many times , i should of but didn't...
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| 10/2/2008 2:54:09 PM |
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indoubt
Beaumont, CA
age: 33 online now!
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hello... indoubt,
sometimes, i feel the same way....
i've noticed it doesn't take very long, for
somebody to try take advantage..., or "come up",
at your expense, ...when you drop your guard...
somethings, i just don't understand...
Yup cruise they always try to take advantage of my kindness and try to use me. Hey I am nice for only so long. I know when i'm being taken advantage of and then its a** kickin time 
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| 10/2/2008 3:08:45 PM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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Drop your guard when you trust someone. Can't let someone in fully with your guard up.
Trusting someone will be difficult though because of your experiences (Well I am talking about myself too)...but when the trust is there the guard has to go.
it is a little tough, trusting someone...
i admit, guys can be dogs......
but... women can be brutal....
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| 10/2/2008 3:15:04 PM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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How does that poem go... "Love like you have never been hurt". You really can't judge everyone by past relationships. Each person is different. Sometimes you attract what you are most afraid of.
i try not to ,"Pre-judge" or "underestimate" anybody....
i'm a Mechanic, not a judge
well said......, thank you,
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| 10/2/2008 3:32:24 PM |
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firstlight
Strasburg, VA
age: 48
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I've never had the misfortune of anyone stealing from me...wow, that would suck. I can't even imagine that. But I dated a guy once who got me to open up and divulge personal even family secrets. He fought with me to do it and I think when I finally did it made us closer but I also think that made it harder to let go when it ended. The next one will have an even harder time, I'm sure.
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| 10/2/2008 3:45:44 PM |
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eyeonheaven
Azle, TX
age: 56
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sorry but I disagree totally......open your heart and let down those guards.....live life with passion and love freely......the problem seems to be that people are so consumed with fear of pain and rejection that they rarely let others get close to them.....what if we all started treating each other the way that kids do before they are contaminated with all the "Crap".......remember in kindergarten when we all played side by side.....sharing our crayons and just going up to each other and giving a hug to a friend for no reason at all? Sure dont set yourself up to be preyed upon but open up again......you will reap the rewards........
That's why everyone here is single. If you dropped your guard once in a while may-be you could get to know a person better. And may-be even fall in love. Sometimes you have to take a chance.
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I agree with both of these guys. It seems to me that every one says they want a relationship.......but no one wants to let any one in so they can have one. I would wager a bet that the people who have found love, let their gaurd down, and let the love flow.  
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| 10/2/2008 5:11:10 PM |
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cindym7878
Chelsea, MI
age: 46
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I've had a hard time dropping my guard as well, but I do believe you have to in order to allow the love and trust in the relationship to fully develop and it will allow yourself to be totally you. Isn't that what we want to know...the real person we are falling in love with????
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| 10/2/2008 5:25:34 PM |
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cableguy8900
Columbus, OH
age: 34
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I don't think you should ever have your guard up. Just keep your eyes alert. I prefer someone knows exactly who I am. That way I don't waste time.
[edt]
"sometimes damage gets done, in less than a minute..
like if they're waiting to pounce....."
It's better you know, think of all the pain that was prevented.
[Edited 10/2/2008 5:27:53 PM]
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| 10/2/2008 8:19:31 PM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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I don't think you should ever have your guard up. Just keep your eyes alert. I prefer someone knows exactly who I am. That way I don't waste time.
[edt]
"sometimes damage gets done, in less than a minute..
like if they're waiting to pounce....."
It's better you know, think of all the pain that was prevented.
never have your guard up..??
you can't expect someone to know, exactly who you are...???
that takes time.... its during that time, that shit happens
i like to use, more than just my eyes...
... i'm not just gonna sit back, and watch things happen
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