| 10/7/2010 10:13:23 PM |
Love at first sight |
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bellaangelus
Niles, OH
46, joined Aug. 2009
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I met an amazing man on here and it was love at first sight when we met. I found out that I was actually the woman of his dreams and had haunted him since he was sixteen. We are now engaged but I wonder is love at first sight possible? So many say it is just a crush
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| 10/7/2010 10:28:52 PM |
Love at first sight |
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shelbehappy
San Diego, CA
46, joined Nov. 2009
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I really do hope the best for you. Especially since this is the dream of most women.
But...I'm skeptical. Looks are wonderful. I have met many handsome men who later on, I really didn't want to talk to. There has to be more than just "love at first site."
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| 10/7/2010 10:38:30 PM |
Love at first sight |
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lotusfly0
Longmont, CO
59, joined Aug. 2010
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Love at first site? Guess that would depend on ones meaning or interpretation of love.
Take myself for example. I could never fall in love at first site because for me love is so much more than mere physical attraction.
In a nut shell.
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| 10/7/2010 10:51:30 PM |
Love at first sight |
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bellaangelus
Niles, OH
46, joined Aug. 2009
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it wasn't physical attraction. I was drawn to him in a different way. It was like I had known him all my life, he is the part of me that had always been missing. I was never the type of girl who went for looks or money. They are nice to have but looks fade and money causes more trouble then it is worth.
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| 10/7/2010 11:00:16 PM |
Love at first sight |
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shelbehappy
San Diego, CA
46, joined Nov. 2009
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it wasn't physical attraction. I was drawn to him in a different way. It was like I had known him all my life, he is the part of me that had always been missing. I was never the type of girl who went for looks or money. They are nice to have but looks fade and money causes more trouble then it is worth.
Then why question it? Enjoy!! Even if it doesn't last, it will be a wonderful experience. Something you will always remember.
Most of us never have this experience. You're experiencing something very special, enjoy; be happy. Get OFF DH!
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| 10/7/2010 11:00:40 PM |
Love at first sight |
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lotusfly0
Longmont, CO
59, joined Aug. 2010
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Drawn to him in a different way? Are you blind and you read his acne on his face like braille? You said at first sight.
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| 10/7/2010 11:22:57 PM |
Love at first sight |
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bigbazborn
Valencia, CA
53, joined Oct. 2009
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Then why question it? Enjoy!! Even if it doesn't last, it will be a wonderful experience. Something you will always remember.
Most of us never have this experience. You're experiencing something very special, enjoy; be happy. Get OFF DH!
Embrace and enjoy the experience. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel. The heart wants what the heart wants and most of us only get to experience that feeling very few times in our life. So experience the JOY , regardless of the outcome.
Many of us never know if we are loved like that.
Bry 
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| 10/7/2010 11:33:34 PM |
Love at first sight |
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musicdesign
Moodus, CT
55, joined Apr. 2007
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I think intense attraction happens first. If there has been lots of communication prior to meeting, it can fast forward the love part.
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| 10/7/2010 11:35:30 PM |
Love at first sight |
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redneckhippy1
Sitka, AK
39, joined Dec. 2009
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I wonder is love at first sight possible?
It depends...
If she sucks d*ck like a pro,
and swallows, the answer is
yes, there is love at first sight.
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| 10/7/2010 11:41:01 PM |
Love at first sight |
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smartypantstiya
Sherman Oaks, CA
40, joined Aug. 2010
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I met an amazing man on here and it was love at first sight when we met. I found out that I was actually the woman of his dreams and had haunted him since he was sixteen. We are now engaged but I wonder is love at first sight possible? So many say it is just a crush
Every guy that has ever stuck around in my life for a long time, I have had an instant connection with. I just knew right away by the way they talked, or the way they presented themselves that there would be something special there.
Call me a romantic but I do believe in love at first sight. I don't think love happens that way for many, but if it does you're lucky.
