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william9_17
Kelseyville, CA
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Hey what if you're in a commited long term relationship and your partner has something horrible happen to them that makes it impossible for the to have sex with you again? What would you do? Let's say your partner get's cancer or gets into an accident or gets paralyzed or has E.D. that can't be treated with drugs? What would you do? I'm just curious to see how loyal everyone would be to thier mates...
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| 5/18/2009 5:16:15 AM |
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quitesassy
Massillon, OH
47, joined Feb. 2009
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I have never been faced with that situation before. Should I ever, I can only pray
that I will have the strength to withstand such tragedy and loss as my parents did.
I watched my parents suffer through many things while my Mom was dying of cancer.
I've never witnessed someone give and love and care for another as my Dad did during that
time. Nothing was about him and what he needed. Nothing.
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| 5/18/2009 5:20:43 AM |
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tystixx
Los Angeles, CA
41, joined Apr. 2009
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time to move on.
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| 5/18/2009 5:26:23 AM |
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yourfriendbob
Fayette, OH
63, joined Oct. 2008
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A great number of the relationships will fail. Because contrary to popular belief, it's not about the orgasm, it's about the symbolism of the act itself.
At my age, I personally know of guys who have this problem and can't remedy it with drugs. They can hand out orgasms by the dozen, but if they can't on occasion rise to the task even in a mediocre way, the woman leaves them. It's tragic, but it's also human nature. Regardless of the reason, a woman will often blame herself for his failure. That will eventually turn to resentment, and they just don't last. A few of them have found a woman who is mature enough to handle this situation without feeling at fault. Most of them have given up on women for anything but friends. Makes a guy thank God everyday when you can still function.
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| 5/18/2009 5:50:23 AM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
53, joined Feb. 2009
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That's a no brainer. If I was in a LTR (which I don't want), I would be more focused on my guy's health than my crotch.
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| 5/18/2009 6:00:00 AM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
66, joined Dec. 2008
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You have to Deal with it, Period. If you are in that relationship for LOVE, you just don't walk out on somebody because they can't have Sex  
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| 5/18/2009 6:08:30 AM |
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looking4_prince
Twin Falls, ID
64, joined Mar. 2009
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not only did I go to nursing school to learn how to care for my late husband...I remained celibate for the last 7 years he was here...TILL DEATH DO YOU PART....but I"m available now.....
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| 5/18/2009 6:15:12 AM |
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bravehart64
Gainesville, FL
53, joined May. 2009
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Good question bro . Look I think it would depend allot on the age of the couple involved .I certainly wouldn't throw her to the curb right off if I was in a serious relationship . Would definitely stand by her for as long as I could .
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| 5/18/2009 9:45:32 AM |
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sweet_li
Orlando, FL
52, joined Apr. 2009
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Hey what if you're in a commited long term relationship and your partner has something horrible happen to them that makes it impossible for the to have sex with you again? What would you do?
this question is easy to answer. i would stay with him forever because i love him!!!  ya know, there are more ways to be sexually affectionate and intimate with someone than having straight up intercourse.  loving someone with all of your heart is about more than just having erections, getting wet or having orgasms. it's about the awesome, deep spiritual and emotional connection that two people have together that transcends anything that can happen physically between them. 
and to the guy who answered this question with, "time to move on..." , at least now the women on here know what kind of person you really are and to avoid you like the plague. anyone who would break up with or divorce the person they love (who was unable to have sex) just so they can have sexual intercourse regularly with someone else is as shallow as it gets! but hey, karma is a funny and interesting thing...
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| 5/18/2009 9:48:55 AM |
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darlinshel
Clayton, NC
49, joined Jan. 2009
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If I've made a commitment to him and we are in a long term relationship, it means I am in love with him. Love doesn't walk away. I am very loyal in a relationship and an injury or illness would not make me leave.
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| 5/18/2009 10:47:08 AM |
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snowbird02s
Florence
Italy
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If he is a LTR/ or husband, and I was in love with him, I could not abandon him.
It would be hard but, I will still love him and be supportive.
