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rammstein1984
Utica, OH
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Thats actually pretty common.. We have a private group here to share learning, ideas, concerns and share experiences. The Master is very loving and caring to those of us that wish to advace in our experience. He will take a potential sub and place her under protection till a prospective Doms intentions are known..
Yes a house. I myself though was never trained. But my sub is very experienced. She knows good from bad and has been my guide. So far she says I'm a natural and feels that I'm the best she has had in a Domor master. II'm always learning day by day. She was trained years ago.
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quit_lukin
West Hollywood, CA
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Thats actually pretty common.. We have a private group here to share learning, ideas, concerns and share experiences. The Master is very loving and caring to those of us that wish to advace in our experience. He will take a potential sub and place her under protection till a prospective Doms intentions are known..
This Master is formally trained.
He is also my Master. 
He has always been open to helping people explore and grow. That is how He and I originally became friends. I never thought that from when He first placed me under His protection that I would be collared and owned by Him, but It was the best thing to ever happen. I've never felt so complete and content.
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jess_is_back
Jefferson City, MO
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My Luvbug  .. One of the strongest women I know.. Your Master has touch each of us. The first flag I had pertaining to a Dom, he wasted no time in approaching the individual.. He is a true caring man, one to be admired.
My Sir is less experienced than I and is very much a natural. I'm a defiant one and won't relinquish the control easily. Together it has had ups and downs. Hes proved to me Im safe in his hands. We are a new lifestyle couple.
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hounds_again
Atlanta, GA
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I can't wait
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quit_lukin
West Hollywood, CA
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Thanks luvbug. I admire your strength.
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rammstein1984
Utica, OH
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Im so glad I'm not alone on here
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
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Ok explain WTH bdsm is. Inquiring minds want to know
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rammstein1984
Utica, OH
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Ok explain WTH bdsm is. Inquiring minds want to know
BDSM is about bondage,discipline, dominance, submission, masochism sadism. Kink and fetish. Master and slave. Other dynamics can developed between people. its about trust and love. Pain and pleasure
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
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BDSM is about bondage,discipline, dominance, submission, masochism sadism. Kink and fetish. Master and slave. Other dynamics can developed between people. its about trust and love. Pain and pleasure
omg I'm out of here. Ok with a lower form of that. But I'd fight like hell
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rammstein1984
Utica, OH
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omg I'm out of here. Ok with a lower form of that. But I'd fight like hell
Fighting is fun 
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quit_lukin
West Hollywood, CA
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A D/s relationship is not just about sex.
There is a deeper bond because without total trust and open communication people can get hurt.
Its about giving your body and mind to someone who will take care and protect you.
Its about giving your power to someone who will take control and guide you to be all you can be.
A sub/slave/pet happily gives that up to their Master/Sir/Daddy because they crave pleasing them. Hearing the words good girl/boy is very powerful. The rewards you receive when you have pleased them is an indescribable feeling. And these are not always in a sexual nature.
This lifestyle is so much more then someone pulling your hair and spanking your ass. And it is something that nobody should enter until they really know what they are committing to.
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rammstein1984
Utica, OH
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A D/s relationship is not just about sex.
There is a deeper bond because without total trust and open communication people can get hurt.
Its about giving your body and mind to someone who will take care and protect you.
Its about giving your power to someone who will take control and guide you to be all you can be.
A sub/slave/pet happily gives that up to their Master/Sir/Daddy because they crave pleasing them. Hearing the words good girl/boy is very powerful. The rewards you receive when you have pleased them is an indescribable feeling. And these are not always in a sexual nature.
This lifestyle is so much more then someone pulling your hair and spanking your ass. And it is something that nobody should enter until they really know what they are committing to.
  
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jess_is_back
Jefferson City, MO
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Very well said luvbug ..
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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Thats actually pretty common.. We have a private group here to share learning, ideas, concerns and share experiences. The Master is very loving and caring to those of us that wish to advace in our experience. He will take a potential sub and place her under protection till a prospective Doms intentions are known..
It's not private it's called "Munch" I was part of Florida's Brevard Munch every state, every county has them & I'll tell you one thing about the Florida one. The male & female doms / subs & slaves are a joke there. They think they know what they are doing but it's just a acting job & a chance to be sl**ty. I didn't attend to long that's for sure. I had more people coming on to me with NO RESPECT for my boyfriend / wannabe Dom it was padethic. I mean they didn't even care that I was with him so those "Groups" are nothing but trouble. Especially in Brevard Country. "Quote Dom Princess Nala" . Short fat ********************
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stresscase
Ridgecrest, CA
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wow...
i hope this thread continues because i really, honestly, and sincerely would love to know how a person (male or female) can say "pain" and "pleasure" in the same sentence. i just don't get it... 
