| 4/13/2010 7:58:41 PM |
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winstonian
Middletown, CT
age: 33
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| 4/14/2010 4:24:47 PM |
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little_moma
Manchester, TN
age: 44
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you know you might be on to something..the so called normies are to into themselves anyways..but others like us can relate..
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| 5/14/2010 1:17:27 PM |
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tat2dan
Gadsden, AL
age: 37
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I say if people think we're strange because of a disability then we don't need 'em in our lives..My ex was really good with my disability and was eager to learn how to help if needed.It's hard to find someone like that.
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| 5/14/2010 2:05:37 PM |
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shyimp
Burlington, VT
age: 51
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I think my disability has made me more compassionate and patient with others.
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| 5/14/2010 2:17:17 PM |
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cscrafter219
Rittman, OH
age: 35
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I agree with you. I have found some that could not handle my disabilities. They thought that I was strange. I do not need that kind of person in my life. I have also found people who do not care about the disabilities and they see me for me. Those are the people that I like to be around.
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| 5/14/2010 4:07:08 PM |
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 50
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Like Tat.....it's hard to find a person who would embrace you with your disability these days. I've dated a few but it always ended up that they either had ulterior motives or didn't want me to use my dog as a guide which is unacceptable for me.
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| 5/14/2010 4:12:07 PM |
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polefrog
Harriman, TN
age: 53
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Everybody will be disabled if they live long enough!!!
We just learn faster! 
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| 5/14/2010 4:14:05 PM |
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 50
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Good one, Pole
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| 5/14/2010 4:44:38 PM |
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iaminohio
Cleveland, OH
age: 59
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Too bad, if they don't want to accept us unconditionally. Their loss. 
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| 5/14/2010 6:38:30 PM |
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captainjul1
Columbus, OH
age: 51 online now!
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yes i liked that one pole .... so very true
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| 5/14/2010 6:40:39 PM |
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captainjul1
Columbus, OH
age: 51 online now!
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as for myself i havnt dated anyone sence my disability ....... so i havnt experienced the rejection yet
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| 5/14/2010 6:54:03 PM |
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iaminohio
Cleveland, OH
age: 59
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Ah you don't mean that, pole. You can't be wishing that upon some people only because they'd rejected you. It might be more complicated than it seems on the surface. You perceive it as directed at your disability, but it could easily be something else.
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| 5/15/2010 7:55:32 PM |
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winstonian
Middletown, CT
age: 33
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Hello folks, I've not really dated.I did go out with somebody who wasn't independent & had staff to watch this girl because of the easy angryness she can go off in the public.Doesn't know how to give money in to a store or restaurant.The other person is from work in which from day one she call me everyday.Tells me why I'm especial to them,but also needs to be watch 24/7.Her support people don't know how to organize how to get together in which I was stood twice in two weekends at the mall in which I was gonna treat her for lunch & buy her something.   
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| 5/16/2010 12:31:22 AM |
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wreckerman57
Port Jervis, NY
age: 52
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I think people take disability in various ways.To me were all human and have feelings.We want life to be as normal as possible without people taking pity.I was at my ex's cookout yesterday and her husband has a sister with down syndrome.I treat her with the respect I would give anyone.I know for some people they can't except her as anything but a retard.This is my oldest boys view on her.I thought I raised him better then that.it really bothers me to here him talk like that.Wat would he think of me if I had a stroke that left a speech impairment.I got a slight on but it only effects me on certain days or drugs they have me take.
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| 5/16/2010 6:52:27 AM |
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letusing
Saint Paul, MN
age: 56
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I belive in dating possitive men folks, that are upbeat,sure we all have off days.
I just pick myself up,dust myself off and start all over again I keep it simple 365days a yr!great thread!sing
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| 5/16/2010 8:49:50 AM |
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chairpusher
Lexington, KY
age: 59
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I belive in dating possitive men folks, that are upbeat,sure we all have off days.
I just pick myself up,dust myself off and start all over again I keep it simple 365days a yr!great thread!sing
Good for you letusing! I try to stay positive too, but I have my days. 