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| 5/18/2009 10:47:49 AM |
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sea_1
Mesa, AZ
64, joined May. 2009
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Stick by his side................Sea
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| 5/18/2009 10:56:19 AM |
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edgeofsandias
Placitas, NM
49, joined Jan. 2009
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Been there, done that. And if I loved the man would do it again.
Gladly.
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| 5/18/2009 11:13:50 AM |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
64, joined Dec. 2007
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If I was married, we would adapt. No doubt in my mind I could deal with that. Just a little more creativity.
What happened to me was that I dated a man who told me he was on meds that prevented an erection. He had pills but they were expensive, so when he went to use one, he only used half and it didn't work. No second chance for this cheaping out, sorry. I don't deal well with frustration. I wouldn't do it again - I still want the works.
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| 5/18/2009 11:18:35 AM |
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allarrimer
Katy, TX
39, joined Jul. 2007
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I would stay..... there are ways around the issue if BOTH partners are willing and creative.... Toys, strap ons, fingers, and of course locations....
Maybe its a way of being told to think outside of the box.
I'm in it for the long haul.... regardless of the phisical act, don't get me wrong... sex is very much a part of any healthy relationship, but it isn't EVERYTHING!!!
JMO
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| 5/18/2009 11:45:26 AM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
56, joined Nov. 2007
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This is a no-brainer. I don't care for sex much. But I find very few women who share that view.
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| 5/18/2009 12:05:14 PM |
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sunnygrl09
Redlands, CA
53, joined Feb. 2009
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sad but true - happens more frequently than we suspect. one could only hope the love is strong, after all - life isnt just about sex now, is it????
that being said, the caregiver for the afflicted party is often too tired and burnt out to want to have sex, so it dies right there!!!!
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| 5/18/2009 12:08:11 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
55, joined Sep. 2008
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There is so much more to "sex" than you putting your thingy in my thingy... especially when love is involved.
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| 5/18/2009 12:22:11 PM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
61, joined Jul. 2008
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I would love him for better ot for worse!!! His health would be much more important than my sexual needs
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| 5/18/2009 12:46:08 PM |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
63, joined Nov. 2007
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There is so much more to "sex" than you putting your thingy in my thingy... especially when love is involved.
Sure, there's sleeping on the wet spot. Isn't yours a thingie rather then a thingy and does the thong cover the thing?
I too have been there and while it is noble in the mind and in theory, and perhaps the right thing to do, most of us had a terminal partner rather then one who promised decades of sexless and often equally emotion empty or frustrated cohabitation.
Depneding upon one's stage of life and ability to attain non physical nurturing and replenishment, sexless and emotionally cold relationships, whether because a partner can't or won't, is not a life one chooses nor one that many will abide.
Guilt? Sure. But then we feel guilty when cheating on a diet. There is no lonliness, lonlier then coldly lifing with another.
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| 5/18/2009 1:16:46 PM |
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sunleo
Billings, MT
32, joined Jul. 2008
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it would depand on if i love them.
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| 5/18/2009 2:48:48 PM |
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cinthianna01
Goshen, IN
98, joined Mar. 2009
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There really isn't anyone that thinks sex will last one's entire lifetime, is there?
It is something every person in a LTR will eventually come across, some sooner than others.
For someone to state that they would dump someone for not being able to put out, would be considered cold and inhumane to most--so putting that information in public forum, is pretty much dating suicide.
There are other means, methods and ways to seek the Intimacy one seeks through physical connection. Meaning that the relationship the two share can over-come certain setbacks...even that one.
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| 5/18/2009 3:06:37 PM |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
63, joined Nov. 2007
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"There really isn't anyone that thinks sex will last one's entire lifetime, is there?"
Well, YEAH! It might not be pretty at 80 or 90, but I'm not interested in style points.
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| 5/18/2009 3:37:23 PM |
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mismatch
Cleveland, TN
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"There really isn't anyone that thinks sex will last one's entire lifetime, is there?"
Well, YEAH! It might not be pretty at 80 or 90, but I'm not interested in style points.
i agree with ya kinky....if there's a will, there's a way...no matter the age...
agreeing with you is what shocks me...
