| 12/7/2007 7:19:15 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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jazzygirlok
Tulsa, OK
age: 44
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its considered mutual, when you continue to let it happen!!...HELLO!!!!
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| 12/7/2007 7:28:48 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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what was unfair?
he let you believe there was potential there so he could get in your pants?
oh wait, no sex huh? having trouble with the used part then...
wait did you pay off his student loans? that bastard!
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| 12/7/2007 7:29:18 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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defiantbadgirl
McPherson, KS
age: 34
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You're right. That's why I can't be his friend until he is fair to me first. Otherwise I would be allowing it to continue. That's my whole point.
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| 12/7/2007 7:30:56 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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defiantbadgirl
McPherson, KS
age: 34
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What was unfair is the fact that he took other women on dates and not me. Sex isn't the only way to use someone.
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| 12/7/2007 7:35:35 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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shadow107
Gilmanton, NH
age: 50 online now!
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sex sex sex ya babyyyyyyy
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| 12/7/2007 7:37:49 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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holdinpanama
Panama City, FL
age: 44
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i'm not gonna be mean that right there should have told you something he took them on dates and not you he refered the other women as girlfriends not you its there in front of you.its you hurting yourself not him he told you.you don't want to listen get on with your life cause your not gonna be able to be friends with him because the way you fill for him and you have your fillings hurt.you will not get on with your life until you realize it.
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| 12/7/2007 7:41:32 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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angelordevil
Manassas, VA
age: 39
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what's wrong with be just friends???
did u sleep with him-- then your no longer friends u over stepped that friend bountry..
TRue FRIENDS don't sleep with each other !!!!!!1
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| 12/7/2007 7:54:11 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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defiantbadgirl
McPherson, KS
age: 34
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In answer to your question he never penetrated me, but wanted to do alot of sexual touching.
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| 12/7/2007 7:55:11 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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you make this sound awfully one sided.
can you give me his email, i have some advice for him.
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| 12/7/2007 8:04:24 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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lilbit2007
Tunnel Hill, GA
age: 40
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He can only use you if you allow him too. I have someone that my heart belongs to as well.However, I wouldnt take anything for our friendship.We dated 5years ago became really close and he got scared of what he was feeling. He backed off.We still are the best of friends though.Can talk about anything.I sometimes get jealous of him when he tries too date others.But he always comes back to me.I have accepted this friendship because we are so great together that I dont ever want him out of my life.But dont you put your life on hold for no one girl.Sometimes we want what we cant have!!!!!! make him think you are over it and move on.Either he come around or not.Cant make someone love you
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| 12/7/2007 8:07:26 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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defiantbadgirl
McPherson, KS
age: 34
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Here's how it went down. He met me once and was attracted to me but said he wasn't ready for a relationship. He then defined a relationship as two people who were extremely serious, basically his definition made the word relationship sound like a synonym for engaged. Based on his definition of the word, I agreed with him since we had just met. I then made it very clear to him that I didn't want to be used or be a friend with benefits. He came up with the idea of us working toward a monogamous relationship, which is what I did agree to. Obviously, he lied about his definition of a relationship to get what he wanted. I didn't find out he was taking other women on dates and calling them girlfriends until after I developed feelings for him. He deceived me. I never agreed to be a friend with benefits.
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| 12/7/2007 8:15:31 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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davewave1
Ann Arbor, MI
age: 60
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In my experience, you are headed down a "Dead End" street. His mind is captured by a belief system that does not, at this time, allow him to commit to an exclusive relationship.
Further, the religious aspect tells me he is torn between his true nature as a male, and a "belief system" that contradicts the powerful, natural signals of instincts, hormones and intellect.
You are better off spending your precious "Time of Life" seeking a male who shares your values. That way, you will arrive at a happier destination sooner. Otherwise, thinking he will change in time for you, is just a pure wast of your life.
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| 12/7/2007 8:15:41 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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defiantbadgirl
McPherson, KS
age: 34
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photographerny, as you can see from my post above, it was only mutual because of his deception. I can't give his email out without his permission, but I would be happy to pass along anything you wish to say to him.
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| 12/7/2007 8:31:33 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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stellablue
Saint Louis, MO
age: 49 online now!
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defiant..
"Life is not fair, fare only gets you on the bus."
I taught my kids and grands this by the time they were 5.
"I never agreed to be a FWB." Then why did you do it? That was your choice.
lilbit...well said. We each makes choices daily on what we can and can't live with.
dave...I agree, our time is precious, I don't want to waste a moment.
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| 12/7/2007 8:44:41 AM |
he just wants to be friends |
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defiantbadgirl
McPherson, KS
age: 34
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Why did I do it? I didn't. I was willing to date him and never thought of him as a friend with benefits. All I expected was to be treated equally in comparison to other women. Just equality, nothing more nothing less. Why do so many seem to think equality is too much to ask for?
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