| 9/16/2012 7:23:39 AM |
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barb61270
De Witt, IA
64, joined Nov. 2011
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Just try to forget. You can't but that is the only way I can think to cope.
I cannot forget. It becomes morr tolerable in time just because it is what it is. I have learned that once home there will silence. I have to push myself to reach out to friends.
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| 9/16/2012 11:59:38 AM |
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livefortoday10
Stoughton, MA
36, joined Sep. 2012
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I also lost my Partner of 14 years there is no time to the healing process. The emptiness never goes away.I do believe as time goes by it does get easier but its Not the Same for everyone and once you move on you will compare people to your partner as well. 
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| 9/16/2012 8:54:37 PM |
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lenajuca1
Brigantine, NJ
69, joined Sep. 2012
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I am a widow, I'm only a few years and I feel very solitária.I'm Brazilian and I found this very interesting picture.
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| 9/19/2012 5:04:02 AM |
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pingeye2
Savannah, GA
64, joined Jun. 2011
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Speaking from MY experience, and what I've learned...time helps, but YOU have to help yourself too.
The life we knew..changed. We can't hang onto that. We have to realize that to move on, we have to change.
Mourn, but change is required. We will never forget our loves.
Don't seek the love you lost, just seek love itself. You can't replace your lost love, but you can love, and be loved again, with time.
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| 9/19/2012 9:38:42 AM |
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starting_over64
Chickamauga, GA
69, joined Jun. 2012
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It has been 2 1/2 yrs. since my husband was killing in a tragic auto accident. I was supposed to be with him that night but I decided not to go at the last minute. Today I am celebrating our 45th Anniversary alone. I really didn't think I would make it this far. I prayed that God would take me out of this misery and even put myself in many dangerous situations for it to happen. It wasn't God's plan! I have met many wonderful guys for coffee but there is no chemistry. I am to the point in my life where marriage again will probably never happen. As far as moving on is concerned, there is "no moving on for me" I am just trying to accept the fact that he will never be back again. What a tragic end to a wonderful love story. Place it in God's hands and ask every day for guidance. Blessings everyone and you will laugh again one day!
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| 10/10/2012 12:39:46 AM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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I am a 2 time widow. and was very young... the first time and only 36 the second time. it is hard but time has been a great comfort and even if I dont understand why, I trust God. I can say i am now able to look back and be thankful for the good times, allow someone else in my heart and life... and KNOW that God did not design us to be alone. you can hold someone in your heart in a special place, but sometimes people who want to know you or have a realtionship with you are threatened by a memory. that is not the case for anyone who i meet and try to build with. I am no longer in love with my deceased husbands, but i will always care. but not in a way any man would have to ever wonder if i am comparing them to my former husbands. I would never do that, my heart is healed long ago. and time is the answer..... stay strong.
the guy i was talking on the phone with that made me laugh. we did meet we have been going out for a month now. yesterday he made a comment about my husband watching me shower. i said that was the last thing tom saw before he died.CW looked at me and said " are you telling me he died at home" YES tom did. i started telling him about mine and tom's last hours together couldn't finish i left the room went outside crying CW waited a few minutes then he came out took me in his arms i cried so hard his shirt was soak he took me back in the house sat, held me, talked to me. i really don't know what he said but i do know i didn't feel lonely, i felt safe, and cared for. THANK-YOU for letting me know there can be more than 1 love in my life.
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| 10/10/2012 12:43:43 AM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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Speaking from MY experience, and what I've learned...time helps, but YOU have to help yourself too.
The life we knew..changed. We can't hang onto that. We have to realize that to move on, we have to change.
Mourn, but change is required. We will never forget our loves.
Don't seek the love you lost, just seek love itself. You can't replace your lost love, but you can love, and be loved again, with time.
i would like to thank you too for such good advise
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| 10/10/2012 12:55:03 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
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| 10/10/2012 1:30:04 PM |
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jkat7
Fairfax, VA
42, joined Oct. 2012
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I sure do hope so! Best of luck to you! We're all here if you ever need to chat.