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| 5/18/2009 3:49:51 PM |
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lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
60, joined Dec. 2008
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Its about love in my opinion and yes I would stay.
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| 5/18/2009 4:44:33 PM |
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busaride
Janesville, WI
72, joined May. 2009
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Really interesting question, and some very good answers - even from the kinky guy -
here's another wrinkle, what if you're not in an established relationship but want to be in one, and your physically/emotionally unable to have the sex you think everyoune else wants? What do you do then??
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| 5/18/2009 4:52:43 PM |
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luv2bum
Milwaukee, WI
52, joined Feb. 2009
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That's a no brainer. If I was in a LTR (which I don't want), I would be more focused on my guy's health than my crotch.
.....any other way and that is one selfish person!
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| 5/18/2009 6:18:30 PM |
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cinthianna01
Goshen, IN
98, joined Mar. 2009
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"There really isn't anyone that thinks sex will last one's entire lifetime, is there?"
Well, YEAH! It might not be pretty at 80 or 90, but I'm not interested in style points.
Well, it's not that pretty now, "bumpin' uglies" is a valid term, for a reason.
And considering I have seen living animals attempt to mate with non living animals, and one too many nursing home stories, I will correct myself and concede to your victory.
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| 5/18/2009 6:19:15 PM |
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nannynorris
Albertville, AL
76, joined May. 2009
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I have been one of the unfortunate ones to have experienced this in two different relationships. My husband of 23 yrs died at 56 with Cancer and he lost his ability to have sex. We had the most wonderful sexual life, and I knew I had to put that on the back burner no matter how rough it was. A few years ago I met a man who is absolutely wonderful but his meds rendered him impudent. We had so much fun together and he treated me like a queen. It depends on the woman/man's personality. If you are a loving, caring person with compassion you can adjust to almost anything. I am now into 7 yrs "SEX FREE" and still think on it sometimes but it does not control my life. It is a mind over matter thing. 
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| 5/18/2009 7:04:34 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Stroudsburg, PA
55, joined Sep. 2008
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Really interesting question, and some very good answers - even from the kinky guy -
here's another wrinkle, what if you're not in an established relationship but want to be in one, and your physically/emotionally unable to have the sex you think everyoune else wants? What do you do then??
IF you feel that a relationship is possible with that person you come clean with the
problem, upfront and honest and let the other person decide for themselves whether or
not they want to deal with such an issue. To make assumptions that "everyone else is doing it"
is not only childish but can prove to be quite wrong!
As for the OP's inquiry, for me this is a no brainer, loyality is just that and the
reason I'm with that person is not for the sex but because I love him for who he is.
If a relationship is just based on the physical then it's not a strong one,
there are so many other levels of intimacy and affection that actual 'intercourse'
plays such a minor role!!
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| 5/18/2009 9:24:51 PM |
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druidess63
Aliquippa, PA
54, joined May. 2009
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Hey what if you're in a commited long term relationship and your partner has something horrible happen to them that makes it impossible for the to have sex with you again? What would you do? Let's say your partner get's cancer or gets into an accident or gets paralyzed or has E.D. that can't be treated with drugs? What would you do? I'm just curious to see how loyal everyone would be to thier mates...
I've been there, so I can answer this one from experience. My late husband had ED before we started dating and was honest about it, so I knew from the beginning. We couldn't get the drugs because he was living at home caring for his elderly father and had no insurance. He did buy one from a friend of his on our 1-year anniversary. It worked.
Later he got very sick and we got legally married to get him on my insurance...only to find that he had Stage IV laryngeal cancer. Terminal. So, ironically, by the time we could get the drugs, they didn't work because his blood supply was too affected. (Yes, we got them, yes we tried one, no...no effect.)
I was faithful to him for the entire 2 years and 3 weeks that we were granted together total from the time we began to date until the day he died...including 8 months of marriage as his sole caretaker.
Yes, I would remain faithful. Marriage and love are about the heart, not hormones. And this from a person with a very strong libido, so don't think that it's not important to me, or that sex is just something I can easily live without. I just know what's most important.
