| 8/7/2014 8:20:36 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ron35pa
Lehighton, PA
37, joined May. 2014
|
My new gf has had a sudden lost of affection. She says she loves me but doesn't show it except while having sex. Any help is appreciated.
Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
|
| 8/7/2014 8:21:32 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
brownsugg93
Milwaukee, WI
21, joined Jul. 2012
|
1st 
|
| 8/7/2014 8:22:14 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
soulfullaussie
Victoria
Australia
50, joined May. 2014
|
She is starting to dislike you except when she is horny 
|
| 8/7/2014 8:23:11 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
tardsmasher2
Douglasville, GA
53, joined Jun. 2010
|
Try forced buttsex...take charge man
|
| 8/7/2014 8:23:14 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
brownsugg93
Milwaukee, WI
21, joined Jul. 2012
|
My new gf has had a sudden lost of affection. She says she loves me but doesn't show it except while having sex. Any help is appreciated.
Your profile says youre looking for a relationship...do u guys communicate about this?
|
| 8/7/2014 8:24:12 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
uncawked
Houston, TX
49, joined Jun. 2014
|
My new gf has had a sudden lost of affection. She says she loves me but doesn't show it except while having sex. Any help is appreciated.
Have lots of sex seems to be the obvious solution.
|
| 8/7/2014 8:38:29 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ron35pa
Lehighton, PA
37, joined May. 2014
|
my profile is old . just looking for advise on this
|
| 8/7/2014 8:40:10 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ron35pa
Lehighton, PA
37, joined May. 2014
|
she says otherwise
|
| 8/7/2014 8:43:05 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
soulfullaussie
Victoria
Australia
50, joined May. 2014
|
she says otherwise
You can not make her be affectionate if she does not like or want
Have you asked her why ?
Try being a little more affectionate yourself toward her it might entice her to give some back
|
| 8/7/2014 8:47:26 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
stephisicated
Teaneck, NJ
33, joined Jan. 2013
|
It's a possibility that someone else has captured her interest. Has she been spending less time with you to "go out with a friend or friends", has there been a new family member that she has been speaking about that she never mentioned? If that is not the case it may be a possibility that she is getting bored. Do you do the same routine with her all the time? I'm not referring to sex but outside the bedroom as well. Remember women love to be mind f**ked as well.
|
| 8/7/2014 8:57:25 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ron35pa
Lehighton, PA
37, joined May. 2014
|
I have talked to her about it , she says that's not how she is but was at first. And i am a very affectionate person.
|
| 8/7/2014 9:14:23 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
stephisicated
Teaneck, NJ
33, joined Jan. 2013
|
How long did it take for her to back off on the affection? To be honest she may be telling the truth because we are all guilty of being on our best behavior when we first meet someone then become our true selves once we become comfortable.
|
| 8/7/2014 9:30:28 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
|
my profile is old . just looking for advise on this
My advice to you is change the information in your profile to read "not looking" or " I have a gal and I am just here for the forums." Because some of us read profiles and than make our comment.
My advise is go talk to your gf and get to the heart of the problem. You said "new" than hey no big lose if you breakup and move on. Who wants to be ignored?...I sure wouldn't.
|
| 8/7/2014 9:54:15 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
cosmicgem
Springfield, MO
59, joined Jun. 2011
|
How long have you known her or been in a relationship with her? Does she know you are still on this site? Or others? When did the change happen and what may have happened or been said prior to the change? Has she perhaps found out something you do not Think she knows? Have you been Comepletely Honest and Open with her? Perhaps it is something going on with her that she is working through. Perhaps she is falling and is scared and trying to pull back out of fear of being hurt. Many are afraid to be vulnerable. Or she could be talking to an ex she had feelings for in the past . Or something else from her past. I don't know her nor you. So I really couldn't say except for possibilities. Sorry.
|
| 8/7/2014 10:05:43 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
amusicluvr
Salem, OR
63, joined Nov. 2013
|
She heard about me, from your Mama, and can't wait to have me again. She doesn't know how to tell you that prefers threesomes with me, and your mama, to having sex with you. Don't worry, though, she will figure it out soon, and then dump you so you will be free to find someone new.
