| 1/30/2008 4:11:05 PM |
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bertdcaveman
Reno, NV
age: 40
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You really need to get out of there but before you do put Cheez whiz in all of his shoes.
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| 1/30/2008 5:37:58 PM |
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karokeman
Abita Springs, LA
age: 37
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I am in the same position my wife and I have seperated she wont move out. She says she has no place to go. She talks to guys all the time and either she is lying to them or they are after one thing. I am afraid to date because I feel that if I tell someone about her living there they will run. Its hard seeing her everyday and I dont know how to deal yet. Just thought you would like to here of someone else in this position.
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| 1/30/2008 6:15:27 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I still say rent the place out and take in the CA$H
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| 1/30/2008 6:28:09 PM |
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homesteder
Red Deer, AB
age: 42
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i feel for ya and if i was you i would spend my money and a male excort and bring him home with ya.You can make it a big guy to intimadate him or a little guy and maybe your husband will follow through with his threat and kill him, then its off to jail for him and your problem is solved.(i am kidding about the little guy getting killed)but really how good would it feel walking through the door with a hulking hunk.Just a suggestion.
[Edited 1/30/2008 6:29:27 PM]
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| 1/30/2008 9:17:44 PM |
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dmrcowboy
Florissant, MO
age: 46
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Shoot em.. 
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| 1/31/2008 6:23:06 AM |
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jules34
Quincy, IL
age: 35
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I would get out any way possible even if that meant seeking social service agencies or churches in the communtiy. Don't be embarrased to ask for help because that's what the programs are for. He is still trying to control you and there is nothing you can do to change his behavior but you CAN change how you are willing to be treated. I would also look into counseling maybe if you're not already doing that. Seek out women friends for support either on here or in the real world. You can take your power back! Feel free to e-mail me if you want to talk.
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| 1/31/2008 1:23:37 PM |
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ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
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No, there isnt any piece of the puzzle missing. I have complained to my attorney, I have written to the judge which is called a declaration in which I was protesting the situation and the non payment of support. My attorney says once the declaration comes back from the judge we will go back into court to settle it, but I need to be patient. Yesterday I received notice from the judge that court will be feb 25th. I am just being told that all this legal stuff takes time and I need to wait it out. That has been extremely difficult to do under the circumstances. My family and freinds tell me that I am too passive in personality and I need to fight harder. But, I have an attorney that tells me to sit tight and let him (my ex) hang himself.I was able to tape record my ex in about an hour long yelling spree in which he was threatening me, stating he was going to shut off the utilities and phone because they are in his name. I had everything transferd into my name the next day so he couldnt. then I did something really terrible. If I didnt despise him so much, I would feel more guilty about it.
He was ironing his suit and shirt, getting ready to take a woman out to a formal party. He spent around two hours preparing his suit alone. Picking off the dog hair and all. When he left the house for work that morning, I took it out of the closet, threw it on the floor, walked all over it, hung it back up. then I proceeded to take a que tip, went outside and found the freshest pile of dog poop, swirled the que tip around in it until I had a fair amount of poop on it. I smeared the poop on the underside of his black suit jacket lapel and around the inside of his cuffs! Very immature thing for me to do! Frustration had let me to do this! I felt that once he had been dancing and working up a sweat, and his date had her head against his chest, she would smell the poop, then when he puts his arms around her shoulders, she would again smell the poop. Isnt that awful! I can hardly believe I even did that. If you knew me then you would understand. My family laughed their butts off about it. That has to stop, I just get so frustrated because he comes and goes in and out of my room at will. He has a key to my room and believe it or not, when I had the lock changed, the old key fit it! He takes what ever he wants from me, cleaned out our accounts and left me no money. He was ordered to put it back, but still hasnt. So, I am wondering what will happen to him next month in court.
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| 1/31/2008 2:09:12 PM |
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ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
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I know exactly how you feel. It is painful sitting back watching and listening to your spouse talking to the opposite sex and there is nothing you can do about it, legally.
It was hurtful at 1st for me, but now it is more aggravating than anything. My ex boyfriend from high school found out about my divorce because I posted it on the classmates site so he contacted me. I have him my number, told him what was going on, so we have played it up a bit while on the phone when my ex is around. pretty thick I must say. My ex got extremely aggravated by it, but didnt say or do anything. Gave him a taste of his own medicine! Good luck in your situation. My husband's female friends dont seem to mind that he is still here with me as he has no problems with dating. I know they know he is still here too, so he hasnt lied to them about that. But, its the men who wont date me because of it.They are suspicious, and I cant say as I blame them! I would be too, because it isnt normal for divorcing couples to live together. Just plain weird! Hang in there!
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| 1/31/2008 2:12:24 PM |
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ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
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what a refreshing idea to follow your suggestions to
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| 1/31/2008 2:13:42 PM |
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happinessnlove
Dade City, FL
age: 40
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what kind of stupid judge would even allow some kind of request like that and even force you to clean out a room for him, so he can wh*re around with some bimbos. Appeal that decision in court, seems like to me, he had some funny business going around with bribes. That judge should be banned from the bench and sent to work at McDonald's flipping burgers for a living. What you need darlin is a real man, who will make that scumbag look like yesterdays garbage, make those bimbos jealous as heck knowing that you have something better.
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| 1/31/2008 7:02:37 PM |
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aboomer
Little Rock, AR
age: 45
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Interesting question. Did the judge say he had to have access to his room through either the front or back doors. I`d nail the doors to his rooms shut and tell him to come and go through the windows. You might also consider having a portapotty, complete with ample supply of toilet paper, parked out in the driveways for his exclusive use. you might also consider running a water hose from the hot water heater to the outside so he can clean up. Be quite a sight for the neighbors. I`d also be talking to a real estate agent to get a handle on what your half of the house is worth, just in case you either want him completely out or if you want to move on.
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| 1/31/2008 7:26:11 PM |
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mred41563
Alexandria, KY
age: 44
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i thought california was a comunity state that half of everything was yours if it is tell him you want half of what the house is worth if he cant get it make him sell the house to pay you then he wont have a place to live eather and you can move in with your daughter till you can get another place
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| 1/31/2008 8:11:57 PM |
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pisceslady30
York, PA
age: 30
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Wow you sound like my situation except for the living together part. I feel for you. My ex is the same way he has different girlfreinds but is always concerned about who i'm with. once you show him that it doesn't bother you you will be better off. If the house is still in you name also you have the right to have who you want when you want there. If it still bothers you that may mean you still have feelings for him. Obviously he doesn't care about your feelings so why should you care about his. You're not free from him till you get out, him being there is a constant reminder of what he's put you through. Once you don't have any feelings hurt, anger etc you'll know you're really over it.
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| 1/31/2008 8:13:07 PM |
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happinessnlove
Dade City, FL
age: 40
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That woodshed sure is starting to look good.
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| 1/31/2008 8:15:31 PM |
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steveredman
Spotswood, NJ
age: 37
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I am in somewhat similar situation. My wife filed for divorce in October. We tried to love together for several months. My wife became verbnally abusive and would come into my room almost everynight at around 2:00 or 3:00 am waking me up. After a period of time i put a lock on the door. She didnt like it and broke the door. She was arrested. I was denied a restraining order. Two days later she got one by lying to the court. I had to move out and still pay the mortgage. My wife is still harrassing me with phone calls, but i refuse to answer the phone. I want my condo back but she is refusing to give it to me. She can not afford it. In a bad relationship men or women can act like a'holes. My suggestion, if he is supposed to be paying u alimony, than u sohuld have his wages garnished.
Good luck
Steve
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