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| 10/10/2012 6:27:29 PM |
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realoldtimers
Toledo, WA
66, joined Aug. 2012
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I sure do hope so! Best of luck to you! We're all here if you ever need to chat.
I don't know what to do I lost my wife in may and damn I miss her so much I have a big house If I go out to meet a ladie I feel like I am cheating it hurts so much
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| 10/12/2012 4:48:58 PM |
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kelvinjudy
Merrifield, VA
46, joined Oct. 2012
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i can not be like your husband now but hope i can be your friend to always watch your back for you.especially when you feel lonely.what you are going through now is not an easy tax but i pray to God Almighty to grant you the mind to over come what you are experiencing now.
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| 10/13/2012 1:58:45 AM |
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ottatown
Waller, TX
66, joined Mar. 2009
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I say get the heck out and meet people and do things that you enjoy. I started looking to date weeks after my wife passed. People would think how could I do that which I thought was total judgement on their part. I realized their thought was I must not have loved my wife to do that. Screw them! Walk in my shoes! My mother died little over year after dad died and like the old saying "she died of a broken heart". Being lonely does not help get over this type of thing in ones life. Like a friend of mine said, dating new people does not mean I have quit grieving for my wife. It just means I choose to have a happier life during this hard time. No way would a spouse want their surviving spouse to be unhappy. Being happier than down in the dumps sadness does not negate the love I had for her.
Talking with my mother once and she talked how a neighbor lady was dating and her late hubby was only gone a few months. Mom said her and dad said they would wait a year after before they would start dating. Friends had visited her shortly before she died and they said all she talked about was how she missed dad. I told her that what her and dad decided being different than the neighbor did not mean she did not love her hubby. Perhaps the two of them had decided that a person did not have to be alone to grive. Dating will not wipe out the memories or the love but being with other people can help get your mind off of the loss and who knows you might even find love again. Listen to me on this, finding a new love does not mean you quit loving your wife it just means you have been lucky enough to find love again.
Myself I believe my separating myself from life will not bring her back. I know that sounds so stupid but I also think what I call putting one foot in the grave will not help making things easier or getting on with life. No spouse would want you to be unhappy. If they did then you would not have loved them anyway. I think one of the biggest things we miss is someone that loved us is gone and that love is what we really miss. So find it again and be happy. When will it get easier? When you get on the living bandwagon.
Sorry if I come across kind of cold but I have been there and I have just given my ideas which are mine. You have to sort things out for yourself to make things easier for yourself. Most important is just get started on what is right for expression of happiness in your life again.
My wife died 16 years ago and I have had two long relationships since then. It gets easier when you help it along.
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| 10/13/2012 11:36:12 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
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| 10/13/2012 1:05:59 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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Generally speaking time helps the most. If you've been widowed less than a year then you still have a lot to go through. It seems the more times goes by the more mature we get in our widowhood. 13+ for me. I make it okay and have even become accustomed to being alone and rather like it.
OT I'm sorry you're lonely but it gets better. I'm lonely all the time but it doesn't hurt anymore. I have a good time and enjoy life but when I lie down in the bed at night, that instance in time says to me, "Here I am alone again." Even that is just a fleeting thought and passes quickly. Asleep in two minutes
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| 10/13/2012 3:35:31 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
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| 10/24/2012 2:16:33 PM |
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djray222
Newnan, GA
61, joined Sep. 2012
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it does not get no better!! it has been 5 years for me... i have found out that you cant get real close to anouther woman!!!! that is what 30 years of love will do for you...
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| 10/27/2012 6:06:30 AM |
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memawof2
Grand Bay, AL
60, joined Oct. 2012
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I to am recently widowed after 37 years of marriage. Sometimes it feels like it is getting easier, but like on my birthday, it was ver hard. We have to take the hand we were delt and move on. The last thing my spouse told me was to move on.