|
| 8/7/2014 11:14:44 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
62, joined Feb. 2014
online now!
|
Woman are crazy. I had a woman who was all over me in front of her friends. She really didn't like me but rather liked her FWB better. He had a longer and harder d*ck. Her words not mine. Found out the reason was, she did not want any of her friends to date me.
|
| 8/7/2014 1:26:23 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
sweetmama117
Bronx, NY
56, joined Aug. 2013
|
WOW role reversal, normally it's the women complaining about this.
You wrote new gf, and that you ask her about it and she said she
wasn't the affectionate type. To me you're getting to know each
other. Now ask yourself how important affection is to you in a
relationship, if she has other qualities you like and can put
off affection? If affection plays a big role then move on, now
that you haven't gotten attach to her. Maybe FWB work better
here or boody call.
|
| 8/7/2014 1:32:11 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
xray6
Jacksonville, FL
28, joined Mar. 2012
online now!
|
smack her before she brakes up with you
then she will never leave
|
| 8/7/2014 2:02:07 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
norwegianwood64
Fort Payne, AL
52, joined Jul. 2014
|
sayanora...adios...ciao...see ya
|
| 8/7/2014 3:31:41 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
playing_dirty
Vida, OR
28, joined Jul. 2014
|
Try forced buttsex...take charge man
 
|
| 8/7/2014 3:33:01 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
26, joined Dec. 2007
|
smack her before she brakes up with you
then she will never leave
this might work
|
| 8/7/2014 3:39:03 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
inni_dreamz
Pasadena, CA
52, joined Nov. 2012
|
The only real advice someone can give you is - talk to her.
You and your girl friend have to work thru this --- none of us KNOW your gf... do we?
We can say, Maybe it's this, Maybe it's that.... wth to do we know?
I agree with others who have said - you should update your profile with "not looking" or something...
|
| 8/7/2014 3:43:23 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
|
Isn't this similar to your girlfriend having a car problem and you bring yours instead to the repair shop?
|
| 8/7/2014 3:50:48 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
babyjo138
Summersville, WV
40, joined Mar. 2014
|
My new gf has had a sudden lost of affection. She says she loves me but doesn't show it except while having sex. Any help is appreciated.
Then Y the hell are u on a dating site if u have a girlfriend? Sounds like u are wanting your cake and eat it too. but she is distant because she is just using you for sex.
|
| 8/7/2014 3:53:24 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
babyjo138
Summersville, WV
40, joined Mar. 2014
|
smack her before she brakes up with you
then she will never leave
That is stupid advice. 
|
| 8/7/2014 3:53:33 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
uncawked
Houston, TX
49, joined Jun. 2014
|
Babyjo, I lost the boob pics when I deleted my old profile, can you send them again please. 
|
| 8/7/2014 4:00:53 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
tweetyttweet
Raleigh, NC
49, joined Jul. 2014
|
^^ I'm, seriously, wondering if you ever look at a woman's face without envisioning her looking like one big nippled titty?
|
| 8/7/2014 4:33:42 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
|
^^ I'm, seriously, wondering if you ever look at a woman's face without envisioning her looking like one big nippled titty?
He's not looking at her face.
|
| 8/7/2014 5:04:31 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
wrenchspinner45
Waynesville, NC
47, joined Sep. 2013
|
How long have you known her or been in a relationship with her? Does she know you are still on this site? Or others? When did the change happen and what may have happened or been said prior to the change? Has she perhaps found out something you do not Think she knows? Have you been Comepletely Honest and Open with her? Perhaps it is something going on with her that she is working through. Perhaps she is falling and is scared and trying to pull back out of fear of being hurt. Many are afraid to be vulnerable. Or she could be talking to an ex she had feelings for in the past . Or something else from her past. I don't know her nor you. So I really couldn't say except for possibilities. Sorry.
