| 3/23/2010 8:35:15 AM |
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wise_guy
Brooklyn, NY
age: 30
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True dat Wise...  
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| 3/30/2010 10:24:29 PM |
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bellaorchids
Upper Marlboro, MD
age: 25
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Definetly not I think of myself as an "equal opportunity" dater lol I really enjoy mixing it up learning abt other cultures etc
but it sux I still encounter people who generalize me ...
It sounds cliche but its jst so much better to look past skin color,ethnicities etc and simply get to knw their personality ...
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| 3/31/2010 12:39:26 AM |
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lastpoetlives
Far Rockaway, NY
age: 40
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Does i honestly matter? I dated a guy for 4 months who did act like it mattered. He told me that it would take him along time to like because I was brown and East Indian. I could see where he was coming from because where I live, there isn't much diversity. Then again, he was being an a**hole. Idk, what do you all think?
i dated alot of light women everything was cool until it was time for me to meet the family then it got edgey , my family was cool with it (were all nuts anyway) i been tolled we have a black leader (get out !), so the world has changed ?
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| 3/31/2010 12:40:23 AM |
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lastpoetlives
Far Rockaway, NY
age: 40
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Definetly not I think of myself as an "equal opportunity" dater lol I really enjoy mixing it up learning abt other cultures etc
but it sux I still encounter people who generalize me ...
It sounds cliche but its jst so much better to look past skin color,ethnicities etc and simply get to knw their personality ...
then im not to dark for you
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| 3/31/2010 3:42:39 PM |
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nika5998
Waterbury, CT
age: 37
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Obviousley race and color matter im sick of men sending me messages and talking to me and i make it very clear im an italian woman yes i have biracial children and i dont judge people by their skin color u fall in love with someone believing their the right one but unfortuanately not im open minded and will date whom i feel suitable so please men if u judge and cant except people for who they r u r the worst hypacrit ever learn to love for who they r !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!And dont email me if u cant except interracial children because my kids r my life 
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| 3/31/2010 3:57:09 PM |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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It does if your watching your weight 
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| 3/31/2010 4:53:56 PM |
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rainn1224
Woodbridge, VA
age: 45
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I think it matters to some men also.... Have had a lot of experiences with being shut out.... Not because of being half Apache but for Also being half Mexican.... I believe this is there loss ... I'm a nice woman who's doing a little soul searching... Not out to hurt anyone.... I mean damn were all just people... Lighten up
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| 3/31/2010 4:55:12 PM |
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caressmesoftly
Las Vegas, NV
age: 46
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i would ordinarily say no, but after the last one, i say yes. he said it didn't matter, but when i was getting my stuff from the place we shared, he said for me to act "white". i guess that gave me his real answer...and actually made me reassess mine. i guess maybe it doesn't matter. i just don't think i'd go for another guy from coeur d'alene idaho...
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| 3/31/2010 6:02:39 PM |
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sammysossa
Urbandale, IA
age: 18
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Personally I prefer dark colored guys. lol Although I do date other people of different races. It depends on the person. Though I do agree with you.
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| 3/31/2010 9:04:14 PM |
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smallngood
Palestine, TX
age: 62
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The whole answer depends on the person- -
For me, it does matter in a serious relationship- -friends? Heck no it doesn't matter, but a lover, you bet.
That is just me though, and it IS my life.
To each their own- -at least for now in America.
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| 3/31/2010 9:37:55 PM |
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jonas35
Dahlonega, GA
age: 36
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I would date you because you are beatiful, I am shallow like that. My d*ck doesn't discriminate. I wish you weren't so young. I would make you fall in love with my c*ck.
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| 3/31/2010 10:24:16 PM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
age: 42
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Does i honestly matter? I dated a guy for 4 months who did act like it mattered. He told me that it would take him along time to like because I was brown and East Indian. I could see where he was coming from because where I live, there isn't much diversity. Then again, he was being an a**hole. Idk, what do you all think?
