| 5/26/2011 10:26:33 PM |
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thebullrdr
Laramie, WY
41, joined Mar. 2010
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I recall a time when asking a woman to go to dinner with you was not interpreted as "Let's go have sex". What happened to just going out to meet someone new and spend a little time enjoying a fine meal and good conversation? Any thoughts on this?
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| 5/27/2011 7:09:49 AM |
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darlenemi51
West Branch, MI
65, joined Feb. 2008
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because of your male counter parts, second email in the sex talk begins,
It's a pity that men don't grow up, after 40-50 years they still think with only their crotch. Still she women only as conquests, prey, piece of azz, women don't have to be reminded about sex, a man's bringing it up only makes most women to see a red flag.
Men say they want companionship and friendship, then brainstorm a plan of attack, and wonder why the woman doen't want to 'DEAL' with him any more.
This is not aimed at you poster, but you asked for input.
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| 5/27/2011 6:54:32 PM |
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thebullrdr
Laramie, WY
41, joined Mar. 2010
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I appreciate the input. I suppose you've got a point though. You are correct in that most guys' ultimate goal is to get laid. Then again, it's kind of hard wired into men in general. Biology and all. I just miss the days of being able to sit down and have stimulating conversation over fine food. If something comes of it down the road, great. Why do people assume that it has to happen right then? Enjoy the moment and quit worrying about trying to get in someone's pants. It all makes it terribly hard to get a date in the big town of Casper Wyoming.
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| 5/29/2011 1:09:13 AM |
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voarkin
Powell, WY
27, joined Apr. 2011
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Its not the guys fault... I'll be honest, its because the girls go for the same guys time after time, the same guys that EVERY woman goes for, leaving people like me, who would rather go out to dinner, relax, have a good time, maybe watch a movie, NOT PORN, outside sitting flat on our ass...
Its as much the woman's fault as ours... Because they keep going for the same guys that keep hurting them the same ways, and they *Assume* that all guys are that way. Everyone knows what happens when people Ass-U-Me, so in the end everyone is lonely, misinterprets anther's intentions, and basically we all get f**ked... I'm NOT talking about the f**ked in bed either.
So I say forget about women and their insecurities, if they don't want to meet up with you because they think that is going to happen, then they aren't worth it anyway, because they will think that forever no matter if they are with you or not, because someone f**ked with their feelings and emotions and now its "Hard Wired" into women that all men are the same.
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| 5/31/2011 9:06:51 AM |
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thebullrdr
Laramie, WY
41, joined Mar. 2010
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not to mention that chivalry is, for the most part, dead, and women killed it.
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| 5/31/2011 11:12:28 PM |
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voarkin
Powell, WY
27, joined Apr. 2011
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not to mention that chivalry is, for the most part, dead, and women killed it.
I honestly think that there are more women out there that can f**k up the life of guys, than guys to women.
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| 6/1/2011 12:51:23 AM |
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thebullrdr
Laramie, WY
41, joined Mar. 2010
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I would bet there are equal numbers of each. I try to not be cynical or spiteful, but it gets tough after a while. But, hope springs eternal, and all of that.
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| 7/14/2011 12:40:09 AM |
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country_craz
Riverton, WY
25, joined Jul. 2011
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I think that so many things play into why ppl tend to jump into bed with eachother. Sometimes girls just need to feel sexy or loved and because of how they have interpeted life they think sex is what will make them feel that way. Or there is also "if i have sex with him he will stick around". Not EVERY girl goes for "those guys" either. Yeah everyone is going to go out with at least one oops, but thats part of life. True certain women go after certain types of men but beleive it or not some of us do learn. If you think about it they go after what they know, if you have grown accustomed to something its hard to leave it. Some girls grow up beleiving getting beat up is love or sex is love. There are those out there who wont go to bed right away, im 19 and im one of them. lol
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| 7/14/2011 10:28:09 PM |
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singlemama75
Powell, WY
42, joined Jul. 2011
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I have read over what you all are saying lets be fair here. Yes I agree women carry certain things from past relationships into the next one but if we are guilty for judging then so are you guys cause you guys are saying the same thing you are mad at us for doing. I am a single mom of 3 wonderful kids but what guy wants to be strapped with kids. I want to meet someone who wants to go fishing or watch a movie or have dinner. Do any of you know how hard it is to do that when you have "Baggage" so to speak. Well there are my 2 cents worth lol.