 
wrench
|
| 8/7/2014 5:05:42 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
|
My new gf has had a sudden lost of affection. She says she loves me but doesn't show it except while having sex. Any help is appreciated.
Seems like you're both unhappy if you are on here looking to hookup. Just saying. Deal with the chick you already have and then go looking after you two break it off. Stop cheating on her.
|
| 8/7/2014 5:14:00 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
journeyman327
New Orleans, LA
40, joined Nov. 2010
|
If I were you, I'd keep my eyes and ears open because affection is an odd thing to begin holding back . Best of Luck to you . What does your GUT tell you ? (very important) don't go against it , you will more than likely regret it if you do .
|
| 8/7/2014 5:15:23 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
|
I need to hear both sides, until then I can't conclude my answer op.
|
| 8/7/2014 5:15:40 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
|
Here is a novel ideal op, Ask her?
You know communication is the way we talk to each other and go about solving problems.
|
| 8/7/2014 8:47:10 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
57, joined Feb. 2014
|
are you too clingy, she needs space> are you or her having fwb outside of your relationship? I can tell you my experiences but they probably wont help you. talk, initiate sex, cuddle her, make her feel wanted, not just gropped. she and you are the answer. lol, when I lost my ex's affection, he was having an affair.
|
| 8/7/2014 10:44:43 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
|
She has a stud on the side. She's losing interest, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She's hoping you'll pick up the hint. Dump her, though she'll say you're a bastard and it's all your fault. Goddess knows she's perfect!
|
| 8/8/2014 12:43:15 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ron35pa
Lehighton, PA
37, joined May. 2014
|
thanks
|
| 8/8/2014 1:01:20 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
blue3rose
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined Jun. 2013
|
What does your gut tell you?
Whatever it is don't ignore it.
|
| 8/8/2014 1:07:14 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
poohbear2580
Memphis, TN
27, joined Jun. 2014
|
What does your gut tell you?
Whatever it is don't ignore it.
I agree whatever your intuition is about the situation follow it 9 times out of 10 it never steers you wrong
|
| 8/8/2014 1:07:33 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
40, joined Jul. 2011
|
My new gf has had a sudden lost of affection. She says she loves me but doesn't show it except while having sex. Any help is appreciated.
Perhaps this is a sign that she is not the one for you. We can not always expect to recieve back what we give from every person we are with.
If you keep on with the subject with her... you will push her farther away..as well as make her feel that she is not good enough for you.
[Edited 8/8/2014 1:08:10 AM ]
|
| 8/8/2014 1:12:19 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
|
You said she only shows affection when having sex.
You said you desire more affection.
Solution: Have more sex.
Your welcome 
|
| 8/8/2014 1:16:49 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
blue3rose
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined Jun. 2013
|
Sex doesn't necessarily mean affection will be given.
|
| 8/8/2014 2:07:20 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
therock1963
Holly, MI
53, joined Mar. 2013
|
The big question is how long have you known each other, they say things change after about 18 months. I went thru a similar situation and in the end she walked we are still friends but wasn't what she was after.
|
| 8/8/2014 3:16:26 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
|
Sex doesn't necessarily mean affection will be given.
Maybe not from you but the OP's girlfriend will because that is what he implied she does but only during sex.
|
| 8/8/2014 3:29:17 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
twining
Anderson, SC
24, joined Jun. 2014
|
Sudden loss of affection from her.
Anyway, she could be just using you for your c*ck. Since you're a guy, she probably doesn't think you'll mind it. Tell you what, order gates of hell chastity belt for yourself and see how that plays out.
|
| 8/8/2014 5:12:33 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
josfsd06
Sioux Falls, SD
57, joined Mar. 2014
|
You're better than BOB, opie. But, just barely.
|
| 8/8/2014 5:42:32 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
|
My new gf has had a sudden lost of affection. She says she loves me but doesn't show it except while having sex. Any help is appreciated.
Sounds typical to me.
your a commodity and the newness wore off.
Obviously she doesn't really love you.
or, your needy and just imagining this.
