| 9/15/2011 4:05:49 AM |
Why do people assume a guy by himself at a bar is lonely/loser? |
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foxpause
Milwaukee, WI
36, joined Oct. 2010
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I was talking with friends, and mentioned going to the east side for a few beers. The female said it was sad and I would look strange sitting by myself. She's not the first female to say this, but is this what all women think when they see a guy at a bar? I COULD sit in my house with beers, but that defeats the purpose of a quick outing solo. Thoughts?
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| 9/15/2011 11:37:43 AM |
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orz
Portage, WI
67, joined Jul. 2010
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There is a connotation that he is sitting there because he has an alchol problem and is a loser. If he has soda and perhaps food, then it becomes a case of he just dropped in for lunch. Same goes for women...they are just a bar fly. It is different if there is live music or something that one would stop for besides getting drunk. We have a problem in this country. Europe still has the family tavern where whole families meet to visit on weekends. America has gotten to the lonely drunk attitude. Folks used to go to play cards and congregate. Unfortunately, there still is no good place to meet others. McDonald's doesn't work too well and unless one eats 12 .99 cents burgers, one ends up looking  more like a stalker!!!
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| 9/15/2011 5:57:35 PM |
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big_chilli
Sheboygan, WI
38, joined May. 2011
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I wouldn't care what people think! I go to the bar sumtimes by myself for a drink too. I go just to get away and people watch while I have a sip or two. I personally don't like to drink at home much. I'm no alcoholic or loser, or barfly,I just rather go out for a drink. I have a good time almost every time I go, and talk to different people every time. I say, "to each his own". Do what you feel, you can't arrange your life around what other people think. They are opinions and everyone had a different one!
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| 9/15/2011 7:13:23 PM |
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sportyangel1973
Menomonee Falls, WI
44, joined Jun. 2011
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I, personally, would not go to a bar alone. I like to talk and a lot when I have been drinking, and I don't think sitting there trying to hold a conversation with myself is very attractive; amusing maybe  I see people sitting alone, drinking, watching sports, listening to music, whatever. I don't see anything wrong with that. Some people need to get away from their typical surroundings into a different scenery. Kudos for them for getting out there! Just don't sit there on the stool looking like you are putting a tear in your beer, smile then a chick more than likely will approach you in one way or the other 
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| 9/21/2011 9:35:12 AM |
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mrpinkpibb
Rhinelander, WI
38, joined Sep. 2011
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hey foxpause,
I never saw a problem with goin to the bar by myself and havin a couple drinks,,, whether it's a sports bar just watching a game or -whatever- reason at all really, I am quite social though and end up strikin up a conversation with whoever will listen to me really ;D
I'd argue sitting at home by yourself would be a worse scenario,, depends on the context of your outing/your mood as well,,, if you're intention is togo to the bar to drown your sorrows by yourself in a corner,,, then ya that may be ill-advised ;o) But to just GO OUT by yourself ?? Why not *shrugs*
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| 1/12/2012 6:47:46 PM |
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foxpause
Milwaukee, WI
36, joined Oct. 2010
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Oh, well I've been going! Been a hell of a ride too. I meet all these different ppl and we just kick it all night and talk about shit. Next time I guess I won't listen to the assumptions of someone who only goes out to eat lol
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| 3/2/2012 5:04:36 PM |
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sauvionsbrandy
Madison, WI
25, joined Mar. 2012
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I agree 100 % 
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| 3/3/2012 11:38:36 AM |
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joangel60
Hartford, WI
60, joined Nov. 2011
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I don't have a problem with a man or woman going to a bar and drinking alone.. But when they are on dating sites like this and wonder why they can't find a good man or woman.. This well may be the reason why you can't hang onto a good relationship..
If your going out drinking comes before having a relationship.. Yes you are a loser, and you'll remain lonely for the remainder of your life....
It's your choice.. Good Luck!!!
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| 4/18/2012 8:06:19 PM |
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kat4722
Milwaukee, WI
52, joined Mar. 2012
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Maybe she's angry because when a woman goes into a bar by herself men assume that woman is a slut. And you know they do!
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| 4/20/2012 5:09:19 PM |
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hotdiva1
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Nov. 2011
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There's nothing wrong with going to a bar by yourself, so let those people assumed what they want, u know what u are doing there, people gone gossip even if you're in the house drinking so u can't lose or win, my thing do u.
 cheers.
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| 4/22/2012 11:08:55 PM |
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kandib
Appleton, WI
39, joined Jan. 2010
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I don't think there is any problem with going to the bar by yourself. I do it occasionally myself especially after a hard day at work for a beer or.maybe after a tough exam just to chill and relax and come down from the stress. Nothing wrong with that.
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