12/30/2007 6:27:47 PM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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anniebrown57
Warrington, PA
age: 50
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I get so mad I cry. Makes me mader
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12/30/2007 6:29:43 PM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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Well drummrboy... I don't think you just walk off without explaining that the debate is getting heated and maybe you needed to take a time out. That way the person knows that you aren't just "walking out" on "them" and that you do intend to come back and discuss it when everyone has calmed down.
There are "Fair Fighting" rules that can be followed...and none is put on the defensive then.
[Edited 12/30/2007 6:31:01 PM]
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12/30/2007 6:33:47 PM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46
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...I usto walk, when I couldn't take it any more....and for him, that was the worst thing. However, when things get too heated, I think it is important to take a time out. Make it a mutual agreement before hand.....say 5 min.
.....and if that doesent work, I really want to try the raw egg method.....get naked and throw raw eggs at each other until both of us are laughing so hard that we forgot what we were angry about to begin with......
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12/30/2007 7:07:39 PM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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1pinkstar
Omaha, NE
age: 55
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a debate or an argument? There is a difference.
Most of the time I will stop talking, wait for things to cool down. Then later, I will point out why they were wrong.
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12/30/2007 10:02:52 PM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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busymanfour
Harrisonburg, VA
age: 50
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I use the word debate, use whatever you think it means!!!
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12/30/2007 11:00:55 PM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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youngnurse
Calgary, AB
age: 22
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it's sounds crazy but i need someone who i can stand in a room and scream with. My last boyfriend would walk out every single time we fought and then come back the next day....and act like everything was fine. I need someone who will stay there, listen to me, let me listen to them...and actually figure out how to deal with whatever it is we're fighting about
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12/31/2007 12:23:26 AM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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dragonflys
Saint James, MO
age: 46
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I try to listen to his point of view with an open mind and keep any negative comments to myself....I pick my battles carefully (since I don't like to battle unless I'm backed into a corner)....I respect the fact that we don't always think alike and sometimes, I think thats a good thing. JMO....Dragon
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12/31/2007 12:54:55 AM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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lee1951
Bellingham, WA
age: 56
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I sometimes walk because my damned writers are on strike! I have no safe script to follow.
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12/31/2007 11:04:51 AM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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busymanfour
Harrisonburg, VA
age: 50
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bell427...good input...I think you and several others have stated that rules should apply and 'learning" each other is a very important point in the Debate arena..
At one time this girl and I had a rule of using the word "time out" it was used when the debate was getting to a place where it was... getting hot...so one would say time out, then "check" on each other not allowing to talk about the subject of debate....showing that we were in tune with each others feelings enough to "check" the other, and to show that the love for the one was more important than the subject at hand...hard to explain here in text only..but it worked for us.
So I think that having rules with each other, and understanding WHY we do what we do, so we dont take it personal at times is very important.
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12/31/2007 11:16:24 AM |
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countrydancer32
Chicago, IL
age: 31
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I like that idea of the time out to check on each other without discussing the issue for a few. I haven't walked out on someone.. Oops I take that back! I did get out of the car twice when the ex scared me and I was walking distance to home. That aside, I like to know WHY someone did or is doing whatever the discussion is about. If I can see where he is coming from, and he is willing to listen to where I am coming from, its all good.
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12/31/2007 11:52:34 AM |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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heather, i apologize. i phsed my words incorrectly. i did tell these ladies why i needed to walk away before walking. i just thought that to stand there and take the verbal onslaught any longer might have errupted into something that would have left both of us very badly. i didn't want to do that. so that's why i tried to walk awy form these situations. now i know, i gotta stand there and try to handle as calmly as possible.
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12/31/2007 1:21:52 PM |
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roundhouse
Phoenix, AZ
age: 43
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Have discovered that I do not have to be "right" all the time. I've come to believe that the only place where the debate really matters is in the Courtroom. I am able to acquiesce and am fine with it whether I am right, or wrong. Don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill......
In the Court pursuit, I take no prisoners, or hold back just to be nice. Of course, we all know that "Eloquent Compromise" is really the bottom line in out of Court settlements.
Roundhouse in Phoenix, Arizona
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12/31/2007 1:24:31 PM |
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crazycajun74
Dallas, TX
age: 33
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The topic is only up for discussion for 15 minutes. If there is no mutual agreement after 15 minutes then we must agree to disagree and revisit another time. Life is too short spent arguing or debating with the one I love. There are too many other ways I want to spend my time.
If we love each other then we should be able to come up with a suitable compromise within 15 minutes.
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12/31/2007 1:25:20 PM |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 52
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Can't wait for the "MAKE-UP" SEX!
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12/31/2007 1:27:50 PM |
how do you react when having a debate with someone you love? |
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professer2
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 52
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You tell em,
there wrong
I am rubber you are glue
what you say bounces off me and sticks to you.
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