Who knows.???
But its not uncommon for a woman just to want a relation....and the man becomes a commodity for this and her feelings were not real, but when they get horny.....of course all the attention suddenly comes out.
When a man does this, he is deemed a player.
however some women justify this action as normal....if its them doing it.
Why? because when one does this enough...its normal to them.
[Edited 8/8/2014 5:43:25 AM ]
|
| 8/8/2014 5:45:22 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
|
Dude....none of the reasons or explanations here matters.
What matters is....your not happy in this um....relation( being used)
just move on and find a woman who you feel happy with, and who shows she cares, not just when wanting sex.
and thanks for showing...women can be players too.
|
| 8/8/2014 8:37:12 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ron35pa
Lehighton, PA
37, joined May. 2014
|
I ended it.
|
| 8/8/2014 10:35:43 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
audyssey
Khanabad
Afghanistan
23, joined Dec. 2011
|
Eh this happened to me once, turned around and cheated on me.
|
| 8/8/2014 1:01:21 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
57, joined Feb. 2014
|
so was she cheating or why did you listen to us drama club? tell us op
|
| 8/8/2014 1:35:05 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
twining
Anderson, SC
24, joined Jun. 2014
|
I ended it.
Aww. That sucks. Oh well, there were probably more details to it.
|
| 8/8/2014 1:35:08 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
maywilcox
Pontiac, MI
57, joined May. 2014
|
Y r u on a dating site?
Y r u looking 4 help here?
|
| 8/8/2014 2:02:49 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
nswers2no1
Midlothian, VA
64, joined Jun. 2012
|
Isn't this similar to your girlfriend having a car problem and you bring yours instead to the repair shop?
|
| 8/8/2014 11:35:23 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
peachy1954
Sacramento, CA
62, joined Oct. 2010
|
Someone is running her mouth in her ear. Maybe one of your "online " buddies or one of your pals. You need to have a conversation or your sex life will go to hell too. My guess is she has caught something she thinks is justification to get her duckies in a row and get gone. If this person means something to you then communicating with her rather than trolling here for luck of the draw advice is your only shot.
|
| 8/8/2014 11:41:53 PM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
extortionegos
Hayward, CA
39, joined Apr. 2014
|
I have lost all love for everything because I now realize
|
| 8/9/2014 1:05:01 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
ltlwing
Winchester, OH
52, joined Oct. 2013
|
Some women are not very affectionate...I don't like men hanging on me,or rubbing on me all the time,in lots of display of affection..Find out how she was raised op,her home life in growing up could be why??? I was in a family where this wasn't done much when growing up.I attribute this to why I am this way.Some people like it,while others don't...simple.
|
| 8/9/2014 3:18:14 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
redvelvetsky
Boscobel, WI
49, joined Jun. 2014
|
You may have different attachment styles.She could just need more space than you do. Don't become clingy, demanding or possessive.Just give it a little time.You may find that you need someone who has an attachment style more like your own. People with a dismissive avoidant attachment have the tendency to emotionally distance themselves from their partner.(pseudo-independent)...lol Give her some space and see what happens.That seems really hard ,but if you can just act like you're busy or go out with friends..she may meet you halfway ,so you won't need to work so hard in the relationship.
[Edited 8/9/2014 3:21:51 AM ]
|
| 8/9/2014 3:28:38 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
b2cold
Elk Grove Village, IL
35, joined Mar. 2014
|
Drop her like a bad habit
|
| 8/9/2014 4:54:30 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
iluvurflaws
Las Vegas, NV
46, joined Jun. 2014
|
She is suffering from unfulfilled expectations about you. Tell you don't love her anymore and you are interested in someone more affectionate.
|
| 8/9/2014 5:00:14 AM |
Sudden lost of affection from her |
|
rainydaze26
Columbus, OH
51, joined Nov. 2013
|
OP, I hope you didn't end things based on advise given here. 
Normally girls pull away because they are feeling unmet needs themselves & giving a little more might draw her back.
|