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passionetkisses
Seattle, WA
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I was a sub, oh how I loved it. I did what I was told, and I was a good pet. He gave me pleasure in pain, and his soft touch. He made me feel wanted, safe. It made me so happy to please him.
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jess_is_back
Jefferson City, MO
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It's not private it's called "Munch" I was part of Florida's Brevard Munch every state, every county has them & I'll tell you one thing about the Florida one. The male & female doms / subs & slaves are a joke there. They think they know what they are doing but it's just a acting job & a chance to be sl**ty. I didn't attend to long that's for sure. I had more people coming on to me with NO RESPECT for my boyfriend / wannabe Dom it was padethic. I mean they didn't even care that I was with him so those "Groups" are nothing but trouble. Especially in Brevard Country. "Quote Dom Princess Nala" . Short fat ********************
That I know.. I was referring to here on DH. I'd never attend one of the community events. Here we have people we trust and can confide in.
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rammstein1984
Utica, OH
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It's not private it's called "Munch" I was part of Florida's Brevard Munch every state, every county has them & I'll tell you one thing about the Florida one. The male & female doms / subs & slaves are a joke there. They think they know what they are doing but it's just a acting job & a chance to be sl**ty. I didn't attend to long that's for sure. I had more people coming on to me with NO RESPECT for my boyfriend / wannabe Dom it was padethic. I mean they didn't even care that I was with him so those "Groups" are nothing but trouble. Especially in Brevard Country. "Quote Dom Princess Nala" . Short fat ********************
My gf lives in Alabama. They have munches and a lot of the people there are really serious and professional. She enjoys them. End of this month I gave her permission to be in an educational spanking video. They will show techniques and address safety. I get to see her again in July. LDRs suck but its worth it to us.
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temptresslee16
Austin, TX
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OK I want peoples opinions on BDSM. Has anyone here ever been in one or are currently in one? If so what roll fits you? Myself, I am what you would call a Daddy Dom. I also am a sadist and have a chaotic Primal side. I know to those uneducated in this aspect a lotof what iI just said sounds horrible or confusing lol but for those of you who understand and are open please share your experiences
<--Femdom  just in the bedroom though.
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
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I am a pro Domina of almost 20 years who has practiced s&m since the age of 19 and has lived full time, 24/7 D/s and M/s for the last 15 years. I identify as a switch to the public, but am a slave to my Master and husband.
We're completely open about our lifestyle and very active in the local metro Detroit and SE Michigan BDSM communities. We run a kink event venue with a 1200 sq ft dungeon that hosts munches, parties, and classes.
Our household is poly, and Rebel and I currently have a woman under consideration to be collared to our house. We also own a slave male who's been collared to us for 4 years.
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bdragun27
Bremerton, WA
57, joined Nov. 2010
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I have been in the lifestyle for only a few year's.I identify as a Switch but as one evolves,so do their identities.I am active in the local community and supportive. BDSM,is not abuse,contrary to what most believe.If one has never tried this lifestyle,they have no right to cast their opinions.The play between two can be of the most sensual encounter one has ever seen or experienced.I have witnessed better relationships within the lifestyle than in Vanilla relationships.
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chris_90352
Sykesville, MD
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OK I want peoples opinions on BDSM. Has anyone here ever been in one or are currently in one?
Beats me.
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zhuzhugrl
Palm Bay, FL
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i'm a babygirl, never been to any of the munches here though.
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bdragun27
Bremerton, WA
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Munches are a great way to meet like minded people. Learn new interest or learn more about different techniques of your interest. Allows one to evolve.
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rhea27
Danbury, CT
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Quote from tracisasha12: I have never once lived the life I mean had hair pulling a** slapping an tied down type stuff but that's as far as it goes but 50 shades draws you in I've read the trilogy many many times so doesn't take that lifestyle to like the books...
******
I consider the 50 shades trilogy sort of romance novels with a (extreme) kinky edge.
I don't dig romance novels.... let alone any sort of extreme kink. I can't see how these books would draw anybody in that does'nt fantasize about (possibly unrealistic) "romance" and extreme kink.
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
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Quote from tracisasha12: I have never once lived the life I mean had hair pulling a** slapping an tied down type stuff but that's as far as it goes but 50 shades draws you in I've read the trilogy many many times so doesn't take that lifestyle to like the books...
******
I consider the 50 shades trilogy sort of romance novels with a (extreme) kinky edge.