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| 5/18/2009 11:27:30 PM |
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bbw46reader
Frederick, MD
55, joined Oct. 2008
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Yes, Cin and Kinky. My grandparents generation nor anyone before them had all the lovely drugs we have now. I don't mean just the ED ones, but hormones for women, fixes for vaginal dryness, testosterone for men. I mean, there was no treatment for vaginal atrophy (look it up). Most couples I knew went to separate bedrooms as soon as a spare one was available. In fact, a woman pregnant after 35 was eyed askance. Anybody remember that? And after 40 - weeell, you might as well brand 'N' for 'nympho' on your forehead.
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| 5/18/2009 11:29:49 PM |
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longlastingwife
Grand Rapids, MI
43, joined Feb. 2009
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time to move on.
so in this case is it alright to say do me like i'm going to do you?
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| 5/19/2009 10:37:32 AM |
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sunleo
Billings, MT
32, joined Jul. 2008
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this bring to mind women cutting man off from sex. and how the women say the partner would be selfish.
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| 5/19/2009 11:26:08 AM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
53, joined Aug. 2008
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I'd hire a really hot nurse with nice tits to take care of her, and bang the nurse on the side.
There ya go...best of both worlds! Nurse Hottypants takes care of the two of us.
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| 5/19/2009 11:29:07 AM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
56, joined Nov. 2007
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I posted this as a response in a private email to someone (who is not identified by the content), but I think it worth repeating here:
Consider: most men (myself included, despite allegations of homosexual leanings and non-existent libido) will become aroused at anything (and I use the term "thing" intentionally) that isn't actually unarousing. Few men will not respond to a woman in their arms allowing his hands to wander over her body.
The point is (and I think many a woman misses this point) that it doesn't matter one fig who she is to elicit such a response (hence "thing" above). I suppose a woman who's been a real annoyance in the past might bring to mind so many negative memories as to be a turnoff, but we so often read of men "getting it on" with the ex for "old time's sake".
There is a principle in information theory that says a piece of data deserves more importance in terms of the number of bits used to represent it based on how rare it is. Thus, given how easy it is for a man to become aroused, who arouses him is largely irrelevant and unimportant.
There are those who would argue that this is "human nature", but I disagree: it is the nature of ALL sexual creatures to be driven to disperse their DNA as widely as possible, the male of the species being the vector to do this. So, "tit for tat" relationships where he deigns to sufficiently satisfy her to keep her returning so that he might obtain his release on a regular basis derive from little more than a primal urge. And, when things "go wrong", each partner moves on. Many women, I think, confuse sexual fidelity with emotional involvement, and while the latter implies the former, the reverse is not true: she's just adequate for the present, whether for the night, the week, or until she gets fat. (Added in the public post: Basically, the bush around your d*ck is worth a dozen at the end of the bar. (Eddy: you may steal that quote))
In the same way our inteligence allows us to see the merits of an objective system of law, instead of settling disputes by brute force, we are capable of far more sophisticated relationships. Love, (as opposed to the heady intoxication of lust), is one such kind of relationship. In it's purest form, it is sacrifice and unselfishness, but strives to ease another's journey through life, the benefit being companionship -- our own thoughts are rarely sufficient to entertain us for very long. It may involve indulging in our partner's primal urges now and then, but they are a concession to our evolution and not a driving factor in that kind of relationship.
Ergo, if one can take sex "off" the table, and the relationship is STILL satisfying, one might be on to something.
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| 5/19/2009 11:35:33 AM |
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stlstella
Saint Louis, MO
59, joined Feb. 2009
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Ergo, if one can take sex "off" the table, and the relationship is STILL satisfying, one might be on to something.
Exactly...
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| 5/19/2009 11:48:46 AM |
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seawill
Asheville, NC
44, joined Mar. 2009
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What if the person is is physically capable of having sex but doesnt, due to something like depression or just a fizzled out libido? Much time has passed while you have waited for them to get better or get help. There is something wrong with the person but its not as obvious as paralasis. I dont picture myself leaving someone i loved over sex, but then again i dont know what id do in a given situation, does time make a difference, severity/type of condition?