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| 10/28/2012 11:22:43 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
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| 10/29/2012 11:32:13 AM |
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tinkiekitty
Bakersfield, CA
61, joined Jun. 2012
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I haven't post here at the Widows forum for a while. There's my problem:
About a week ago DH got a new member and I read his profile and it said he just lost his wife recently to cancer. I wrote him and told him sorry for his loss and suggested he come here to this forum and at least read some of the posts. That the Widows forum was a great help to me. I told him I had lost my husband 3 years ago this month to a very long illness and I knew how he felt.
I told him he could talk to me if he needed a friend.
We friended each other on Facebook and I know he really has just lost his wife the 2nd of this month!!!!
Well, we have talked for hours on the phone and messaged back in forth on here and Facebook and now he has asked me to be his girlfriend! It took me by surprise and dummy me said ok!!!!
We haven't even met but have a lot in common.....I now want to try and talk to him and tell him to please slow down and I only want to be his friend for right now and be there for him and be his sounding board.
I do know how he feels...I can be in a room full of my family and friends and I feel absolutely alone!!!!!
I miss talking to a man and being loved and needed by a man.
So tonight I want to tell him that we need to slow down and just be friends for right now!
Ok my dear peeps I want to hear your thoughts!!!!
And no getting on to me for saying yes to being his girlfriend....I know it was stupid!!!!
Thanks!
T.
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| 12/8/2012 1:41:43 AM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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the guy that i was talking to that made me laugh, we have been out on 4 dates now
my husband died of cancer CH is a cancer survivor he understands what i went through he lets me talk about TE, he has seen pics and he talks about his ex. CH treats me as good as my husband did
i don't feel as lonely anymore, i feel happy, and special.
who am i kidding i am still seeing CH but i don't know. it has been 3 months or so since we started dating i don't know if it is going well. he doesn't treat me as well as he did, i am not always happy he tells me i won't find anyone out there that will treat me as good as he does i don't think this is a true love
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| 12/8/2012 5:21:38 AM |
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aveirense
Elizabeth, NJ
53, joined Nov. 2012
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I am Jim lost mine 30 months ago and still thinking about her.
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| 12/8/2012 5:48:28 AM |
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aveirense
Elizabeth, NJ
53, joined Nov. 2012
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Hard to find some one u can trust when u go thru a battle with the one. Guess if we don't take chances we my miss the chance of happiness:
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| 12/8/2012 11:05:28 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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who am i kidding i am still seeing CH but i don't know. it has been 3 months or so since we started dating i don't know if it is going well. he doesn't treat me as well as he did, i am not always happy he tells me i won't find anyone out there that will treat me as good as he does i don't think this is a true love
Him saying that to you is a red flag.
Tinkie, I understand your wanting to reach out and help him and be his sounding board. Lord knows we all need one especially when we're new in this. You also know he's going to grab onto you like a life line.
And you know that he's transfering his feelings for his wife onto you.
I remember feeling that I didn't want to have to go through finding someone, telling them my stories, falling in love and finding our own path together. I just wanted it all done and be comfortable with him like I was with my late husband. I didn't want to go through all that. I just wanted it now!
Just keep at him with the slowing down thing.
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| 12/14/2012 1:26:01 PM |
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hawkeye111x
Boise, ID
56, joined Nov. 2012
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It has been 16 years since I lost Mindi. She was the love of my life for 31 years, and was lost to a drunk on Christmas 1996. It is hard to over come especially when you are so in love and the bond is so strong. But per the conversations with her prior to this, I relate back to them when I find myself grieving so much. She said, "Jason if something happens to me, please go forward and find another, I know it won't be what we had, but you can't compare me to her, it isn't fair. Give her a chance to love you." That is forever in my mind and my heart, and there is that very special place in my heart for her. I have learned to set things aside and move on. Yes, it has been hard as hell, but I have found it getting easier, and yes it has been 16 years, but I do want to say, you never forget, you just keep moving and progressing. I have even though at times it has been exceedingly hard to do.