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| 5/16/2010 10:03:38 AM |
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2dogs2horses
Noble, OK
age: 46
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I have lost two relationships due to my limitations. Well, sort of. I find that most men are "fixers' and they thought they could "fix" me lol. When they couldn't it was a blow to them. It takes a really strong person to date someone with pain. I try to hide it, I seldom complain but just the fact that it limits my activities makes it pretty apparent besides cant really hide it in the eyes. I understand though, my kids are grown now but I remember all the boo boo's and just wanting to make them better, still do when they call me with a concern. Keeping my fingers crossed though, not giving up on the dream 
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| 5/16/2010 10:11:32 AM |
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puppyluv47
Hillsboro, OH
age: 46
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If they don't love you with your limitations, then they don't love you. Period.
Nice to meet you, 2! Horses and dogs. Good combination.
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| 5/16/2010 11:38:50 AM |
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2dogs2horses
Noble, OK
age: 46
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Nice to meet you too I saw your beautiful mare on the other post! Wow! I'm so happy for you! I really miss my mares  It was another dream lost when I had to send them away a few months ago but I just couldn't care for them anymore. Then I found out this past weds that Kiowa passed away (the one in the pic is Cheyenne). Lots of tears. But..she had a good life, knew she was loved and passed peacefully, thats all anyone can ask for.
As for love and limitations, I dont know, I was a nurse for 16 years working mostly Neonatal ICU and home health with vented kids and adults. Lots of people leave when the sheet hits the fan so to speak. I think for the most part it is not so much that they dont "love" its just that they cant deal with the grief, fear, emotions, loss of the dream, etc. Doesn't make it hurt any less, but I can understand it. Thats why I'm so upfront in my profile, because it does take a special person to be able to handle it. I am no better. I was married to a man who I loved. But his mental illness became too much for me and even medicated he was always on the verge of violence. I couldnt hang. Wasnt that I didnt love him, I just couldnt deal with it, self-preservation is a strong instinct, whether physical or emotional. Of course then there are those that just cant accept imperfection of any kind..usually its because they havent accepted themselves though. Believe me I was as active as you can be until Oct 28, 1995. One moment can change anyones life.
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| 5/16/2010 11:41:38 AM |
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2dogs2horses
Noble, OK
age: 46
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whoops 2005 not 1995, Thank goodness!! LOL
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| 5/16/2010 12:33:48 PM |
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 50
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Welcome 2dogs2horses..........keep participating. We are always awaiting for more great people to join.
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| 5/16/2010 1:08:27 PM |
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captainjul1
Columbus, OH
age: 51 online now!
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hi 2gogs 2horses, i agree like ive said my life came to a halting screech almost 2 yrs. ago . wow you never know when its going to happen to you, as to say for people say that cant happen to me . well i was one of them, and it happened to me
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| 5/16/2010 2:03:39 PM |
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capecoralman
Cape Coral, FL
age: 47
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Welcome 2dogs2horses = 4animals..
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| 5/16/2010 8:47:29 PM |
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2dogs2horses
Noble, OK
age: 46
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Thanks so much! Happy to be here It's always good to have friends that understand and sorry to say but typically if you haven't been there, you don't understand. Your Shepherd is so beautiful!! Did you say he/she is a guidedog? My mom is on her third service dog (first two retired, one passed since). She got hers from Canine Companions for Independence. Her dogs are cross-trained to help her pick up things, open things, light switches etc and also to alert her as she is almost totally deaf. We do several fundraisers a year for CCI as they do not charge for their dogs and it takes ALOT to raise and train them. She wants me to get one but I rescued a wolf dog that wouldnt take kindly to sharing me lol. Sadly, I had to give up my mares so I only have my dogs now but hopefully one day I will get straightened out enough to have horses again Katherine
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| 5/17/2010 5:00:13 AM |
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lakelaunch
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 63
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Hi 2dogs2horses and welcome! For me, meeting new people, both online and in person, is a wonderful gift! I don't use the term "disabled," but I do have a manufacturer's defect!
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| 5/17/2010 4:19:30 PM |
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sallyao1744
Columbus, OH
age: 51
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i agree if you are a normal person and dont want to date a disabled woman or man. then if you can't accept it then you shouldnt be around that person with disabilities. i love my life and if a man can't accept me then its their loss not mine.