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| 5/19/2009 11:52:45 AM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
56, joined Nov. 2007
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What if the person is is physically capable of having sex but doesnt, due to something like depression or just a fizzled out libido? Much time has passed while you have waited for them to get better or get help. There is something wrong with the person but its not as obvious as paralasis. I dont picture myself leaving someone i loved over sex, but then again i dont know what id do in a given situation, does time make a difference, severity/type of condition?
Or maybe, they are pissed off at their partner?
I denied my then-wife sex when she started actively trashing our home and didn't pick up after herself. If she disrespected what I was providing for us she betrayed my trust that she would care for it, and no way in hell would I want to have sex with her (and no, I didn't cheat either).
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| 5/19/2009 6:45:03 PM |
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sharedmercy
Fort Wayne, IN
61, joined Sep. 2008
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That's a no brainer. If I was in a LTR (which I don't want), I would be more focused on my guy's health than my crotch.
I was married 30 years before my hubby passed away. If this is all your relationship is about, then all you have is an extended one-night stand.
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| 5/19/2009 7:26:55 PM |
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bamabikerchic
Higdon, AL
65, joined Apr. 2009
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I would sit with him and stand with him day and nite..and never leave his side..A TRUE LOVE IS TILL DEATH DO US PART..and thats what I want
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| 5/19/2009 9:03:06 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
69, joined Mar. 2008
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My ex had ED from blood pressure pills and alcohol consumption. I stayed with him for 8 years. The lack of sex didn't bother me, the online cheating (and I mean what for??? he can't do anything???!!!) nad bitvhing about me to strange women was the deal breaker.
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| 5/20/2009 12:09:20 AM |
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sandra49ok
Shelton, WA
58, joined Sep. 2008
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sex has never ruled me and so therefore i wouldnt behave any differently than i usually do i certainly wouldnt cheat
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| 5/20/2009 12:15:37 AM |
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jerrig
Evansville, IL
49, joined Jun. 2008
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Sex isn't what makes up 'the good stuff'. It's more like the maraschino cherry on top of a hot fudge sundae. It's really good, but it's not whats important.
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| 5/20/2009 12:18:17 AM |
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tink48
Anderson, IN
57, joined Jun. 2008
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my partner has ed and I have stuck by him for two years. and would continue to stand beside him for the rest of our lives. But it seems he would rather be alone. He's been a loner most of his life and I guess he prefers it that way. I missed sex but being with him made me happy and that was more important.
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| 5/20/2009 12:21:12 AM |
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turtledove70
Schertz, TX
47, joined May. 2009
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Long term? you love them very much? Stick with them!
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| 5/20/2009 8:26:29 AM |
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tristen01
Minot, ND
51, joined Feb. 2009
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PLEASE HIM IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE
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| 5/20/2009 8:32:31 AM |
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lotstdo
Henderson, NV
56, joined Apr. 2009
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That's a no brainer. If I was in a LTR (which I don't want), I would be more focused on my guy's health than my crotch.
there will always be oral sex right?
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| 5/20/2009 2:16:20 PM |
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loveablonde
East Liverpool, OH
70, joined Apr. 2009
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I was married a year and my husband was diagnosed with diabetis....(my second husband) Needless to say our sex life was shot due to medication and such.....but I stuck by his side. He died of a massive heart attack 4 years later. If you truly love someone you will be able to do without the sex....I know it bothered him alot when he wasn't able to perform anymore. My first husband had cancer and I went through the same thing with him. After he was diagnosed he lived 8 months......I did everything I could to please both of them and they in turn did the same. It took me 7 years before I went on a dating site to try and get into another relationship. I had a man contact me first and I am still with him after 10 months. He has COPD but I didn't drop him because of his condition....I looked at this way.....God must bring these men into my life for a reason....he stopped smoking when he started dating me so I feel I did help him in a way. Our relationship is great and so far I am getting back what I lost in the years before.
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| 5/20/2009 4:20:21 PM |
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weltystocker
Licking, MO
35, joined Nov. 2007
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I have a stuation now , but not for ever. I have a cistis on the bladder that makes in impossable to have sex anyway u like w out being stressed about it. But in the yrs i hope it be over. U know it sure makes a person value what they have and use it while u have it.