I know there is somebody out there for everybody regardless of what you had in the past whom was your significant other. You don't give her up, and you do not compare another to the one you had, that isn't fair to her/him. You give what you can, and if that is enough you live with it. Give her/him a chance to be that special person to you. I am not pushing another off on you. I am saying give yourself a chance to be happy again. You are not giving up her memory, and if the person you are with knows this and is content with you giving some of your heart to another, I think they would understand. I sure hope they do.
I wish all of you well. I really do. I can feel your pain. I seriously can, and it weighs heavily in my heart.
You shall all be in my prayers and thoughts. Peace to all of you, live, love and laugh...............
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| 12/19/2012 6:20:17 PM |
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redog31
Mexico Beach, FL
76, joined Apr. 2008
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my husband passed away in 04 april i dont think it gets any better ive been dating since late 05 and have meet some nice men and some that were just for themselves. ive about given up. i have so much to give to some deserving mani love to travel but hate to go by myself.i like to eat out some times but dont like it alone. anyway i joined fred astaire dance studios and have learned to dance.i compete in competitions all over the country but it doesnot take the place of a man that loves me. would like to hear from some others in their early 70ies.
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| 12/19/2012 9:04:31 PM |
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asher2g7
Bronx, NY
28, joined Dec. 2012
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How are u doing today
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| 12/20/2012 9:28:20 PM |
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riri6410
Florence, MS
52, joined Dec. 2011
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thanks for letting me know I could find more than that one 'mr. Right'
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| 12/22/2012 5:34:00 PM |
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attco5409
Paducah, KY
56, joined Nov. 2012
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who am i kidding i am still seeing CH but i don't know. it has been 3 months or so since we started dating i don't know if it is going well. he doesn't treat me as well as he did, i am not always happy he tells me i won't find anyone out there that will treat me as good as he does i don't think this is a true love
You Better Cut Him Loose Now,After Only Three Months And He's Telling You Crap Like That.You Can Do Better,Don't Let Any One Tell You Stuff Like That.There Is A Thing Called Mental Abuse.Well He Has Already Started That With You.It'll Only Get Worse As Time Goes A Long.Whats Wrong With Some Of These Guys Any Way. They Find A Good Woman And Then They Start Mistreating Them.Gees,I Just Wish I Could Find Me A Good Woman.One Thing About,She Won't Be Treated Like Hes Treating You.Let Him Go Before It Gets Worse!
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| 12/22/2012 11:41:25 PM |
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lonelydude666
Tulsa, OK
54, joined Dec. 2012
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I know the feeling 26yrs and now im all alone it sucks big time
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| 12/22/2012 11:49:41 PM |
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lonelydude666
Tulsa, OK
54, joined Dec. 2012
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Lonelyness is killen me im tired ready to just give up
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| 12/25/2012 7:46:24 AM |
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bruce53ny
Victor, NY
58, joined Dec. 2012
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hi all just want to say this is not like me to be chatting about my life on line but i am just trying to get over the loss of my wife of 33 years. it is all a firts for me she just pased 6 weaks ago and it is so hard for me. i have older kids i spend time with that got me to do this. just want to say 1 of the best things i have found to help is a hug no more just a hug and you do not have to say a word.
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| 12/25/2012 1:33:14 PM |
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chilln49
Indian River, MI
54, joined Aug. 2012
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Hi Bruce Merry Christmas!