I don't dig romance novels.... let alone any sort of extreme kink. I can't see how these books would draw anybody in that does'nt fantasize about (possibly unrealistic) "romance" and extreme kink.
"50 Shades" may be entertaining, but it's certainly NOT an accurate representation of a healthy D/s relationship. The one featured in the stories is a screwed up, co-dependent mess carried on by two emotionally impaired victims of past and present abuse. I shudder when i hear people say that's where their interest in BDSM originated.
The kink represented isn't considered "extreme" by most of us who are actually involved in the real-life BDSM lifestyle, however. The types of play represented are rather juvenile and overly sexualized, whereas most of the real time s&m community focuses more on bondage and s&m, not "slappy/spanky/sucky/f**ky".
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rhea27
Danbury, CT
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Quote from daneene: "50 Shades" may be entertaining, but it's certainly NOT an accurate representation of a healthy D/s relationship. The one featured in the stories is a screwed up, co-dependent mess carried on by two emotionally impaired victims of past and present abuse. I shudder when i hear people say that's where their interest in BDSM originated.
The kink represented isn't considered "extreme" by most of us who are actually involved in the real-life BDSM lifestyle, however. The types of play represented are rather juvenile and overly sexualized, whereas most of the real time s&m community focuses more on bondage and s&m, not "slappy/spanky/sucky/f**ky".
******
Understood.
My point was that I dont understand how someone that's not into the BDSM or anything even remotely like it, would find these novels interesting.
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
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Quote from daneene: "50 Shades" may be entertaining, but it's certainly NOT an accurate representation of a healthy D/s relationship. The one featured in the stories is a screwed up, co-dependent mess carried on by two emotionally impaired victims of past and present abuse. I shudder when i hear people say that's where their interest in BDSM originated.
The kink represented isn't considered "extreme" by most of us who are actually involved in the real-life BDSM lifestyle, however. The types of play represented are rather juvenile and overly sexualized, whereas most of the real time s&m community focuses more on bondage and s&m, not "slappy/spanky/sucky/f**ky".
******
Understood.
My point was that I dont understand how someone that's not into the BDSM or anything even remotely like it, would find these novels interesting.
I think it's because many people would LIKE to have the courage to try some of the activities represented in the books, or delve even more deeply into the fetish world, but they don't. Instead, they live vicariously through these books and movies that feature BDSM in a watered-down more palatable version made to titillate the vanilla masses.
That way, they can have their taste of kink, but maintain their lily-white consciences.
I guess they'd like to believe that God doesn't know what they're THINKING, only what they're DOING. Interesting theory.
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naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
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I have problems reading any "fantasy" novels be it sci-fi or whatever.
I am a dreamer and got my own dreams and fantasy stiring in my own head...
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
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I have problems reading any "fantasy" novels be it sci-fi or whatever.
I am a dreamer and got my own dreams and fantasy stiring in my own head...
I don't know about yours, nature, but mine are always much more entertaining and colorful than anything I find elsewhere.
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naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
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I don't know about yours, nature, but mine are always much more entertaining and colorful than anything I find elsewhere.
I enjoy my imagination, and being able to turn fantasy into reality is one of the truest spices of life
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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I was a sub, oh how I loved it. I did what I was told, and I was a good pet. He gave me pleasure in pain, and his soft touch. He made me feel wanted, safe. It made me so happy to please him.
I can't speak for all subs but "ALL SUBMISSIVES ARE NOT PET'S " !!!!!!!!!
WE ARE NOT ANIMALS WE ARE REAL PEOPLE AND I TAKE THAT AS A PERSONAL INSULT, ESPECIALLY SINCE I'VE BEEN IN THE LIFESTYLE FOR OVER 20 YEARS !!! 
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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wow...
i hope this thread continues because i really, honestly, and sincerely would love to know how a person (male or female) can say "pain" and "pleasure" in the same sentence. i just don't get it...
Pleasurable Pain
I'm not into the hardcore stuff but a little spanking on the butt, playing with a flogger or cuffs never hurt anyone.
And what's wrong with OBEYING your man ???
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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Beats me.
Your vanilla
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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I enjoy my imagination, and being able to turn fantasy into reality is one of the truest spices of life
Dude live alittle. Your 38. Try new things with your partner, spice things up alittle, you won't regret it, TRUST ME !!!!
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american_ghost
Chicago, IL
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im a dom. but im not very good at it or i wouldnt be HERE!
I never thought of myself as a "sadist" but actually that's what i am also, although i dont EVER get into heavy-duty stuff.
Kinda...not good enough to be good and not bad enough to be considered exciting, badass.
In betwixt and between.