You're hot, so nothing matters. The world is you oyster. You will never have to settle because the world is set up to serve hot people. So dont settle. Any guy who would say that to you is so stupid it amazing his brain can run his heart. Leave the worries to us ugly folk.
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| 3/31/2010 10:28:59 PM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
age: 42
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That being said, dark man/light woman relationships are about 50 trillion times more common than dark woman/light man relationships. Considering that women really do the deciding in dating, its seems light women are FAR more likely to test "darker waters" than dark women are to go lighter. I'll leave it to those who will admit why this is true to explain it, because I havent got a clue.
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| 4/1/2010 8:57:31 PM |
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139brooke
Dallas, TX
age: 40
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It does matter for some people. In some cases, it is simply of a matter of physical attraction. While others may not date a certain race due to stereotypes and generalizations.
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| 4/1/2010 9:50:22 PM |
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lastpoetlives
Far Rockaway, NY
age: 40
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Yes and yes. I have had easy times dating white women than blacks. there are some 'tensions' between africans and african americans. it is easier to date a white woman than for an african american to accept someone from the continent. This is my own experience  
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| 4/3/2010 7:24:16 AM |
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elias777
Essex
United Kingdom
age: 39
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I think you should have left him long a go, he's still living in 18th century, not a man really to plan anything with.
All the best.
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| 4/3/2010 7:34:41 AM |
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bigcats374
Cedar City, UT
age: 57
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This should not matter and has no place in a healthy and active relationship. Only narrow minded people allow this to become an issue.
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| 4/3/2010 9:12:58 AM |
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miah1987
Washington, DC
age: 23
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YES!!!
for me it does
i want a man that is black like me
if he isn't i won't have anything in common with him socially
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| 4/3/2010 9:45:27 AM |
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sunbeachflower
Suffolk, VA
age: 40
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I don't think it matters. i love all cultures. some people are curious so when they get the opportunity they go for it. some people date out side their race but wonder what others think. where i,m from you see all cultures together.i prefer to date outside my race. it's a preference.i still love blk men.you are very pretty forget him, his loss. good luck.
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| 4/3/2010 10:08:15 AM |
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josh_p
Los Angeles, CA
age: 23
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YES!!!
for me it does
i want a man that is black like me
if he isn't i won't have anything in common with him socially
I think your the first black woman ever on DH that said that.
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| 4/3/2010 10:31:36 AM |
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leahgrace
Lafayette, IN
age: 35
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I have to say it does matter, I married a man that was born and raised in another country. We were married 15 yrs. Cultue issues play a big part in your lives.
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| 4/3/2010 1:27:02 PM |
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jodi12345
Dudley, NC
age: 45
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I have to say it does matter, I married a man that was born and raised in another country. We were married 15 yrs. Cultural issues play a big part in your lives.
I agree. I dont think race is an issue as much as cultural differences. I have dated several times outside of my race, because I was turned on by the race appearance and the accent.But. the culture is what I could not deal with. But, I have seen some inter-cultural couples that seem to make it work.
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| 4/3/2010 8:43:26 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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I figure that you cant really figure out what u want or what u like unless you expand your mind.
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| 4/3/2010 9:04:48 PM |
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latestflame
Germantown, TN
age: 33
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No ethnicity shouldn't matter.
Chalk it up to "His loss"........your a beautiful young lady!
There's no such thing as "should". Everyone has preferences and they're not wrong to have them. To me it sometimes matters.
[Edited 4/3/2010 9:05:05 PM PST]
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| 4/4/2010 6:24:25 AM |
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justkickinbak
Clayton, NC
age: 53
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Why should it matter,love is from the heart, not from the eyes. Of course there are those that fall for all the window dressing.
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| 4/4/2010 6:26:17 AM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
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I thought at one time it didn't but when it comes to trying to integrate someone of a different race into the family it's way too difficult. I'm not willing to isolate myself from my blood relatives who have loved me and cared for me all my life for someone that could be gone at a moment's notice. Blood is thicker than water.
