| 7/9/2014 2:30:37 AM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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Just a question...
I've been out of the dating world since 1992... And many things have changed. I would have "put up with" a lot back then, but now... I'm too old for the drama and BS.
I have been speaking to a "gentleman" since late December of '13. Given him my # after a few months, but he refused, saying "not until after we met in person", for a while I went along with it. Only using messengers and email. We'd lose touch.. (I'd get tired if waiting and making first contact).
Here lately, as with every few months we reconnect and have great texting/email conversations.. But only from 10pm-3am. He set a date to meet... Then disappeared yet again.
I'm very clear as to what I'm looking for, want and can offer. I honestly think he's married now. I mean, seriously, not a single phone call, text message... Sorry but I'm finally calling BS. Am I wrong in deciding that enough is enough? I mean 
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| 7/9/2014 2:39:00 AM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
67, joined Aug. 2011
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sounds like he is married or in a relationship 
Sorry, but for me. sounds like way too many RED FLAGS 
In 6 mos of this going on....hmmm...think I would say bye and next JMO
[Edited 7/9/2014 2:39:25 AM ]
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| 7/9/2014 1:27:08 PM |
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widowedand61
Deltona, FL
64, joined May. 2014
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To old to play games or just to type you do not like.
I do not like playing head games.
It appears that the person is playing head games or is not willing to give up on the last love of his life.
Do not put all your hope on only one man there are a lot of good men who has lost there love for life who are not playing head games out here.
KEEP LOOKING
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| 7/9/2014 2:01:53 PM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
66, joined Sep. 2011
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Ding, what took you so long????? RUN. Good Luck
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| 7/9/2014 7:37:21 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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Thank y'all so much. I guess I had hope, but yeah... Chance after chance... I KNOW I deserve better.
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| 7/26/2014 6:03:27 PM |
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peachy1954
Sacramento, CA
63, joined Oct. 2010
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I found that some people are satisfied with just getting emails and texts. I don't know if it is a delusion or a fantasy that you are the spouse they lost talking to them or they are just truly that selfish but if someone does not anti up with and in person meet, even if the distance is a factor after a 3-6 months, at the very most a year, then they are just pretending. Yea it is a major thing to shift your life long distance , something I would take very seriously ; even do as a test run to be sure but too many people use the distance as a cover when an airline ticket is not that overwhelming if someone really wants to have a relationship with YOU.
The dark thirty timing always makes me suspicious. It is easy to pretend to be playing cards on the computer if the wife walks in and so many wives are fine with having a spouse out of their hair that they don't care if they are having an online romance.
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| 7/26/2014 7:44:49 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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| 7/26/2014 9:10:23 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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I truly don't want to "play" anymore. There are many "gentlemen" that like this whole texting, messaging and emailing relationship.
I want more, need more, hope for more. Starting out that way is great. You can really get to know someone, but truly after a while, graduating to physical conversation, phone calls, would be nice and a step forward.
How long do you wait for a voice to voice conversation?
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| 8/2/2014 10:32:00 AM |
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tasgosa
Knob Noster, MO
62, joined Jul. 2013
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As MOST women will say...before ANYTHING else....:
"No Games...No Drama...No Lies!!!"
Find someone that is Open, Honest and Aggressively looking to MEET...!!!
Sooner-the-Better!!!
If I had the 'disposable income', I'd be travelling a LOT more than I do...!!!
....and...
...would've been ~Off-the-Market~ a L o n g Time Ago...!!!
Let's talk..!!!
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| 8/4/2014 2:03:03 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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Just a question...
I've been out of the dating world since 1992... And many things have changed. I would have "put up with" a lot back then, but now... I'm too old for the drama and BS.
I have been speaking to a "gentleman" since late December of '13. Given him my # after a few months, but he refused, saying "not until after we met in person", for a while I went along with it. Only using messengers and email. We'd lose touch.. (I'd get tired if waiting and making first contact).
Here lately, as with every few months we reconnect and have great texting/email conversations.. But only from 10pm-3am. He set a date to meet... Then disappeared yet again.