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| 5/20/2009 4:21:37 PM |
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weltystocker
Licking, MO
35, joined Nov. 2007
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I have a stuation now , but not for ever. I have a cistis on the bladder that makes in impossable to have sex anyway u like w out being stressed about it. But in the yrs i hope it be over. U know it sure makes a person value what they have and use it while u have it.
I'm going to have sex everday when i'm able again.
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| 5/20/2009 10:32:46 PM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
56, joined Nov. 2007
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Finally! Some people get it!
I am not opposed to a sexual relationship, but only with someone who can demonstrate that that isn't the "glue" that bind us as a couple.
In fact, I'm very affectionate. Many women have complained to me that their partners will not spoon or otherwise cuddle afterward, and I actually enjoy that.
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| 5/21/2009 11:34:28 PM |
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soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
48, joined Jan. 2008
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Sure I would miss it... he is a great and attentive lover but sex isn't everything. A relationship is so much more than sex.
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| 5/21/2009 11:38:44 PM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
42, joined Oct. 2008
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Well if I loved them and they were lifelong I would just please myself while he is watching
There are other ways to be intimate without doing a sexual act and often times it is more intense and appealing than the act of sex itself.
I would not be a selfish f**ker and go sleep around behind his back. I mean its bad enough he was hurt and for me to go find pleasure in another man would be like twisting a knife in his back and then squeezing lemons all over it
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| 5/21/2009 11:40:27 PM |
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orillion
Miami, FL
54, joined May. 2008
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there is a sense of demoralizing inaadequatness
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| 5/21/2009 11:46:07 PM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
42, joined Oct. 2008
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Where all all the mens input on this?????
It seems the women with no question would easily value the man more than their pleasure. I mean almost every single one of them are on that like its not even a question to ponder.
The one that surprised me though is the quote I saw from goodgato who said she values her crotch. That is a first since I thought her crotch was only valued as a value meal in the drive-thru. Big ol vag for a cheap price. Would you like fries with that? Oh you already come supersized? Right on
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| 5/22/2009 1:32:13 AM |
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steven030463
Newton Falls, OH
54, joined Nov. 2008
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don't let anyone kid you. They would all walk out of your life. Known fact.
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| 5/22/2009 2:01:44 AM |
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porgy123
Pueblo, CO
73, joined Apr. 2009
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Disease, cancer, paralysis and such are different
from ED. Thing about ED, it can be cured!
Just get to a good urologist and discuss what's going on.
IF that dr can't fix it, surely he'll know one that can.
THen go get it taken care of.
Good luck,
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| 5/22/2009 2:05:33 AM |
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william9_17
Kelseyville, CA
33, joined Mar. 2008
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Well if I loved them and they were lifelong I would just please myself while he is watching
There are other ways to be intimate without doing a sexual act and often times it is more intense and appealing than the act of sex itself.
I would not be a selfish f**ker and go sleep around behind his back. I mean its bad enough he was hurt and for me to go find pleasure in another man would be like twisting a knife in his back and then squeezing lemons all over it
That would be more cruel than anything I could imagine. Being able to see my wife pleasure herself and not be able to do anything about it. There are some situations in life where suicide is a valid choice...JMO 
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| 5/22/2009 11:13:25 AM |
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imseddy
Dodgeville, WI
54, joined Feb. 2009
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My cousin has gone through this with her husband and it has been for the past 5 years or more. We had a talk about it and she said she is ok with it because he still shows affection for her. That is what seems to be more important than the sex, the affection. He will still hold her at night and that is what she said was important. Now me, Im a highly sexual person but I would exaust every avenue I could to make it work. If all else fails, I really believe if love is truely there, the side that can have and wants to have sex should be able to do so in an agreeable way for the ailing partner.
I watched cat house on HBO once where a woman was sent there by her husband. He couldn't make her happy sexually so he sent her there for the girls to take care of her. She was glowing when she left. I am sure that made a big difference in the way she dealt with her husband when she got home and after as well. He loved her that much.
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