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| 4/4/2010 7:40:05 AM |
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gentlemanjim1
North Fort Myers, FL
age: 61
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I thought at one time it didn't but when it comes to trying to integrate someone of a different race into the family it's way too difficult. I'm not willing to isolate myself from my blood relatives who have loved me and cared for me all my life for someone that could be gone at a moment's notice. Blood is thicker than water.
About time someone said it. Not only family, but coworkers and friends. Many people are just not ready to accept mixing the races. Some of us grew up at a time in history when it was just considered wrong. It is not easy to change what we learned as children. I am anything but a racist, but I would not put myself or family through this because it is somewhat accepted today.
To each their own, and I wish everyone finds what they are looking for in a relationship.
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| 4/4/2010 7:59:49 AM |
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justkickinbak
Clayton, NC
age: 53
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About time someone said it. Not only family, but coworkers and friends. Many people are just not ready to accept mixing the races. Some of us grew up at a time in history when it was just considered wrong. It is not easy to change what we learned as children. I am anything but a racist, but I would not put myself or family through this because it is somewhat accepted today.
To each their own, and I wish everyone finds what they are looking for in a relationship.
If your family would abandon you and is that narrow minded then maybe it's time to find a new family that really loves you.
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| 4/4/2010 8:09:02 AM |
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gbgibby
Portage, MI
age: 53
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I don't date asians. I think it has more to do with the fact that I watched too many bad asian porn when I was little (no "eggroll" size for me, thanks!). Or the fact they are too skinny for me.
Ya, I'm racist against my own kind ^_^
I was going to let this go, but it did bring up an something I've noticed; I have met and dated women of different races. I have heard the same statement or similar" I'm racist against my own kind" . It just makes me wonder if they all were affected by porn.
What do ya think?
With all respect.
Gibby
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| 4/4/2010 9:36:56 AM |
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cheeryss
Van Nuys, CA
age: 25
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i totally agree with you...ecnycities does not matters. as fas as both are atracted to each other...
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| 4/4/2010 10:12:36 AM |
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brooklynboy7
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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Never has never will I'm Open to loving anyone of any race  now if an alien comes down ......i dont know about that one 
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| 4/4/2010 10:12:51 AM |
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pocoloco44
Saint Paul, MN
age: 53
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I think it matters to some men also.... Have had a lot of experiences with being shut out.... Not because of being half Apache but for Also being half Mexican.... I believe this is there loss ... I'm a nice woman who's doing a little soul searching... Not out to hurt anyone.... I mean damn were all just people... Lighten up
I would have to agree with you, it's their loss, Your Absolutely Gorgeous, no question about it even in the morning when you first wake up...lol I wouldn't even mind the snoring, I think we could work on that..lol I read your profile.. best of luck in your search, I'm quite certain, any man in his right mind, would love to win your heart and affection..
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| 4/4/2010 10:30:49 AM |
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melanierojas
Orlando, FL
age: 32
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Ethnicity doesn't matter, what matters is whether or not two people from two completely different life styles can tolerate each others differences, and respect each others differences in a long term relationship. I dated a guy from Kosovo. It was really nice at first, but once we became comfortable with each other, there were certain demands and expectations that I was not willing to fulfill due to the fact that I wasn’t raised to be subservient to a man, or raised to think that beating me to control me was normal.
I seriously doubt that a Muslim and a Jewish person could have a long term relationship. Eventually their upbringing would interfere with a harmonious relationship.
Now, if you have people that come from different backgrounds, (say they are Indian from India, Arab from Saudi Arabia, African, Japanese, or Chinese), and they are second or third generation American in the U.S., it is possible that they have enough similarity in their upbringing to get along in a long term relationship. If this is not clear to you, please ask, and I will further clarify what I wrote.