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| 5/17/2010 4:26:16 PM |
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catbrg
Catlettsburg, KY
age: 51
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welcome back sally and welcome 2horse
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| 5/17/2010 5:28:25 PM |
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winstonian
Middletown, CT
age: 33
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Welcome two dogs two horses,how you doing? I'm Winston by the way & am a brain injury survivor.Had 27 brain surgeries at 11 yrs. old & am proving myself everyday with my short term memory.Have been working two temp.jobs & two volunteer jobs.Ask, Mrs. UTAHGAL, anything about & she'll tell you.Glad to meet you & hope that you enjoy this group.
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| 5/17/2010 5:40:34 PM |
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 50
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Aw, Winston........you're too sweet.
2dogs/horses........yes, my dog at aged 10 year old, I've had her for 8. She's feeling in her bones to retire but refused to stay behind, lol. I will shorten the trips just to keep her from hurting in her joints. She is my seeing eye dog.......and such a wonderful and sensitive companion. My siamese twin, lol.
Awesome for your mom..........and, as for your wolfdog.......enjoy him/her. She/he will protect you always. They *animals* are truly the most giving, caring and unconditionally loving kind to have around. I'm happy for you!
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| 5/17/2010 6:31:14 PM |
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polefrog
Harriman, TN
age: 53
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I have lost two relationships due to my limitations. Well, sort of. I find that most men are "fixers' and they thought they could "fix" me lol. When they couldn't it was a blow to them. It takes a really strong person to date someone with pain. I try to hide it, I seldom complain but just the fact that it limits my activities makes it pretty apparent besides cant really hide it in the eyes. I understand though, my kids are grown now but I remember all the boo boo's and just wanting to make them better, still do when they call me with a concern. Keeping my fingers crossed though, not giving up on the dream
That's some truth...men are fixers!!!!
That really needs to be addressed up front.......
I'm guilty too....I can't fix me....but it kills me to not be able to help someone I care for..even if it is impossible to fix some things....
THINKING.....Hummmm!!! Good point!
Don't hide so much....share
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| 5/17/2010 9:53:32 PM |
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collegemom0108
Kiln, MS
age: 19
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New to the group. I know that I am quite a bit younger than most in this group but I see that some of you say "Disabled" alot. Hey whatever happened to staying positive! We arent disabled, we are only differently-abled.
I was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at age 2. It sure does make life and dating different.
Just keep smiling and dont give up!
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| 5/17/2010 10:34:59 PM |
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 50
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Welcome, Collegemom!
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| 5/26/2010 3:51:24 AM |
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winstonian
Middletown, CT
age: 33
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Hey guys & ladies, I myself work hard yr.round & find time to have fun,but have not found somebody to accompany me aside that maybe the right one for me.For now save my money & have fun myself before really taking a serious relationship.Also research everything about your partner before taking the big step.
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| 5/26/2010 5:10:39 AM |
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lakelaunch
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 63
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New to the group. I know that I am quite a bit younger than most in this group but I see that some of you say "Disabled" alot. Hey whatever happened to staying positive! We arent disabled, we are only differently-abled.
I was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at age 2. It sure does make life and dating different.
Just keep smiling and dont give up!
Welcome!
This group can tell ya, I don't use "disabled" as a way to describe me. I simply have a Manufacturer's Defect - MS.
And, as I was reading the other posts, it occurred to me that no matter what, my significant other (when and if that happens) will have at least one MD - my MS! When you look at it in those terms, the hesitation of others concerning us is a little more understandable - whatcha think?
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| 5/26/2010 7:42:11 AM |
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puppyluv47
Hillsboro, OH
age: 46
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Excellent advice!! I am also going to show my 25 year old son this is well. He gets down in the dumps over not having married and settled down yet. I keep telling him that Ms Right is out there, and for now just enjoy your life.
In fact, I think I am going to take my own advice and get out more.
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| 5/26/2010 10:32:32 AM |
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captainjul1
Columbus, OH
age: 51 online now!
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hi collegemom welcome to the group
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| 5/26/2010 5:45:01 PM |
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collegemom0108
Kiln, MS
age: 19
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Thanks for all the welcomes. I feel at home already!
