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daniel161
Carrollton, TX
40, joined Mar. 2012
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Not really scared..I forgot how to date. I was with the same person for 13 years...so I'm a little rusty about dating...
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| 1/17/2013 8:57:01 AM |
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realchik4u
Dallas, TX
37, joined Jan. 2013
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Not scared! I've gotten used to being alone....and now I kinda like it!!! 
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| 1/18/2013 8:36:30 AM |
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angel46350
La Porte, IN
44, joined Dec. 2008
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not scared but i do have walls up and trust issues
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| 1/18/2013 2:37:35 PM |
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slimtim1222
New Baltimore, MI
33, joined Jan. 2013
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not scared to date just forgot how to been a long time .
 I'm not the type of person to play a game
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| 1/19/2013 8:32:22 PM |
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bryansmith384
Chelsea, OK
56, joined Jan. 2013
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try a double date first it may help.
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| 1/21/2013 4:00:51 AM |
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thejuliekat
Mobile, AL
36, joined May. 2012
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Hell yes I'm scared to date again, though it hasn't stopped me from doing it! There's too many ? Involved with dating. I was with my ex 12 yrs married for 2 and he waits TIL we get married to decide he don't want to be with me. Runs off with another woman then spends the last 3 years telling me she's "just a friend"... Anyways, trust issues, intentions and expectations are why I don't date often. I just can't find a guy who understands I want the old way of courting. Young guys and guys my age mostly think a date means dinner, movie and sex. What happened to getting to know someone THEN dinner and movies? Sex comes when I know you, not before!
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| 1/21/2013 1:35:04 PM |
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good_dr
Spokane, WA
53, joined Dec. 2011
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I don't know about scared, but vary careful. Besides, being a single parent. Right now I don't have time or the money to just throw away on what seems to be the norm in dating now days. I'll still be visible and look, but not really hunting anymore. Let them find me for a change. Too many gold diggers, users, head gamers, and those that are so scorned it doesn't matter anymore if the person is real or not. I figure that when they are ready. They will confront me. I'm just not one that is going to say I'm better then this other person, or try to impress them by spending all my money on them. To hell with that noise. If they want to work together for the better things in life. Bring it on. Guess I'm an odd ball in today's society.
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| 1/21/2013 8:04:29 PM |
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dynamite1951
Fowler, IN
66, joined Jan. 2013
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That why I have not asked anyone out online yet!  
Lol
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| 1/21/2013 8:56:11 PM |
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1ahole
Azle, TX
52, joined Sep. 2012
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I am scared to death...I keep on running across the same personality..
If nothing changes, nothing changes
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| 1/21/2013 10:38:31 PM |
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btybup
Decatur, TX
62, joined Mar. 2008
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Well,after being married 35years, having no clue my marriage was in trouble, it's really hard to trust again. But I can tell you that it does get easier. Of course you are gonna go on some crappy dates once in awhile, but somewhere out there is the right person for each of us. LOL now if I could just find mine.
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| 1/27/2013 3:57:50 AM |
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gator210
San Antonio, TX
35, joined Jan. 2013
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I am not scared to date , just Lil scared of not having someone there for me when I need someone. My mom died this Thanksgiving , my x wife saw the oppourtunity to divorce me while I wasnt in the right state of mind to fight for our house. Glad we didnt have kids together, we tried the whole 10 years together.
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| 1/28/2013 10:45:49 PM |
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nanner123
Evant, TX
39, joined Dec. 2012
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Yes this is me i am scared to date in alot of ways but i know not every guy is the same so i take chance every once in awhile lol
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| 2/10/2013 4:33:42 PM |
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pamelawest
Cochran, GA
48, joined Aug. 2012
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i am i dont any trust in men.
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| 2/25/2013 11:47:55 PM |
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rorysnow
Huntsville, TN
50, joined Jan. 2013
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Trust is a huge issue for me.
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| 2/26/2013 12:39:50 PM |
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sgtgoma
Carlisle, PA
60, joined Apr. 2008
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 No need to be scared. Dating is fun. We grow and we learn. The first question you must ask yourself is: What does love have to do with this? Believe me, when the right time comes, love will find you. But, you have to be out there.
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| 2/27/2013 12:31:56 AM |
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bgurl82
Butte, MT
35, joined Jan. 2013
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I get physically ill when the opportunity to date presents itself. I been divorced for 4 years now, although only been single for the last two years. The rebound lasted way to long and mimicked the same behaviors that I divorced my ex husband for.
Is there something wrong with me?
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| 2/27/2013 12:40:53 AM |
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360gingersnap
Madera, CA
31, joined Feb. 2013
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amen
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| 2/27/2013 1:44:21 AM |
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confiance
Mesquite, TX
38, joined Feb. 2013
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Not afraid to get back out there.
When we know what love is it can help us better in our dating life. Not getting emotions confuse with love. Can't rush love nor should we rush our dating life. Don't let a bad relationship push you into a another quick relationship. Give yourself time to heal and love yourself. Be real with yourself and how you feel.
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| 2/27/2013 1:48:24 AM |
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confiance
Mesquite, TX
38, joined Feb. 2013
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No, nothing wrong with you. Don't want to be hurt again.