Welcome. I am sorry for your loss. It's an extreme difficult time for you right now. Just take one step at a time. It's been 10 months for me. It really helps to hear what others are experiencing from their loss too. Good luck I wish you peace and happiness
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| 12/25/2012 1:37:14 PM |
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chilln49
Indian River, MI
54, joined Aug. 2012
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Lonelyness is killen me im tired ready to just give up
dude don't give up! Sometimes I feel like that too. We don't know what is around the corner for us. Maybe the right person is just waiting to fill that lost spot in our soul? Please don't give up. As I write this the song came on You've got a friend, So fitting! We are all here to help each other. If you need to talk I will listen as well! Anytime at all.... You've got a friend,,,,,,,,,
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| 12/25/2012 1:42:05 PM |
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chilln49
Indian River, MI
54, joined Aug. 2012
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You Better Cut Him Loose Now,After Only Three Months And He's Telling You Crap Like That.You Can Do Better,Don't Let Any One Tell You Stuff Like That.There Is A Thing Called Mental Abuse.Well He Has Already Started That With You.It'll Only Get Worse As Time Goes A Long.Whats Wrong With Some Of These Guys Any Way. They Find A Good Woman And Then They Start Mistreating Them.Gees,I Just Wish I Could Find Me A Good Woman.One Thing About,She Won't Be Treated Like Hes Treating You.Let Him Go Before It Gets Worse!
Very well said Attco!!!
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| 12/25/2012 5:47:18 PM |
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gypsy515
Finger, TN
66, joined Dec. 2012
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My husband died in Sept, we had been together for 13 years. He had a kidney disease and was on dialysis which led to problems with his heart. He had just been to his cardiologist the day before and everything was good, he felt good, we had a great time that day. The next morning he woke me up, said he couldn't breathe. I called 911, but by the time they got to our house it was too late. This has been the worst Christmas of my life, my children are both grown and live our of town. It is so lonely now without my love.
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| 12/28/2012 10:16:55 AM |
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shelb1234
Ridgeland, MS
44, joined Dec. 2012
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I've been widowed for 3 years this was the worst Christmas. I'm so ready for the pain to go away.
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| 12/30/2012 12:44:30 PM |
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digitaldog
Grove, OK
68, joined Dec. 2010
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Be HAPPY NOT lonely..
You could of been married
to this NUT guy - - " heart_healer " ..!!
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| 12/30/2012 1:06:45 PM |
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bethieannjj
Gadsden, AL
66, joined Oct. 2012
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I lost my husband July 2012.....41 yrs of my life I was married, and now I'm thrown into a world of my own...it's scary.....I'm barely hanging on to reality at this time...the hospital had no grief help....so doing this all on my own....moved from Pa to Ala.....where do I start?
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| 12/30/2012 1:38:38 PM |
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blackribbon
Royal Oak, MI
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One place to start is go to Griefshare.org. You can put in your zipcode and find a group that meets near you. You don't have to start at the beginning of the program but it probably helps to start as near to the beginning as possible if you have a choice of groups. The program is a video and then some talk about that week's grief topic. It is both hard to face the grief but good to be sitting in a room full of people that realize that you can't just make those tears go away by "cheering" up.
Also google "grief" and your town's name to see if their are other programs available in your area.
And google "widow forums". I'm on several that were the reason I survived...however, the ones I'm on are for younger widows (different stage of life issues like minor children and all your friends having babies type stuff).
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| 12/30/2012 1:51:57 PM |
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blackribbon
Royal Oak, MI
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Digital Dog.
Are you a widower? Your post seems a bit inappropriate for the topic.
"Be happy because you could have been married to some jerk instead of only having the love of your life die?" (that kind of sums up your post doesn't it?)
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| 12/30/2012 4:12:26 PM |
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digitaldog
Grove, OK
68, joined Dec. 2010
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Digital Dog.
Are you a widower? Your post seems a bit inappropriate for the topic.
"Be happy because you could have been married to some jerk instead of only having the love of your life die?" (that kind of sums up your post doesn't it?)
 Whom the H E L L
made YOU the Forum Police..??
Go whine to someone else,
I can post as I please..
You know NOTHING about me..
 Now can you
 
-XoXoXoX-
And ALL my friends....
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| 12/30/2012 4:15:58 PM |
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cbarrrington201
Udall, MO
68, joined Mar. 2012
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That mutt does have a point..
the doggie always brings a smile to me with his posts..
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| 12/30/2012 4:20:04 PM |
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computercat
Rozel, KS
68, joined Aug. 2012
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 12/30/2012 4:45:22 PM |
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blackribbon
Royal Oak, MI
51, joined Dec. 2012
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Okay...I guess someone does enjoy his posts. I personally found them a little insulting and off-topic. I guess, to each his own. However, I really do expect that someone posting in a specific forum would have actually have a reason for trolling that forum...silly me.