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naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
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Dude live alittle. Your 38. Try new things with your partner, spice things up alittle, you won't regret it, TRUST ME !!!!
I am alive and well
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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Well that sounds exciting
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
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Listen starbrena, you may have been "in the lifestyle" for 20 years, but you have a LOT to learn, and spreading misinformation makes you look bad.
A "pet" is a very accepted subdivision of a submissive lifestyle that is chosen by the submissive and the Dominant in the relationship. There is a whole (and very popular) fetish devoted to it.
It's not up to you to decide what's appropriate in someone else's D/s relationship.
Also, you just come in and post in reply to people's comments without doing any backwork into the conversation, and you do it OFTEN. Nature is ALREADY alive and living his fantasies. We were discussing how a series of books didn't give us the same level of excitement as that IN OUR MINDS. Your comment made absolutely ZERO sense.
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jess_is_back
Jefferson City, MO
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Well said.. One thing I've found to be true is people actually in the lifestyle are not judgmental of others preferences. None or right or wrong and no one has the right to dictate that. Thats the beauty of the the lifestyle we are free to be ourselves in our relationships dynamics. There are many names that aren't to my liking, but its not my place to condemn others for theirs. None of us knows all about the lifestyle regardless of how long we have taken part. Its complete individuality and we aren't in the minds of others.
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
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Key words: "actually in the lifestyle". I caught on to this when she went on her rant about munches, saying they were an excuse for people to "act slutty". Munches are held at public vanilla eateries, and any "slutty" or remotely sexual behavior wouldn't be tolerated because the entire GROUP would stand to be removed from the place and lose it's ability to meet there again. Those of us who actually ARE lifestyle know better.
Sharing knowledge is great. Shoving BS down people's throats is another matter.
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american_ghost
Chicago, IL
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"It's not up to you to decide what's appropriate in someone else's D/s relationship."
It's not up to YOU either.
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american_ghost
Chicago, IL
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....i have this irresistible urge to spray this entire thread with a whole got dam tanker full of got dam nasty old ghost-nut!!
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safeamerica
Lexington, KY
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I know what you mean. I know if some who get to rough or don't respect boundries . but I'm very cautious of my partner.. I pay close attention to their body language... In BDSM no doesn't mean stop. Its more of a challenge. But as soon as the safe word or sign is given. I stop and i comfort. I never intend to injurevor cause unwanted pain.
Sounds like he is talking,about punching the deformed man's bladder,that was not created to be punched by a penis.Or rectum-Unnaturalness,nothing good comes from it.Will only kill,harm and infect germs and sperm that will cause Aids-no cleaning system-etc..........
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american_ghost
Chicago, IL
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Key words: "actually in the lifestyle". I caught on to this when she went on her rant about munches, saying they were an excuse for people to "act slutty". Munches are held at public vanilla eateries, and any "slutty" or remotely sexual behavior wouldn't be tolerated because the entire GROUP would stand to be removed from the place and lose it's ability to meet there again. Those of us who actually ARE lifestyle know better.
Sharing knowledge is great. Shoving BS down people's throats is another matter.
Im going to apologize to Daneene. It's really none of my business.
Nothing against the other gal either. but i was being a dufus and over-reacted (not unusual for me)
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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Listen starbrena, you may have been "in the lifestyle" for 20 years, but you have a LOT to learn, and spreading misinformation makes you look bad.
A "pet" is a very accepted subdivision of a submissive lifestyle that is chosen by the submissive and the Dominant in the relationship. There is a whole (and very popular) fetish devoted to it.
It's not up to you to decide what's appropriate in someone else's D/s relationship.
Also, you just come in and post in reply to people's comments without doing any backwork into the conversation, and you do it OFTEN. Nature is ALREADY alive and living his fantasies. We were discussing how a series of books didn't give us the same level of excitement as that IN OUR MINDS. Your comment made absolutely ZERO sense.
I'm sorry but I disagree. I was taught certain ways by a very well trained Master. He wasn't mine but I learned everything from him including that. Maybe it's a East Coast thing.
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starbrena1970
Boston, MA
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Key words: "actually in the lifestyle". I caught on to this when she went on her rant about munches, saying they were an excuse for people to "act slutty". Munches are held at public vanilla eateries, and any "slutty" or remotely sexual behavior wouldn't be tolerated because the entire GROUP would stand to be removed from the place and lose it's ability to meet there again. Those of us who actually ARE lifestyle know better.
Sharing knowledge is great. Shoving BS down people's throats is another matter.
Well if you ever go to Melbourne, Florida check out the Much at Hot Flicks & you'll see what I mean by slutty. They don't have sex but close enough to it.