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| 2/27/2013 10:22:49 PM |
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coolcherokie177
Allentown, PA
46, joined Feb. 2013
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Im to scared to date again.no good guys out there
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| 2/27/2013 10:33:28 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Not really ... scared ........ but more selective now in my majority
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| 3/4/2013 9:50:34 PM |
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truckergeo
Las Vegas, NV
52, joined May. 2011
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You all need to get back out there,Don`t let them take any more from you... Go out and get back on track its not that hard...Finding someone who you will trust will take time so get started.....
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| 3/5/2013 6:40:17 PM |
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indianadave1951
Mishawaka, IN
66, joined Dec. 2010
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Anyone who is scared and/or believes that ALL of the single men/women available are "evil" are not ready to date.
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| 3/27/2013 12:38:59 AM |
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abk311
Tacoma, WA
27, joined Mar. 2013
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Just dont date. Have a FWB girl. And get over it. Now noones hearts are gettin broke
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| 3/27/2013 2:09:50 AM |
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63sardonicpeeps
Lodi, CA
53, joined Feb. 2013
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Yeah. Married 25+ years. Divorce isn't final yet. Found class divorce care. Very Christian but it helps. Taught me there is time lots of it.
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| 3/27/2013 1:39:16 PM |
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woodrow42
Memphis, TN
50, joined Mar. 2011
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That would be me. I been really trying to get the nerve to go out and have a great date, but with so much going on in this world it's scary. You begin thinking did I really go out with this guy. Lol...I've been divorced for 5 yrs now and only gone on 3 dates and none of them made it to a 2nd date.
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| 3/30/2013 6:27:01 PM |
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fifidupre55
Oneida, TN
49, joined Mar. 2013
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I am scared to date havent did it in 20 yrs. Was married to my ex for 18of those yrs. But I am tryin to be a positive person about this n I want to try.
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| 3/30/2013 8:38:14 PM |
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trailerparkmark
Boone, IA
61, joined Jan. 2012
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I am scared to date again. He made me. feel worthless.
they all want us to feel like that
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| 3/31/2013 8:29:57 AM |
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sfunmom
Lilburn, GA
50, joined Oct. 2011
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Ok this is what I have been trying its works for me I look at it as meeting a new friend. That way I do not feel worthless . But by ex calls me a slut but he was the one cheating and still seeing a married women. So just meet people in a public place and talk its fun and u never know some of the new things that u will try.
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| 3/31/2013 12:56:32 PM |
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dimples_and_ink
Jackson, MI
38, joined Nov. 2012
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they all want us to feel like that
They think if they can make us feel bad enough about ourselves we'll decide we can't do any better and stay with them. Sad part is, by the time they've degraded us enough that we believe it, they believe it too and they don't want us anymore! And because we're left thinking so little of ourselves, we do the same to others who DO appreciate us, perpetuating the cycle.
The only solution i have found is taking the time to heal instead of allowing loneliness, family, and friends to pressure you into trying again before you remember how to love yourself enough to walk away from hurtful people!
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| 3/31/2013 1:19:09 PM |
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dimples_and_ink
Jackson, MI
38, joined Nov. 2012
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I'm more in this boat. I wasn't married as long as you, but I've been seperated since May, and he's already got someone, actually he's on about his 3rd or 4th someone, and by the profiles I run into on various sites sometimes, he's on his way to another...lol
I know I'm ready to date, but the guys that talk to me don't want to be friends and build, they want to just jump in bed, so I haven't dated, and I just don't trust my "picker" any more. Totally lost here...lol
This is me!! i get so tired of the guys that want to jump straight into bed or have some sort of artificial timeline... Here's a hint, gents! A woman makes up her mind in the first 5 minutes of face to face if she will ever under any circumstances sleep with you! Going for the easy target will not get you someone ready for a serious LTR. I have backed out of more meets over a man pushing sex than I've ever declined for other reasons. You guys slit your own throats in the attempt to dodge the friend-zone because serious minded ladies know that a long-term partner needs to be your BEST friend!
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| 3/31/2013 1:45:29 PM |
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raymonddman
Westwego, LA
35, joined Jan. 2013
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It may feel like the end of the world but my better days r ahead
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| 4/2/2013 10:25:56 AM |
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cosmicgem
Springfield, MO
61, joined Jun. 2011
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This is me!! i get so tired of the guys that want to jump straight into bed or have some sort of artificial timeline... Here's a hint, gents! A woman makes up her mind in the first 5 minutes of face to face if she will ever under any circumstances sleep with you! Going for the easy target will not get you someone ready for a serious LTR. I have backed out of more meets over a man pushing sex than I've ever declined for other reasons. You guys slit your own throats in the attempt to dodge the friend-zone because serious minded ladies know that a long-term partner needs to be your BEST friend!