Off my meds? .. oh thank you for having a little compassion for a fellow widow (though I guess I shouldn't assume that you are).
Oh...first guideline for replying to a topic "Stay on topic."
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| 12/30/2012 5:16:33 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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You gotta get to know digi. He's a good guy and funny. Means no harm to anyone. Hang in there sunshine. BTW I am a widower.
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| 12/30/2012 7:21:38 PM |
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digitaldog
Grove, OK
68, joined Dec. 2010
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Due to the semi-drama concerning my " social & posting skills " ...
I am intensely studying trying to become more loveable..
Currently reading 
page 462,
2nd paragraph,
3rd sentence:
""" One can easily gain access to the map of matrix parameters
and can identify the path segment as parameter 10010010
while still keeping code evaluations to a minimum. """
Now can someone
Please send me money and
-XoXoXoX-
And ALL my friends....
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| 12/30/2012 8:03:12 PM |
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blackribbon
Royal Oak, MI
51, joined Dec. 2012
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We must not be reading the same book. Pg 462 in my book is on the psychiatric care of children and adolescents.
This "semi-drama" started because I asked if you were a widower based on the fact your post did not sound very sympathetic to the OP. I'm thinking "no" would have been a much simpler answer than the long animated insult to the widow of a fellow veteran.
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| 12/30/2012 9:36:43 PM |
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dawgpaws
Townsend, MA
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We must not be reading the same book. Pg 462 in my book is on the psychiatric care of children and adolescents.
This "semi-drama" started because I asked if you were a widower based on the fact your post did not sound very sympathetic to the OP. I'm thinking "no" would have been a much simpler answer than the long animated insult to the widow of a fellow veteran.
Digital Dog is really a rather kind fellow. You just need to get to know him. 
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| 12/30/2012 10:00:36 PM |
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godsbutterfly1
Woodlyn, PA
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| 12/30/2012 10:10:06 PM |
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blackribbon
Royal Oak, MI
51, joined Dec. 2012
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Everyone keeps saying that. What I've seen is that he bashed someone's post from an entirely different area of this forum, bashed me for questioning him, and disrespected the original poster and all the other widow/ers that have posted about their grief on this particular thread...all in two postings. I hope it was just a bad day for him.
And although it sounds catty, that actually is the chapter that pg 462 does fall on in the book I'm reading (school textbook). I tried to lighten the mood by posting a dog reading picture but I seem to have very limited posting ability as someone new to this site.
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| 12/30/2012 11:44:58 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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As we all were at one time.
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| 12/31/2012 7:51:18 AM |
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dawgpaws
Townsend, MA
67, joined Sep. 2012
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Everyone keeps saying that. What I've seen is that he bashed someone's post from an entirely different area of this forum, bashed me for questioning him, and disrespected the original poster and all the other widow/ers that have posted about their grief on this particular thread...all in two postings. I hope it was just a bad day for him.
And although it sounds catty, that actually is the chapter that pg 462 does fall on in the book I'm reading (school textbook). I tried to lighten the mood by posting a dog reading picture but I seem to have very limited posting ability as someone new to this site.
Studying psychology? Good on you. DD tries to keep everything cartoonish in the groups and on the blogs.
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| 12/31/2012 9:41:28 AM |
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cbarrrington201
Udall, MO
68, joined Mar. 2012
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Everyone keeps saying that. What I've seen is that he bashed someone's post from an entirely different area of this forum, bashed me for questioning him, and disrespected the original poster and all the other widow/ers that have posted about their grief on this particular thread...all in two postings. I hope it was just a bad day for him.
And although it sounds catty, that actually is the chapter that pg 462 does fall on in the book I'm reading (school textbook). I tried to lighten the mood by posting a dog reading picture but I seem to have very limited posting ability as someone new to this site.
