4/4/2008 10:14:05 PM |
My dad passed away today and what would you say to... |
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bry11ca
Wappingers Falls, NY
age: 43
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He may not like it, but I'd say . . .
Hop on Pop!!! . . Dr. Seuss
I love you Dad
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4/4/2008 10:22:45 PM |
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debi01
Pasco, WA
age: 49
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So very sorry for your loss
Both my parents have diagnosed with cancer, one in Dec and the other in March, believe me I tell them often how much I love and appreciate them. And spend as much time as possible with them.
Again I am so sorry for your loss.
Debi
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4/5/2008 7:16:03 AM |
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rosa1
Winnipeg, MB
age: 49
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My Dad died when I was 9 yrs. old. The memories I have of him will forever be in my heart and memories.
A friend of mine wrote this poem after his father died. Even though I don't know you or your Dad, maybe it will help you cope.
A Piece Of Heart
His heart was filled with hppiness for him to give away.
He gave a piece to everyone he spoke to everyday.
He gave a piece to all of us and touched us with his soul.
With every piece he gave away, it helped to pay the toll.
He taught us all so many things, at the time we didn't know.
He taught us how to love and live, he taught us how to grow.
But most of all he taught us all, right from the very start.
That more important than life itself is to give a piece of heart.
Email me back if you like, I have a story worth sharing with you that might give you some peace and comfort.
Rosa1
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4/5/2008 8:16:04 AM |
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unc005
Seagrove, NC
age: 25
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I'm sorry for everyone's losses here. I lost my dad (he was 48) Oct. 3, 2003--I was 20. I never felt he and I had a "great" father-daughter relationship, but I KNEW he loved me, cared for me, that I was his world (in addition to my older brother and older sister).
We had "our moments" (i.e. disagreements), but I ALWAYS made it a point to tell him that I loved him..I really don't believe (at least I HOPE not!!) I went a day w/o telling him that I loved him.
He had NUMEROUS health issues..metastatic kidney caner, diabetes, high BP, heart disease, etc.--the list just goes on AND on.
My sister and brother were VERY blessed/fortunate in that he got to be a part of their happy moments (i.e. their weddings). *I*, on the other hand, will NEVER have that...he also got to see his 2 grandsons (by my sis) be born, saw them grow up up until..., as well as he got to know that my sister would be giving him and our mom another grandbaby-- their first (and so far..ONLY) granddaughter. He didn't know that she was expecting my niece..at the time he passed away, as my sister was only about 9 wks. along.
His remaining kidney failed acutely (suddenly), which caused a domino effect (i.e. that caused a sudden cardiac arrest at home and the arrest caused him to wind up going w/o oxygen for about 10 mins.--an anoxic brain injury).
I kicked myself (almost) 5 yrs. ago and I STILL do...I think there's more I should have done, I should've paid closer attn. to any sudden changes that were occurring [one of THE most terrifying moments was to see him rocking back and forth on their bed, mumbling, hallucinating--at one point--about seeing my oldest nephew there in front of him (he wasn't quite 3.5 yet..), with a comforter over his head and a fan in front of him...shaking].
My mom blamed herself as well..and there were times I was soooo GD frustrated with/AT her that I'd yell at her "Did YOU force feed him? NO! He ate what he wanted, WHEN he wanted, he did tings HIS way..including giving up!". It still takes some "rationalization" on my part to convince her...*sighs*.
We went through HELL during the 4 yrs. he battled everything he did, and ultimately, succumbed to everything. Funny thing is..(?) His cancer isn't what claimed his life...it, of course, did NOT help...but...
I have gotten a little better in the 5 yrs. since, but it's still a constant struggle...
One of my mom's best friends apparently called him more and more as time neared (not knowing..of course...at the time..), talked to him, etc.--and one day she had to pull over on the side of the road as they talked for about an hr. about how he wasn't afraid to die, how he knew mom would be taken care of because she had the love and support of a lot of family and dear friends around her, etc. He also said, though, that he knew out of all three of his children--*I* would have the MOST difficult time with his death, and that was something that worried him...and he, of course, was right..
His lack of physical presence is what "unnerved"/unnerves me the MOST...I KNOW he's with me, around me, and ALWAYS will be..it's just...he won't be here, physically, to see me graduate, get married, have children...those very important moments in my life, as well as those of my niece and nephews (and any future nieces and/or nephews..should my BROTHER decide to finally have any kids..*sighs*)...