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| 10/8/2010 12:15:34 AM |
Love at first sight |
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curlylawp
Show Low, AZ
48, joined Oct. 2010
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I met an amazing man on here and it was love at first sight when we met. I found out that I was actually the woman of his dreams and had haunted him since he was sixteen. We are now engaged but I wonder is love at first sight possible? So many say it is just a crush
Just so I understand.
1. You met a man, met him, and had an immediate attraction...plausible
2. By "you found out" I'm assuming he stated that you "were the woman of his dreams"
3. YOu're now engaged
4. YOu are questioning your own behavior now and wondering if your initial attraction and subsequent engagement is legitimate
5. "SO MANY SAY" its just a crush.
Now my response.
Your post is a bit cryptic
1. YOu gave no time frame between Met online and met in person.
2. You gave no time frame on met each other to "now engaged"
My concerns
1. Insta-connection is posible but can also be a serious sign of Narcissism, Co-Dependence, Boarderline personality or anthoer equally serious personality disorder
2. If "So Many" (I'm assuming these are friends of yours) are sharing their hesiation with this guy and labeling your relationship "just a crush" why are you not taking that seriously...Do your friends have and agenda? Do they really care about you? THis pay attention NOW before you end up divorced.
3. You are now seeking the opinion of strangers, giving them barely enough information to understand the situation..If you going to answer shop and manipulate, that would be a great way to do it.
Sorry, I just find that kind of silliness to be rediculous.
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| 10/8/2010 2:23:59 AM |
Love at first sight |
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bellaangelus
Niles, OH
46, joined Aug. 2009
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we both have friend we made on here and we talk to them and each other.
We talked for about 5 or 6 months before we actually met.
Was about th same length of time before we were engaged.
He was not the one who told me about me being the woman of his dreams. His mom told me first, I got details from him.
yes my friends mostly because this is a long distance relationship. Also his ex because she wants him back.
I don't think I came off has manipulitive and am sorry if I seem so. I just would like other opinions on the matter.
[Edited 10/8/2010 2:30:45 AM ]
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| 10/8/2010 2:46:51 AM |
Love at first sight |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
70, joined Jul. 2007
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IF YOU THINK IT IS--then go with it--BE HAPPY--- 
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| 10/8/2010 11:55:14 AM |
Love at first sight |
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awisedecision
Houston, TX
48, joined Oct. 2010
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You will know it is love at fist sight when you two are still in love 20 years from now. Kind of a Back to the Future, Twilight Zone thing ya dig?
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| 10/8/2010 11:55:45 AM |
Love at first sight |
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cupids_stunt
Houston, TX
50, joined Aug. 2010
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I met an amazing man on here and it was love at first sight when we met. I found out that I was actually the woman of his dreams and had haunted him since he was sixteen. We are now engaged but I wonder is love at first sight possible? So many say it is just a crush
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| 10/8/2010 12:41:05 PM |
Love at first sight |
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ben315
Boise, ID
40, joined Dec. 2008
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Sure it can happen. sometimes it will last forever other times maybe only a few months. Either way best of luck
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| 10/8/2010 12:47:59 PM |
Love at first sight |
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j_lowell
Tampa, FL
48, joined May. 2010
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good luck and be careful
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| 10/9/2010 1:04:50 AM |
Love at first sight |
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goodmanhot
Massillon, OH
44, joined Jan. 2008
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i think its cool good luck and best wishs. i am the one she is talking about . and yes she is the woman of my dreams .i am the fiance and we will still be marryed in 20 years and in 40 years too
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| 10/9/2010 1:17:36 AM |
Love at first sight |
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bellaangelus
Niles, OH
46, joined Aug. 2009
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^ he is my fiancé and like I said an amazing man.
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| 10/9/2010 1:26:41 AM |
Love at first sight |
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curlylawp
Show Low, AZ
48, joined Oct. 2010
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we both have friend we made on here and we talk to them and each other.
We talked for about 5 or 6 months before we actually met.