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sweetmama117
Bronx, NY
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No offense... But its more like 50 shades of bullshit. Lol they make it out that ppl have mental or emotional trauma to do this type of stuff. Its not true . christian gray is not the face of BDSM lol
None taken, but it was entertaining. And when I read the story of O back
in the 80ies it spark my curiosity, I was a hair stylist and two of my
co-workers were into this life style one was hard core, and I would have
long conversation on the subject. Both had different reasons on why they
enjoy it. I have a new found friend he's from Florida and we also have
long conversations and we go on sites that sell toys of that nature and
he be witch one I want. And I most say I get excited and feel like a kid in
a candy store. But for some reason I never physically tried it. Maybe
cause I don't like pain. Should the opportunity arrive I'll be Dom
oops got to go the door.
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hounds_again
Atlanta, GA
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cPJAEbOe5kU&feature=youtube_gdata_player
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
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None taken, but it was entertaining. And when I read the story of O back
in the 80ies it spark my curiosity, I was a hair stylist and two of my
co-workers were into this life style one was hard core, and I would have
long conversation on the subject. Both had different reasons on why they
enjoy it. I have a new found friend he's from Florida and we also have
long conversations and we go on sites that sell toys of that nature and
he be witch one I want. And I most say I get excited and feel like a kid in
a candy store. But for some reason I never physically tried it. Maybe
cause I don't like pain. Should the opportunity arrive I'll be Dom
oops got to go the door.
Not everything about BDSM has to do with pain. Domination and submission relationships don't have to have ANYTHING AT ALL to do with pain. That is is up to the people who are in each individual relationship.
D/s relationships are based on trust, honesty, integrity, respect, control, and selflessness, not necessarily s&m.
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xxxtammi1979xxx
Clarkson, KY
38, joined Mar. 2014
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I have been into bondage for years. I have served as a sub and a slave. Safe words are a must. You must also trust the other person in this type of life style.
I chose to be a sub because i have always been submissive in the bedroom and sometimes outside of the bedroom. I have had some bad experiences but more good ones though while playing this role. I wouldn't change it for anything.
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rick0123
Salt Lake City, UT
31, joined Jan. 2012
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Reminds me of that scene in The Wolf of Wall Street where Dicaprio gets candle wax on his back and he says his safe word and Venice says she does not care about his safe word. Lol
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powerswitch
Anderson, SC
25, joined Nov. 2013
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*hides a bunch of restraints under a large blanket*
Huh? Bdsm? You're a bunch of heathens, who have no respect for women!
Fun occurrence: when you meet a woman who considers herself dominant...but you're a man--not just any man, but a man who can show her that you're the one in control. No matter how much she struggles and tries, you can calmly exert enough power to control her body as you wish.
Much more fun than the boring subs that just do whatever.
You, sir, are a keeper.
I think the relationship's better if two doms clash.
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sassypants760
San Marcos, CA
42, joined Feb. 2014
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Not everything about BDSM has to do with pain. Domination and submission relationships don't have to have ANYTHING AT ALL to do with pain. That is is up to the people who are in each individual relationship.
D/s relationships are based on trust, honesty, integrity, respect, control, and selflessness, not necessarily s&m.
I love everything this chick posts
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rick0123
Salt Lake City, UT
31, joined Jan. 2012
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What if you are into BDSM but you are in love with a person who is not into BDSM?
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lovetodoit
Buffalo, MO
61, joined Sep. 2011
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I used a big paint stirrer on two different chicks smack dat a** they loved it and came ....... back for more .
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doobie57z2
Hurley, WI
59, joined Feb. 2014
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Im evolving, but Ive learned I catch nothing but crap if I try to label a woman,lol. I have a dominant personality, and a respectful woman with a submissive attitude about her is incredibly attractive to me. Its just the last few years Ive been learning to build on that aspect of our natures. Its been a very interesting time. I found to try and train a bottom as a sub is heartbreaking, nobody is happy. Ive found women who want to submit sexually, then take control back as they leave, which is awesome, until somebody gets feelings...
All in all I find newer D/s relationships to move fast, get very intense, very soon.
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doobie57z2
Hurley, WI
59, joined Feb. 2014
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I interact with a sub now who is married. I have been approached a few times by couple to control and dominate the wife in play, with hubby present. I havent worked one of those out yet, but hope to soon...interested?
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powerswitch
Anderson, SC
25, joined Nov. 2013
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What if you are into BDSM but you are in love with a person who is not into BDSM?
Bdsm is a large spectrum of different activities. Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. What exactly are you into and have you tried warming her onto the idea or just come out with it?
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