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| 5/26/2010 5:48:06 PM |
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catbrg
Catlettsburg, KY
age: 51
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let me add my 
Glitter Welcome Graphics
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| 5/26/2010 8:55:25 PM |
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captainjul1
Columbus, OH
age: 51 online now!
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i get alot of men contacting me but as soon as i say i dont work and walk with a cane .
im up front about my condition. they say oh thats no problem then i dont hear from them again. is why i tell them cause i know its not ok with them. the way i see it nothing lost nothing gained.
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| 5/27/2010 11:08:56 AM |
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sirsedric2
Houston, TX
age: 46
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I will love to meet and date someone with disabilities. No problem working with them and showing a lot of compassion. Look me up if interested
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| 5/27/2010 6:55:11 PM |
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vietscouty
Parker, CO
age: 29
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I'm a disabled combat vet. 60% and not so proud of it, really killed my pride as a soldier. I bet no woman would want to date me.
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| 5/27/2010 9:36:30 PM |
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ironside113
Brunswick, GA
age: 32
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Hello, I'm new to the group so to speak just had my 7th anniversary of my accident. That said Im no stranger to dating while disabled. Dates are few and far between but I think its because the norms just dont care to look at me just my cane or prosthetic
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| 5/28/2010 1:01:03 AM |
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iaminohio
Cleveland, OH
age: 59
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| 5/28/2010 3:44:48 AM |
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lakelaunch
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 63
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IRONSIDE AND VIETSCOUTY:
You are both very handsome young men and one day, you will meet the girl for you.
Please accept a little motherly advice from someone who has been around the block a time or two:
Try to get in the habit (if you aren't already) of sticking with that "can-do" attitude! It will go far in helping you to develop meaningful relationships, in my opinion.
Whle it seems so tragic that you have been so injured at such a young age, I truly believe that the examples you set will help to encourage others who have suffered the same and worse, too.
Much luck and I'm glad you are with us!
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| 5/28/2010 2:16:35 PM |
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cscrafter219
Rittman, OH
age: 35
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I have to agree with Lake. Welcome to the both of you. You need to like who you are first then you will be able to find the right person for you. You will still find that some of the norms will look at you diferent but it is not your problem. Some people just do not have the common sense to respect others.
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| 5/28/2010 4:45:08 PM |
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sweety20072007
Arlington, TX
age: 21
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hi my name is stephany i am 21 years old i am looking for a man that will not heart me or
cheat on me . because i have had all of it done to me . i don't like it i am looking for a guy that understand my disability i have i was borne with it i have trundle despairing things when i Lear something i learn fast . i no how to handle my disability really good . i am a fun woman to be with just looking for a good down to earth man , that will not cheat or lie to me . if you like what you hear then hit me up 21-25years old
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| 5/28/2010 4:47:51 PM |
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sweety20072007
Arlington, TX
age: 21
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hi cute whats sup what you want in a lady let me no .
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| 5/28/2010 5:23:35 PM |
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capecoralman
Cape Coral, FL
age: 47
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WELCOME....To all the new Landies an Gentleman who have said hello.
Yes, most of us are older..lol, but very wise...lol
Some of us can understand where certain people are coming from because we have either dealed with the same problem or maybe has had a family member or friend who has that problem.
I myself was hurt when i was 23 and have delt with different issues for the last 24 years...for example
I was a parapelegic for 5 years
I am a below knee amputee
Have had a back surgury
So, i am just saying by experience, i understand what people are going thru if they had/have any of the above.
I apologize if this got long winded..lol but age, imvho, has nothing to do with what any person is going through
My best to you all and don't be afraid to ask any question, we are all very open here.
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| 5/28/2010 5:30:09 PM |
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cscrafter219
Rittman, OH
age: 35
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Cape you are so right about that. Those of us who have a few years on the younger ones can understand. I have had to dealt with mental health issues since childhood so I know what it is like to be looked at as being a freak.
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| 5/30/2010 9:23:17 PM |
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no_more_hurting
Nashville, TN
age: 22
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I've done it before and I will do it again! I'm disabled to, but I can walk. So, I know how it feels to be judged by that. (I know, off topic I guess, sorry.)