Was about th same length of time before we were engaged.
He was not the one who told me about me being the woman of his dreams. His mom told me first, I got details from him.
yes my friends mostly because this is a long distance relationship. Also his ex because she wants him back.
I don't think I came off has manipulitive and am sorry if I seem so. I just would like other opinions on the matter.
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Okay I understand. I think what we have here is a failure to communicate (Cool Hand Luke reference).
In our current culture, we have a basic misconception that the actual start of a relationship is the face to face introduction. The reality is that intelligent correspondances have been a way of meeting and growing in a relationship since the beginning of time (or at least the written word).
So in truth this is not an actual "love at first sight" but rather a relationship grown over a years time. It just sounds so much more dramatic to say the other.
Well that does clarify things a bit. I would still have concerns. We all have an internal "spidey sense". Clearly you also have some concerns.
I would caution you on two main points: First, the "ex-girlfriend". You really need to evaluate that relationship to determine whether or not he's getting something out of that...our past relationships are strong indicators of our future ones....for example: if a man tells you he has "an obsessive" ex girlfriend and "an obsessive" ex wife and and an "obsessive" mother....the only common denominator... HIM...WARNING!
Second, the long distance thing is a factor for many since one really can't have a good sense of one's chosen love on a weekly or daily basis.
I think you may need to determine how serious he is about you. Has he had to pursue you or have you done most of the pursuing? Is he buying you roses or a toaster? things like that? How "into" you is he? or are you just a nice ego feed until his "ex" comes back around?
My last and final concern might be his mother's need to intervene and TELL YOU HIS FEELINGS...possibly a bad sign. A mother's involvement to "push" can be very quaint but can also be a warning sign, especially if a nan lives with her or seems unusually emeshed emotionally. However.. the fact is mothers do tend to interfere, especially when they sense potential happiness for their baby boy.
Anyhow, good luck. I'm assuming you are an astute person and wish to make a good decision. I would just encourage you to listen to yourself, don't get caught up in the normal human thing of "well, we've come this far....". If you smell a skunk..run. IF you really believe this guy's "the one" then...
We all have choices and like CS LEWIS said, "a man who discovers he's heading down the wrong road and turns around is much closer to his goal then the man who continues on because he considers only the distance he's already travelled and refuses to turn back".
So assuming that she was offering
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| 10/9/2010 1:33:47 AM |
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dmarkh
Elkhorn, WI
48, joined Dec. 2007
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immensly enjoying any reference to cool hand luke.
sorry hon...I am skeptical as well. but sincerely wish you the best of luck.
daniel
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| 10/9/2010 7:21:03 AM |
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bellaangelus
Niles, OH
46, joined Aug. 2009
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his ex is just a pain in the a@@. From what mutual friends say and his family she is the type of person who likes to cause trouble. He is not the only man she has caused trouble for. I actually feel sorry for the guy she is with.
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| 10/9/2010 7:27:22 AM |
Love at first sight |
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bigdaddyforyou
Henderson, NV
37, joined Apr. 2010
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op, if you feel like dry pumping his leg, its probably love.
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| 10/9/2010 8:46:57 AM |
Love at first sight |
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pocoloco44
Saint Paul, MN
60, joined Mar. 2010
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we both have friend we made on here and we talk to them and each other.
We talked for about 5 or 6 months before we actually met.
Was about th same length of time before we were engaged.
He was not the one who told me about me being the woman of his dreams. His mom told me first, I got details from him.
yes my friends mostly because this is a long distance relationship. Also his ex because she wants him back.
I don't think I came off has manipulitive and am sorry if I seem so. I just would like other opinions on the matter.