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| 7/16/2011 12:10:19 PM |
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thebullrdr
Laramie, WY
41, joined Mar. 2010
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I have read over what you all are saying lets be fair here. Yes I agree women carry certain things from past relationships into the next one but if we are guilty for judging then so are you guys cause you guys are saying the same thing you are mad at us for doing. I am a single mom of 3 wonderful kids but what guy wants to be strapped with kids. I want to meet someone who wants to go fishing or watch a movie or have dinner. Do any of you know how hard it is to do that when you have "Baggage" so to speak. Well there are my 2 cents worth lol.
making statements based on observations of a repeating pattern is not the same as judging people. If you drop a rock on your foot 20 times, you might notice that gravity does indeed work. An observation? or are you judging the rock? I know that's over simplified but the same principal applies. 
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| 7/21/2011 5:00:54 AM |
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southernman4428
Casper, WY
32, joined Jun. 2011
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 After reading this entire thread I agree with a few things and also disagree with a lot. Speaking from previous experience living in multiple locations across the country. Living in Wyoming over the past year I have noticed a huge lack of self respect and respect in general. Not only is it YOUNGER women towards men but also low self respect. Women have a different mentality here. My last girlfriend of 9 months, who I lived with cheated with three different men that I found out about after we split. To me that is ridiculous. I have observed people out here and most men, not all look at women as toys. Therefore women treat men like trash and usually end up with kids or STDs. I moved up here from South Florida and the dating scene down there is a total 180. Granted there are bad people and trash in both areas but its more apparent here. Even the teen pregnancy rate is through the roof here. Not because there is nothign else to do. It has to do with self respect. Growing up I went fishing, hunting or mudding if I didn't have a hockey tournament for Bauer. You can find things to do!! Based on that even asking a girl out to dinner here or holding a door for a woman gets you yelled at because they want to be independant, they think all you want is sex or all they want is sex. What happened to a good convorsation and at most a kiss at the end of the night. Courting a woman has gone out the window.
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| 7/23/2011 7:08:01 PM |
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singlemama75
Powell, WY
42, joined Jul. 2011
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You are right. I have my kids from a previous marriage. I was raised with old fashion morals. It isnt independence I seek but that dinner date or watching a movie or going fishing. The adult interaction not just for sex. I think alot of the problem nowadays is the fact that no one talks anymore. What is wrong with getting to know someone? What is wrong with talking? You dont jump into bed with the first stranger out there you get to know people.
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| 8/3/2011 11:55:10 PM |
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dees4u
Cheyenne, WY
60, joined Sep. 2008
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I may be naive, but I'm hopeful there are still great people out there that really want to get to know someone. It is hard for me at times to go out due to being a single parent, but I would certainly make time to spend time with someone for great conversation. Don't "need" the dinner, but it certainly would be nice to be treated like the lady that I am.
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| 8/4/2011 8:43:24 PM |
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angelone54
San Diego, CA
60, joined Jun. 2011
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I may be naive, but I'm hopeful there are still great people out there that really want to get to know someone. It is hard for me at times to go out due to being a single parent, but I would certainly make time to spend time with someone for great conversation. Don't "need" the dinner, but it certainly would be nice to be treated like the lady that I am.
Im with you!
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| 11/2/2011 11:08:24 PM |
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wyolars
Casper, WY
33, joined Oct. 2009
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Trust some of us guys. We are here.. But don't expect him to be "Ken".
Ken isn't going to go out of his way.
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| 12/8/2011 8:41:13 PM |
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sweetgypsygurl
Wichita, KS
35, joined Apr. 2011
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| 12/10/2011 12:02:00 PM |
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tess0608
Gillette, WY
30, joined Oct. 2011
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I think all in all its a 50/50 thing. You have your men and women who really just want to jump into bed with you. I agree that most everyone has a type they tend to go for but if you just look around more I am sure you could find a person thats the type you would normaly go for and who just wants to go out or just hang out with no sex. Yes some people may have to change the way they look at people just because the people they normaly go for are the jump into bed type.
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| 2/16/2012 9:06:59 AM |
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jenluvztolaugh
Casper, WY
45, joined Feb. 2009
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 I have some observations about dating that I wanted to share with everyone. Dating is really about making new friends. Most people get stuck in a rut and they hang out with the same kind of people that they always have.  I think it is scary for most people to open up in general. That being said...it takes time to make new friends. A person must also feel confident with themself in order to be open to new friendships. If you are doing the online dating forum...a person must be open and patient...ask the right kind of questions etc. and not be driven by their sexuality.
I have found that I am attracted to many different things but an appearance is the most shallow thing that I am personally attracted to. A picture online is a simple start but after that it is sooooooo much more! A man might be physically attractive but is dumber than a box of rocks! NOT ATTRACTIVE!
P.S. I also check out postings of those people I am interested in. If they are creepers in other forums...forget it! 
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