I'm very clear as to what I'm looking for, want and can offer. I honestly think he's married now. I mean, seriously, not a single phone call, text message... Sorry but I'm finally calling BS. Am I wrong in deciding that enough is enough? I mean
I'm tired of playing games with men too. I am divorced but it's still not easy. And I keep finding all the players. Last guy I dated wasn't a player but was a horrible parent and provider and was just flat out lazy and put me on a pedestal above anything and everything and it got old. I just want a relationship, a normal one! I think it's impossible to find over 40, I really do!!! 
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| 8/4/2014 2:06:53 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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I truly don't want to "play" anymore. There are many "gentlemen" that like this whole texting, messaging and emailing relationship.
I want more, need more, hope for more. Starting out that way is great. You can really get to know someone, but truly after a while, graduating to physical conversation, phone calls, would be nice and a step forward.
How long do you wait for a voice to voice conversation?
I talked to one guy via text for 3 months one time and we only met and actually saw one another in person 3x during that 3 months! And two of those times he had to have his 12 yr old daughter with him and his niece and we couldn't even talk they were so loud and nosey. Then one night on our last date the girls had gone to bed after he fixed a big dinner and he jumped me and forced himself on me.  I told him a few days later that we were not looking for the same thing and never talked to him again. Needless to say, he didn't care!
Then I dated a guy who ended up still being married and I had no idea and he would lose his cell phone, get new numbers all the time claiming different excuses for that and he lied about every.single.thing. Then another guy I dated would blatantly ignore me for days on end and then say I was psycho for expecting to have a little more contact than that every couple days or so and we dated for a year and a half! He would also delete my "sweet love" posts from his Facebook wall and then claim he never saw them and that I was lying about posting them. PSYCHOS!! Most men fall in to the psycho category at my age.
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| 8/5/2014 1:52:36 AM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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It's sad really. I know I'm a good person. A fantastic mom, the best new gramma and I know all these great things about me that I'm so willing to share now.
This whole dating thing sucks. I'm not going to lie. I mean, seriously in 22 years this is totally different.
I've got a pretty good guy, do far so good, but again.. Text only. No phone call, and like you, every so often. I deserve better damn it.
I just don't know anymore... I truly don't.
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| 8/5/2014 4:18:45 PM |
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heart_and_soul2
Sarasota, FL
59, joined Dec. 2013
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^^^
It is completely different now. It seems like many cannot make up their minds what they want. Like you, I have much to offer--but feels as if no one sees it or appreciates it.
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| 8/5/2014 8:41:25 PM |
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whistlerblue
Lancaster, CA
59, joined Jun. 2010
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^^^
It is completely different now. It seems like many cannot make up their minds what they want. Like you, I have much to offer--but feels as if no one sees it or appreciates it.
I heartily agree. Dating in my 50's is much different than dating in my 20's. I am not the same person at 56 that I was at 25. I have much more life experiences, including a very happy marriage for 26 years. At 25, I had my whole life ahead of me. At 56, most of my life is behind me. I have a different point of view on life. I probably won't be head over heels over anyone again but I may find someone who will accept me the way I am as I will have to accept her for who she is and all of her life experiences.
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| 8/5/2014 11:22:49 PM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
67, joined Aug. 2011
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Nice posts Whistler. I feel the same  
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| 8/22/2014 7:58:55 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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Well, I'm still just baffled. I've been talking to a guy... Texting, Skype..and Messaging here, but I've noticed he'd rather be on here than actually talking to me. It's pretty disheartening.
Men are constantly saying they want "a good hearted, fun to be with, real woman".... But honestly a POA is the truth. Just be honest.. Be honest with me and mostly YOURSELF!!
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| 8/23/2014 6:00:52 AM |
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melissagn1974
Muldrow, OK
43, joined May. 2012
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I'm sick to death of the pervs. No I don't want to send out naked pics. No I don't care what size you are. How about show me the size of your brain and REALLY impress me. It's sad when you get to the point you'd rather be ignored than harassed. 
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| 8/23/2014 11:44:41 AM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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Isn't that the truth!!
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| 8/23/2014 7:28:37 PM |
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digitaldog
Grove, OK
68, joined Dec. 2010
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Well, I'm still just baffled. I've been talking to a guy... Texting, Skype..and Messaging here, but I've noticed he'd rather be on here than actually talking to me. It's pretty disheartening.