I Agree totally! 90 day rule. By then you should know each other well enough to know if you want to take it to the next level. If they are into You. I want the whole kit n kaboodle. Some are too afraid of commitment or have their Own definition of it that is different than mine lol
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| 4/2/2013 7:50:15 PM |
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indianadave1951
Mishawaka, IN
66, joined Dec. 2010
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90 days! I dated a woman in 2011 and at 90 days I still felt I didn't want to rush into things. We agreed to make it a nice Christmas present (6 months). Unfortunately the relationship didn't last but I felt good that I didn't jump just because hormones were raging.
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| 4/2/2013 9:38:58 PM |
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luckyrai79
Lansing, KS
38, joined Dec. 2011
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Not really ... scared ........ but more selective now in my majority
Diffidently more selective, I deserve it. Dating doesn't scare me.. The idea of a relationship does. Having said that, I believe that when the right guy comes along that fear will subside. And the right person will understand and be patient. 
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| 4/6/2013 8:24:19 PM |
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blkbarbied0ll
Long Island City, NY
39, joined Jul. 2012
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Yes this is me i am scared to date in alot of ways but i know not every guy is the same so i take chance every once in awhile lol 
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| 4/6/2013 8:42:02 PM |
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julietjaded
Pittsburgh, PA
37, joined Mar. 2013
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Not really...I am just finding it hard to find a date that doesn't want to go all the way on the first date. I don't like the thought of pushing away a possibility, but I have to stand for my values. Is it possible that no one honors GOD'S principles in their daily life anymore?
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| 4/6/2013 9:25:45 PM |
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luckyyou67
Pittsburgh, PA
50, joined Mar. 2013
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That's not an valid excuse I was with my ex wife for 14 years but that part of my life is over time to move from the past to the present
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| 4/6/2013 9:31:37 PM |
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safari521
Pittsburgh, PA
45, joined Sep. 2012
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Gays are to be accepted, blacks have rights, woman expect to be treated equally. All these things speak of modern day and age we live in, but yet women expect a guy to act like its 1950 when it comes to sex on the first date. It doesn't work both ways, either get barefoot and pregnant and don't leave the kitchen, or get to sucking that c*ck on the first date.
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| 7/27/2013 8:49:19 AM |
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shassyoo
Morgantown, WV
47, joined Apr. 2012
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but if ur miserable right now, dating will help...go out n meet people...just dont get serious..u will get happier..i did...and happy is the most important thing....cause life is too short to waste....best luck to u.. .
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| 7/27/2013 11:11:42 AM |
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dewsyne4684
Healy, KS
51, joined Jul. 2013
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I have a good question or at least I think it is. Why it when someone comments or wants to chat they or I never get a reply back. If your single or alone and someone want to start a conversation with you can you at least give a reply of yes I'd like to or no not at this moment. That's only right.
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| 7/27/2013 1:19:31 PM |
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huntinhappiness
Morgantown, WV
49, joined Jul. 2013
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This is the most profound thread I've seen since I joined here. I can truly relate. My heartfelt best wishes go out to all who are experiencing this.
I have a hard time dating. Its been a long time. I was married for over 18 years. We were together a few years more. I experienced a lot of pain and heartbreak. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I don't wanna get hurt and I don't wanna hurt anyone else either. Too much of that goes on in the world these days. I see so many people with questionable motives. To toy with someones emotions and use them is cruel and takes its toll on your soul. I will only go out with someone I can see myself in a LTR with. I need attraction, common values and few more things. That makes it tough. Sometimes I feel like I'm hunting a mythical unicorn.
I am hopeful though. I've recently been chatting with a gorgeous Italian woman. We haven't met yet, but she sounds pretty amazing so far!
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| 7/28/2013 3:22:38 PM |
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kat44000
Terre Haute, IN
48, joined Jul. 2013
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Hello,I'm Kathy and it is so scarey to find a worthy man let alone date again but I have hope
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| 7/28/2013 5:13:41 PM |
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tush065
Greene, ME
52, joined Jun. 2013
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Not scared just I have my kids full time makes it tough to get away on a date I joke and call them my little blockers lol
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| 8/12/2013 9:27:54 AM |
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kimo1976
Martinsburg, WV
41, joined Aug. 2013
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I was married for 12 years and with her for a total of 15 years before getting divorced. I have not dated or been with a woman since the divorce in 2010. I am inexperienced with the dating scene since I was with 1 woman for so long that I am scared to stay dating again for fear that I will mess up or something. It also doesn't help that I am a very shy individual.
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| 8/12/2013 5:25:06 PM |
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good_guy2323
Pauls Valley, OK
38, joined Aug. 2013
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Yes, I was married for 12 years and with that person for 14 years, so yea its all kinda new and different and awkward too.. 
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| 8/13/2013 12:37:03 AM |
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alicia1031
Temecula, CA
30, joined Oct. 2012
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i have moments where i'm gun shy. just like day's where i say i will never get married again or fall in love. it comes and goes. i don't actively seek love but i assume that one day it will happpen... i just watched a movie "EAT,PRAY,LOVE" its really good and she deals with the fear of dating.
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| 8/13/2013 3:54:04 PM |
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antdat69
Fort Worth, TX
56, joined Aug. 2012
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I'm not scared, but I'll be damned if I settle for anything less then someone to reciprocate how I treat them.
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| 8/13/2013 4:23:59 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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 Well said
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