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| 4/4/2010 10:41:22 AM |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
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Ethnicity doesn't matter, what matters is whether or not two people from two completely different life styles can tolerate each others differences, and respect each others differences in a long term relationship. I dated a guy from Kosovo. It was really nice at first, but once we became comfortable with each other, there were certain demands and expectations that I was not willing to fulfill due to the fact that I wasn’t raised to be subservient to a man, or raised to think that beating me to control me was normal.
I seriously doubt that a Muslim and a Jewish person could have a long term relationship. Eventually their upbringing would interfere with a harmonious relationship.
Now, if you have people that come from different backgrounds, (say they are Indian from India, Arab from Saudi Arabia, African, Japanese, or Chinese), and they are second or third generation American in the U.S., it is possible that they have enough similarity in their upbringing to get along in a long term relationship. If this is not clear to you, please ask, and I will further clarify what I wrote.
I love you, but you're wrong. We confuse race with ethnicity. Ethnicity matters to many (not me, but most of the world). Ethnicity deals with culture and culture is just another word for E V E R Y T H I N G. Few can withstand the shunning of family, friends and neighbors and sometime different ethnicity's come with that cost. race is part of ethnicity but as an example, a black woman from London is different than one from Atlanta or South Africa. A Latino from Mexico and one from Spain, Puerto Rico, DR or Chile are as different as Lilies are from roses.
Being color and culture blind is commendable in business, school, public accommodations but ethnicity, WOW. A Russian Jew, Israeli Jew, New York non-religious Jew and a Iranian Jew are almost different species to Jews.
At my age, I can be and am both color and ethnic blind, but then, I am a crusty old fart that can handle the small minds.
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| 4/4/2010 10:46:40 AM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
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About time someone said it. Not only family, but coworkers and friends. Many people are just not ready to accept mixing the races. Some of us grew up at a time in history when it was just considered wrong. It is not easy to change what we learned as children. I am anything but a racist, but I would not put myself or family through this because it is somewhat accepted today.
To each their own, and I wish everyone finds what they are looking for in a relationship.
True, and why give up family when chances are the relationship won't last. Not only that but I am not attracted to men of other races. I do like Arabic and Indian men but our cultures have proven to be too vast to span. I see no point in going through the heartache when there are plenty of men I can find that fit my tastes and preferences. I simply am not attracted enough to other races to be with them. There is no way I would ever change the feelings of my family and friends and they mean more to me than some man that would most likely be passing through my life anyway.
Had I been attracted to men outside my race then I probably would have a whole different view point on this. Since I'm not it's a moot point.
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| 4/4/2010 11:23:46 AM |
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melanierojas
Orlando, FL
age: 32
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Thank you for clarifying things for me. You knew what I meant, and you helped clear up my misuse of terms.
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| 4/4/2010 2:05:13 PM |
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139brooke
Dallas, TX
age: 40
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I thought at one time it didn't but when it comes to trying to integrate someone of a different race into the family it's way too difficult. I'm not willing to isolate myself from my blood relatives who have loved me and cared for me all my life for someone that could be gone at a moment's notice. Blood is thicker than water.
About time someone said it. Not only family, but coworkers and friends. Many people are just not ready to accept mixing the races. Some of us grew up at a time in history when it was just considered wrong. It is not easy to change what we learned as children. I am anything but a racist, but I would not put myself or family through this because it is somewhat accepted today.
To each their own, and I wish everyone finds what they are looking for in a relationship.
Of course, everyone is entitled to their opinion. However I wouldn't avoid dating someone because of what some family members, friends, co-workers etc may think. IMO if they truly cared about me, then they should be happy for me if / when I'm in a successful relationship. Regardless of the race of the person that I'm dating.
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| 4/4/2010 4:11:58 PM |
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jay_jay_one
Brooklyn, NY
age: 26
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"Race"..."Ethnicity"..HA! What a joke.
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