I've read your OP also, and can it happen? Absolutely! Has it Happen? Absolutely! But here in cyber land were treated to the horror stories far more then any success stories. You spent a more then the normal amount of time getting to know each other (5 or 6 months)in cyber time that's a long term relationship
Here's my thoughts whether they mean anything or not? If he excites you when you think of him, if it feels good being around him, if you enjoy talking with him, eating with him, and making love with him. Then Go for it! even that doesn't come around very often. If his Mother is talking to you and about the things he has shared with her, you obviously mean something to him. Do Not allow the nay sayer's or anyone influence how you feel,It's your feelings not theirs. It's either there or it isn't, just be honest down in your heart to you. Can Love at first sight happen? I happen to believe it can, not in the complete literal sense of it,(that takes time) but the connection and chemistry is huge. As long as both of you are willing to accept each other "As Is" and not try to change or rearrange one another, you should be fine. Talk it out, see if your both truly on the same page, in every aspect you can think of called Life.
If that's still there and your both being honest to each other and your own selves, you should run with it, and not worry what others may or will say, it's your life and you deserve happiness. Only you and he have to wake up to each other or answer to one another, no one has that right. You see, only you and he know exactly what you have or don't have with each other, no one else can see that close. Long distance can work out if one or the other is okay with moving, I trust both you and he have no issues with one another about loyalty and or being exclusive. The bottom line is if you both feel you're in love with each other and willing to except each other "As Is" regardless of the time it took you both to get there, the fact is your already there, if I understand your post.
Go For It...I wish you both only the best...
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| 10/9/2010 12:20:12 PM |
Love at first sight |
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bellaangelus
Niles, OH
46, joined Aug. 2009
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The minute I see him my heart races. We actually talked on here for about a week and conversed on the phone before meeting face to face. When I see him it is like I have known him all of my life.
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| 10/10/2010 7:52:05 AM |
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pocoloco44
Saint Paul, MN
60, joined Mar. 2010
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The minute I see him my heart races. We actually talked on here for about a week and conversed on the phone before meeting face to face. When I see him it is like I have known him all of my life.
No one knows your heart better then you, If this man fills your desires, then it really doesn't matter what anyone else has to say. Only you and he have to live with the out come, finding that one person you run to, and not run from, sets him a part in your heart of hearts, from all others. As long as the feeling is mutual then go for it, it's better to know if something will or will not stand the test of time, rather then looking back and wondering? Is this the one who got away? The what if can kill you inside.Whether or not it last as he said 20/40 years, that solely depends on your commitment to each other, easy to say, hard to live day in and day out, The good news is, it does happen all the time.
Best of luck to both of you...
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| 10/10/2010 8:10:19 AM |
Love at first sight |
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papichulo4ever
Houston, TX
48, joined Oct. 2008
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love at 1st sight is real.trust me.
hey baby.. you know who you are.
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| 10/10/2010 9:20:36 AM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
66, joined Jul. 2010
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" Every guy that has ever stuck around in my life for a long time, I have had an instant connection with. I just knew right away by the way they talked, or the way they presented themselves that there would be something special there."
Hmmm a long time? at 33? couldn`t have been too long? love should outlast lust?
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| 10/10/2010 11:56:38 PM |
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layla22
Boulder, CO
98, joined Jun. 2008
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congrats, bella!
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| 10/10/2010 11:57:21 PM |
Love at first sight |
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layla22
Boulder, CO
98, joined Jun. 2008
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good luck to you, too, curly!
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| 10/19/2010 1:53:36 AM |
Love at first sight |
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smooches2me
Long Beach, CA
45, joined Oct. 2010
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You are amazing to me as well, Sir.. To stand up for the woman of your dreams shows a protector, her covering, a strong man and respectful. Love is powerful, it is never planned, forced, manipulated or distorted; that is what people do with it. Love is true, honest and pure at heart and you can be in love many times, for short times or for the rest of your life. Enjoy what God has placed before you, live in the now. Whether you meet them in a bar, restaurant or online; a connection is a connection and we already know how to be cautious! So, take care and God bless.
PS. Love can happen at first sight, touch, sound and or taste...just ask someone who has lost one or more of those senses??? Its EVERYWHERE, JUST LOOK
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