| 11/1/2007 11:56:20 AM |
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peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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No, I do care very much smart one...I was forced to Marry and the US Goverment knows this. I fled that Country as fast as I could. It's just very very expensive to do an OverSea's Divorce. I was not "Married" in any Sense of the word except on paper. but, Thanks for Judging what you don't know.
xoxoPeaches.
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| 11/1/2007 11:57:01 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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mail order bride,huh 
first off,if i saw that in your profile,then i would probably ask you about it.it's unusual and would like to hear the story behind it.
if the US doesn't see you as married,that makes you 'available',at least legally speaking.
now,if we met and fell madly in love and then you told me 
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| 11/1/2007 12:02:19 PM |
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stargazzer
Creighton, NE
age: 59
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Was not being a wise guy, I may have emphathy for you but that would not change the facts.
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| 11/1/2007 12:07:12 PM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34
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Ya know.....at least she is honest enough to put in the forums which means she is not trying to hide it. It is what she is..........there are liars male/female that don't even put the truth up nor do they tell the truth until the significant other answers the phone by accident. The fact of the matter is that half of the freaks and creeps male and female do not read a persons profile before winking there head off, so it doesn't matter what you put in your profile.JMO
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| 11/1/2007 12:07:54 PM |
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peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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Well, It's in there now.
xoxoPeaches.
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| 11/1/2007 12:15:57 PM |
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jane_133
Frederick, MD
age: 47
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When it's important enough to get a divorce, you do it. People who go out seeking relationships when they aren't available to be in them, guarantee to hurt someone, if only themselves.
Its that status people have that say they don't acknowledge theirs or someone elses marriage that causes so much grief. If someone wants marriage to be meaningful, they keep theirs that way and others that way. That or they recognize they are not rightfully in that kind of a relationship. When you step past that, without being available, you cross a line that hurts/bothers a lot of people.
When we cheat, we spend a lot of time making it okay in our mind so it doesn't come out cheating---it's justified, it's inevitable, it's deserved, it's whatever---as long as we don't have to look at it and see it's being married/committed to one person, but messing around with another. That's how most people live with it. But for the people who are hurt by it because they don't look for justifications, it is what it is.
Again I say, you get a divorce if you don't want to be married. Find a lawyer, get the help you need to make it happen, make sure your status is what you WANT it to be and be satisfied with it, not in question when you want to love someone.
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| 11/1/2007 12:19:02 PM |
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peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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Alot easier said than done..If you know nothing about them, they are quite difficult, time consuming and costly..but, It's being done. Time is just what it takes and anyone who talks to me and gets to know me, Knows all about it. I keep that upfront.
xoxoPeaches.
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| 11/1/2007 12:24:08 PM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34
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Twin, you don't have to explain or justify anything. It is easy to speak when you aren't wearing the shoes that somoene else is walking in.JMO
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| 11/1/2007 12:41:16 PM |
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jane_133
Frederick, MD
age: 47
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Here's a fun twist on this. Say you are married, but you have found yourself so fascinated by the people on line you just aren't really interested in your spouse any more. You even have married "friends" who spend their time talking to you and after a while you know you just aren't getting what you ought to at home. So you walk out on your spouse/family. You ask your "friend" to move in. Your "friend" moves in. They are only your "friend" because they just happen to married to someone else too. The two of you are SUCH good friends you plan to get married. Then one day your friend ends up pregnant---by someone entirely different (than their spouse or you) and now wants that divorce (from her spouse) and leaves (you). What does that leave you?
Being stuck married to someone else when you want to be able to care again or care at all stinks. So does the way it feels to realize you aren't divorced, but want to fall in love with someone. People who love being married, believe in marriage, want to love, need to be available to do that. That is why getting the divorce out of the way, as soon as it is really possible, wins. Life keeps going on. Legal garbage with dead sections of your life shouldn't.
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| 11/1/2007 12:44:02 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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ya back off people.this is an unusual circumstance.i totally agree with the walkin in someone elses shoes.if we only knew.
when we ask opinions we don't always hear what we want to.unfortunately,people could be more tactful.if she didn't care,she wouldn't have brought it up...would she?
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| 11/1/2007 12:44:18 PM |
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peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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Jane, That would suck!! And your right, You should fix all mistakes as quickly as possible.
xoxoPeaches.
Thank you all, It is very difficult and two reasons I bring it up. One, I have to deal with it and Two, Maybe someone else will learn from my mistakes.
P.
[Edited 11/1/2007 12:45:31 PM]
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| 11/1/2007 2:43:32 PM |
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heatreat
Ruth, MI
age: 49
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peachess if the us said you or you are single you are single just do go back and now it time for you to move on you have or life to live so live it good luck sweetie fred
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| 11/3/2007 7:23:38 PM |
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steveredman
Spotswood, NJ
age: 37
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My future ex-wife and I filed for divorce two weeks ago. It has been a rocky marriage from the start. I am looking forward to starting over.
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| 11/3/2007 7:25:33 PM |
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steveredman
Spotswood, NJ
age: 37
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Thank you for being honest. Some marriages are just mistakes. I am not saying mine was a mistake, but people grow-up and apart.
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| 11/3/2007 8:45:24 PM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
age: 51
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Single>>> never been married...still looking, or maybe just like choice
Married is Married with a legal partner..
Seperated...taking a break from married..some play the feild to see if something better comes along,or can't deal with marriage,and work issues out at this time....either way,for people divorce,single beware....usually your a rebound,I have dated 2 men seperated,with divorces pending....best wishes to both of them..they went back with wifes,and kids..never again....I was smart and didn't get involved ...only an ear to listen.
So please for the sake of being clear of your intent ,state honesty
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