My dad was a wonderful father, grandfather, brother, uncle, and friend. And he's been GREATLY missed by a lot of people. He was a very selfless person, and never had a bad thing to say about anyone.
I miss him dearly.
and *hugs* to all,
unc
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4/5/2008 8:26:36 AM |
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cook53
Stoneham, MA
age: 52
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Grieve and cry,remember and SMILE...
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4/5/2008 8:30:38 AM |
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cajokie
Metairie, LA
age: 49
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I've had both parents pass away and there are days that you wish you could have just 5 more minutes to say all the things you never said when they were with me in my life. so when ever I feel the need to talk to them I think of nothing but them and feel what i want to say in my heart. I'm sure they get my message. Try it, It works ....Sorry for your loss..
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4/5/2008 8:46:19 AM |
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raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
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I would give you the warmest hug and a kiss if I were near you. Sorry for your loss. You will always have him in your heart. Someone said that he will come to you in dreams... that is nice... I saw my grandfather once come up the stairs of our porch on a bright sunny day. I had just finished practicing my clarinet and was putting it away when I saw him reach for the door knob... but I caught my breath and he was gone...
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4/5/2008 8:49:59 AM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 43
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I'm sorry for your loss also...I would like to think I say everything to my parents now and that I won't have any regrets about "I should have said or should have done" when they pass...
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4/5/2008 9:35:46 AM |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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my deepest sympathy to your and your family.
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4/5/2008 9:43:16 AM |
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msmori
Fresno, CA
age: 38
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Yankee, I am so terribly sorry... I can't imagine what you are going through... I feel the same of my father...
I don't even want to think of the day when it will be my turn to have to live without him... He is a Great, wonderful man. He has always been my BEST friend & HERO....
May God Bless you with the strength you need...
Deepest sympathies...
Mori
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4/5/2008 9:49:35 AM |
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wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 52
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Remember him with laughter, for all the good that he brought into your life. Remember him with tears, for all that was.
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4/5/2008 9:54:30 AM |
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musicmann_54
Monroe, GA
age: 54
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Rosa,
I read the posts...
Remembering the good times with Mom and Dad helps me with my feelings of missing them. Even though it's been a long time since this occurred, it always stings to think about it - the sting just isn't as painful as time passes.
Talk to him - you probably do as do I. Tell him you love him...ask his guidance and wisdom. And wake up each morning, breathe in and out, and wait for what the sea brings to you that day.
Randy
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4/5/2008 9:55:45 AM |
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sliver22
Meridian, ID
age: 40
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First off, I am so sorry to hear that
I am going to call my dad today, and just chat with them. Both my parents are retired and living in AZ.
God bless you.
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4/5/2008 10:02:58 AM |
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collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
age: 48
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This came to me one morning. I tried to go back to sleep, but i guess it was ment for me to write it. It was for my Daddy for his B-day two yrs.ago. It took me five minutes to write and i'd like to share it with y'all. IF HEAVEN HAD A POST OFFICE. IF HEAVEN HAD A POST OFFICE WOULD YOU GET YOUR LETTERS THERE, IF HEAVEN HAD A POST MASTER, THERE'S SO MUCH I'D LIKE TO SHARE. WILL THE PAPER BE MADE OF SILVER, THE STAMPS BE MADE OF GOLD? OH HOW I MISS THE STORY'S YOU ONCE TOLD. IF I WROTE YOU A LETTER, WILL GOD SEND AN ANGEL, O DOWN TO PICK IT UP FOR ME? YOU WOULD BE SO PROUD THAT YOU'D WANT THE WHOLE WORLD TO SEE. SO I ENCLOSE THIS TO YOU MY DARLING DADDY, ON YOUR EIGHTH YEAR ANNIVERSARY. THAT YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER THAT MISSES YOU SO MUCH, AND THERE ISN'T ONE DAY THAT I NEVER THINK ABOUT YOU! I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU! KANDY so i hope this will comfort you and your family. it wasn't all that i could remember, but it is the thought that counts. THOMAS "RUDY" GILBERT NOV. 2, 1933- APRIL 5, 2000.
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4/5/2008 10:03:15 AM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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Yankee, I'm so so sorry. It's been 27 yrs since my dad died, and I still miss him and get tears just thinking of him. Dads are special.
I wish I was there to give you a hug. Your world has lost a very speical man.
I'm glad you have such loving memories to hold dear forever.
God bless you and your family in this sad time.
Donna
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