| 12/7/2013 5:28:57 PM |
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sjc68
Eldridge, MO
48, joined Sep. 2012
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You lose the one who was the love of your life and eventually find someone you dreamed would never come along. suddenly you find yourself falling in love with him. But you feel guilty about it. Is that normal?
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| 12/7/2013 5:37:53 PM |
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oakwinds
Troy, MO
65, joined Apr. 2007
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You lose the one who was the love of your life and eventually find someone you dreamed would never come along. suddenly you find yourself falling in love with him. But you feel guilty about it. Is that normal?
If your husband was as wonderful as you say, he would want you happy again. If others find fault with your relationship, I'm sorry. They will come around in time. Take care of yourself and your life. All of us in this room know how short life is. Be happy honey!
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| 12/7/2013 8:06:38 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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The first time I started talking to someone and being interested, I felt some guilt. It took awhile to get over that, and realize there was no reason to feel guilt. He has his place in my heart, but he moved over to let someone else be able to get in.
When I realized that, the guilt went away.
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| 12/17/2013 12:46:37 PM |
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moonbeams73
Grand Rapids, MN
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Why should anyone feel guilty for moving forward in life? No one can live in the past. That's done and over with. Moving on isn't disrespectful. It's healthy and essential.
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| 12/17/2013 2:05:42 PM |
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103tl1
Nesbit, MS
67, joined Jul. 2011
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"As long as you both shall live" was our vow. She is no longer alive. She still lives in my heart and always will but we fulfilled our vows to each other. She would not wish for me to continue to be alone as I would not have wished the same for her.
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| 12/26/2013 1:51:45 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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The first time I started talking to someone and being interested, I felt some guilt. It took awhile to get over that, and realize there was no reason to feel guilt. He has his place in my heart, but he moved over to let someone else be able to get in.
When I realized that, the guilt went away.
^^^^ I love your responses...so wise...are you a grief counselor?
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| 12/27/2013 11:04:54 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Feeling guilty for being alive is not normal.
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| 12/28/2013 3:50:26 PM |
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qlindar
Paradise, CA
65, joined Nov. 2013
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IMHO the grief process has different stages; we all will go through them but in different sequences and in different intensities. If we try to skip over some, they will pop up later down the road. And sometimes an experience will bring up some feelings or emotions that we thought we had come to terms with. I would hope that going forward and living life would be a tribute to those who have gone before us as to me it means I'm not stuck in the past.
Linda
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| 1/5/2014 6:21:28 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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I totally disagree...we all went through or are going through the "process" and I for one went through this phase also. So YES it is normal. 
You have a right to disagree, sir.
And I have a right to express my own opinion as I see fit.
These posts are, after all, only each individual's opinion.
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| 1/14/2014 9:23:23 AM |
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snakepond
Somerset, KY
53, joined May. 2010
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A dear older widow friend who has had 2 husbands to die. Told me it is like having children.
That first child has never done anything to make you love less or make that love go away but you have more children.
Your heart just grows more love for each child.
That is what I think of my late husband. I loved him and still do with all my heart.
BUT my heart is ready to grow more love for another man if God sees fit.
Why should my love die for a man that has never done anything to make me stop?
Why should my love not grow for a man who would cherish the my love?
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| 1/14/2014 9:46:58 AM |
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notthesamecat
Keller, TX
29, joined Dec. 2013
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Feeling guilty for being alive is not normal.
Survivor guilt is common enough to be taught in counseling classes and psychology.
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| 1/14/2014 9:53:42 AM |
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snakepond
Somerset, KY
53, joined May. 2010
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Survivor guilt is common enough to be taught in counseling classes and psychology.
I agree....soldiers have to deal with it everyday.
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