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| 5/30/2010 9:25:04 PM |
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catbrg
Catlettsburg, KY
age: 51
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never off topic and welcome to the family
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| 5/30/2010 9:25:06 PM |
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 50
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I've done it before and I will do it again! I'm disabled to, but I can walk. So, I know how it feels to be judged by that. (I know, off topic I guess, sorry.)
Never apologise, No more............just state what's on your mind. Welcome aboard!
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| 5/30/2010 9:47:30 PM |
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no_more_hurting
Nashville, TN
age: 22
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Oh ok. No more sorrys and thanks for the welcome!
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| 5/30/2010 9:51:59 PM |
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catbrg
Catlettsburg, KY
age: 51
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this is a big family here. we can say what we feel with out being judge for it.we will help each other when your down we will pick you up.all you need to do is read some of the threads and you will see.
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| 5/30/2010 10:08:44 PM |
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puppyluv47
Hillsboro, OH
age: 46
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I've done it before and I will do it again! I'm disabled to, but I can walk. So, I know how it feels to be judged by that. (I know, off topic I guess, sorry.)
I understand how you feel, completely!
I can walk, I have severe intractable Migraine attacks, I also have high blood pressure. Severe back injuries, and just was diagnosed about a month or so ago with fibromyalgia.
The Migraines have done brain damage, actually killed some of my brain cells in a manner similar to that of MS. So I do understand where you are coming from.
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| 5/31/2010 4:09:43 AM |
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lakelaunch
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 63
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I understand how you feel, completely!
I can walk, I have severe intractable Migraine attacks, I also have high blood pressure. Severe back injuries, and just was diagnosed about a month or so ago with fibromyalgia.
The Migraines have done brain damage, actually killed some of my brain cells in a manner similar to that of MS. So I do understand where you are coming from.
Gee Puppy! Never have I considered myself brain damaged!
I admit to being a little dingy, but then, I always was. 
When my MS diagnosis was looming, I began playing brain games and the frequency of games like scrabble and completing crossword puzzles increased considerably.
I began this ride determined to be as "normal" as possible. My late mother in law always said, "Can't never could." So I've maintained a can do attitude which admitedly falters from time to time, but brain damaged? NO WAY!
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| 5/31/2010 5:44:23 AM |
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puppyluv47
Hillsboro, OH
age: 46
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Ok, Lake. I didn't mean you. My MRI's showed the dead brain cells. It said that the amount of white matter lesions were abnormally high for a person of my age. That they were compliant with the Migraines, with the exception for some in one area which warranted the exclusion of MS.
I also play Scrabble, and boggle and I always, if at the store, I figure my total in line, tax and all, before I get to the register. It keeps the brain functioning well. Cherie said it best. said when the brain cells die, your brain makes new pathways. She calls them scenic routes.
If you'll ever notice in my posts, sometimes I stay on task. Sometimes my post just ends suddenly. That is because, sometimes I can stay on task, other times I am very easily distracted.
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| 5/31/2010 5:47:33 AM |
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catbrg
Catlettsburg, KY
age: 51
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puppy stormy will keep you from straying to far lol
she will keep you on your task or toes.
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| 5/31/2010 5:54:48 AM |
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puppyluv47
Hillsboro, OH
age: 46
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Stormy is working miracles. My Mom has the can't attitude. It worries me. She stays in her recliner from the moment she gets out of bed, till time to go back to bed. If she eats, it's junk, unless I take her something, which I can't always do. But since I got Stormy, Mom does get out of her recliner when I walk her past her house. We go at a slow walk, but we are doing well.
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| 5/31/2010 5:57:31 AM |
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lakelaunch
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 63
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Ok, Lake. I didn't mean you. My MRI's showed the dead brain cells. It said that the amount of white matter lesions were abnormally high for a person of my age. That they were compliant with the Migraines, with the exception for some in one area which warranted the exclusion of MS.
I also play Scrabble, and boggle and I always, if at the store, I figure my total in line, tax and all, before I get to the register. It keeps the brain functioning well. Cherie said it best. said when the brain cells die, your brain makes new pathways. She calls them scenic routes.
If you'll ever notice in my posts, sometimes I stay on task. Sometimes my post just ends suddenly. That is because, sometimes I can stay on task, other times I am very easily distracted.
No prob, puppy!
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