Men are constantly saying they want "a good hearted, fun to be with, real woman".... But honestly a POA is the truth. Just be honest.. Be honest with me and mostly YOURSELF!
Jeepers Ms sensuousnsassy , 
You promised not to tell on me 
and now you sound EXACTLY 
like any one of my five ex-wives..
Are you sure you aint one of em 
trying to trick me 
into taking you back..?? 
 -XoXoXoX-
 Please send me money and
 
 Digital Dog
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| 8/24/2014 6:56:07 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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Brilliant Digital!!
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| 8/24/2014 8:08:40 PM |
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digitaldog
Grove, OK
68, joined Dec. 2010
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Brilliant Digital!!
My Dear Ms. sensuousnsassy,
You do seem to retain
one of the main qualities in a female
that I personally appreciate.........
And that is their
tolerance....!!!. . . 
Cause no matter how many times I've
aggravated ANY of my ex's or girlfriends,
ruined a dinner date, 
or stinked up the house..
NONE of them gals ever did shoot me..
Now THAT is sooooommmeee tolerance..
( more then I have for ANYone ) 
Now enough of this wish-washy girly c r a p....!!
Cause.............
me and my pals
are busy searchin for a hot lil b i t c h..
-XoXoXoX-
And ALL my friends....
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| 8/24/2014 11:03:30 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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Digital, you seriously just made my night!!!
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| 8/25/2014 3:50:35 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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sensuous, just give it up with the guy. He must be married. If he'd wanted to get serious with you he would have done so. He's just playing. Don't waste your time on him.
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| 8/25/2014 11:19:02 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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sounds like he is married or in a relationship
Sorry, but for me. sounds like way too many RED FLAGS
In 6 mos of this going on....hmmm...think I would say bye and next JMO
BINGO!
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| 8/26/2014 10:40:02 AM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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I am able to see now a lot of red flags. I know I was hoping I was wrong. I understand being busy with work, children, everything else that comes with being a widowed parent or single parent.
But, you know make the effort to make a phone call or a text message. It's ALL or NOTHING with these guys. I mean, I miss a physical relationship as much as the next person, but I have too much self-respect to put out on the first date, or the second, or the third.
Maybe I see dating, the way I did back in 1992, when I was 18... It's insanely different, but my morals and values are the same.
But, I do agree... If you're not available for "normal" phone calls and texts, you're hiding something.
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| 8/26/2014 10:11:44 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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It's sad really. I know I'm a good person. A fantastic mom, the best new gramma and I know all these great things about me that I'm so willing to share now.
This whole dating thing sucks. I'm not going to lie. I mean, seriously in 22 years this is totally different.
I've got a pretty good guy, do far so good, but again.. Text only. No phone call, and like you, every so often. I deserve better damn it.
I just don't know anymore... I truly don't.
He can't really be that good of a guy. Don't complain just get rid of him, stop playing the game there are some nice men out there.
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| 8/26/2014 10:20:35 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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He can't really be that good of a guy. Don't complain just get rid of him, stop playing the game there are some nice men out there.
I've done exactly that!! Sad but true, hope he finds what he's looking for.
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| 8/27/2014 4:52:18 AM |
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sweetate2
Albion, IN
67, joined Jul. 2013
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Not a widow but was reading this thread and it is so right on... Doesn't matter if your divorced or widowed the same is true.. Too many just want games it seems...
OP good luck...all the men are not like this one.....there are some that are hunting for that same love you are seeking....I hope you find him and it
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| 8/27/2014 4:45:56 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
43, joined Jun. 2014
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OP good luck...all the men are not like this one.....there are some that are hunting for that same love you are seeking....I hope you find him and it
Thank you sweet!!
There has to be a man out there worth all this aggravation. The men I seem to be attracting, and NOT sure why...are those that want a "playmate, FWB or a bed warmer."
A message I got today... I don't want to come off creepy or weird. But if you'd like to play, I'm game. It's gotten lonely while waiting for Mrs. Right, in the mean time let's have fun.
I refuse to be a Ms. Right Now... Grrrr
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