mannfredman
Dothan, AL
55, joined Feb. 2013
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Love doesn't exclude lust, just the opposite: if you don't lust for her, chances are you don't love her. And lust may lead to love.
If you still feel attracted when your lust is satisfied, then it's love. Most people confuse lust with love; the difference is that while lust is self-serving love is unlimited and unselfish..
IS IT LUST OR WHAT OR WHAT?
So how can you tell the difference between lust and love? Here are a few tips to help you sort things out.
It's lust if: ...... YOU'RE TOTALLY FOCUSED ON HIS/HER LOOKS and BODY
Even before you know her name, you're already fantasizing about what she looks like naked and what it would be like to have sex with her.
YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING HE/SHE HAS TO SAY
It wouldn't make a difference to you if you never had a conversation with HIM/HER. Furthermore, you don't bother to return her calls promptly and you can easily go for days without talking to her -- until you get horny again.
YOU ONLY WANT ONLY WANT TO BE WITH HIM/HER TO HAVE SEX
You make excuses not to spend time with HIM/HER, except for sex. And if HE/SHE asks you for a favor, you tell her you're too busy. But if you have to be with her and not have sex, she gets on your nerves and you find yourself fantasizing about other women.
SHE's YOUR BOOTY CALL
After you go out trolling for tail with your buddies on Friday night, you then call her at 1 a.m. for some drunken action. Ah, the booty call.
You leave after sex. After having sex with her, you look for the easiest way to leave. No cuddling, no breakfast the next morning, just "I gotta go."
YOU HAVE GREAT CHEMISTRY
You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You're more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.
YOU FIND HIM/HER BEAUTIFUL
Even if you catch her with no makeup on and her hair pulled back while she's unclogging a toilet, she still looks beautiful to you.
YOU WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH HIM/HER
All you want to do is to be with her, whether you're having sex or not. Even if she tells you that sex will have to wait, you don't care.
YOU SEE a FUTURE TOGETHER
You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be The One, and you're even thinking about marrying her.
YOU INTRODUCE HER TO YOUR FAMILY
It becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.
YOU INCLUDE HER IN ALL YOUR PLANS
Whether you're going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you. And if she's not there, you can't get her off your mind and sneak off to give her a quick "I miss you" phone call. Of course, you don't tell your buddies.
YOU ARE MORE ROMANTIC
All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of her. You send her flowers and love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.
YOU ALWAYS TAKE HER SIDE
If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.
- She makes you want to be a better man
- She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you'd do anything to make her happy.
When it is love, you catch yourself thinking about how much fun you have with that person and when it is lust you catch yourself thinking about their body.
ADDITIONAL OPINIONS:
LOVE  - is when you care about someone more than you care about yourself.
LUST - is when you want to sleep with them.
INFATUATION
Is when you can't stop thinking about someone, and you desperately want to spend as much time with them as possible. Usually when you aren't sure if it's love or lust, it's really infatuation.....It's possible to love someone, lust for someone, and to be infatuated with someone all at the same time.
YOU KNOW THAT ITS LOVE WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE SEX TO FEEL CONNECTED TO THE PERSON. YOU FEEL COMPLETE AND HAPPY JUST HOLDING HANDS OR TALKING WITH THEM AND WHEN YOU DO HAVE PHYSICAL CONTACT AN EXPLOSION TAKES PLACE EACH TIME WITH A FRESH AND NEW FEELING EVERY TIME. LUST IS A QUICK SATISFYING FEELING THAT QUICKLY GOES AWAY AFTER ALL IS SAID AND DONE!
Love is when you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, despite their weaknesses.Lust is a strong sexual attraction usually based on physical appearance. Once that physical desire ends, your interest in them may also end."Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind" --William Shakespeare Mid-Summer's Night Dream.
If you love being in their presence even when nothing sexual is involved. I think that if you are with a person that you truly are in love with, lust is a natural thing that comes with it.
Ask yourself, "If I could never have sex with this person for my whole life, would i still love this person?" Think about it.
It's love when you rejoice for your partner's happiness, even if that means being away from you. It's lust when you rejoice for being together, even at the cost of your partner's happiness. Usually, we are somewhere in between.
The KEY to true Love and Romance are not like recipes that you can use for that perfect relationship. That Key is unique to every couple and relates to their social cultures and values. Almost every human relationship has its ups and downs. When people can focus on the important and valuable stuff that makes it all worthwhile, rather than curse the stuff that causes pain then they are on the way to finding true Love.
When the two of you have no problems in committing yourselves to freely demonstrate such qualities as compassion, respect, compromise and dependability, then you may have found true LOVE.
If you love someone, you look forward every morning to waking up to seeing their face, and you genuinely care about what they have to think and say. Lust is seeing the person only for their physical attributions, and although you feel a strong attraction to them, you really don't care what they have to say or think.
LOVE is when u cant see ur self wit no one else when she is beautiful not sexy and just cute when u talked to her about nothing for hours and think is cute love is u make plans wit her in YOUR future
LUST is when u look at her and say damn she sexy i just wanna have sex with her.
Be honest with yourself. If you have been extremely lonely and vulnerable, and asking yourself why it is you cannot find anyone. It could very well be lust and Infatuation and these feelings are often mistaken for love. Look at yourself and determine what it is you are seeking or you may risk painful heartbreak in a very short time.
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daniel3098
Virginia Beach, VA
40, joined Mar. 2013
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i lust her then i love her!
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mannfredman
Dothan, AL
55, joined Feb. 2013
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i lust her then i love her!
YOU LUST HER - Many are in lust and mistake it for love. When the spark of infatuation and sex and fun are superficial and then becomes routine and reality hits. The work begins to continue making it work.
Many people move on to the next hoping it will be better next time around.
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mannfredman
Dothan, AL
55, joined Feb. 2013
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YOU LUST HER - Many are in lust and mistake it for love. When the spark of infatuation and sex and fun are superficial and then becomes routine and reality hits. The work begins to continue making it work.
Many people move on to the next hoping it will be better next time around.
Take the sex away and for many, it ends. LOVE is not SEX and SEX is not LOVE. For many they end it when the sex becomes routine and is no longer exciting. Love means you will e with them period. I have seen many get in car wreaks and cannot have sex anymore. Then the partner leave. LOVE is NOT BASED ON SELF but this is how it is these days.
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