I agree.. it sounds QUITE " catty "...
I hope it was
just a " bad day " for YOU..!!!
That "disrespectful vet " you " complain about has
assisted MANY here with computer help, financially, morally, and
with the authorities in getting rid of fakes in both
civilian and vet groups..
and you complain because his humor is " gruff "..
Sorry, but you are way off the mark
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| 12/31/2012 9:45:55 AM |
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computercat
Rozel, KS
68, joined Aug. 2012
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Everyone keeps saying that. What I've seen is that he bashed someone's post from an entirely different area of this forum, bashed me for questioning him, and disrespected the original poster and all the other widow/ers that have posted about their grief on this particular thread...all in two postings. I hope it was just a bad day for him.
And although it sounds catty, that actually is the chapter that pg 462 does fall on in the book I'm reading (school textbook). I tried to lighten the mood by posting a dog reading picture but I seem to have very limited posting ability as someone new to this site.
I agree.. it sounds QUITE " catty "...
I hope it was
just a " bad day " for YOU..!!!
That "disrespectful vet " you " complain about has
assisted MANY here with computer help, financially, morally, and
with the authorities in getting rid of fakes in both
civilian and vet groups..
and you complain because his humor is " gruff "..
Sorry, but you are way off the mark
right on, Candy
maybe HER " questioning" should have been a bit more " respectful."
If I had it I'd put that dogs number on my speed dial
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| 12/31/2012 1:51:30 PM |
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blackribbon
Royal Oak, MI
51, joined Dec. 2012
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What are you two, the Bobsey twins? I'm quite sure that DigitalDog was not damaged in the least by my questioning whether or not he was a widower. He claims to like intelligent women who can think for themselves...so I'm thinking he doesn't need you fighting his (extremely minor) battles for him and he will survive my comments. He was rude to me. Plain and simple. The post I took issue with made lite of the real pain that the widows and widowers of this particular thread were sharing. His response was a hash, personal attack on me. That is all I have to judge him on. And you know what, I've also survived much worse than his rudeness and really don't care as much as you seem to. I just kind of expect more manners out of a military man. And I was honest about the book I was and am reading... and tried to lift the tension a little bit...and the picture I tried to attach would have helped. I have no doubt that DD is man enough to recognize what I am saying. I am not asking for an apology and don't expect one. I just ask that he doesn't use a thread like this one to express his anger toward someone else or make lite of our pain. (Man, how out of proportion can you ladies blow this?)
Now can we let this thread go back to the original topic and allow these people to continue to support OTHER WIDOWS AND WIDOWER through this painful time?
If you honestly feel the need to continue to harass me, start a new thread. If DD is the man you say he is, HE won't be joining in in your "trash the widow" party. Good grief.
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| 12/31/2012 2:17:19 PM |
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birdie915
Beaver Dam, WI
60, joined Jan. 2012
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Back to the original question...no, never easier. It is tough getting through the holidays with no one to share the joy or talk to who is special.
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| 12/31/2012 2:24:40 PM |
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blackribbon
Royal Oak, MI
51, joined Dec. 2012
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I find it "easier" in the same way that if you put on an overloaded backpack, you might initially buckle under its weight until you built up your strength to carry it. It is still heavy though..you just get more competent at carrying it. Holidays still are particularly hard.
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| 12/31/2012 4:41:58 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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right on, Candy
maybe HER " questioning" should have been a bit more " respectful."
If I had it I'd put that dogs number on my speed dial
You are not 63. No way. 
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| 12/31/2012 7:13:03 PM |
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nana8035
Buffalo, NY
72, joined Jan. 2012
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GYPSY: My husband has been gone for 1yr 4 mos. The Holidays are awful. This second Christmas was depressing. You expect to see your loved one sitting next to you for Dinner. One day a a time they tell me. I'll try. Hang in there
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| 1/5/2013 11:02:12 AM |
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wowithurts
Louisville, OH
50, joined Oct. 2012
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I just want to know if it gets easier with time and being with someone?
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