I'm not trying to nit pick and I obviously have good reason to be ruined beyond repair, but hoping for their downfall takes a lot of energy and negative emotion. Even though I was straight up abandoned by somebody I stuck with, I don't wish for her downfall. I hope she's ok. I'm damaged goods for the rest of my life because of the what but I don't hold it against her because of the why. I think the best thing anybody can so for themselves is first figure out if trying to find somebody is even worth it. If you determine it is, just do your best to really prequalify somebody before you develop feelings of long term love. Once you feel that love, it's hard to go back, even after they abandon you. Do your best to only feel love for people who deserve it. We look at a lot of outward things when we develop our emotions and it is now common practice to "fake it till you make it" with attitudes and it only results in us falling in love with the persona somebody let us see and not how they really are. Their own unwillingness to look internally constantly ruins other people but the people that do this don't really realize because deep down they really only care about themselves an only to the point of how others perceive them. If they truly cared about themselves they would seek validation in other forms than just approval from attracted people. And also as somebody who has had a difficult time forgiving people, it just wears you out to hope things go bad for somebody else.

^^^ why would you give someone the power to "ruin" you? No you allow yourself to feel ruined. You play victim instead of being a survivor and overcoming painful memories. You can choose to wallow in self pity, hating everyone or you can move forward and do something positive for yourself. One step at a time, remove the negativity or wallow in it and keep attracting more negativity but either way quit b*tching about your own choices.

Oh so you don't have a choice, you have no say in your own life? Are you a slave? Are you locked up?

If this is true then no wonder all you do is complain. Seriously dude, it's sad that a grown man doesn't have control of his own life.

All this advice that nobody asked for and you don't even follow it yourself. What a loud mouth failure.

Wrong. I do follow that advice. I do own my mistakes. I do not let others "destroy" me. I am not a weak little pansy that gives my power to others and then whines about it but then says they forgive them for "ruining me" sappy bullshyt. Forgiveness? You haven't forgiven you've just turned it into anger toward the world. All women should pay for one woman's actions. How sad is that? How forgiving? Cry on some more shoulders while you sharpen your knife. If one woman can "ruin" you then your not a man.

Wrong. I do follow that advice. I do own my mistakes. I do not let others "destroy" me. I am not a weak little pansy that gives my power to others and then whines about it but then says they forgive them for "ruining me" sappy bullshyt. Forgiveness? You haven't forgiven you've just turned it into anger toward the world. All women should pay for one woman's actions. How sad is that? How forgiving? Cry on some more shoulders while you sharpen your knife. If one woman can "ruin" you then your not a man.

And yet I'm full of peace and you are filled with hate and bitterness.

And for your information I've never sold/used cocaine or killed anyone, stereotyping much?

B*tch you don't even know yourself you f**king fraud.

So much for playing nice in the sandbox

Learn acceptance.


They both have different spellings.

Well guys, I have had so many horrible experiences...I can't even begin to count how many. But I strive to stay as positive as I can. The worst thing that ever happened to me from a guy was loving someone who was a secret predator. He profiled me before he met me. He lied big time about who he was and what his true intentions were. And guys I'm not just talking about the usual lies people may tell to date someone or even just to have sex. He lied about his intentions to hurt me physically, screw up my finances, hurt my family, block any chances of me meeting new people, and stalked me for a long time. Thank God, I'm finally rid of this person. But that was a truly hurtful experience indeed. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.

Well guys, I have had so many horrible experiences...I can't even begin to count how many. But I strive to stay as positive as I can. The worst thing that ever happened to me from a guy was loving someone who was a secret predator. He profiled me before he met me. He lied big time about who he was and what his true intentions were. And guys I'm not just talking about the usual lies people may tell to date someone or even just to have sex. He lied about his intentions to hurt me physically, screw up my finances, hurt my family, block any chances of me meeting new people, and stalked me for a long time. Thank God, I'm finally rid of this person. But that was a truly hurtful experience indeed. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.